| Dealing with an adult child with problems
Posted: 10/31/2005 11:24:52 AM | | I have an almost 20 year old son who lived with his father for his adolescence and has the scars to show for it. He was born high functioning autistic and if you met him now you'd only notice he is somewhat eccentric. However, there are some issues that need to be addressed before he gets any older and I would like a relationship with someone in the meantime. How do I find someone willing to accept that I have a child who has special needs? It's difficult enough to find someone who wants a relationship as it is. I get mostly emails from men who are married and just want the occasional romp in the hay. | |
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Dell
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Joined: 1/21/2004
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| Dealing with an adult child with problems
Posted: 10/31/2005 7:56:48 PM | Easier said than done... but I think it is valuable advice worth heeding.
If you are sincerely concerned with helping your son- than help your son. If a man comes along- great, if not... your time will come. Kids come first always. | |
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| Dealing with an adult child with problems
Posted: 11/1/2005 8:42:14 AM | | Yes, he knows he comes first. I haven't dated in ten years while I raised my kids. Right now I am trying to work on taking care of both our needs and I figure if I find someone that's great. If not, I'm not going to lose any sleep over it. In fact, the reason I'm even looking is because my kids, including my son, asked me to start doing so. | |
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| Dealing with an adult child with problems
Posted: 11/1/2005 1:45:21 PM | | My son also has HFA and he is 7. I still date and have found that the type of guys I am interested in, do not have a problem with my son. If they do have a problem with my son then they are not worth it. Unfortunatley I was in a relationship that ended after a year because he had issues with my son. On my profile I do not post anything about my son so that the guy gets to know me first, but after a few e-mails back and forth I explain it to him and give him a way out. | |
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| Dealing with an adult child with problems
Posted: 11/1/2005 2:28:39 PM | The issues you will need to address are never going to end, they are just going to change. And, the person you date does not need to be a part of this, they just need to understand your priorities and challenges; and support them.
I would surmise as long as the man were intelligent and patient then he would have no problem in the relationship. However, you would need to set clear boundaries for the mom-you and and the date-you. | |
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