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 lisa28west
Joined: 11/3/2005
Msg: 1
How soon is too soon to say "I love you"?Page 1 of 4    (1, 2, 3, 4)
Can someone clarify this for me? If I feel (what I think is love) love for someone, I'm always afraid to tell them. I never know if it's too soon and they've given you all the signals that maybe, just maybe, they feel the same for me. The last time I did that, I was dumped. Any help out there?
 DavePinFlorida
Joined: 10/18/2005
Msg: 2
How soon is too soon to say I love you?
Posted: 11/4/2005 7:17:57 PM
Well I'm pretty sure the first date would be too soon!
 lisa28west
Joined: 11/3/2005
Msg: 3
How soon is too soon to say I love you?
Posted: 11/4/2005 7:19:01 PM
Obviously, but is a month or two too soon?
 Blastkist
Joined: 5/28/2005
Msg: 4
How soon is too soon to say I love you?
Posted: 11/4/2005 7:20:06 PM
Why say the words when you can demonstrate the actions instead? Saying "I love you" means little, it is easily said...LOVING then actively, now that is what love is...its quiet and it doesn't advertise itself...they just see it in your actions. There is never a threat in being loved...but words can frighten us.

If they can't hear it/accept it...guess what? They were never yours anyway.
 simpleman4u
Joined: 10/4/2005
Msg: 5
How soon is too soon to say I love you?
Posted: 11/4/2005 7:20:30 PM
Well that all depends.
If you have spent every day with that person.
I believe your heart will tell you when the time is right to you.
You just have to trust your heart.
 DavePinFlorida
Joined: 10/18/2005
Msg: 6
How soon is too soon to say I love you?
Posted: 11/4/2005 7:21:28 PM
It'd depend on how many times you'd seen each other, and how you genuinely FEEL about the person. I'd also make sure that he felt the same way before saying it if I were you. There's nothing more awkward then saying it and not feeling the same thing and not wanting to "just say it back" in return. I'd say it's a safe bet to wait until you both feel it, and discuss your feelings about one another, prior to spouting out those 3 magic words.
 Talitha001
Joined: 6/17/2005
Msg: 7
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How soon is too soon to say I love you?
Posted: 11/4/2005 7:23:03 PM
I`d sit back and let him say it first!!!! I take my time with feelings and don`t say anything I don`t mean...but I would let him say it first if I were you!! Good luck, girl!!!
 lisa28west
Joined: 11/3/2005
Msg: 8
How soon is too soon to say I love you?
Posted: 11/4/2005 7:23:32 PM
I always thought I was a good judge on body language and such. It's so hard to tell nowadays.
 kinda!
Joined: 9/8/2005
Msg: 9
How soon is too soon to say I love you?
Posted: 11/4/2005 7:23:39 PM
too soon-----after 3 days of chatting online,but i have certainly said i lust for u
 going going...
Joined: 3/21/2005
Msg: 10
How soon is too soon to say I love you?
Posted: 11/4/2005 7:23:52 PM
You can't actually really love someone until after the infatuation phase is over because love isn't a feeling, it's a commitment. The infactuation phase is over when he farts in your company and takes a leak in the bushes while going for a walk with you. It's over for you when you don't shave your legs and armpits before a date. If you still feel like saying it then, then it must be love.
 pazarben
Joined: 10/15/2005
Msg: 11
How soon is too soon to say I love you?
Posted: 11/4/2005 7:24:08 PM
Moment you meet is the best time
After that it is too late.
Good luck.
 lisa28west
Joined: 11/3/2005
Msg: 12
How soon is too soon to say I love you?
Posted: 11/4/2005 7:24:51 PM
Now I have had one person that told me that he loved me after talking with me once online. Then he begged me to take his "cashier's check" from Africa to get him out of the country. Needless to say, I told him to get lost.
 lisa28west
Joined: 11/3/2005
Msg: 13
How soon is too soon to say I love you?
Posted: 11/4/2005 7:26:39 PM
I work with someone that met her husband at 7:00, told him she loved him at 8:00, and married him at 9:00. They've been happily married for the last 35 years!
 ksue44
Joined: 6/20/2005
Msg: 14
How soon is too soon to say I love you?
Posted: 11/4/2005 7:31:16 PM
Love is about taking the plunge. It's a throw of the dice, most importantly, it is baring your soul before another person, and you hope you're both on the same page.

The only thing I will say about "I love you", is too many times with OLD people will say it without meeting face to face and actually spending quite a bit of time together. I do believe that real love, in the romantic sense, does take several months of spending time together, seeing each other in your best and worst, when you're healthy and sick. If you want love to last, you really should begin it with a good friendship.
 lisa28west
Joined: 11/3/2005
Msg: 15
How soon is too soon to say I love you?
Posted: 11/4/2005 7:32:36 PM
Good advice, ksue. That helps.
 sarcasticgeek
Joined: 11/6/2004
Msg: 16
How soon is too soon to say I love you?
Posted: 11/4/2005 7:36:22 PM
It's always too soon. Never, ever, ever say it. That's the beginning of the end. Seriously, don't say it.
 lisa28west
Joined: 11/3/2005
Msg: 17
How soon is too soon to say I love you?
Posted: 11/4/2005 7:37:45 PM
I take it you've never been in love or afraid of it?
 lisa28west
Joined: 11/3/2005
Msg: 18
How soon is too soon to say I love you?
Posted: 11/4/2005 7:57:45 PM
All I'm saying, revokd, is that it sounds like you've been hurt before therefore refuse to ever say it again.
 jimi77
Joined: 7/13/2004
Msg: 19
How soon is too soon to say I love you?
Posted: 11/4/2005 8:02:33 PM
for most guys....it right when he find out she is leaving his a$$.
 johnglc
Joined: 5/27/2005
Msg: 20
How soon is too soon to say I love you?
Posted: 11/4/2005 8:13:42 PM
I prefer to say 'ELEPHANT SHOE' in a very low and seductive voice first.If she says 'I LOVE YOU' back,I yell 'I LOVE YOU' out loud.If she says 'I DON'T LOVE YOU', then I say,"I never said 'I LOVE YOU,'I said 'ELEPHANT SHOE'.
 lisa28west
Joined: 11/3/2005
Msg: 21
How soon is too soon to say I love you?
Posted: 11/4/2005 8:24:43 PM
Even better advice. Next time, if I'm in that position, I'll try that first. That'll save my a**!!!
 FFG709
Joined: 7/30/2005
Msg: 22
How soon is too soon to say I love you?
Posted: 11/4/2005 10:17:15 PM
It's too soon if you haven't said "You are sweet", "You are adorable", or something like that ... and if you haven't heard similar words in return. Start small and feel the other person out.

Saying "I Love You" is almost a question: ("do you love me?"), even when you're saying it to someone you KNOW loves you back.

Also, some people are a lot more reserved about saying those three little words than others, but it doesn't necessarily mean they don't care about you deeply
 JUST ME 1956
Joined: 8/18/2005
Msg: 23
How soon is too soon to say I love you?
Posted: 11/4/2005 10:27:31 PM
You should be able to express yourself to that person before saying those 3 words ...as yes if they dont say them back it could hurt and then if they did and were only saying them cause they felt obligated to you would be hurt even more. i think the suggestion saying other things is a good idea. like your a sweetie, etc etc.. and by the way good luck. Dc
 lazyboy
Joined: 11/3/2005
Msg: 24
How soon is too soon to say I love you?
Posted: 11/5/2005 2:10:27 AM
That's a good question. For me I allow it to fester trying to deny it and
it builds and builds; I then ask to meet with her and 'confess' what I'm
feeling - always thinking she may respond negatively.

I know....weirdo!
 HAHANOW
Joined: 9/28/2004
Msg: 25
How soon is too soon to say I love you?
Posted: 11/5/2005 2:13:02 AM
A monthor Two?!!!!!!!! Oh come on! Do you really think that you can fall in LOVE with someone in a month or two?? If you do, youre not thinking with the big head! Thats for sure!
And Yes! I do know the Op is a woman! That is why I am so shocked thatshe would ask this..
I can understand this question comin from an 18 year old girl but, Woman you gotta be kidding! I guess that 29 is the new 18~ God help us!
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