| Women's Thoughts While Observing Photos in Profiles
Posted: 11/5/2005 9:24:36 PM | At this site, http://www.weeklyscore.com/photoreport.php, they quote a study where women were asked to look at several photos of men and decide which ones they would date. They give a list showing various reasons women gave for deciding why they would not date a particular man:
* His smile was weird. It kind of creeped me out.
* He looked really unmotivated. He was just standing there against a wall. I just got the feeling he was a really boring guy.
* What's with the hat and sunglasses? Is he a detective or something?
* Is this an old prom picture? There's no way this is a recent picture.
* Yeah, I'd go out with him. Nothing gets me going like some frat boy with all his buddies at a bachelor party. Sorry, I graduated years ago. I'm looking for a man...not a boy.
Could some of you women tell me if this is true. Do you actually do this while going through the photo, or do you give the man any chance if his photo's mabye not perfect. Do any of you realy believe you can know that much about someone based on one photo? | |
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Garf
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Joined: 4/4/2005
Msg: 3 | |
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| Women's Thoughts While Observing Photos in Profiles
Posted: 11/5/2005 9:38:02 PM | | The pics usually aren't the deciding factor, but some things really are a turnoff. I wouldn't date a guy who posted a pic of himself in hat and sunglasses (what is he trying to hide? married?) or a man who posts pics of himself with a female who might be an ex. What's the reasoning there? Trying to prove he's desirable? Yes, some things are just a turnoff and I think men analyze, too. Am I right, guys? | |
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| Women's Thoughts While Observing Photos in Profiles
Posted: 11/5/2005 9:41:03 PM | A photo is a representation of a person at one nanosecond in time. If you'll notice on profiles with more than one pic the person can look completely different in each one.
Personally I look for a smile. If someone can't even smile for the camera what does that tell you? Perhaps not Mr. Happypants.
As for the other stuff, yeah some people just look creepy. There's one guy here that every time I see his pic across the top of my screen I click away because he's WAY CREEPY!!!! Would I write back to him if he graced me with a message? Hell no! | |
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| Women's Thoughts While Observing Photos in Profiles
Posted: 11/5/2005 9:41:50 PM | I wouldn't rule out a guy who wears a hat/baseball cap, but I can't help but wonder what he's hiding.
If he's posing in a photo with another woman, for me, that is a turn off. Can't help but wonder if that's some SO or former SO.
Even when you think it might be a "recent" picture, meeting face to face is the true test.
If he's missing all of his front teeth, I'd wonder if I would be having a date with a former star of "Deliverance". | |
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Le_MOO
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Joined: 10/27/2005
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| Women's Thoughts While Observing Photos in Profiles
Posted: 11/5/2005 9:54:21 PM |
I like to see photos where you can tell what his face looks like. So the hat and sunglass thing bugs me. If the profile reads good, I write an ask for a picture.
Cindy,
Could I have your honest opinion about my photos? | |
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| Women's Thoughts While Observing Photos in Profiles
Posted: 11/5/2005 10:13:59 PM | K-sue and other women posting in this thread.This is not a put down or bashing of women on here."I Repeat not a put down or bashing to women on here."But women i have seen in POF profiles have some of the same kind of pics up themselves.So it turns me off to see a woman who is posing with an ex boyfriend(who knows it might be their brother or cousin,friend but if it's not made clear inthe profile and i see one up,then it's on to the next one for me.) Maybe it would be a good rule for POF to put on ,that if you put up pics with ex's or hat's and sunglasses,"I have one on mine,(Sorry i guess),but you can still see my face smiling or not on my others," That you should explain the reason why you put it up in the first place.What do you think?
OMT:The reason i put the one up of me in the sunglasses,was because i was bored of my other shot,and if anyone wants me to delete it,i will gladly do so.Take care."Again not bashing women on this thread," NYkid. | |
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pat c
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Joined: 9/29/2005
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| Women's Thoughts While Observing Photos in Profiles
Posted: 11/5/2005 10:49:31 PM | | Here's my 2 cents worth...I would never message a guy that has photos of himself holding a fish but maybe that's just me...sunglass photos can be sexy as long as there's another that shows the eyes, which should also be sexy...and baseball caps say about as much about the man as those drunken frat photos...not for me... | |
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| Women's Thoughts While Observing Photos in Profiles
Posted: 11/5/2005 11:13:41 PM | | For me, first thing is if I see intimate encounter.. I don't even look . The the next would be married .I do not date married men. Also if i see they do drugs. Ex girlfriends in the pictures area turn off as well. I have also seen profiles with materialistic things in it which does not impress me. Just my opinion | |
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| Women's Thoughts While Observing Photos in Profiles
Posted: 11/6/2005 3:43:05 AM | Dudes posing with vehicles, mug shots and body shots are a turn off for me, but the sense of what that person is kind of like comes from reading their profile. If it's standard and boring, or if it sounds conceited or materialistic, I'm not interested. Also, that intimate encounter thing is weird. It's a plus if someone has been involved in a forum or two. If someone sounds lonely, negative or doesn't have a realistic view of relationships-ie."looking for my soul mate to complete me", I have no interest. Some people blast people on here for showing photos of their pets...I am obviously not a blaster in that regard...I think it's cool, and shows they get "the animal thing". I also enjoy photos that aren't of them at all, but ones that are hysterically funny. And if someone has NO photo posted...well, I stay clear of that | |
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| Women's Thoughts While Observing Photos in Profiles
Posted: 11/6/2005 4:07:52 AM | | Honestly? I think most women don't even read the profiles. Why do you think you're going out on so many dates? A pretty face is a pretty face. That reminds me, I have to get a new photo, maybe something with boobs (but not my own). | |
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| Women's Thoughts While Observing Photos in Profiles
Posted: 11/6/2005 5:11:19 AM | | Yeah, what is usually a deal breaker ofr ME is, a woman who has 4 or 5 pictures up and she's not smiling in ANY of them, maybe a smirk...but that says alot about her....I mean, that means she hardly ever smiles..a.t least thats the impression I get. | |
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| Women's Thoughts While Observing Photos in Profiles
Posted: 11/6/2005 5:28:27 AM | I don't analyze them to death but sometimes there are certain things that jump out at me.
What's that saying....a picture is worth a thousand words??
I think pictures can tell a lot about someone.
Even their choice of what photos to use is telling you something about them... | |
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| Women's Thoughts While Observing Photos in Profiles
Posted: 11/6/2005 5:48:15 AM | I not only look at the person in the pic, but also at the background. Amazing how many people will post a webcam shot and there is a mountain of dirty dishes or an unmade bed and pile of clothes or other disaster in the background!!! Guys who post shots in underwear...oh PUH-LEASE!! Maybe 1 % of them have a good body...the ones with possesions featured.... "that don't impress me much".....
What I LIKE to see? A clear shot from about the waist up.....CLOTHED...smile is nice, but hey I hate having my pic taken and so rarely smile in them so can understand looking serious....and no hat or sunglasses. Seems reasonable. | |
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| Women's Thoughts While Observing Photos in Profiles
Posted: 11/6/2005 6:10:34 AM | Your Royal Highness Le Moo,
The first one is great!
The group shots do noting for me. Can't even tell which is you.
Your profile has me thinking the uniform pictures are pretty old. Served for 16 years, but when did you leave the service? Thank you for serving. Nice to see a man with honor. I was an officer in the US Navy for 11 years, active duty.
If the uniform pics are more than 3 years old, I would use only the first one. It is a good picture, and serving says a lot about your character. The kind of woman you are looking for will get that.
Post a new, somewhat casual picture that shows that body you have been maintaining. Clothed of course, T-shirt and jeans kind of thing.
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FVRose
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Joined: 10/15/2005
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| Women's Thoughts While Observing Photos in Profiles
Posted: 11/6/2005 8:45:44 AM |
MMMBaby: Honestly? I think most women don't even read the profiles.
That comes off sounding like a bit of a harsh assumption, neh, MMMMMMMMM Babeee? Is that how you 'honestly' meant it? As a woman, just to prove for you your stance at least with one... I am not even going to read your profile! 
For me, I combine the reading of and viewing of profiles. Certain catch phrases will cause me to pass on to another, knowing that's just not my cup of Timmie's, although it may be someone else's. With the pics, I "pick" things up off some of them. Like some others have said, excessive vehicle shots, pics with ex's still in or obviously chopped off right next to the person, home residence backgrounds with clutter are also going to effect a click on the Back button. I don't mind longer angle shots or fun pics, as long as they're not the only one, as it gives you an energy window on what type of environment the person likes to be in. | |
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| Women's Thoughts While Observing Photos in Profiles
Posted: 11/6/2005 9:37:59 AM | I like a good close up where you can see the man's face... You can tell a lot by a man's face and I have a thing for eyes...If I want to get lost in his eyes... I want to see those eyes.
Web-cam pics... sometimes they make the man look like he should be on the 10 most wanted list...
Each to their own... but posing on their big ol hawg just doesn't do it for me
Baseball Caps or where the guy is so far in the distance you wouldn't recognize him if he was the only man in the room | |
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| Women's Thoughts While Observing Photos in Profiles
Posted: 11/6/2005 9:40:14 AM | My thoughts on observing pics in profiles: Well,,,,hats dont bother me at all. No biggy there. Sunglasses are ok but only if there are other pics without them so i can see the face. Photos that are provacative tells me that the man is looking to get 'some' action and well,,he aint gonna get it here so i skip those. If i see a a mans arm around a woman in the pic and they look like a happy couple,,i will glance down at the marital status thing and see whats going on and at the 'what are you looking for' thing too. Married/Seperated,,i will skip. Intimate Encounters i will skip also. I also notice his surroundings in the background. Some untidyness is ok (afterall ,,,you are men LOL jk ;)),,,but if its a total wreck where you can really tell that this person just really does not take care of himself or his things,,then i will skip that too.
Great thread, btw. This'll make ppl of BOTH genders think twice before they post certain pics. | |
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RENYs
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Joined: 8/6/2005
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| Women's Thoughts While Observing Photos in Profiles
Posted: 11/6/2005 10:00:19 AM | Hi!
I guess sometimes that affect in us, because we have to be sure the guy it's not a crazy person jejeje, but in general someguys are very good looking but have nothing inside and that is just crap.
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| Women's Thoughts While Observing Photos in Profiles
Posted: 11/6/2005 10:18:18 AM | Could some of you women tell me if this is true. Do you actually do this while going through the photo, or do you give the man any chance if his photo's mabye not perfect.
** Well, here are my comments:
* His smile was weird. It kind of creeped me out.<<< What? The cold, dead, staring at you with an intent to kill eyes bugged you?? ( see photo of Charles Manson). LOL You men do need to learn to smile in the photo ok? Don't look like a dead fish.
* He looked really unmotivated. He was just standing there against a wall. I just got the feeling he was a really boring guy.<< Oh bullsh*t!! No more than some woman who has a pic of herself in front of the computer or laying on the bed. Get real.
* What's with the hat and sunglasses? Is he a detective or something?<< Men: IF you are bald or have thinning hair, wearing a hat will NOT help the situation. We want to see your FACE. Just as you want to see ours. I don't want to see a pic of a man wearing a hat and wonder if he has hair only to discover you were trying to hide the fact that you are going bald. Be proud of what you look like and who you are and stop the hiding. All it says to a woman is that you have something to hide.
* Is this an old prom picture? There's no way this is a recent picture.<< I dated a guy who was 43 and looked 31. To prevent this, I suppose you could do one of two things: have a sign in the photo that states the date the pic was taken. Or buy a camera that shows the date when the photo is taken. But I have seen profiles where there are only photos of the guy when he was a little boy. Get off your lazy backside and buy one of those cheap cameras and take some pics of yourself!! And the profiles with no picture at all? I skip right over it. NO...I am NOT going to give you my email address so you can send me a picture either. If you can send it, you can post it on your profile.
* Yeah, I'd go out with him. Nothing gets me going like some frat boy with all his buddies at a bachelor party. Sorry, I graduated years ago. I'm looking for a man...not a boy.<<<< I agree. We do NOT want to see a pic of you and your buddies drunk at some topless bar. Or you with your truck. Or of your truck. Or you holding a fish.
I do like a profile that is original and funny. Off the wall and unusual...like Garfs for instance. Yes Garf, I WILL fill back out my profile again. Halloween and all the headless pics and zombie photos has thrown me for a loop.
And for the record...only PARTS of Garf are orange.... | |
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