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 ray313
Joined: 10/22/2005
Msg: 1
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Alright, I have a friend who really likes this girl he's been hanging around for about 2 weeks. Well, he wanted her to meet all his friends, so they came to a club that I was singing at for open mic. Well, we all had a great time and we were going to leave and she asked for my number to talk about when I go sing at clubs and things like that. Well she calls me and asked to get together some time for a date. Now where I'm kinda at a crossroad is my friend really likes her and he's always talking about her, so is it weird/wrong to go on a date with someone who you know your friend likes?
 fallen_angel_80
Joined: 8/28/2005
Msg: 2
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Posted: 11/8/2005 12:42:50 AM
Tell your friend or ask him. I would not do anything behind his back. Friends are important. Girlfriends come and go.
 SusieDee
Joined: 9/20/2005
Msg: 3
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Posted: 11/8/2005 12:51:09 AM
I think you going out with her would be a betrayal of your friendship.

It's pretty obvious this girl is not such a nice girl anyway.. she's hitting on friends of the guy she's dating..

When she's dating you, she'll probably do the same thing with other friends of yours.


I need that emoticon of the little green guy who is about to puke...
 dgen2008
Joined: 9/10/2005
Msg: 4
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Posted: 11/8/2005 12:52:52 AM
I suggest telling your friend about what happened. If you go ahead and see this girl and keep him in the dark while he still goes after her, things are going to explode. He might not be dating her at the moment, but if you do so without even letting him know about it, he's going to feel very betrayed when he finds out. You don't want to make him feel stupid going after something his buddy already has.

If you do want to go out with her, you've got to let him know first. If he takes it well, you can proceed. If not, that's something you're going to have to work through. It's not worth risking a friendship over...
 Puckerdillo
Joined: 11/5/2005
Msg: 5
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Posted: 11/8/2005 12:57:57 AM
Video tape her getting your load shot on her face. On buddies with BO porn night show him the tape.
 ray313
Joined: 10/22/2005
Msg: 6
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Posted: 11/8/2005 1:00:51 AM
I'm sorry if I gave the impression that they are going out, they aren't I just know that he likes her from the way he talks about her. Even if he says it's ok, is it still actually ok? I wish there was a way to tell if he meant it or if he is just saying it because he thinks that's what I want to hear.
 ray313
Joined: 10/22/2005
Msg: 7
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Posted: 11/8/2005 1:03:38 AM
Pucker...haha, I know some people who did something like that, they took pictures and left them on his porch. He wasn't to happy in the morning to say the least.
 SusieDee
Joined: 9/20/2005
Msg: 8
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Posted: 11/8/2005 1:07:05 AM
oh sorry I misunderstood

But its still not okay, until he figures out she is not into him. Give him a bit of time to get over it. If you still want to see her in a couple of months, go for it.


Don't tell him she wants to date you.. thats like pouring salt in the wound.
 blu_eyed_gal
Joined: 8/25/2005
Msg: 9
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Posted: 11/8/2005 5:50:07 AM
I don't agree with not telling the friend.
What if he finds out she's not interested in him THEN ray asks her out and he finds out how she made the moves on ray?
If it's a good friend, I'd be straight up with him from the start. If he's not such a good friend, then who cares.
 ImYourAngel23
Joined: 5/26/2004
Msg: 10
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Posted: 11/8/2005 5:59:20 AM
I would think that over real good before you go on a date w/her. Better yet face your friend and let him know and go from there.........time to stand up and test your friend. Good luck !!
 R-U-Here
Joined: 6/21/2005
Msg: 11
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Posted: 11/8/2005 6:03:55 AM
You have to talk to the friend and tell him about the situation. She may not know how your friend feels about her. She may view this as nothing more than a friend in her eyes, but wants something more with you.
If she knew how he felt and went out with him to the open mic night, is this someone you want to get involved with. She may be the type that will run down a different road when some other guy causes a glimmer in her eye.
If she didn't know how your friend felt about her. You will be in an awkward situation every time you try to do something with her and your friend. Your friend will have bad feeling because this is a girl he liked and wanted to ask out, he brought her around you and now you are dating her.
I think it is a no win situation that you should just avoid.
My buddies and me have an unwritten code. Girlfriends, Ex-girlfriends, or women of interest are off limits to the others once the contact is made and it appears there is an interest from the woman.
Your friend will be there forever, a female companion can come and go at anytime. Protect your friendship.
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 Engineroom
Joined: 4/26/2005
Msg: 12
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Posted: 11/8/2005 6:10:04 AM
Q: so is it weird/wrong to go on a date with someone who you know your friend likes?
A: YES. . .
 arc_angel
Joined: 8/25/2005
Msg: 13
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Posted: 11/8/2005 7:03:47 AM
Ray,

I agree you should tell your friend..... it is the best option...

but I will play the Opposite tune from all of the others...

I think it depends on how much of a friend you have... and how much you care for this girl....

You can't replace true love.... and friends do not have your kids and partner up with you in your dream called life.... friends will move and change.... a good partner will be with you for life and will be your best friend....

They will hold your hand through the best and worst parts of life.... friends won't be there as much... even the best of them....

I vote for the heart....
 pss12
Joined: 10/12/2004
Msg: 14
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Posted: 11/8/2005 11:04:50 AM
Maybe I'm wrong but it seems you like her alot as well. otherwise you wouldn't post for advice. How much do you like her and how good of friends are you with your pal? I have missed out on relationship for being a friend. I suppose this question is how much do you like the girl? Is is enough to put issues or even break up the friendship you have with your friend??
 ray313
Joined: 10/22/2005
Msg: 15
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Posted: 11/8/2005 6:31:21 PM
I talked with him today and told him what had happened. He didn't agree with me going on a date with her. He than called her to ask her what happened and after they talked, he didn't care if I went out with her. I'd really like to go out with her, but for some reason I feel weird about it even after he said he didn't mind.
 ray313
Joined: 10/22/2005
Msg: 16
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Posted: 11/8/2005 6:31:42 PM
I talked with him today and told him what had happened. He didn't agree with me going on a date with her. He than called her to ask her what happened and after they talked, he didn't care if I went out with her. I'd really like to go out with her, but for some reason I feel weird about it even after he said he didn't mind.
 stats
Joined: 11/3/2005
Msg: 17
Any Advice??? yikes.....dont do it...
Posted: 12/4/2005 5:56:48 PM
If you know your friend that your close with really likes her ,dont as you dont want to ruin your friendship over her.if he does not date her,then maybe hook up with her.
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