| What are your deal breakers
Posted: 11/10/2005 11:48:13 AM | What are your deal breakers when it comes to dating? We all have at least one, right?
My deal breakers: Bad breath, chronic smokers, speach that includes excessive amounts of "yeah, like, oh my gawd!", farters | |
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| What are your deal breakers
Posted: 11/10/2005 12:21:06 PM | I'll approach this in an online/offline manner, as both seem to apply.
Online:
-Mail that consists of "ur hot can u chat?" My eyes just glaze over. Heck, if I'm not worth a well spoken, thoughtful letter, please, please pass me by.
-Mail that consists of outright or unsubtle innuendo pertaining to sex, over and over, no matter how nicely I choose to concisely express my lack of interest in said sex acts with total strangers. Especially when these total strangers want to meet in person and do the boom boom.
-Mail that is too focused on my appearance and not a damn thing else.
-Mail that makes me wonder if the sender really meant to send their mail to ME. I'm often left wondering "wth??!"
-Mail that seems to mock my southern heritage. I really, really don't like being compared to a plate of southern food. Even when I'm told I look better than said food. *eyes cross*
Offline:
-Not taking my words seriously! No means no means no.
-The heavy, strong smell of alcohol hanging in the air.
-Wanting to only listen to their music. Not a total biggie, but pisses me off majorly.
-Too much passage of spit.
-I can't say enough about personal hygiene, manners and gentle behaviors. So I won't.
-The mentality that because they don't like something that I do, it isn't "important".
-Not digging MY Keith Urban. Ok, I just added that cause I needed to laugh.
Over and out...for now. | |
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| What are your deal breakers
Posted: 11/10/2005 1:13:36 PM | | that would be any of the things listed in the broken hearts section of this forum plus a few more. Guess I have lots of deal breakers. | |
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| What are your deal breakers
Posted: 11/10/2005 1:25:46 PM | * someone who uses "lol" all the time
* making a date or any initial contact feel like a job interview
* lists of "dislikes" is longer than the list of "likes"
* rigidity/inflexibility
* large gut
* large butt
* someone who doesn't quite get my goofy, quirky sense of humour | |
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| What are your deal breakers
Posted: 11/10/2005 1:37:17 PM | BAd Teeth! Total deal breaker...I have a lot of things that a difficult for me to look past,
height
intelligence
bad sense of humour
but bad teeth is numero uno, could not get past it, unless they fixed it :) | |
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| What are your deal breakers
Posted: 11/10/2005 2:15:19 PM | Online:
(short list)
Inconsistancy
Lying
Leading off with "HEY SEXY"
asking about my sexual preferences when I don't even know you
Telling me all women on POF are sluts
Admitting you just left a relationship and are wrapped up in an ugly divorce
Finding out he still is in a relaitonship
Getting an email from his wife, asking what so and so is doing talking with me?
Acting one way online and totally rude offline
(Short list)
Offline
Being overbearing
Jealous
Picking your nose
Lying and lying more to cover the first lie.
Being constistantly very late
Being stood up
Never letting the other person speak
Bad body, breath, or other odours that are repulsive
Acting like you're a God
Talking about everything but who you are
Not looking at my eyes when you are talking to me.
Making issue of things that don't involve you | |
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| What are your deal breakers
Posted: 11/10/2005 2:24:25 PM |
-Mail that is too focused on my appearance and not a damn thing else.
Perfect!!!!
~Deal breakers for me include excessive whininess, complaining or overall negativity.
~Racial/sexual orientation slurs of any kind this includes but is not limited to gay bashing. I have a very diverse family with all religions, sexual orientations and colors in it...you must be open to that or SEE YA :)
~Yelling at or otherwise upsetting my kid in anyway.
That pretty much does it...oh and bad teeth  | |
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| What are your deal breakers
Posted: 11/10/2005 3:11:04 PM | Online: messages that just say 'hi'. I know it's hard to think of something to say, but please do better than just 'hi', there's nothing to reply to. If I send 'hi' back, would you have anything else to say? Thought not.
Messages that say 'I make adult movies, would you like to be in one?' short answer: no. Long answer is unprintable.
Offline:
1 Long nails. Sorry but it's a major turn off if a guy has long nails. I just find it cringeworthy.
2 Especially when they're filthy.
3 Telling me on a first date that you normally go commando. When I've just realised you've been wearing the same trousers for about 3 weeks.
4 Phoning me at midnight, waking me up, in order to tell me that you are "going to f*cking get" me. Thanks, I'm really going to appreciate that
5 Texting me while I'm at work, telling me how hard you are and exactly what you're doing. 3 weeks after you woke me up and threatened me.
6 Going to hit my female friends. It's not done.
7 Going to hit my male friends. They are my friends, they will ALWAYS come first if you behave like an idiot.
8 Bits of food in the corner of your mouth, I can't help but stare, which seems to make guys think I want to kiss them.
9 Having not blown your nose, or having blown it, but not checked to see what's still visible. | |
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| What are your deal breakers
Posted: 11/10/2005 3:13:12 PM | Make mountains from molehills
Do all the things that are dealbreakers for her
Any circumstance anyone else has ... hers have been ten times worse
Eyes only for her while she can do as she pleases
Controllers
"Poor me"
Won't accept I had a life before her | |
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Tinkle
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Joined: 11/2/2005
Msg: 11 | |
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| What are your deal breakers
Posted: 11/10/2005 5:24:13 PM | Lying......Thats the big one. Not too many physical things that are actual dealbreakers since most of those CAN be fixed, and usually, if someone has some kind of physical problem, they want to fix it. That being said, smelling like a yeti would probably not be too good for intimacy. But the real dealbreakers come later. Its not really a dating thing because I dont really date anyone that I dont have at least some interest in getting serious with. So more serious things (ahem, lying) are more important to me. Also, in general, for me, "I have alot of guy friends" is a big turn off, even if it is true at the time when we are talking. The reason has alot to do with my experience with women who say that. In my experience, it is just a really bad sign. So, I guess thats a kind of instant turn off for me.
Also, on the other side, there are people who, though they hardly know me, expect me to focus all my attention squarely on them. And get pissed when I dont. Instant turn off there too. I wont tell you all about the other people I am in contact with or about my female friends. But dont tell me really early on that my options are limited to just you. At the same time, I dont need to hear, either way, that you are not limited to just me. I assume that already. | |
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| What are your deal breakers
Posted: 11/10/2005 5:46:02 PM | The internet-dating thing is a funny animal... it's so easy to be turned off by someone you don't know but yet my friends can do and say whatever they please without fear of rejection...
Deal breakers, right off the bat are anything sexual... nicknames, innuendos, whatever... bleah... It's always interesting what people feel they need to talk about right away which is usually a deal breaker in itself. Only want to talk about themselves, no interest in knowing what I do or am interested in, that's kind of lame...
Other than that, I'm wide open and pretty forgiving... The biggest struggle I'm finding right now is the tendency of the guy to rush in to dating right away. If I'm not making any moves by date two or three, I don't hear from him again. I find that sad... especially when there's chemistry/potential and I'm just not ready because I don't know him well... but that's his deal breaker and not mine I guess... It's the mad-hurry that I don't get, everything is so much better when it's deliberate and sincere. Hard to be sincere when you don't know who you're making out with...
Deal breakers, everyone's got one... ain't that a b. | |
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Edduk
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Joined: 11/8/2005
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| What are your deal breakers
Posted: 11/10/2005 5:55:14 PM | As she goes to get into bed she undresses then takes of her false leg.
And it's one of those false legs that look real from the shin down but from the knee up it's looks like a thin robot leg.
That would be a show stopper for me. | |
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| What are your deal breakers
Posted: 11/10/2005 5:59:46 PM | | For me it's simple...honesty. If someone isn't a down to earth honest man, I'm gone. | |
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| What are your deal breakers
Posted: 11/10/2005 6:17:28 PM | online:*BAD SPELLING/GRAMMAR!!!! there is computerland lingo and then there is just ignorance*I am NOT your "babe" or your "hun" or whatever else you come up with. you don't know me so don't act like you do*do NOT assume that I am going to meet you after conversing with you but once via IM for all of 10 minutes, and especially do NOT assume that you will get lucky if/when I do meet you
in person:*BAD GRAMMAR!!!!!! sorry but this is a biggie for me. I am trying to teach my son properly so why would I accept it from a man????*lack of respect for my personal space--don't invade it unless and until you are invited to do so*abnormal growth from hands--if you can't put down a beer bottle for longer than it takes to have a wizz, see ya
I'm sure I could fill a whole page if I kept going, but you get the idea....... | |
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| What are your deal breakers
Posted: 11/10/2005 6:29:22 PM | | Overweight, Democrat, smoker, hates guns, hates hunting, pro-abortion, anti-death penalty, ever voted for Clinton, a '6' or less on a 1-10 scale. I prefer tall women, but I'll compromise for someone who is an exceptional person. | |
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| What are your deal breakers
Posted: 11/10/2005 6:39:22 PM | Liers, Thiefs, or just pure evil people. Tracy (buccaneer38)
After posting I noticed "Edduk"s post: I have to say that if I got to the point where we were going to bed and I found out she had a "fake" leg, I don't think that would upset me. The only thing that might have been a problem with me is that she should have told me up front, but just the fact that she had one wouldn't bother me. | |
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| What are your deal breakers
Posted: 11/10/2005 7:56:12 PM |
Overweight, Democrat, smoker, hates guns, hates hunting, pro-abortion, anti-death penalty, ever voted for Clinton, a '6' or less on a 1-10 scale. I prefer tall women, but I'll compromise for someone who is an exceptional person.
Wow...I'm at least half of those...thank god eh? Whew dodged that bullet. Damn!  | |
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| What are your deal breakers
Posted: 11/10/2005 8:42:36 PM | Now that I'm thinking about it I have more than I thought.
Cruelty to animals
Conservatives
Overly religious
Racist
Sexist
gay bashing (my best friend in the world is gay)
Showing off, needing to be the center of attention all the time
Putting other people down (when they don't deserve it)
Lying
General "Leisure Suit Larry"-ness
Momma's boys
Clingy-ness, posessive-ness, trying to tell me (or others) what to do
Low intellect
Narrrow minded-ness
whew.
Ok I'm going to stop now. | |
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| What are your deal breakers
Posted: 11/10/2005 9:00:59 PM | I only have 3 ~ one is a major one .. .. and one is a small one.. .. and one is kinda in between
RACISTS
BAD TASTE
BAD BREATH
You can always give somebody a tic-tac.. .. and even a style tip or two.. .. but you really can't do anything about the other idiot!
~Pour | |
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| What are your deal breakers
Posted: 11/10/2005 9:06:58 PM | A Big Red Flag for me is if She brings up Her Ex during the Date....So far So Good ,,,,knock on Wood...
Smoking.....blaehhhh!!!!!!!!!
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| What are your deal breakers
Posted: 11/10/2005 9:15:21 PM | | Disrespect....biggest deal breaker for me! You can't respect me...see ya..lol! | |
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| What are your deal breakers
Posted: 11/10/2005 9:59:28 PM | | If i don't like a guys smell......thats right....all people have a natural smell and alot of times it is a turn off! | |
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