| I think it is easier to be alone....
Posted: 11/11/2005 11:08:50 AM | Hey everyone...
I apologize if this comes off as needing some cheeze with my whine...lol 
I'm getting tired of the whole dating thing. I'd love nothing more than to be in a healthy long term relationship but for now, I am giving up. Everyone says, it will happen when I least expect it, and I really hope that is true. I am dissillusioned right now and don't have alot of trust in men and the lip service they pay.
Good luck to everyone 
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| I think it is easier to be alone....
Posted: 11/11/2005 11:12:40 AM | | I think everyone feels that way at some point in time, Princess. I know I have...but now what I usually do when I am alone is find out about me, sometimes alone time is a good thing! Its gives you a chance to take a breather and figure out what you DON'T want in a relationship..good luck sweets! | |
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| I think it is easier to be alone....
Posted: 11/11/2005 11:13:22 AM | I agree it is easier... and sometimes its good to take a break and focus
on the inside, yourself. When the time is right you will be ready... in the meantime...
its good to explore new friendships, interests, do things you never had time for. | |
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Posted: 11/11/2005 11:13:56 AM | | Notta...well how bout you and I just move in together, and start a relatoinship from the get-go? NO dating, just live together, get our groove on, and some romance. ;-) | |
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| I think it is easier to be alone....
Posted: 11/11/2005 11:21:38 AM | nottaprincess,
welcome to the club. I made that decision myself about a month ago after many let downs. I changed up my profile to reflect my new attitude and posted a new pic with a smirk that told the story. Guess what happened?
Mail. More mail in in the last month than i have ever received from all the dating sites I've been involved with combined. And you know what I did? I answered the ones that interested me but did not mention the possibility of dating them. We ended up chatting about all sorts of things without the pressure of trying to impress each other. It was refreshing.
I have gone out with a few of them and I'm talking to others. I highly recommend just chilling out, it works for me. | |
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| I think it is easier to be alone....
Posted: 11/11/2005 11:32:51 AM | Don't give up, Linda!!!
Sleep on it.. When you wake up, your arm will become a little longer. Reach out with it and grasp something anew. If it has worked for others, it will certainly work for you.
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Posted: 11/11/2005 1:33:22 PM | Aw, girl, I feel your pain. I've had a string of rather lackluster experiences myself lately. But the feast will come again . . . for both of us!
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| I think it is easier to be alone....
Posted: 11/11/2005 1:57:38 PM | I'm getting tired of the whole dating thing. I'd love nothing more than to be in a healthy long term relationship but for now, I am giving up. Everyone says, it will happen when I least expect it, and I really hope that is true. I am dissillusioned right now and don't have alot of trust in men and the lip service they pay.
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Everyone feels that way from time to time,it's perfectly normal. | |
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| I think it is easier to be alone....
Posted: 11/11/2005 2:29:54 PM | | it's normal to feel that way esp if you've been single for a long time! take a break...i do have trust issues with men as well... | |
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Posted: 11/11/2005 3:18:49 PM | I could not agree with you more. I quit trying to find someone. Trying to find someone is harder than anything I have experienced in my 22 months in Iraq. Its depressing. I was married and she cheated on me while I was in Iraq so the only thing I fear is lonliness but I guess I will be facing it for some time to come. HAHAHAHaha life sucks huh!  | |
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Posted: 11/11/2005 3:36:35 PM | | It is easier to be alone, and you can learn a lot about yourself when you are alone, but I am not going to give up on dating. How else are you going to find what you are looking for? Yeah, sure things will come your way, but without putting any effort into what you want, you may be more likely to let it get away. Maybe expecting too much, too fast, is the reason for the let down. Don't give up, just pace yourself. Nothing falls your way if you just give up. | |
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| I think it is easier to be alone....
Posted: 11/11/2005 3:37:14 PM | Sure it's easier to be alone, takes no effort, you don't get disappointed, you are always right, arguments are one-sided, you get to go to bed angry if you want, you can collect as many cats as you like..... | |
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Posted: 11/11/2005 5:32:35 PM | | Well now that ya posted this.. it's not gonna happen.. you can't announce you're giving up and expect it to happen! If it was that easy.. I woulda done it already! | |
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| I think it is easier to be alone....
Posted: 11/11/2005 8:07:35 PM | Hey Princess,
I can not say I disagree with you. I always hear the same thing...when your not looking you'll find someone or she is always just around the corner! My question is..how many corners do I need to go around until we meet LOL
It can be easier to do the things you want to do when your single but it is still nice to have someone special with you to make them better :)
I still hope I find the one woman but if I don't...then I'll still be fine.
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Posted: 11/11/2005 8:34:57 PM | | I hear ya sister! I think the reason you are feeling the way you do is because you've had some bad luck with men you are meeting lately. There are honest, funny, attractive and intelligent men out there. Don't let the idiots get you down. Move on. Do your own thing. | |
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Posted: 11/11/2005 8:38:35 PM | I've heard the "it will happen when you least expect it" line many times. So now I assume that means it will happen when I'm drawing my last breath as that would definitely be "when I least expect it."
(yes, I'm in a morbid mood tonight...) | |
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Posted: 11/11/2005 10:27:22 PM | | Heh, well princess, that there is the price for being attractive I think. I have know a few attractive women (and dated none :\) who have been disallusioned. I'm pretty sure that you'll find someone good, but I'll bet it will be through your network of friends, who can validate better than the internet if a guy is just another dead end. Best wishes, and I wish I were in that network! | |
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Posted: 11/12/2005 12:12:11 AM | | It might be easier to be alone but nothing ventured, nothing gained. I prefer to be in the company of others most of the time. That way, I can share the enjoyment I experience in life with someone else instead of just myself. It's much more fun for me that way. | |
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Posted: 11/12/2005 4:35:51 AM | Thankyou to everyone...
It helps to know that there are others who feel the way I do. I won't 'give up' per se, but I do feel very subdued. The internet guys are great...it is the real life guys who I have been dating who are not exactly stacking up.
(((((HUGS))))) to everyone...maybe another 5 corners or so and we will all find the 'right' person...
I'm "washing my hair" for a few weeks!
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Posted: 11/12/2005 7:44:53 AM | I agree with you 100%. I've been divorced for 3 years and I am so sick of dating men. They either don't know what they want or just want sex..... Where are all the decent mature men in the world? I give up: | |
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Posted: 11/12/2005 8:00:28 AM | | Meeting people and dating is not easy.... no one ever said it was. Not having luck in finding a mutual connection with someone can get you down. I think most people feel this way at some point or another. I know I have. I've come to realize over time that having someone special in my life adds to it... not makes it. The "search" can be frustrating and disheartening. But there's always light at the end of the tunnel....*smile* | |
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Posted: 11/12/2005 8:00:36 AM | yeah dating totally sucks. I have been single for a year now. Lots of dates...lots LOSERS!
Quote to live by "men are like parking spaces, all the best ones are taken and the only ones left are handicapped" | |
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| I think it is easier to be alone....
Posted: 11/12/2005 9:21:25 AM | {Quote to live by "men are like parking spaces, all the best ones are taken and the only ones left are handicapped"}
Lady Heather... thems fightin words. if i could figure out how to start my truck, i'd drive to your trailer, park beside your blocked up car & spank your a**! 
(notta)Princess...this what I've learned through my experience. You have to look inside yourself & rediscover the real you... do the things you love, do the things you've always wanted to do. Then kick back & relax, you're spending time with the most interesting person you know!
There's a thing called "the wanting it tax". People can sense when you're needy & it gives off a bad vibe. So remember, you don't NEED anyone! After checking out your profile, I would say you deserve much more than you give yourself credit for. You ARE a fascinating person, with a wonderful smile & a lot of determination... and you can type with a broken hand! Congrats! Now just relax. Dating really is a game, just make it a good one. And have FUN!
Wow, I guess I got carried away.
So keep smiling... it keeps everyone wondering 
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