| Too Early to put out?
Posted: 11/12/2005 12:08:25 AM | I am just wondering when is it to early to put out?
Do men always assume if you put out for them therefore you must put out for everyone?
I am a very sexual person. I don't sleep around, but if I feel the attraction and want to get down, why do men get all freaked out by that?
Is it that men are used to being the aggressors and aren't sure how to deal with a forward woman? | |
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| Too Early to put out?
Posted: 11/12/2005 12:37:19 AM | never too early to put out ! it all depends what you want out of it.....if you're looking for a one night stand, well then go nuts !
I for onr, refuse to date a girl that I dlept with on the first night ..... call me old fasion, but that's just a rule I've lifed by.....!
as for men not be able to deal with forward women....sad thing ! we still live in a world behind our time.....a forward woman is still considered to be a slut by the majority ! and men all love sluts, we just consider then as plan b women !!!! | |
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| Too Early to put out?
Posted: 11/12/2005 12:52:18 AM | You simply have to stop dating Monks!! I can only assume thats who you are dating, because I have never, I repeat, NEVER... heard any of my buddies say, "Ya know Skippy, she was beautiful, great sense of humor and a great personality... but she wanted to have sex on the first date... I dont think its going to work out..."
That would be about the time that we beat his ass....
But in answer to your question... its a timing/relationship gig. If you click with somone, then there is no time limit. You just let the powder keg get lit..... | |
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| Too Early to put out?
Posted: 11/12/2005 12:55:45 AM | From what I've been seeing in other threads...
Men try to get you in bed on the first date..if they suceed, you are a slut..they are just men..not sluts.
or they are pissed you don't put out and don't call you again..
Women are scared to put out on the first date..because he will label her a slut
and he won't call her again...
either way he's not callin .. so screw em
well not literally..
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| Too Early to put out?
Posted: 11/12/2005 1:14:36 AM | Women are scared to put out on the first date..because he will label her a slut
and he won't call her again...
who cares if he labels u as a slut...he is not better than u anyways and he knows it....l | |
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| Too Early to put out?
Posted: 11/12/2005 1:16:02 AM | exactly lol  i think that's what i was tryin to say lol | |
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| Too Early to put out?
Posted: 11/12/2005 3:19:43 AM | If it's there and you feel it, do it...just make sure you won't regret it...either way just chalk it up as experience...learning takes experience. Just know that you won't feel bad afterwards! If there is doubt, then don't... | |
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| Too Early to put out?
Posted: 11/12/2005 3:30:37 AM | Really good poo-ninny is rare; rest assured if it's really good, you'll be getting call-back after call-back.  | |
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Posted: 11/12/2005 5:08:25 AM | GIRL,, come here and dominate me... I'll let ya just for a little while... SOOOOO HOTTTT..... Does this guy have any idea how much fun he could have with you; whatta tool, lol
Could always become a porn star; plenty of sex their for ya; and dont have to worry about first date,, you'll be doing it in a matter of a few mins.... BONUS. | |
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| Too Early to put out?
Posted: 11/12/2005 5:22:11 AM | | the whole double standard thing is getting a little annoying . That's why-I say-f*ck it.I feel women should have full rights and priviledges for everything including but not limited to their sexual disclosures . Sweetie i say do it , then if he acts like an ***hole find somebody else( maybe in a twenty year old black med student ...te he ) . Why should you have to go home and flick the bean because you want to be respected? live a litlle. | |
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| Too Early to put out?
Posted: 11/12/2005 7:35:05 AM | "never too early to put out ! it all depends what you want out of it.....if you're looking for a one night stand, well then go nuts !
I for onr, refuse to date a girl that I dlept with on the first night ..... call me old fasion, but that's just a rule I've lifed by.....!
as for men not be able to deal with forward women....sad thing ! we still live in a world behind our time.....a forward woman is still considered to be a slut by the majority ! and men all love sluts, we just consider then as plan b women !!!!"
no more forums after a night of drinking !!! what a dummy ! | |
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| Too Early to put out?
Posted: 11/12/2005 7:45:53 AM | Doesn’t change my answer…I’ve just realised my dumb I become after a few too many pops ! | |
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| Too Early to put out?
Posted: 11/12/2005 7:56:44 AM | In this case it's all about "YOU"...............
-How would you feel if you slept with a guy on the 1st date.... and they never called again?
Would you care?
Would you sit there and wonder... crap what did I do wrong? Hmmm he must not have liked
the sex.... and on and on and on..... I think we are our own worst enemies!
-"Most" guys that sleep with a girl on the 1st date don't go out with her again unless they are
just looking for friends with benefits or the new famous term Fuxbuddy..........
I personally have never slept with anyone on a 1st date because I don't think "I" could handle how "I" would feel after! But then it's all about me!!! LOL | |
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| Too Early to put out?
Posted: 11/12/2005 8:04:34 AM | If you're "feeling the attraction and want to get down", then get down! I personally think that a man knows after the first hour of being with you if he wants to see you again (whether y'all have sex that night or not). If he WASN'T interested, then at least you had some good sex (hopefully). And, if he WAS interested, things should progress as normal. Would ya' rather wait a couple of weeks (get more emotionally involved), have sex, and THEN get dumped? To me, that would be a lot harder. Men are slick (yeh, a generalization).. if they can "play" you for a night, they can "play" you for weeks. But, if he's serious and he likes you.. then he won't dump ya' if you have sex (besides, unless the chick is raping him.. he is participating in the sex as well, which puts y'all on the same level)..
Assuming that someone's not "waiting for marriage" to get sexual, then the time restriction thing is blah! You wouldn't buy a cake and wait to eat it in 2 weeks with the thinkin' that you won't gain weight or it will taste better. Hell, you bought it, you want it, and it's gonna get eaten... either then or later.. yet, same results!
With my 3 serious/long term relationships, I had sex with 2 of them on the second date and the other I had sex with on the 1st date (which was the day we met). Whereas, my friend has really liked 2 guys in the past year and she made them "wait" for about a month... after they got down, they guys dumped her (she was devasted). So, go figure.. | |
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| Too Early to put out?
Posted: 11/12/2005 9:16:37 AM | | I am not really concerned about being dumped per say......I am not talking about long term relationships here. I am simply talking about dating and when things "should" progress. I am a student and a very busy girl. I am not looking to get married anytime soon. I am just enjoying the dating scene. But because I have never really been a part of the dating scene...I have always been in long term relationships, I am not sure when it is "appropriate" for anything sexual to enter the picture. Is there really such thing as the "third date" rule? | |
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| Too Early to put out?
Posted: 11/12/2005 9:23:53 AM | | Just because you are dating doesn't mean you have to "put out". | |
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Posted: 11/12/2005 9:28:58 AM | | lol.....I know you don't "have to".....I WANT TO......when is it appropriate? When is it socially acceptable and not considered slutty? | |
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| Too Early to put out?
Posted: 11/12/2005 9:30:10 AM | Done it quite a few times on the first date. If it feels right........go for it.....guys or girls. Geez, we are all adults here. Girls .....don't play the pity thing wondering if he will call or not. Guys know you want to just as much as we do....we're just more bold in asking for it. When you do the wo is me thing you already making excuses for why he won't call when in fact you just didn't click in bed or maybe it was the fact that you drank way too much wine and he had to carry you into your house.
The ladies that I was fortunate to sleep with on the first date I dated for awhile. I didn't cast an opinion on her because she was a little hor ny too. We broke up for other reasons like her being bipolar, too many ADD kids and looking for someone to take care of them, etc etc.
Listen to your heart........ You want to go for it......go and have a good time while your there.
P.S. The calling thing goes both ways ladies ! | |
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| Too Early to put out?
Posted: 11/12/2005 10:09:44 AM | | i dont care what anyone says sex on a first date is wrong no im not a monk not even a priest but sex ix something that should have feelings attached go ahead and give me crap or whatever im not gonna get beat up when i walk down the street just becuase i dont feel like men should expect sex too early id respect a woman a lot more if she made me wait the world has become way to sex oriented dont get me wrong i love sex but why have sex with random people makes no sense anyway please forgive my opinion if u dont agree | |
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| Too Early to put out?
Posted: 11/12/2005 10:18:41 AM | | I've had it work both ways...Most guys try for sex on the first date, but the majority won't respect you if you do it. I have had a lasting relationship after sex on the first date, but it's rare. | |
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| Too Early to put out?
Posted: 11/12/2005 10:20:28 AM | | its hot when the woman shows interest that she WANTS it | |
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| Too Early to put out?
Posted: 11/12/2005 11:38:27 AM | | I agree that it depends. I had a great relationship with a woman who more or less started things. We had talked a few times at a place she worked and once I helped her with some moving. She called me one day and ask if I was interested in some causual sex! After a micro-second of thought I said yes. We had a great time for over a year and are still good friends. | |
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