| she broke my heart.
Posted: 11/12/2005 4:00:56 PM | OMG.. I went and let it happen.
allowed myself to open up.. and she went and broke my heart.
OK..no she didn't.. meh. .kinda. but its not her fault.
anyone ever have to deal with the fact that someone you are in love with.. just doesn't have as strong of feelings for you as you have for them.
And you only wish they did.
And now you sit here like a total freakin dolt.. sad.. depressed.. and questioning everything you did.
Yeah.. welll hello.. thats me.
broke up with my gf on wendsday.
why do I have to be such a logical person?
its like seriously.. why can't i just be all pathetic.. and in denial.. and go on with things as they are like so many do.
BUT >>>>> NOOOOOO I have to say.. I need more, I deserve more.. I WANT more from you. and well.. had to come to the realization that she might never give me more. or be able to for that matter.
ok. im just super sad. :(
HI. nice to meet ya all. | |
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Posted: 11/12/2005 4:33:29 PM | Reminds me of the J. Giles song. Was there at one point in my life, I liked her,
she liked him, they liked someone else. Are you sad from losing this person or
not having a person that fills the void? | |
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| she broke my heart.
Posted: 11/12/2005 4:43:43 PM | | Hope you learned and will not fall in love anymore. | |
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| she broke my heart.
Posted: 11/12/2005 5:03:37 PM | Stillookingforyou2,How could you say that to this poor woman?We all want to find that special someone to give our love to completely,And will return the feeling.It is great to have that feeling,Something rare,and beautiful.I've had that feeling twice in my life,I also have felt the down side to that emotion too.Pain.That is a hard word itself to feel.But if you are truely going to love someone with you heart,you must take the pain that comes with it.To the woman who started this thread,Hon,I feel for ya right now!And I'm not going to go and tell ya to get over it.It is still to soon!But you must mourn the death of this relationship sometime,Or you will never get over her.Good Luck,And Best Wishes.Terri  | |
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Posted: 11/12/2005 5:09:17 PM | | 1st of all...It sounds as though you are better off. Why settle when you aren't happy? You'll only end up ALWAYS longing for more...been there...got out. This next statement sounds harsh...but I mean it in the nicest way possible...Maybe she just wasn't that into you.. So why waste anymore time wasting time on her? | |
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Posted: 11/12/2005 5:17:30 PM | TerriSharp46241 wrote;
Stillookingforyou2,How could you say that to this poor woman?
Because he's a troll.
http://forums.plentyoffish.com/usermessages.aspx?user_Id=982268 | |
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Posted: 11/12/2005 7:41:45 PM | Hola chica (you have lips like Angelina Jolie). You will get over the hurt in time. You will learn to love yourself again and find fun in the things you used to do. Please don't beat yourself up.  | |
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Posted: 11/12/2005 9:39:21 PM | heh thats what I was saying about being logical.. and why i broke things off. Cause I know I dont HAVE to settle.. but that does't hurt me any less. And I also said that.. its hard to come to terms with the fact that maybe someone you really care about doesn't care about you in the same way.
meh. said all that.. but thanks.. :) it wasn't too harsh I like the honesty. :)
thanks guys.. That ball is totally in her court. and that sucks.. cause I have to accept fully.. that wow.. ok.. its over. meh.
And I woun't fight for someone that wouldn't fight for me.. so here I am. :) meh. lol. | |
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Posted: 11/13/2005 11:44:03 AM | | Yes, it's happened to me and it's not a good feeling at all. It's so hard to just turn your feelings off, I just can't do it. What you mentioned there is exactly how I am when this happens, depressed and wondering what I could've done differently. We do get over it but it's not a nice feeling while it does last. | |
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Posted: 11/13/2005 12:16:33 PM | | I know how it feels. I'm going through the same thing now. I loved this girl more than I've ever loved anyone before in my life, I fell the second I saw her. It was the first time I let it happen in 9 years. The whole relationship was bad, start to finish. She played games, couldn't make up her mind and broke up with me every time she wanted to do something that I wouldn't like her doing. And I kept taking her back,like the idiot I am. Kept giving her the benefit of the doubt thinking she'll come around and we'll be ahppy together. Not to mention going out with a different guy every time we broke up and when she didn't like him came back to me. What I did in taking her back every time was being an idiot, not ending it because you weren't happy. I wish I wouldv'e done that in the first place. Now I'm depressed, can't eat and can't sleep, can't even concentrate on having a good time. All I do is sit and cry. Now she's out having a good time with my ex-best friend in their new relationship. I'm just glad I ended it this time as much as it hurt. Sometimes we just have to do what we have to do to make ourselves happy. We just need to remember that evrything happens for a reason. I may be depressed but that's what helps me wake up and live life everyday. If it didn't work out it's because there's someone else better for us out there. Good luck! | |
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Posted: 11/13/2005 12:19:55 PM | | Well, Cheeky, here's my call on this. Being in love is the highest "high" someone can have. Isn't that high worth the downer we feel once it's over? It's the price we sometimes have to pay. Don't "never fall in love again" because of the possible downer later on. That would be sad, going around as an emotional flatliner. Go ahead, be sad and cry. Then when you're ready, get out there and find someone who might be the "one". | |
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Posted: 11/13/2005 6:25:19 PM | | it happens been there been hurt time i thought would heal the pain but each day i look at my son and see the tears in his eyes i feel the pain.she says i'm just going away to fine myself.me thinking that love will keep us strong i helped her on the bus 3000miles away she says he has some things in her pass that made her go nuts now walking ont on me and her son my thoughts of what just happen..i've been there to wipe her tears away did the cooking and clean the house yet i ask is it me no she said its her.but i can't call you no more.sure i let tears go cause without her i can't think right the days lonely the nights long and my son oh he hurts i had to put a fake smile on.so each tear that rolls down his cheek i wipe it away.when my wife was on the net she would talk to her aunt and my son said dad why would her aunt say i hope i'm not being greedy for wanting you here.now thoughts run past my mine was this a set up. | |
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| she broke my heart.
Posted: 11/13/2005 7:05:17 PM | | feel your pain i went throught it this past summer. | |
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Posted: 2/4/2006 5:18:51 AM | Im my situation, apparently she feels exactly the same amount of love as I do for her. We met through close friends of mine, 2 yrs ago, and as strongly as I believed her marriage of 14yrs was already 2 years stale, my attraction to her was an attration that was to be one that introduced me to Love"..If your unhappily married, and you have 5 kids, and throughout the time I've been involved with her, see's me at every available moment..which is not that often, once a week for as little as an hour, or if I take time off work, its more time,when she hasn't got the kids to organise.. during the day,etc..tells me she loves me everyday, she phones me every day twice, once at work, and once when she gets home, before her husband gets home, everyday..?....
However, what I have noticed from when we first started, is all of the promises she put forward to me..eg.
( Can't wait to marry you) Hold on babe....your my only happiness, just have to get through this!!, it will only take 6 mths..etc..after 2 yrs, see absolutely no change..
After 2 years of shear depression of never being able to contact her away from work, or on weekends, so I just wait around wondering where she is, or what she's doing, or if she's just using her situation as an exuse to tell me she's with the kids, or husband and possibly be out on the town on a Sat night.
I always hear from her everyday,even on weekends and Sat nights at some stage,and she always tells me her plans, most of them involving her husband and kids, as throughout the whole time, none of their close friends would have any idea, that their marrige is in trouble, to the stage of no return on her part,
but anybody can leave a niteclub or party to find a quite room to phone to say something like," At home with Kids and Husband..bored, wish I was with you"
The only people who know about me in her circle, are all the seperated ones, some of them worry me!!!
..and therefore being so in love with her, yet really not know exactly who she really is, as I've witnessed her lies as to where she is,only because she was right next to me on the phone when her husband has made contact as to where she is,but don't forget..she blames him for what she's doing in regards to being with me, because she wanted out 2years b4 she met me,, so I don't know whether she's only doing this bcause of her unhappiness now, or could she be doing the same to me??...but she tells me she's so in love with me and not to be so ridiculous, as she's not like that...I'm trying to trust her, but I've seen how good she can lie..
Please can somebody give me advice on that...I mean, I'd like to think she's only doing it to be with me, but I'd much prefer if she'd just leave him and not lie..She has mentioned how terrible she feels in lying to be with me.
.I guess what my dilema is..or questions are..
Is she just using me, because she know's she got someone who she knows does love her, to have sex with?
Am I the part thats missing in her marriage/life, the one who she can open up and talk to, who''ll listen and agree to everything she says everytime, yet feel so depressed, as to why I feel I'm fighting a losing battle, and the times its gotten too much for me, and I've drunk myself into gaining the confidence to tell her I can't take it anymore, she understands how hard it is for me and, comforts me back into my existing confusion!!
If she loves me so much, well then why doesn't she just leave her situation and move on with me?
If she's concerned about how her kids will react and suffer from her seperation, will she ever be with me?
...theres never a good time to tell the kids!!
I totally understand whats ahead of me knowing that with 5 kids, romance is scarce..or should I say getting the time alone...
If she's concerned about her husband suiciding, as no matter how many times she's told him she doesn't love him anymore, but only as a father, yet wants him to understand..(if possible),that they can remain as loving parents for the kids, yet get on with their individual lives,as he still loves her, and what she's waiting for, is for him to finally pack up and move out, the kids are starting to understand whats happening...and there is the slighest improvement in my favour, as I've never married, and I love kids,as I have 12 Nieces and nephews, and all my friends have kids...
Whilst we're on that subject, 10mths ago she fell pregnant to me.. As much as I did want to have it
For someone that loves her kids and love kids very much and is a great mother, found herself in a situation where she had the opportunity to turn my life around and make me the happiest man, or break her (affair..which is a word she refuses to say), should I say, break her silence in the love she has for me, to tell her husband there and then, that she's met somebody else, and is pregnant...and how to tell her 5 kids she's going to have a baby with another man. I couldn't really blame her for not wanting to have it, especially with her finally reaching the stage where her youngest was to start school this year, would/could she go through it again, as understandably,5 kids is enough of a battle, and might I say, the raising of them played part in the marriage breakdown. Typically she felt she was doing all the work!!!..She's basically raised kids throughout the marriage....
Believe me, it was a a decision that had to be made, but I only wish it was in my favour, however I totally understand that it would've been too much for her to handle.. We talk about it..often and for her go through with that was terrible
Is that a pitiful reason for her not making a decision to be with me?...Imean her telling me, she won't leave her kids, and she won't leave her house, yet try and force him out, with him keeping his business, and their investment property, and her keeping the house with the kids..Would any father walk away that easily from his kids?
If her husband, whom knows me..through me meeting her 2yrs ago,through my close friends, and who has seen the two of us, chatting at partys and the such over the last 2 yrs, who also found, and read a couple of emails that..(his wife) the woman I love, in question, didn't delete from their home computer, one of them
stating her love for me and to hold on for her, who now continually mentions my name to her, thankfully hasn't taken it any further with me, or could she be biding more time in making me believe that he knows, so I stop hassling her into telling her to do something????
If he knows about me, and has read her emails stating her love for me, well then why did she let that opportunity fizzle out to be a little flirty email session, and blow out the window, and to confuse him into making him think nothing of it?
That was really her only chance..The kids, the whole Marriage package is the reason I think. Its just too much for her to deal with, so she lives in hope he'll do it for her.
She wants out of the marriage, but just couldn't be bothered to go through the whole process..Too many people will get hurt, so as long as I put up with it, I'll be the one that continually gets hurt I guess.
Look, I know I've answered all my questions but I really need some advice as to my feelings for her,
I'm finding it hard to tell her I can't take it, the more pressure I put on her now, the more she gets pissed off with me and gets sick and tired of it, and thinks I don't understand how hard it is for her, and that she loves me, and just says it will happen eventually, just don't make it any harder for her | |
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