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Posted: 12/17/2004 3:40:08 PM | Okay, okay…….I know the age thing is posted in the over thirty thread, but I thought I would give it the “Single Parent” twist.
You’re a single parent and you meet someone that you would like to share a life with, but they are older/younger than yourself? You meet someone your own age, they have children younger/older than yours? You meet someone who has kids, that have left the house, yours are still in diapers?
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Posted: 12/18/2004 7:22:24 PM | That's a good one.
It's hard enough for me to meet someone my own age because I look so much younger than I am. Then once you find someone, you mention that you are a single mom. They can handle the 15 year old daughter pretty well but it's the baby that throws a wrench in the works.
I'm 41 and my youngest (I just have 2) is 14 months.
"...nobody told me...this would be so hard....." | |
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Posted: 12/19/2004 4:53:13 PM | Uhhhh.....man I am so confused, like how old are the hoddie whatties and why?  | |
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Posted: 12/19/2004 6:27:56 PM | You’re a single parent and you meet someone that you would like to share a life with, but they are older/younger than yourself? You meet someone your own age, they have children younger/older than yours? You meet someone who has kids, that have left the house, yours are still in diapers?
Im going to assume theres 3 questions here.........
The other half being older or younger: the younger one is looking for a mom or dad figure, something that they missed in their childhood. The one that is older wants to be a teacher or the one in charge.
But then again it depends on what the age gap your talking about too.
Same age with older or younger kids: Thats why ya have to be open and honest up front, shouldnt be a surprise later where your a deer caught in headlights. Whats the age gap?
I will use mine as a example I have 3, 12 thru 15. If I met someone with kids say 0-9 wouldnt phase me Im already trained and know what to expect personally.
They have kids who left the house and mine still in diapers: Well thats a issue they would have to deal with, not like you should hide the fact you have babies. Besides most people are not looking for the other person to be the parent. Most still have the other parent in the childs life. They are just trying to get one (a life) with kids.
What I seem to have found in my situtation when women find out I have 3 its usually the last I hear from them. Funny how some women complain of this problem but it happens to us guys too. I have also seen ads where they have children and dont want some with kids kinda a ironic there. | |
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Posted: 12/19/2004 7:34:22 PM | Well BC
I am 34 my daughter is 20yrs younger then me, so she is 14 and my son is 6.
I have met men who had kids he was older than me by many years his kids were grown his daughter only 8yrs younger than me...I felt terribly uncomfortable with that...it didnt work out...
I have not really met many men who have kids...I dont know if it is a good thing, or a bad thing really....I love kids, not sure if I want to have any more... | |
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Posted: 12/19/2004 8:13:17 PM | | Okay I guess I will have to confess, it is that darn numbers routine again. If you are compatible with the person and their children, or the children are with their future siblings what does a number have to do with anything? Yes, there are some that want a “Sugar” daddy/mother, Yes, there are some who like Punk, when you like Jazz……….those are simple no brainers. The only real question is what is with the numbers routine????? I know men/women older than me, that live life with more vigour and Love, than friends I have that are younger than me. To me it is the compatibility of your souls, and the willingness to share, hey tomorrow, the twenty year old could get hit by a Mack truck, and the fifty year old could live to be as old as me 99. To you 2Kewt 2Bgood, our POF Mona Lisa (you know we love you girl), what made you feel “uncomfortable” with your “Older” guy? | |
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Posted: 12/19/2004 8:18:45 PM | | The only time the age thing gets me is when I get hit on by ladies who I could be a father too. that is a lil freaky, cant go there. nope not this guy un unh | |
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Posted: 12/19/2004 8:55:09 PM | | Say you have children who are say 15 and 10. Your about 38 years old but u meet someone whos 19 that your absoultly crazy in love with. do you go for it? | |
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Posted: 12/19/2004 9:15:18 PM | Hate to say this dear 18, but maybe you should ask when you are 26 and she is 44, in between the S*x should be great!!… If she still loves you at 44, then go for it Bro, after about 25, in my opinion, the Numbers game just does not apply. In between that lady will teach you a lot, have Fun. Hate to say this Ram, but my Father & Grandfather both remarried women younger than their first children, the latter died after his wife, the former are still happily married some twenty years later | |
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Posted: 12/20/2004 8:57:19 AM | Well what made me feel uncomfortable was his age, 51 the fact that he lied to me about his age which was way I even agreed to meet him, cause I thought he was 47...The fact that he had a Peter Pan complex [never wanting to grow up] that doesnt make for a very good relationship....Mainly the fact that while we had a few things in common there were many we didnt, and other issues too...His kids age's and my kids ages doesnt matter...To me its maturity level of the man I am with, his ability to committ to a long-term relationship...Tired of the men that tell me to be happy with the "now" and "enjoy the time we have with each other, dont want more" SCREW that... I deserve, and my kids deserve MORE, and BETTER...
To the one who said 38 and 19yrs old.....DAMN are you nutz????? seriously...KRAZY...An age differnce that big, will cause a rift later down the road...Alot of problems arise from the fact that they will feel trapped, like they havent lived their life, had the chances others had....It would be a huge disaster...While I do imagine the SEX would be awesome, I highly dont recommend getting SERIOUS about someone that much younger.. | |
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Posted: 12/20/2004 11:10:47 AM | LOL 15 and 10 eh dkos, Ive been in that spot and Im 34 with a 12, 14, and 15. My personal experience and opinion is only if you dont want it to last. If your just looking for dates and she is crazy about you fine.
But at 38 you should already be mature and have direction in life. Remember 19? Most at that age think they have direction (some actually do) but their outlook and experience in life isnt close to a 34 or 38 yr old. I rem 19 and I thought I knew the world to, being out on my own at 16. Boy did I learn a thing or two.
The really creepy thing is your 15yr old in most cases will have more in common with her or him than you will.
So in short, date yes, long term no not until like one other person said after 25 its pretty much a number. So if she or hes still around at 25 and still crazy she or he is a keeper. | |
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Posted: 12/25/2004 8:04:02 PM | | I'm 30 and I have one girl her name is Azure she is 13 and will be 14 in Aug. I think it wounderful and I'm glade that I did it when I was young.. and got it over with ...Summer | |
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Posted: 12/25/2004 8:33:10 PM | Kewtie - You are older than any of my kids... I think you are sweet...
Summer... I think it was a good choice... though my reasons are probably different than yours ...
~~Dragon Rider~~
Dragon Tears, sad and magical at the same time
Merry Christmas... | |
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Posted: 12/25/2004 8:35:46 PM | Oh, and for the record... I like kids... wouldn't be entirely opposed to starting a new one... I don' t care if a lady has kids, I hope they accept me, would be great if they even liked me... If she is way younger than I, that is fine (within limits) she has one in diapers? Okay, I have done the diaper bit, they are teens, that is okay, done that too... older than that... well fine, we will get together and all go shoot pool or something... I am flexible...
~~Dragon Rider~~
Dragon Tears, sad and magical at the same time
Merry Christmas... | |
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Posted: 12/25/2004 8:37:58 PM | Another note... my 28 year old daughter tried to hook me up with one of her 27 year old friends... didn't work out, but had NOTHING to do with age... or kids (she had two, very sweet and I adored both) ... My daughter was fine with it...
~~Dragon Rider~~
Dragon Tears, sad and magical at the same time
Merry Christmas... | |
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Posted: 12/25/2004 9:54:23 PM | | I meet someone younger than me...as in way younger, I'd still have kids if they wanted... If i meet someone older than me, I'd be content to not have any more...If I met someone my own age, I'm flexible there too...LOL | |
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Posted: 12/25/2004 9:58:34 PM | Hmmm and someone older that would not mind chasing yet one more rugrat round?
ANd just HOW flexible are you :-D
~~Dragon Rider~~
Dragon Tears, sad and magical at the same time
Merry Christmas... | |
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