| Can the Opposite sex really be friends?
Posted: 11/15/2005 9:06:14 AM | Can the opposite sex really be friends?
I think they can cos most of my friends are guys,
they are more fun, play ps2 etc, wouldnt get the girls to play res evil...
But more often or not, one fancys the other, thats why the bond stays there.
What do u think?
Whats ur views? | |
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| Can the Opposite sex really be friends?
Posted: 11/15/2005 9:45:42 AM | all the girls i am friends with i find attractive
i wouldnt mind a relationship with them, but i dont desire it. i'm happy being friends with them and i dont expect it to be more than that. | |
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| Can the Opposite sex really be friends?
Posted: 11/15/2005 10:53:59 AM | | yes, the opposite sex can be friends, my best friend is a guy, we have been friends for 10yrs. i think it is great that u can have a realationship, that is totally platonic. | |
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| Can the Opposite sex really be friends?
Posted: 11/15/2005 12:09:43 PM | I find ya dont get male friends back stabbing,
where as some of my female friends are always wining about someone or something.
The girls tend to **** about other women, you dont really hear guys do that,
so its more relaxing.. | |
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| Can the Opposite sex really be friends?
Posted: 11/15/2005 12:18:36 PM | I see my male friends as brothers and they usually treat me like a sister and that's cool with me.
I think you need to be fairly healthy to have opposite sex friendships work. You need to have healthy attitudes around sexuality issues and good and honest communication before you can really pull it off with minimal complication. I have had great success with opposite sex friendships. | |
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| Can the Opposite sex really be friends?
Posted: 11/15/2005 5:48:52 PM | blastkist....
Just a quick question:
How do they *really* feel about their friendship with you?. Would they want more but are not telling you?. Are they hanging around "just in case"?. Or is it completely 100% not interested "in that way" with you?.
(I have close female friends but they are ex-girlfriends) | |
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| Can the Opposite sex really be friends?
Posted: 11/16/2005 3:17:38 AM | Hi Tony..
I know atleast 2 of them hope i may change my mind one day,
but i speak my mind and dont lead anyone on, and as we have been friends for 15-25 years,
it hasnt happened yet and it never will...they have got to know me as a person
and value my friendship..so i guess theyve accepted it, who knows wot their mind is really hoping or thinking? i know myself that i wouldnt wanna lose their friendship cos i luv them as friends and theyve been my rock when ive needed support. unfortunatelly when u get into relationships the other party sometimes finds it hard to believe.... its called that jealousy thing... but like i said 15-25 years and nothings happened, then that says it all | |
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| Can the Opposite sex really be friends?
Posted: 11/16/2005 6:08:13 AM | Nicemuppet,
Does your 15 year friend hook up with girls you would consider more beautiful than yourself? Does your friend have a high paying job, is he tall(>5'7"), handsome ect..? Just curious. | |
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| Can the Opposite sex really be friends?
Posted: 11/16/2005 6:22:34 AM | | yes i think so too my best friend is aguy and weve been friends since highschool. even though we went our own ways a few times we always met up again eventually. so ya i think its possible to be friends with the opposite sex.i can talk to him about anything.sometimes i tell him stuff that i dont even tell my GFs. he doesnt judge me. we will always be close. | |
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| Can the Opposite sex really be friends?
Posted: 11/16/2005 6:33:44 AM | I have more female friends than male. We act on equal terms ... as friends. Gayle has male friends and they're no threat to me. My lady and I are secure in our relationship, so jealousy doesn't even enter the picture.
Steve | |
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| Can the Opposite sex really be friends?
Posted: 11/16/2005 6:48:06 AM | Yes! Through the years I have found my men friends to be more honest. I could use them as a sounding board and get honest answers .... no holds barred. I have good female friends, but their perceptions are quiet different than a male's.
I think if both are honest and the lines of communication are open the answer is yes. In some respects I tend to understand males more easily than some of my female friends. But I am not into the game playing aspects of relationships.
Depends on the people, perceptions and communication. I have good male friends of 25 plus years. A few I dated way back when but it just wasn't right but we became good friends. | |
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| Can the Opposite sex really be friends?
Posted: 11/16/2005 8:51:42 AM | Heck YEAH!
One of my best friends is a guy... I was the "Best Babe" in his wedding - gave him the ring, etc... His wife is now also one of my dearest friends...
My roommate is a guy... we're best friends... completely platonic...
I have girl friends whom I have known forever and love dearly... and same goes for guy friends...
I'm heading to Vegas on Sunday to attend the wedding of a good guy friend... He moved away about a year ago and we still keep in touch and consider each other friends...
Yes! Yes! Yes!
Guys make AWESOME friends and FANTASTIC roommates! | |
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| Can the Opposite sex really be friends?
Posted: 11/16/2005 8:59:42 AM | | Yes..me gots tons of guy friends. But then...now that I think of it...I chose guys who cannot be potential "boyfriends". Cuz..yeah...they're all either gay, younger or already in a serious relationship. I'm really good at not falling for friends..haha..but I just don't want the friend to be falling for me...and since it hasn't happened yet...WOO HOO...it is possible. | |
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| Can the Opposite sex really be friends?
Posted: 11/16/2005 10:09:20 AM | | Guys are way better friends then girls. See with guys you can just sit around and play video games and whatnot, and chicks either complain, because they are bored, or because , i dont know, chicks always complain. Most of my friends are guys, and i find them to be more easy going and fun. Girls just suck ass. :) Nothing personal, cuz i am a girl, but i have to admit, i like guys better. | |
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| Can the Opposite sex really be friends?
Posted: 11/16/2005 10:43:17 AM | Hey Amsta,
That is just what i say..
girlfriends are great and all that, but u can talk to guys about other stuff and their outlook is different than a womans, and kick a*** on playstation wiv them,, my female friends wont play it and they say exactly what u said..
winge moan blah blah,, I only had one female friend that played it as good as mem but she got married, moved away and went all mumsie,,, | |
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| Can the Opposite sex really be friends?
Posted: 11/16/2005 10:54:34 AM | Fuzbyone!!! no no u have it wrong..
looking at his previous girlfriends and thinking they r better looking than me never crossed my mind, i dont look at things like that, i have my own personality
and my friends love me for me, if its any consulation he has said he would never stop being my friend because of another woman, which shows he values my friendship to, which is just how it should be and my philosophy to,
On the other hand i dont always see their girlfriends cos its like i said in a previous,
their partners get jealous and imotional cos they dont understand that opposites can be friends, Lets face it, if i did get jealous of their girlfriends and compare, Id be going out with them instead cos it would show i had more feelings than i admitted, which isnt the case, i look at male friends as i do women and want the best for them. | |
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| Can the Opposite sex really be friends?
Posted: 11/16/2005 1:26:58 PM | | I really am amazed you girls still think guys can be just friends with girls. Guy's are friends with you for a reason........THEY LIKE YOU. I am friendly with a girls but none of them are my friends. At one point or another one of the two parties is interested in the other. The only reason any opposite sex people stay "friends" is because the timing is off. | |
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Posted: 11/16/2005 1:34:51 PM | One thing I just thought of..................My friends and I complain about girls who have too many guy friends. So just some advice, too many guy friends can be a turn off to men. Before anyone starts saying "men like that are insecure". Get into a relationship with a guy who knew you had alot of guy friends before you met him. Then see how he reacts on a friday night when your cell phone is blown up all dudes. Men really don't want you to be one of the guy's all the time. We like girls for a reason, THEY ARE GIRLS!
No Im not bitter or anything Im just trying to save you all alot of pain. | |
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| Can the Opposite sex really be friends?
Posted: 11/16/2005 6:53:36 PM | I really have no choice. I'm a cook..so all my coworkers are guys...and it's just easier to be friends with your coworkers.
So...really....it's a turn off?? Hmmm...don't know about that. But then again..i can see that. I mean if a guy has a lot of girl friends would it bother girls?? Or would they just assume the guy is gay?? | |
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| Can the Opposite sex really be friends?
Posted: 11/16/2005 7:03:40 PM | I think so!! I have some awesome guy friends...has been problematic for some guys I have dated because they tend to have that "they really want a piece of azz" mentality. Dunno why it is so hard for some to accept that is not true!
Not sure if it can work out if you were once lovers or not...but yes...guys and girls CAN be just friends! | |
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| Can the Opposite sex really be friends?
Posted: 11/16/2005 7:16:48 PM | | Well If anyone could give me a point of view I'd appreciate it. My ex was staying with me until a week ago I love him but relize all I can Really hope for is friendship. Is it a good idea to try to be friends with an ex when you still have feelings for them . Will it work ? | |
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| Can the Opposite sex really be friends?
Posted: 11/17/2005 9:56:30 AM | | ^^ I don't think so in most typical situations, Gibson! I know my guy and I always say we will remain civil and friendLY...but to try and retain our true friendship, no way! Even though we both wish the other nothing but happiness, neither of is can bare hearing about or seeing that happiness with another person! And while the friendship is the most sacred part of our relationship...it just cannot be. *sigh* I guess what it comes down to...if either of us ever needed something or needed the other's support...we would be there...but we sure are not going to be hanging out with one another. | |
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