| is this bein a Whore? [CLOSED For Moderator Review]
Posted: 11/15/2005 3:53:46 PM | ok...herees one for ya...the X and i split up about 11 months ago!...i lost the kids in court...because he had a job..and lived in the family home...now im workin ,he's not...he still has the kids ..livin in MY home with the new Girlfriend..who is havin his Twins...and im the one who they call a whore...!...i have met someone and himand i just friend right now..will anything else happen between u , i'm not sure yet!...but because i go out to the bar with him twice in the last 3 monthsim the whore..and a bad mother,...i see my kids every day im not workin..and ever second weekend...now does that make me a whore!....???
im lost in the madnes of a small town that lik to talk ! | |
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Posted: 11/15/2005 3:55:27 PM | | no your not a whore , But I really think you have more important things to worry about than people calling you a whore . | |
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Posted: 11/15/2005 3:58:33 PM | | always hire an attorney. i even have my attorney take care of the littlest things. | |
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Posted: 11/15/2005 3:59:29 PM | | Well, hopefully your name out here is just a joke, right? When i was raising my daughter, going out and drinking was the last thing i wanted to do. Since you dont have custody of your kids anyway, i dont see what harm going out a couple of nites a week would do-unless, of course, you have a drinking problem and/or are trying to get custody of them. If that is true, maybe you should really take a look at your situation and see what you have to offer your kids, and take care of yourself first, ie, eating right, limit drinking, maybe continued education, etc. | |
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Posted: 11/15/2005 4:00:59 PM | ya your far from a whore
and dont worry about what other people think / say. Its your life not thirs.
a whore is some one who has sex with mutiple people during the day with out even knowing who they are.
I wish i was a whore!  | |
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Posted: 11/15/2005 4:01:01 PM | | You do not need to validate yourself or your dating behavior to your ex-husband. Ask him to at least be polite,and cordial in the future when he speaks to you. Document any cases in which he is rude or calls you names, especially if he does it in front of the children. If you ever go back to court you can use this evidence of his poor parenting skills | |
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Posted: 11/15/2005 4:01:04 PM | no my dear your not a whore and he just says that because you are getting on with your life and it upsets him. he can't stand the fact that you have someone else in your life. it's a man thing. that's one nice thing about little towns, they know the whole story. so you don't have to worry about anything. the town knows your no whore. they probably know he's an a$$hole for saying that though. hope everything works out with your new bf. take care and enjoy your life. don't let him steal it from you. | |
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Posted: 11/15/2005 4:03:59 PM | girl...you can't worry about what others say about you........You need to take that energy and focus it on something more positive....like your children, and getting to a place where you can possible get them back! Be happy with you you are honey....I'm sure who you are is more than just an amazing person, but mother as well!!!!! Hang in there!
Kim
P.S.....Don't forget to smile!!!! :))))))))))))))))))))) | |
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Posted: 11/15/2005 4:18:21 PM | I am thinking that there has to be lots more to this story. Why did you move out instead of him? I would think that if he was doing something he shouldn't be doing, then he should have been the one to leave. It is odd to me that you were the one to leave and on top of that leaving the kids with him? That is the part of the story that doesn't make sense to me. Most women would make the guy leave and she wouldn't leave the kids with the guy .............unless the woman was the one that was doing something wrong. If that is the case then the story makes more sense. If you were doing something that you shouldn't have been doing then I could understand you leaving and leaving the kids.
Concerning "is this being a Whore". Who is calling you a whore? The term is usually meant to mean that a woman is having sexual relations with a bunch of men (and also I think there wouldn't be any money involved). I don't think the actual number of men having sex with a woman is enumerable to make the determination relative to the true base meaning of the word.
Simply put: It sounds like just "name calling" to me, so just try and forget about it! This too shall pass. | |
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Posted: 11/15/2005 4:33:24 PM | | yes seems like a bunch of games with the name calling and hell I would care less , The kids part yes I agree with you hell even if I was the one doing wrong I would of still took my girls with me . But thats just me everyone has there reasons i guess | |
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Posted: 11/16/2005 8:50:45 AM | ur not awhore, just because ur a mother doesnt mean ur not allowed 2 have some fun once in a while.dont worry about what ppl say, uknow who u are,so screw everyone else | |
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Posted: 11/16/2005 8:55:42 AM | | As long as you're being the mother to those kids that they need, what you do on your own time is your business!This is one of the reasons I'm glad I don't live in a small town. If people would put more effort into fixing their own problems instead of gossiping about others, the world would be so much of a better place! | |
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Posted: 11/16/2005 8:57:55 AM | | If he's spreading rumors that you're a whore just spread some rumors about him having crabs and a small dingaling...man i love that word...dingaling | |
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| is this bein a Whore?
Posted: 11/16/2005 9:02:14 AM | While I do appreicate a good whore...
You don't seem to be one. He just sounds like a jackass. | |
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Posted: 11/16/2005 9:07:55 AM | NOOOOOOO! Angel your not...why cause you set it stright with him.and your friends! Why should you stay at home and deal with the bullcrap thoughts that run in your head.as long as you don't lead him on and make him think you LOVE! him then no harm done! as for ppl calling you names just keep your head up as long as you feel good about yourself then thats all that madders.... as for being a mother i'm proud of you seeing your kids don't let anyone bring your hopes and heart down...and if they keep calling you the names tell them to let god judge you... | |
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Posted: 11/16/2005 12:07:55 PM | | When i lift the home i took the kids with me...i'd never leave them with him because he was never there for them in the last 10 years...y would i have left the with him now....it all work down to who had teh money...him mommy and daddy paid for a top $ lawyer...and becasue i dont nor my family dont have alot of money ...i got teh shot end of the stick....and as for me leavein the home with my kids he didnt want them to begin with...he wanted to be FREE to com and go as he pleased...wihth the NEW gf... | |
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Posted: 7/14/2007 9:00:40 AM | I think there is a lot more to the story woman do not give up kids my wife kicked
me out, she did not have a job she had a boyfriend wish i was the last to know about
she had no job, when i was at work she put a restraining on me so i could not go home
could not even see the kids, she filed for devorce i lost my house and had a hard time
seeing the kids, cause of the lies she told, so i think there is more to the story. anyway
it all works out in the end it was 17 years ago and i see my girls now and they know
the truth. | |
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Posted: 7/14/2007 10:10:50 AM | | I`m sure there`s more to the story about you losing the kids. | |
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Posted: 7/14/2007 10:21:12 AM | ..live your life being concerned about what others think or say about you.
Go out of your way to kill them with kindness. By continuing to bash you, he will only create more ill will directed at himself.
Whenever there's a split, friends get thrown into the mix of tangible property as does the children, house, car, etc. Those that remain friends are the only real ones, as for the others, they probably never were.
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Posted: 7/14/2007 10:53:53 AM | | People are always throwing around the word "whore," when they mean "slut." A whore takes cash. So unless you accept money for sex, you are not a whore. | |
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Posted: 7/14/2007 11:17:45 AM | Naw, that just makes you hurt and trying to cope.
Don't date till you're healed up and ready (and want a relationship) and stay the hell away from the ex in the mean time. Otherwise you're going to be reminded all the time and that's gonna slow the ol' healing down in a huge way. No contact him totally outside the kids. Consider moving for a fresh start.
Stop worrying about him and and worry about you. | |
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Posted: 7/14/2007 11:41:12 AM | I got custody of my kids from my ex and I never even speak about her to others. But strangely enough other people (even people that do not know her - but they heard she doesn't have custody of her kids) call her names and speak of her in a negative light. The derogatory term you mentioned is constantly used among other non flattering words. I always thought that was odd but I kinda figured it out. So here is my two cent...society kinda frowns on a woman that doesn't get the kids. Although not true, the woman always "seems" to get the kids...and contrary to popular belief...the Courts want the mother to get the kids. I actually had a lawyer tell me once that only a mother can "get" custody and father has to "win" custody (have to have been there to understand that  Anywho, so when a mother doesn't have the kids I think a lot of people automatically assume "wow, she must have been a horrible mother and/or person to not have custody of her kids". So your ex may be saying some terrible things but I think it is more or less people just forming an opinion from the outside looking in. Definitely try to let it roll off your back. I know it seems hard.....as no one likes to be put down. Just do what you can as a parent, put the past behind you, and enjoy your life. Best of luck 
BTW...number one rule of divorce...never leave the marital home with or without the kids UNLESS it was a dangerous situation and you can prove it in Court. | |
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