| Why do we fall in LOVE?
Posted: 12/18/2004 8:55:09 AM | | Why??? To feel alive, get carried away, take the soul to the next level:))) That' s what it' s all about... | |
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| Why do we fall in LOVE?
Posted: 12/18/2004 9:07:05 AM | Mojo
I understand exactly what you mean. It is our purpose to love and be loved in life. The only other emotion that makes you feel alive is fear. That is why most people confuse lust with love..it's still a form of love. I agree with the Beatles...always have on that song. | |
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| Why do we fall in LOVE?
Posted: 12/18/2004 9:26:52 AM | I think "love" is just the need we have for others in our lives. I believe afew other creatures besides humans are like this. They'll die without their mates even; in some species.
Mojo: I think your analysis of the variety of "reasons" we have for loving someone is dead on. We are all different and have very diverse motives for what is really a biological issue in humans.
Newly: I even think lust is one of those motives. I think lust is a form of love... not as "good" or secure a type of love as one could want; but a form of love nonetheless and actually a much better one than some of the sick relationships I've seen where someone just wants another person around to validate their opinion of themselves and is totally indifferent to the needs of that person. | |
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| Why do we fall in LOVE?
Posted: 12/18/2004 9:48:57 AM | | Dragonn: you're one very perceptive lady. That was a keen observation. Well written! | |
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| Why do we fall in LOVE?
Posted: 12/18/2004 10:05:36 AM | well now the beatles did sing all you need is love...but then they broke up LOL!.
I think love is feeling the part of you that is empty and viod is getting filled making you whole. that certin something your laking in your life the other offers. you seek to fill your life and make it whole and this person seems to fit that peice of the puzzle, to many times we look to the physical and not the inner person.. that the physical over rides what the heart is truly warring us of.. whe chase it,get hurt, then live another day looking for the next great fit. | |
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| Why do we fall in LOVE?
Posted: 12/18/2004 11:54:58 AM | | I was always told by my father you dont fall in love you fall in a ditch you grow in love | |
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| Why do we fall in LOVE?
Posted: 12/18/2004 12:31:48 PM | Wise Dad, Carney. I have more of an altruistic view of love than a sociobiological one. I think that the purpose of the highest forms of love is for giving the best part of ourselves away. That's part of what I would define as the difference between "real" love and simple lust or infatuation. In the former, I'm more concerned with what I can do for the beloved. In the latter, I'm more concerned with what he does for me - how he makes me feel. I think the Greeks had a better way of putting it. In English, we translate their three words - agapao, phileo, and eros - all with one word... love. But for them, it was much more. There was selfless love, friendship love, and erotic love. In relationship with my beloved, I want the combination of all three. It's a rare thing, but the best things are always rare. So did I answer the question? Yeah, I think so. We love to give of ourselves, and by doing so, to enrich the life of the beloved, which ultimately enriches our own life as well. Besides, it feels d*mn good, doesn't it? LOL!  | |
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| Why do we fall in LOVE?
Posted: 12/18/2004 3:33:37 PM | | MO, man, I have been trimmin trees, and bushes this afternoon, and can't think straight to even answer your Subject. I guess tryin to explain Love is a many faceted thing, and we all go through different experiences and needs. I gotta be careful here cause the women were getting frisky with me last night. I better let the waters settle down. I'm gettin too old for this stuff. I fell out of a tree, but broke a limb on my fall. That tree will never be the same. I am good at breakin things, haha. Even a tree don't mess with me. | |
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Joined: 1/23/2005
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| Why do we fall in LOVE?
Posted: 2/21/2005 7:17:59 PM | | Im trying to trip but there's nothing to trip on so i can fall...lol | |
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chels2
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Joined: 1/23/2005
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| Why do we fall in LOVE?
Posted: 2/21/2005 7:22:45 PM | I forget what love is, lately hurt is all I feel,
I remember a time when the love I had would make my day fly by, i would day dream, just longing to be with her,,
I guess those days have gone with her, and they have never fully returned,,
I want to love again. I need to love again,
so why do we, guess to have that person to share and make happy memories with together | |
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| Why do we fall in LOVE?
Posted: 2/21/2005 7:23:05 PM | Hormones. Pheromones. Biological clock. Urge to merge. Tax breaks.
(What, you want more reasons?)
Seriously though, a lot of it is the need for validation as a human being. We need to know we matter to someone; that when we die, someone will care enough to cry... | |
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| Why do we fall in LOVE?
Posted: 2/21/2005 7:30:06 PM | I resemble that "urge to merge" part, but that's either for the sex or the taxes or future generations. I think it's to have a best friend, someone we can count on, someone who can count on us. someone we like having sex with. Someone we can respect. someone who can teach us new and wise things.
I don't seem to have any control over it. It either happens or not. I cannot make it happen. I'm out of control right now!. | |
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| Why do we fall in LOVE?
Posted: 2/21/2005 7:32:30 PM |
Urge to merge.
Excellent! Never heard that one before.
After that, it is a world of hurt and regret.
Yes! That's the part I like best. Or at least that's the part I'm most comfortable with. | |
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| Why do we fall in LOVE?
Posted: 12/9/2006 5:00:26 PM | | I think it's a damn good idea to be thankful that we can and don't question it! | |
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| Why do we fall in LOVE?
Posted: 12/9/2006 5:03:35 PM |
I forget what love is, lately hurt is all I feel
At times those 2 emotions seem to be hand in hand. I thought I had found my love b ut it turned out it was all games to keep me on the hook till she found someone else. Some days I feel love is a cruel emotion but then I think back to when I was loved and remember that it is the best feeling in the world. Just hang in there and it will happen. When you least expect it love will find you. | |
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| Why do we fall in LOVE?
Posted: 12/9/2006 6:48:41 PM | ["Why??? To feel alive, get carried away, take the soul to the next level:))) That' s what it' s all about...']
Love is our true nature, plain and simple. Does it take our soul to the next level? Not sure... I do know it takes us as humans to the next level. All creation that is beautiful is born from Love. We feel more alive, how come? i think its because we are living in harmony with our true nature. Fear is part of our true nature, but we have the ability to have fear. It limits how much Love we can express and recieve, limiting our lives.
Everyone seems to love in a different way, and sometimes that is based on our fears, "shades of love" (hmmm a song title). We are limited in our ability to Love only by the amount we fear. When we love ourselves enough to open up and give and recieve love to the best of our ability our lives are transformed. When we feel that love is too much then we must begin the process of creating more space in our hearts and minds to allow the flow to grow, a painful process of walking through the fears we have. When we have a Loving partner who understands us and the experiences we have that have formed our ability to Love and they accept us just the way we are... we have the sacred ground to walk on together. Some times we walk together through that fear, and sometimes we can only witness our partners suffering as they walk it alone, in those times we can only hold our hand out to them, and wait for the storm to pass.
Hold out that hand for someone, create the sacred space for someone to be part of your heart, Live Life to the fullest and have no regrets. An open heart can only be accepted by another's heart that resonates with yours. If you close your heart because something didn't work out, you only punish yourself for nothing because Your true nature and harmony within yourself is Your Love and its expression.
Some hearts will resonate together for a life time *smiles* and some will resonate for the time needed. "Fear not Love for if you do you fear yourself, You are Love"
You Are Loved,
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| Why do we fall in LOVE?
Posted: 12/9/2006 7:42:58 PM | why as in what is the cause?
why as in what is the purpose?
the purpose is to increase survival!!! WOOT
the cause? Good sex and talking without speaking. | |
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| Why do we fall in LOVE?
Posted: 12/9/2006 8:58:49 PM | I heard that only fools fall in love. I've never been in love and don't plan on it EVER!!!!!! | |
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| Why do we fall in LOVE?
Posted: 12/9/2006 9:56:07 PM | Why? Usually I think it's not a conscious choice. Anyone who sits there with a list and weighs and measures things like an accountant will surely not fall in love until someone sweeps in like a hurricane and knocks them off their chair. It's not about being "sensible" -- nor is happiness. It's not about quantifiable tangible things; it's about emotion.
Without emotion we may as well be robots, numb to all experience. People in love glow with happiness, they can't stop smiling, it affects everyone around them and everything they do, positively. Falling in love is easy enough, you just have to value all the soaring and not look down. If you hit the ground hard it's still going to be worth it, because there is no emotion so beautiful to experience than love.
Don't weigh everything up and hold back... you are protecting yourself not only against potential hurt but from knowing the greatest joy. | |
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| Why do we fall in LOVE?
Posted: 12/9/2006 10:41:32 PM |
That' s what it' s all about...
it's just a convenient way for people to excusee lust.
love you kids nd the hugs they offer for no other reason than they feel like it. love your family, your friends. love your goldfish, your dog or your cat. love your car, the game of chess with your neighbour, the colour of your house. love your house and the furniture you lounge on. love the music that makes your feet move and your heart skip a beat. love ts eliot for the ladies and their spoons. love shakespeare for iago, falstaff and hamlet. love that joni mitchell pointed out tath we are stardust and golden. blake for his speck of sand and einstein for mystifying us by pointing out that matter is but energy. i've rediscovered a love for fresh grapes.
these things will last and they will change.
love between men and women? neh. it lasts as long as the hormones stay in the system.
love yourself and have fun. that'll last a lifetime. | |
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