| oh my god.....i'm over him
Posted: 11/16/2005 1:42:34 PM | is it possible to have a sort of light bulb moment when you get over an ex? i had been having a hard time getting over a 4 year relationship.
i'm involved with someone now and i know it was stressful for him. i'd get that faraway look, cry for nothing.......you know the drill
but lately i have been getting stronger and today, i don't know, i just feel really really over him.
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| oh my god.....i'm over him
Posted: 11/16/2005 1:53:43 PM | | Yup! sure can, I was talking to my ex when it happened, she said something, can't remember what wasn't important, and I remember thinking, Wow! I'm really over you. Was a great feeling, I think she knew too, seemed to piss her off. | |
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| oh my god.....i'm over him
Posted: 11/16/2005 2:00:48 PM | he deserves it. god he has been fantastic. he's let me know that he hates how i still felt about my ex, but that i was worth it.
i owe him big!!
i can't imagine being so lucky to have found someone like that | |
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| oh my god.....i'm over him
Posted: 1/11/2006 11:37:42 PM | Haha
Yes I know EXACTLY what u mean mine defining moment happened just last week - and you are right its literally like someone turning on a light and you thinking what was i thinking.
Id hanged onto mine for such a long time - put up with many mixed messages and being strung along then simply something really small happened and I was NO Im really over you and wont be accepting this anymore.
Its a great feeling and such a sense of freedom to know you are now totally free to explore the future not hope for the past - ENJOY!!  | |
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| oh my god.....i'm over him
Posted: 1/11/2006 11:44:15 PM | | yeah its more then possible im that way with every ex. the minute they become my ex's i never speak with em again and i just say oh well. unless it was a long relationship then its a little harder but almost teh same. | |
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| oh my god.....i'm over him
Posted: 1/12/2006 12:40:15 AM | | I surely hope so...I am dealing with that now..a fairly new break up after 3 years and he is in Iraq and doesn't want to deal with our relationship right now.."Move on he says"...right i am trying but it's not easy...I'm glad your light switched on..looking for mine. | |
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| oh my god.....i'm over him
Posted: 1/12/2006 6:17:15 AM | | Aaaaahhhhh, it's such a freeing, uplifting moment--Enjoy it! And good luck with the new great guy! | |
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| oh my god.....i'm over him
Posted: 1/12/2006 6:30:28 AM | | How long has it been since you ended it? I'll be curious if you "relapse". I have moments when I think I'm over my ex, and then I relapse again. I have had too many experiences with driving gfs away because I'm still mourning the last one. This time, I want to be sure I'm over the past before I get involved again, but it's been months, years, and still going. | |
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Ainsel
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Joined: 2/20/2005
Msg: 18 | |
| oh my god.....i'm over him
Posted: 1/12/2006 6:52:14 AM | How well I know that lightbulb moment.
To Linguatic: if you're still having trouble try sitting down and making up a written list of all the things that you found lacking in the past relationship. Sometimes taking a really hard look at written right in front of you in black and white will show you that what you mourn isn't what you really had, but what you thought you should of had. | |
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| oh my god.....i'm over him
Posted: 1/12/2006 7:36:51 AM | It takes an incredible amount of work and soul searching, but finally the X is off your radar!
Well done! | |
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| oh my god.....i'm over him
Posted: 1/12/2006 7:44:08 AM |
that what you mourn isn't what you really had, but what you thought you should of had.
Huh. *that* is so true... Thanks. | |
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| oh my god.....i'm over him
Posted: 1/12/2006 8:21:33 AM | I always just click my heels together and say this three times
No regret,
no more tears goodbye !
don't want you back,
we'll only cry.
again,
and have to say goodbye again.
It works !!! | |
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Tinkle
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Joined: 12/14/2005
Msg: 22 | |
| oh my god.....i'm over him
Posted: 1/12/2006 8:33:53 AM | | Yes, it happens. Will it last a lifetime? Dunno. Dreaming about the person usually makes it really hard for me, and sometimes I crash back down for awhile. | |
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| oh my god.....i'm over him
Posted: 1/12/2006 8:56:28 AM | It's allowed, Tinkle. You're very human. We mourn our loss and what we perceived it should have been.
There are no mistakes...only lessons to be learned. | |
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| oh my god.....i'm over him
Posted: 1/12/2006 9:03:56 AM | it's been a little over a year now.
having the occasional "moment" happens but i no longer daydream about what if... | |
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| oh my god.....i'm over him
Posted: 8/13/2009 9:17:59 PM | | Yes, I seem to be extremly un-fazed my most guys and even if I like him I do get over him. It kinda scares me because I don't think I will ever love a guy. | |
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