| when should we give up hope?
Posted: 11/16/2005 7:45:22 PM | When is enough enough? after how many heartbreaks can you really say "I'm done"?
can a person really be happy spending life alone? and how do you learn to trust and belive aging afterwrads? | |
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| when should we give up hope?
Posted: 11/16/2005 7:51:55 PM | | Never, ever quit! Life is a precious gift, it must be enjoyed to the fullest. You're only 22, when I was 22 I must have had my heart broken a half a dozen times and man did it suck each and every time. Treat yourself well, and if you have a partner who doesn't treat you well, that's their loss, not yours. NEVER GIVE UP. | |
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| when should we give up hope?
Posted: 11/16/2005 7:56:45 PM | Oh, well, yes you can be happy alone. Well, not alone but, unattatched. I am still single by choice. And you learn to believe ONLY what sounds like its true. Thats the only answer.
There are no limits to how many times you can love, or how many people. It is different every time, and every time, you learn new things. I am single by choice because, I want next time to be the last. I wont settle | |
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| when should we give up hope?
Posted: 11/16/2005 8:00:13 PM | You could be 22 (which you are)... or 72... Hope & love are very precious!... and why would you ever give up? Once you meet the right person your history of heartbreaks will only be a fleeting thought. Learning to trust and believe after a heartbreak takes time... sometimes it feels like way too much time. Learning to spend time on your own is the best thing so you can get comfortable with who you are and what you need. However there does come a time when you are ready again to meet the 'right' person. It doesn't take forever... and it doesn't take a lifetime of being alone.
All the best to you! I guess enough is never enough till it's enough with the right person!
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| when should we give up hope?
Posted: 11/16/2005 8:06:11 PM | | yup, quitting is weak, never ever quit. I believe people are placed in our lives for a reason, and I've found I learn more valuable lessons from the people who end up hurting or disappointing me, I then use what I've learned to my benefit with the friends/people in my life who are worthwhile. You're way too young and it's way to early in your life to even consider quitting, be patient, be strong, be yourself, and whoever doesn't like that is not worth your time period, end of story. :) | |
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| when should we give up hope?
Posted: 11/16/2005 8:22:15 PM | | Im a firm beleiver in if you can't be happy alone...why should you expect to be happy with someone? First take some "off time" from the dating scene...collect yourself..explore, find out what you want to do. When you are truly happy being alone.... that's when you will be at a point in your life when you can truly share yourself with someone. Don't give up....just don't put so much pressure on it. And don't expect someone else to "complete you" when you haven't even "completed yourself". | |
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| when should we give up hope?
Posted: 11/16/2005 8:48:45 PM | Aw...I am not sure what to say...as I am not all that well versed in such a topic. I am sorry for the pain that you are obviously feeling. Here is my 2 cents (cdn = $1.00 US) worth
All that I know, from my humble past, is that you have to be completely happy with who it is that you are, what it is that you believe in and truly happy with yourself before you could ever, ever be happy with another. That fact sucks, for sure...but it is true.
Having your heart broken sucks, for sure...but try to look at it as a lesson (albiet one that's forced down your throat) and learn or atleast understand it. You are not going to be alone forever, people come and go...and that in itself is kinda bitter sweet...no? Life is an open highway where you should be able to say that you live your life, your way. Who knows, you may have lots of crazy, passionate loves that last a few years, or one that lasts a lifetime. All in all, I think that it is better to seize what you feel, when you feel it.
Saying that you "are done", is when you are laid to rest....keep an open heart, a clear head and your wits about you.
Maybe you'll marry, maybe you won't. Maybe you'll have children, maybe you won't. Maybe you'll divorce at 40, maybe you'll dance the funky chicken on your 75th wedding anniversary.
Whatever you do, don't congratulate yourself too much, or berate yourself either. Your choices are half chance. So are everybody else's. Live what life gives you to the fullest..hair striaght back and enjoying the ride...the time to give up is when the clock runs out. | |
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| when should we give up hope?
Posted: 11/16/2005 9:02:18 PM | | Awww i can help you....never ever give up..theres to much ppl hurting and if you give up its just like saying i might as well cry alone and never smile...theres alot of love out there a lot of hope it's just if you rush in and grab the first heart it might be a spoiled one love is time you can't fall in love ASAP...cause you don't know that person in a day it takes time you need to sit back and look at your heart is it ready..i mean really ready to try to love again.if you feel you need to go out and love right away it might be a badd thing how many say i love you right away then you end up waving buhbye to your EX..you see your heart needs to set the pace in what feels right 4 you..99% of guyz and girls think jumping into bed is how you keep that someone...but think of it as this way when you and your mate get to gether is it just a bed thing or friendship...listen to what i'm trying to say you Can't be happy just with sex you need to build a friendship as well and what better way to do that by saying hello take a walk and talk..learn more about thim/her learn what there real needs are...sure right now you feel its to long but maybe thats cause you really never felt the real friendship in the person you met..maybe cause you where hurt your thinking i don't just need a sex parter i need someone to wipe my tears when i'm sadd i need a friend to make me smile when life has my life in a down low....all mates need a friend cause whos going to be there when your the one hurting not a sex buddy there just a so called friend..start by saying HI i just want to talk and get to know you....if they say that sounds like fun then your rolling on happy thoughts for as long as it takes....i'll say its up to you and your heart its up to you and how you look at yourself.....be real to yourself and the world changes to your pace putting yourself down takes a long time to fine a mate....cause if you don't respect yourself how will the person your meeting respect you the way you want to be..just be real to yourself... | |
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| when should we give up hope?
Posted: 11/16/2005 11:23:13 PM | Life is about living, laughing, loving. Sometimes life throws some nasty bumps and wicked curves into the mix. Well, nobody said it was fair, nor, are there ever any guarantees.
So, you should never.... ever give up hope. Life will be filled with joy and pain. This is what makes each one of our lives special, our own life stories have to have meanings and the joy and pain will drive you to the next stage in your adventure.
I would have to say in my book, if you give up hope you are dying or will probably be dead and well on your way to the next stage! Is that what you want? Nahhh!! Probably not.
                    
PS: If I feel all the above in the space of 5 minutes, I probably need to adjust my medication level. | |
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| when should we give up hope?
Posted: 11/17/2005 10:07:01 AM | | Don't give up. It is discouraging at times, and sometimes you need some time out to just be yourself. You'll be ready again before you know it! | |
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| when should we give up hope?
Posted: 11/17/2005 10:22:29 AM | I don't beleive that there is a such thing as giving up hope because as long as you wake up every morning ther is a new experience waiting for u fromthe time u wake up until the dream u have when u go to sleep. I've had many situations where I felt like there was nothing else I could do and when you get to that point you don't give up you just sit and relax and peep otu the scene. Cazuse when you do that you see a whole lot of things you didn't realize when you were just so into it. If things are not what you want them to be thats when you walk away not give up. DUST YOURSELF OFF AND TRY AGAIN | |
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| when should we give up hope?
Posted: 11/17/2005 10:29:23 AM | | You never give up hope. I lost someone I loved very much recently because her life was taken. I was ready to throw in the towel completely but then I saw something....My 9 yr old son sent me a video message telling me he misses me and loves me. That right there was enough for me to hold on. I am on the mend looking to eventually start again...A measure of a mans worth is how well he deals with a broken heart... | |
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| when should we give up hope?
Posted: 11/17/2005 3:49:49 PM | | Personally i do not think quiting is weak at all....I think going from relationship to relationship to relationship is not only weak but a waste of time...And most of the time it is a waste of money...I gave up at 30..And no regrets...I love my house, job, and most important my mental health/pride....I am not like 99% of you that have to go from relationship tp relationship to learn..I know right from wrong..Sorry i do not depend on women for that..I am too much of a man for that...And going by the divorce rate i am not missing nothing..At this time in florida it is 72%.NOW THAT IS STAGGERING!!!NO THANK YOU!.. I WILL KEEP MY HOUSE!!!! | |
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| when should we give up hope?
Posted: 11/17/2005 3:54:49 PM | Never. If you think like that, that could be part of the problem. Be positive. Quitters never win, it isn't just a saying.
Ha!!!, you're 22, don't give me that quit crap, wait until you've been f'd over and had your life savings stolen by someone you loved and who had said "I do" to you. | |
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| when should we give up hope?
Posted: 11/17/2005 4:37:26 PM | | you should never give up hope ...though it seems impossible and you feel being alone will stop the hurt ,,You might miss out on something real and good ..so dont ever give up | |
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| when should we give up hope?
Posted: 11/17/2005 4:50:12 PM | | Not when the %%% are stack up against you...I think not..I think i rather not take that chance...But as far giving up hope on life ..No way..I got to much going for me...Back in my 20s i risk that just to lose it to some screw up woman..Never again..Sorry this man works to hard for his dollar..I do not live off mommy and daddy,Uncle sam...Got to much to lose and nothing to gain | |
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| when should we give up hope?
Posted: 11/17/2005 5:14:18 PM | | Life sucks alone. But, at some point you have to think about yourself and what's best. I tried so hard and often. Was Mr sweet and nice, to the ultimate ***hole. Being an ***hole garanteed me a few years, since I was some challenge. But, I wished for a life long commitment. It will never happen, I know it now. I don't think that's what people in general, want anymore. You'll give it all up when you feel you had enough. We all have our own limits. I reached mine. | |
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| when should we give up hope?
Posted: 11/17/2005 5:20:44 PM | | No, Just most..And if you have not come accross that in your life time,Then that is your life experiences...Personally what i have seen in women are lies and (What is in it for me attitude)Or you be nice and they say maybe(and that is a big maybe)We will be friends..Then about a month later she is shacked up with Mr.Jerk...You know the type.He cannot keep a job because he has 10 dui.s,Abuser,do not have a pot to piss in....Sorry seen it soooooooo many times...Must be some truth behind it with the divorce staggering rate. | |
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| when should we give up hope?
Posted: 11/17/2005 5:22:15 PM | | Well think I'm pretty much at that point, I am done, I'll concentrate on my kids and who knows maybe one day when they are grown and out I may consider trying again. But thats just me | |
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| when should we give up hope?
Posted: 11/17/2005 7:08:40 PM | | Don't give up. I did one time and crawled into a half Gallon of whiskey and alomst didn't crawl out. If I can come back after all of that then i'm doing good... | |
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| when should we give up hope?
Posted: 11/17/2005 10:41:32 PM | | Well I have my kids to keep me from doing anything like that, they are the most important and I need to be here and alert for them so sometimes giving it up is the best thing to do...if I didn't have my kids would be different but as a fulltime father my kids can keep my life just great :) | |
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