| Men/Women Why is it so difficult?
Posted: 11/17/2005 4:40:37 PM | I am asking all men and women why its so difficult to tell someone you've lost interest in them and maybe even just give them a brief reason. I've experienced on here a few times chatting with someone, lots of the same interests and attitude and things seem to be going fine then suddenly they just stop. No comments of hey I'm not interested anymore, no hey sorry going else where nothing at all. And now your set to sit and wonder what you did that caused it which takes away from you desire to even bother cause your afraid of doing WHATEVER it is all over again. I have the utmost respect for all on here and hey if a woman says to me she's not interested anymore I will respect her wishes and leave her alone.
Has anyone else experienced this and what are your reactions when someone does this to you? | |
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| Men/Women Why is it so difficult?
Posted: 11/17/2005 4:47:53 PM | Hey LoveLickin, Don't worry about it. If it doesn't happen It doesn't happen.If all you have done is "chat" on the Internet. Mannerwise a person is not emotionally obliged to let you know if they have found a more perfect match. I understand the courtesy and all that but, hey if you lovelickin you should have no problems with the next match.  | |
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| Men/Women Why is it so difficult?
Posted: 11/17/2005 4:59:52 PM | | No a person is not emotionally obligated to let me know anything but I just know from my point of view its never something I would do. I consider anyone I start chatting with on here a friend first and for most even if its only someone to chat with and maybe its just who I am and have been shafted so many times but I think even a chat friend would atleast let you know they don't wanna chat with you anymore for whatever reason. I've been told by others to just be cold hearted and not worry about and blow it off but unfortunatley for me thats not who I am. Guess I just have to learn not to be so open with those I chat with...OH WELL. | |
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| Men/Women Why is it so difficult?
Posted: 11/17/2005 5:05:56 PM | I think all of us have had this happen one time or another. I remember going out with this guy everything was great. I went on vacation and wrote him a couple of times. He said he wanted to see me and then vanished into thin air. Removed me from his favs list and took himself off mine. Oh well!
I think that part of me really dosen't want to know the whole truth it might hurt my feelings to much. I mean really who wants to hear ummm.. sorry but your just not intelligent enough, cute enough or whatever negativity seems to abound much less really have to say those ugly things. In most ways I am content with the not knowing why they flaked off. Spares me from really going over the edge at times. | |
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| Men/Women Why is it so difficult?
Posted: 11/17/2005 5:14:17 PM | | I'm so sick of people saying that they didn't tell a person they were not interested because they didn't want to hurt their feelings. Sure, telling a person that they don't interest you is a hard thing to do. I've had to do it myself. But it makes me angrier when a person DOESN'T tell me. I'd rather know so I could move on to a new person. If I'm not interested in someone, I don't just vanish and not talk to them. I let them know. But I always make sure to re-assure them that just because things didn't work with me doesn't mean that they won't find someone. And I always wish them luck in their search for romance. And when a guy does something to me like not emailing anymore or something like that, I take it as a sign that #1 I wasn't what he was looking for,and #2 Why would I want to be with someone like that anyways? Who would want to be with someone that didn't tell them how they are feeling? I know personally that if I'm with a guy and I want to leave him, I will tell him to his face. It just saves the person a lot of grief. So instead of sitting wondering where the person went,they can just move on with things. | |
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| Men/Women Why is it so difficult?
Posted: 11/17/2005 6:07:46 PM | | Dude, people are people, and they've probably got a lot of other things going on. Don't even worry about it. That's just the way it is. I give you credit bro for being polite. It's a pain though, when you're like 'damn, I've gotta reply to this person' but you really don't want to but you're trying to be nice. And so a lot of times people probably just go 'why bother' and move on. | |
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