| Why add ppl to favs and not msg them?
Posted: 11/18/2005 7:06:06 PM | Usually once a week or so, I will check to see who has me on their favourites list. What I can't understand is this:
Why do people add others to their favourites list and not make contact?
This has happened a few times to me. Once I notice someone has me added, I give them a couple weeks to make contact, and if I haven't heard anything from them I click remove. I don't do it to be rude, but I really don't want to be on favourites lists if I've not been in communication with someone.
Just wondering other peoples opinions on the matter.
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| Why add ppl to favs and not msg them?
Posted: 11/18/2005 7:23:33 PM | Most of the people who have me on their fav list never once sent me a message, or I them.
I think they do it as a way of saying they like your profile but are too much of a chicken shit to come out and say it....but then again, I'm normally wrong when it comes to such matters. | |
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| Why add ppl to favs and not msg them?
Posted: 11/18/2005 9:44:42 PM | | I have people on my favorites list so I can see what crazy things they have to say on the forums. Doesn't mean I'm afraid to contact them. Its just they are some of my FAVORITES. | |
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| Why add ppl to favs and not msg them?
Posted: 11/19/2005 2:25:51 AM | | Its like buying a dog, but never feeding him. Its just cruel,... cruel I tell ya. Either that, or its just fun to **** with the emotions of the frail... | |
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| Why add ppl to favs and not msg them?
Posted: 11/19/2005 2:58:01 AM | ^my fave deep puddle
i have too many ppl on my fave list and i am keepin ever one of em!!!
i use it like an adress book...its easy to find my faves any day i wanna stalk em.... | |
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| Why add ppl to favs and not msg them?
Posted: 11/19/2005 5:03:26 PM | I agree with you Crossfade...I'd rather be in contact with those who appear in my "Who Loves Me" list. IT IS CRUEL!! There is nothing that special on my profile...it is very straight forward and to the point...unless to some that in itself is unnerving.
Thanks for the replies everyone!
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| Why add ppl to favs and not msg them?
Posted: 11/20/2005 8:19:11 PM | Kiana,
I do the same thing. I regularly remove people that don't contact me. But I've also wondered why I care. So they have me on their favorites list...it's not that I hold the 'priveledge' of having me on their list in such high esteem. I'm not that vein. (I'm sure a lot of my sarcasm makes it sound that way, but I'm truly not). I guess it's maybe meant as a nice gesture to those that I don't remove myself from. I want them to know that they are a little more important than someone who has never bothered to talk to me. They aren't just 1 in 200...
(Sometimes I laugh when I see people who are on 200 favorites list. I always wonder how many of those are accounts that have been ignored for 7 months. Whatever helps their ego boost... ) | |
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| Why add ppl to favs and not msg them?
Posted: 11/20/2005 8:31:48 PM | Many people do this with me also and have ADMITTED that they were nervous to talk to me. Others just like to know that I am easy n close to contact. (or, admittadly, like seeing what I have to say every now n then in the forums)
I do it when I see someone that catches my eye; yet am not in the mood or place in time financially,emotionally ,or otherwise to initiate the dating thing with someone new quite yet. If you are on my list and I have not contacted you, (there are a few), you DID catch my eye. I am just not ready to start any balls rolling at this moment in time. ;)
Now, mind you, if YOU contact someone who has you on their favorites list and THEY do not respond....welll hey.
cheers. | |
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| Why add ppl to favs and not msg them?
Posted: 11/20/2005 9:53:36 PM | Ive added a handful of people to my favorites list and not messaged them.When I do it it means..."Ok ..I saw your profile and think you seem pretty groovy" I leave the next move up to them.If they want to say Hi and become friends thats great:)...if not...their loss   | |
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| Why add ppl to favs and not msg them?
Posted: 11/21/2005 12:48:56 AM | | I only add people to my favorites that I either chat with via email or frequently on the boards. Incase there's something I want to say in private...I don't need to search them ok...just head to my favorites list. | |
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| Why add ppl to favs and not msg them?
Posted: 11/21/2005 10:26:15 AM |
I thought we went over this... thats it... Im adding EVERYONE of you to my fav list!!!
well....he follows through. Can say that for him..lol.
NOw here's my dilema>> Do I keep myself on Crossfades list even though he hasn't contacted me to start looking like a nicer person? ...or do I remove him, because I said that's what I do. Hmmmm.... | |
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| Why add ppl to favs and not msg them?
Posted: 11/21/2005 12:54:40 PM | I really have a hard time understanding why this bothers people. People have actually put me on their list and I figure if they are that desperate.....
They have never contacted me, probably because they noticed the unbalance in my thought process and were afraid it may be contagious through the keyboard. But, hey, I have no problem with that I never even wondered why, unless they were waiting for some kind of money offer. If they are happy being there, I am happy that they are happy, which makes everyone happy. Nothing like happiness to make everyone happy.
So be happy and enjoy the thought that someone thinks you are worthy of being one of their
3,567 favorites.
Have a good life.............. | |
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| Why add ppl to favs and not msg them?
Posted: 11/21/2005 2:14:14 PM | i LOVE this topic! I always wondered too. lol
I put people on my favorites because I'm too busy to message them now, but they look interesting and I don't want to do the whole "search and rescue" thing online at a later date. It's kinda like bookmarking my favorite web sites to read later.
Sometimes I put people there because they are my friend and it's easier to "stalk" them when i need to email them through POF.
and I'm guessing that people put me on their favorites because of my posts in the forums. If i didn't believe that, I would have to figure out why women I don't know at ALL have me as a favorite... lol
I like the idea of realizing these are people that like ya. I may not have a wallet full of photos of everyone I ever met, but I do have a listing of "People that have no idea who I really am, but think i'm kinda the bee's knees". =)
It's all good. =)
blissed
p.s. What REALLY gets me is the ones that i add to my favorites and then they turn around and add me to their list! Do they not know that emailing or IM'ing is free? Or perhaps they are just used to Lavastrife... and think they need to buy more carrots? lol | |
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| Why add ppl to favs and not msg them?
Posted: 11/21/2005 2:34:15 PM | | If I like what people have to say, I put them on my favorates..Or someone to ask information from or alittle hottie...I have many favorates some I never message. | |
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| Why add ppl to favs and not msg them?
Posted: 11/27/2005 8:45:25 PM | I am on about 40...but have only exchanged mail with 20+ of them
I think there is undue concern and interpretation when it comes to favourites list....
different persons have different reasons for adding you..
I do not remove anybody EVER...they either remove themselves or have left the pond....
I dont bother deleting mail either...the system automatically deletes mail older than 30 days.
I add persons for 1 thing only--what they said at the forums that made me laugh or think...
I have a weakness for humorous ladies and some at POF are a riot... lol
So are some of the guys..
I usually send them a short mail before adding them...so they wont wonder why.... | |
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| Why add ppl to favs and not msg them?
Posted: 11/27/2005 10:18:38 PM | I have tried to e-mail some on my favorites list but my e-mail will not go through because of a specific mail setting that they have.
lives within 75 miles
must live in Canada
You know the setting you can put there......anyway, the only way to get their attention is to add them to my favorites list.
If they do e-mail me, then I can REPLY to their e-mail only. I am just as willing to relocate as I am willing to stay here so I do look at profiles that are all over the country. | |
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