| | Pedestals and other places you can fall fromPage 1 of 2 (1, 2) | The post about a dream girl got me thinking about pedestals and how most people are really uncomfortable being on one.
A pedestal is lonely, usually only supports one person. Sure there are those who crave and demand the worship, but honestly, it's not a comfortable place to be.
When I have been placed there, I haven't liked it, because I get the impression that the person wanting me there, doesn't really know me - and doesn't really want to get to know me. They just want to believe I am what fits their fantasy. And when I fail to be that 'fantasy' it has never ended gracefully. Either I have fallen down or the damn pedestal is yanked out from beneath me and offered to the next girl.
Having said that, I have been just as guilty of putting other people on pedestals, and in fact did it just recently. I think he is an amazing person, but am I taking the time to really get to know him? Will I think he is so amazing once the 'flaws' those things which make us human are visible?
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| Pedestals and other places you can fall from
Posted: 11/19/2005 1:34:43 PM | SS~ I think you're talking the statue called "The Kiss". I know it. Erotic to some extent, yet still tasteful. My mother used to make them from porcelain years back...
As for being on a pedestal. What about it is the problem? Being there involves the person looking at you as if you're the center of their universe. The caring, doing everything they do for you, not them. Treating you like you're a princess.
Where things begin to falter is when the person on the pedestal either doesn't accept it in good grace, or begins to let it get to their head. Either response has a negative outcome. No acceptance breeds resentment, and failed attempts to prove your worth to that person, BY that person. Letting it get to their head... self explanitory. Ignorance, conceit, holier-than-thou attitude.
If you're being placed on the pedestal, take half a step down, reach out, and pull that person up with you. Yeah, it can be lonely up there alone, so bring that person with you for the comfort. Things are better when shared in this respect.
Now you're upon higher ground, both of you, so build around at the base, and you've both just raised the ground upon which you stand, effectively raising the bar so to speak. Can't fall too far anymore, since there's no more pedestal.
OK.. that was entirely too deep... I'll just leave this here now. | |
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Posted: 11/27/2005 8:19:21 AM | i am guilty of putting someone on a pedestal..but i have taken the time to get to know them..and stuck it through till something horrible happened...however,the men i put on a pedestal were not worthy of it...and i am refusing to ever do it again..not saying that ppl don't deserve respect..i just have done what i did and didn't even realize what i was doing till i looked it over in retrospect,,for the first time in my life i was briefly placed on a pedestal,,,and then left there...and even expressed my fears about being placed on one...{shrug} such is life.... BTW,,,why do men put women on a pedestal ,then leave them there?
it's a pretty sh*tty feeling. | |
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Posted: 11/27/2005 9:05:11 AM | It's a better perspective if we can keep in mind that all people have good qualities and are fallable.
The problem with being put on a pedestal is that we usually don't notice it's happened, until, like normal people, we attempt to move around and show our other sides.
Or, until the characteristics they go on 'waxing poetic' about don't seem to mesh with how we see ourselves...
Look me in the eye and accept my 'human moments' and my flaws as much as my good qualities... and I will do the same for you... | |
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Posted: 6/27/2006 7:37:34 PM | Pedestals are made for statues made from stone. still objects.Niether men or women are such and niether should be put there.
But they should however be treated as if evryday is the first cuz the last can come any minute of any day. | |
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Posted: 6/27/2006 10:02:51 PM | I only go on pedestals when I have to reach the top shelf! I have never been there nor have I put anyone there! "walk beside me..not in front or behind!!"(well unless we want to check out eachother's @sses! | |
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Posted: 6/28/2006 8:34:48 AM | ever seen the figure of two people intertwined...now that's what I want on my pedestal!
Like Rodin's 'KISS' ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh yessssssssssss Sweet Secret . . . Dream me a dream whydontcha! | |
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Posted: 8/6/2009 3:13:35 PM | My concern about pedestals is who puts people upon them. We are celebrity obsessed culture so stars get far more attention they deserve.
Children sometimes put their parents on pedestals and come to realize that there are parents are only human.
Seeing someone as if they are on a pedestal seems like a choice others make. People fall---like a celebrity on the outs - - - and then they are mocked.
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Posted: 8/6/2009 4:43:41 PM |
Children sometimes put their parents on pedestals
I think the opposite is true as well. Have you ever met someone who has talked non-stop about how great their kids are only to discover that their kids are in fact "regular". | |
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