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| Texas and the Judicial System.....SUX!!!!
Posted: 11/22/2005 2:39:03 PM | Why is it that we men end up with the short end of the stick or end up being bent over and stuck deep enough to gag in the judicial system??? My ex cheated on me (documented proof) twice, she filed for divorce and I'm required by 'state law' to pay 20% of my income to her for child support. Don't get me wrong, I want to take care of my son BUT $730.00 an MONTH!!! is a bit steep. We had NO extravagent(sp) lifestyle or anything like that. His care doesn't come to half this amount in a month. I know what many of you will say: it's the housing, the this and the that........ I AM considering housing and the this and that. On top of this, I must pay half of his medical co-payments, half of his sports and an assortment of other crap too!!!!! The other half will just go into her pocket and be spent on her 'wants.' Why can a woman get away with cheating, file for divorce, take EVERYTHING including the canned goods, rip my heart out by iot's root AND the judicial system plug it to me as well. IT'S NOT FAIR!!!!! There needs to be a men's advocacy group to stand up to the 'good ol' boys' in Austin and get the lawyers of ALL types out of their bank accounts.
I'm so pi$$ed I could scream!!!! She screws me and the system screws me too. What a wonderful life....... After paying all my bills and CS, I'll be lucky to be left with $200-300 a month while she will get an $8700 a year raise!!! She only makes about $3K less than i do per year. | |
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| Texas and the Judicial System.....SUX!!!!
Posted: 11/27/2005 9:25:31 PM | | That's part of the problem......i'm in Insurance Sales and the second half of the month my schedule can be quite crazy. It wouldn't be fair to my son and that's most important to me. If I had a 9-5, I would in a heartbeat......... | |
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Posted: 12/3/2005 5:33:57 PM | | Man I hear what you are saying. I've been everything to and for my two son's, me and her weren't even married. We been broken up for over a year, and as soon as she realizes I don't want to be with her for real, she goes and files child support. Now she's getting $626 a month, $50 of that is to cover the back CS of $6,900 and I was the one taking care of her, even though we were not together, and both kids. IT REALLY AINT FAIR!!!!! My cousin gave me a phone number for a men's rights deal, but I haven't called it yet. But I'm sure it aint quite what we expect for them to take up for the 'good ol' boys.' | |
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Posted: 12/8/2005 2:42:22 PM | My Divorce is uncontested, thankfully, and I have a little lattitude to make sure that the arrangements are fair to both of us. I want to take care of my son, but I know he is better off with his mother and half sister (from the wife's previous marriage).
I dont' know aobut the Austin area, but my brother is going through a terrible divorce with similar details right now and found a local chapter of a men's advocacy group that does just what you are looking for. A little web searching would probably turn up on in your area as well, I would think. I agree that the judicial system is CRAZY in many ways.
Good luck, and hang in there! | |
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| Texas and the Judicial System.....SUX!!!!
Posted: 12/17/2005 8:56:04 AM | The Fort Worth Chapter of Texas Fathers For Equal Rights has a website here, for anyone who might need that kind of support. I am sure they can give contact info for other chapters...
www.tferfw.org | |
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| Texas and the Judicial System.....SUX!!!!
Posted: 12/17/2005 1:31:51 PM | Welcome to being a single father in Texas bro! Just get used to taking it up the ass, grin and bear it, and it will be over when your kids(s) turn 18. Been there, done that, got the t-shirt and the wacked ex. I've only got 8 more years of payments and my kid is paid for. The bottom line is no one in this state gives a shit about fathers because "the system" is a money maker for the state. Fathers have very little rights and no one is going to award you custody of your children unless the mother is trying to put them on a corner to turn a trick, and even then it's a slippery slope because there's this idiotic mentality that mothers for whatever reason are better parents. I hardly think so. I don't have enough hours in the day to share my horror story here, but suffice to say dealing with the state AG probably ranks right up their with prison rape. I dealt with Father's for Equal Rights too, and I have to say they didn't do much to help my situation but they were glad take my $75 membership fee and then continually mail me flyers for their latest greatest donation cause. ANYWAY, people wonder why I don't want any more kids of my own... hmmmm.... I wonder.
Best advice is just hang in there, tough it out, and don't let the ex know if you make any extra money on the side. One day it will all be over. Oh yeah, wrap up your jimmy so you don't wind up in this position again! Good luck! | |
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| Texas and the Judicial System.....SUX!!!!
Posted: 12/18/2005 2:56:01 PM | And don't forget she gets that cash tax free
Just be glad you didn't own a house she would get that also but your name will still be on the mortgage and her name on the deed.
The state mandates that "The children will have just as good if not better standard of living before the parents divorced"
But if your ex get married again and has another income try going back and getting your support payments lowered you will be laughed right out of the courtroom!
This is what you get for trying to do the right thing and take care of your kids
I guess that we are made to suffer because some so called fathers abandoned their kids move to another state and pay no support !
Learn to live with it my brother in the words of Bill Clinton "I feel your pain" | |
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Posted: 12/19/2005 6:13:23 AM |
I guess that we are made to suffer because some so called fathers abandoned their kids move to another state and pay no support !
I don't want anyone to think I'm a hater because I'm most definitely not, but I HATE the generally perceived notion in this state (TX) that it is only fathers who are "deadbeat parents". That's definitely NOT the case! There are a great deal of women who are deadbeat parents too. However, it always seems to be the fathers who get the focus of all this negative attention. It pretty much casts all single fathers in a poor light. I think that is a load of b.s.!
Thanks for letting me rant! | |
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Posted: 12/19/2005 8:44:39 PM | Scottymac
What I was trying to say was that because of those fathers that leave their kids
The father who wants to do the right thing will get screwed I myself just wanted a fair settlement and do right by my kids.
But the reality of it is the way it is setup
The family court will ALWAYS see the women as the victim
Like it or not that the way it is tell me when was the last time you every heard of a women going to jail for not paying support ?
I don't like it but I don't see it changing anytime soon
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Posted: 12/21/2005 8:55:37 AM | | Hey guys--just a little female viewpoint here--I agree with you that dads do get the short end of the deal sometimes--but just remember, it works both ways! I have an ex that just got his child support lowered to $200/month and he can't even pay that!! And for the record, I don't say sh** to him about it or put him down to our son--how he chooses to live is his business, not mine -- as long as it doesn't affect our son--I don't care, he's the one that has to live with himself. Sometimes all you can do is remember that you paid your support and it may suck but at least you didn't join the list of deadbeat dads. | |
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Posted: 12/28/2005 8:43:47 AM | Hate to say it, but the Texas child support system is NOT gender-biased. It is the societal expectations that the mother make schedule adjustments and/or other career/social sacrifices in custodial situations. The Texas child support system and custodial system makes very clear distinctions about the rights AND responsibilities of the managing and possessory conservators in the standard custodial agreement. Changes to this agreement can only be made with compelling evidence presented to a judge. Additionally, the reason for the divorce has no bearing on custody/child support issues - only the child's best interests are taken into consideration during this portion of the divorce proceedings. You yourself have said that your choice of careers makes it impossible to for you to seek custody. This is your choice; if that is truly the only thing keeping you from seeking custody perhaps you should consider seeking a position with a more regular schedule.
In my case, my husband cheated on me, and I accepted custody, although it caused me to change jobs since I traveled frequently. However, my ex simply wasn't capable of accepting custody, and he still begrudges me the 20%, even though I never hold him to most of the "extras" stipulated in the agreement, like 50% of private school tuition (since he insist on her going to private school - public school is fine with me), half of medical expenses, etc.
Every case is different, and it is up to the parties involved to make things work in the best interest of the child. One thing I love about Collin County is that they require divorcing parents to take a class on keeping your kids uppermost in your mind when going through a divorce so you can be aware of the impact divorce has on them.....if everyone thinks about that rather than the impact to their own pocketbook, I wonder how much less ****ing there would be? | |
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Posted: 12/28/2005 1:35:21 PM | "Hate to say it, but the Texas child support system is NOT gender-biased. "
Holy crap, gr8kisser, that's a whopper if I ever heard one. Just because you were slighted is maybe why you feel this way, but it's a known fact you're dead wrong.
I've been in the legal field for over 20 years, been involved in countless divorce cases, plus my own personal experience in my divorce having a 7-year-old daughter and having to fight it out in the legal arena.
All things being equal between the woman and the man, guess who gets the child? The woman.
Even if the father makes more money, the kid would be better off, the mother had been arrested on several occassions, the father has a clean record, guess who gets the kid? You got it. The woman.
I could go on and on and on with this kind of double-standard bullshittttt. Last study I read said a man in Texas has about a 5 percent chance of winning custody, which goes along with my experience in the legal field, and that's usually only if the woman is a crack addict and incapable of raising the child.
This isn't just in Texas. It's across the country. If I ever come into a lot of money, I'm going to sue the State of Texas to bring this issue into the public eye, because quite frankly there are thousands and thousands of fathers in the country who are getting "bent over" because of this "double standard."
Also, I'm not angry at my ex. I divorced her because she had serious emotional issues and got physically abusive when she was pissed. She had been arrested on two occassions, once for assaulting me, and once for assaulting an officer. I'm the son of a cop, no record, made at the time $50,000 a year, while she made minimum wage. Guess who got the kid? Her of course.
One last thing I'd like to throw out there. Child support should be like welfare. When I send my $600 a month to my ex, who's now married to a man who has three daughters, I see her come over to visit with shoes that are fit for a hobo and clothes that are raggedy, it pisses me off.
You women should have a card, where a certain amount of money is allocated for housing, food, school supplies, and their other needs. It should be tracked. Whatever is left over should be put in some kind of IRA or mutual fund to save for the child's education.
This "blank check" approach is pure horse crap. There's no accountability. I'd love to see the women in this country be held to a higher standard than just getting money thrown in their pockets. I want it to go to my child.
Now, you might argue that when a child is a baby, at least in my case, $600 isn't much. I'd agree. But now that my daughter is 7-years-old $600 is overkill. Unless you believe $1,200, which would be my ex's equal share, isn't enough to raise a child. Come on.
I guess I'm ranting about other issues than your statement, but it goes along with this thread. The judicial system across this country is crap, us men get the short end of the stick on a regular basis, and there is most definately a "gender-biased" mindset in the eyes of the law. If I had more resources, I would fight it tooth and nail. Since I don't, like the other poster mentioned, I'll just bend over and take it until she's 18, at which point the State of Texas will get a Xeroxed copy of my ass cheeks to enjoy. | |
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Posted: 12/28/2005 6:26:45 PM | | Perhaps I didn't make myself clear - I don't feel slighted in the least. I simply did what was right to ensure my child was taken care of, and I don't **** about it now. If the roles were reversed and I was paying child support, I wouldn't be ****ing about that either....it's NOT about the money. Again, I stand by my statement that the system is only as good as the participants in it - the system ITSELF is not designed to automatically aware custody and support to the mother. If the participants, and by that I mean the judges, lawyers, and divorcing parties, persist in a gender biased response, then it is every father's duty to demand otherwise. However, to do so on the grounds of financial inequity is not likely to attract as much attention as to call attention to the effects of children being raised without their father's CONTINUAL and CONSTANT influence. Another thing that the Texas system is designed to prevent is the withholding of visitation rights due to unpaid support, however, we all know it happens every day. The key to ensuring your child's ongoing emotional health is to put your differences with your ex-spouse aside and to convince them to do the same, no matter how difficult it is, and to put your child first. | |
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| Texas and the Judicial System.....SUX!!!!
Posted: 1/2/2006 7:23:00 PM | TexCo
I couldn't agree more!!!!! The system in general IS biased and I LIKE your idea of a spending account. Even though this has no bearing it still makes me madder than hell: my ex is dating a doctor of some sorts and they seem to be getting pretty serious. He makes one helluva lot more than I do but I'll still take it in the shorts until my son is 18.
Gr8kisser
Please forgive me but you sound like one of these jilted and scorned women who think that everything a man gets is fair and just. The system IS set up in favor of the woman. My Psychiatrist, whom I see for periodic sessions to keep me sane, has told me MANY times that he is amazed at the couples he has counseled over the years and the woman gets custody AND a shitload of C.S. to boot. In interviewing multiple lawyers, the same theme ran true..........it would be impossible in this state for me to get custody and/or have a FAIR C.S. amount short of her being a crack addict or walking the streets. Right now as it stands, if something were to happen to my truck, I'd have to tak out a loan to get it fixed. I simply DO NOT have money left at the end of the month once I pay my bills , C.S. and living expenses. It's easy to support a system that supports you and please don't give me the line about everyone involved coming to an agreement that will fit for all and keep the child's best interest at heart. I do.......BUT whenever I speak with my ex about my not making it financially, she comes back and basically tells me that she will allow me to pay less if I would agree to her moving to another city about 5 hours from me and agree to lesser amounts of visitation. Becauseof the way the system is set up, I consulted other lawyers and they've said that she is in the driver's seat ad can demand such a thing. So, in light of this, does the system REALLY care about the best interest of the child or is it more biased against fathers??????? | |
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Posted: 1/3/2006 10:10:08 PM | | Obviously we're all entitled to our own opinions here, and each of those opinions is probably colored by our own situations. I am certainly not jilted or scorned - I worked 10 long years with a bipolar husband to get our marriage to work, and it just didn't. When it didn't, we DID do what was in the best interest of our daughter - came to an agreement ourselves without the court making the decisions, albeit using the standard possession order as a guideline. I don't think every man "deserves" what he's getting, I wouldn't presume to know either what he is getting or what he deserves. I can tell you that in my situation, my ex didn't plan very wisely when he chose his living arrangement and picked the most luxurious, most expensive apartment he could find, and has ****ed about it ever since. He's now moving somewhere far less expensive with more square footage closer to her school and right across from a library. I can also reiterate that, as I mentioned, he agreed to a number of things that I don't hold him to, like splitting private school tuition, summer camp fees, etc. Remember, this was not a judge's order, this was something HE agreed to. That is my point - I work with him to make things work for our kid, and my opinion is that all parents should do the same. I can't speak to your financial situation, obviously, however, I think the real culprit is your ex, who is willing to equate financial obligations with distance and visitation rights. I applaud you for wanting to stay a strong force in your child's life - not all parents are willing to do so. | |
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Posted: 1/4/2006 7:45:02 PM | | Hey ya'll...i'm new to the forums here, but I couldnt resist getting in on this one...I could make a book on this topic ,,well.more of a step by step guide for knowing when you are going crazy....I've been divorced going on 4 years now and I STILL can not get help where I live...I have been lucky on quite a few occations where there have been some "reasonable" law officers present and seen that she was wacked and lie'n about everything and wouldnt take me to jail...I have put up with death threats from her AND her boyfriend to stay away from my child, but at the same time he would never take care of HIS OWN kid..he just now got back into his childs life,,,not sure that it is a "good" thing..but it's about time...now the rumor is that she is preg with his kid and conviently I have just recieved a letter in the mail for a meeting to raise MY childsupport--look , it wasnt MY fault they are having a kid,why do I have to pay for both??? Anyhow ,story reads like this....she has hid my child so many times from me, lied about her address, lied about the conditions she is living in, lie'n bout drug use---hire a private investagator,DO NOT attempt to get ANY proof your self,only asking for trouble..serious trouble..sounds like a good idea right? well,,more often than not,you are just going to be out more money, and you still will not get results in the court room. Now I want to know why,if it's not about money...Why can she get away with what the "system" calls "contempt of court" for not abiding by the COURT ORDERS? I also have a good record,she does not...seems pretty common now days,but anyhow....I dont understand it,,at all.....the AG office and write out a COURT ORDER in house to make you pay more for child support among other things against you...why is it they say they are there for " THE BEST INTREST OF THE CHILD" ? I swear-I really could do with out hearing that and I'm sure EVERYONE here agrees and understands why...but WHY ,,WHY I ASK--will they NOT give the mother any kind of so called COURT ORDER for not letting you see your child???? now how is that in the best intrest of the child??? aren't BOTH parents allowed CONTINUING ACCESS to the child??? Well...thats the line you get from them.H3LL---you even get it in WRITING.why do they feel the need to tell you if you have a problem to HIRE YOUR OWN PRIVATE ATTORNEY???? I dont agree with it at all....she can keep the child from you,,demand more money- get it..and yet there is nothing you can do about it.....I know there are dead beat fathers out there,,no doubt,,but you know what...IT TAKES TWO TO MAKE A CHILD--well,,that and a turkey baster,but I have never heard of a woman that did that try and get child support...i'm sure SOMEWHERE there are some ladies out there that have tried it,,H3LL-MY X is crazy enough to try something like that...but still..you ladies know what you are doing, you really really do...so dont act all innocent..I'm not bashing here,just saying stop acting dumb...if not--then we are all rape-ests then right?? and I know it sounds like I'm being an a$$hole here by saying this,,but in MY experience...hear that MY EXPERIENCE in dealing with what I refer to a worthless woman, is that if you have a few kids by a few different guys--h3ll you got life MADE---now the smart thing to do is not have more than one kid with any one guy--cause you wont get any extra income off the second kid--- and guys dont get all bent cause I came out and said it...TRUST ME,,,THE WORTHLESS ONE'S ALREADY KNOW THIS !!! And ladies,,I am NOT saying ALL of you are bad...I still have faith there are some good ones out there....where,I'm not too sure,but I know you are out there...but yeah,,fella's I'm with ya 100 and 10 thousand % on this thread here....WHAT THE H3LL IS WRONG HERE IN TEXAS?????!!!!!??? oh,,and it's only 18 years if they dont go to college---if they do,,guess who is still paying...lol...but thats something I dont mind paying for...cause I garentee ya,,,,when i get old,,,they gonna wipe my a$$ just like i did for them..lol..or all that college education they got better let them afford a hot nurse for me...by the way...I still have to look into this a little more..so I really shouldnt say anything just yet..but I "HEAR" there is something about the child at a certin age can decide who they want to live with....I first heard it was 10yrs old...I'm hearing now that they dropped the age to 8yrs old...I DO NOT KNOW how much truth there is to that and I do NOT want to give false hope to anyone..but it's something to look into...as for me---I really hope that is true !!! maybe I should google this ?!? If anyone finds anything out about it,,POST IT !!! I'm sure the info would help some people out....and I know there is a lawyer on this thread...no offence dude..my lawyer that I had really made me dislike ya'll.I'm sure you are a good person..but I do feel your pain -- and if ANY ONE AT ALL says this is not GENDER BIAS---take a look at the lawyer here,,,if HE CANT GET HIS CHILD---there is a MAJOR problem with the "system" don't ya think?? oh,,and lets not get started on child services department *wink wink* can this be multi threaded??? lol...GOOD LUCK EVERYONE !!!! AND HANG IN THERE !!! | |
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Posted: 1/4/2006 9:17:26 PM | | Hey sorry to give a back to back here..but TexKo----DUDE !!! I dont have much man,,but if you ever do find that pot-o-gold...I'm in with ya on the law suit! and if you say it loud enough...I'm da'amn sure that there are alot more fathers out there that will go in too...may not accomplish what it's ment to do..but it would be one H3LL of a poke in the eye of the AG !!!! FIGHT FOR YOUR RIGHT,MAN>>>>FIGHT .. FOR .. YOUR .. RIGHT !!!!!! | |
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Posted: 1/9/2006 2:11:37 PM | WoW! Many great points brought up here!
*rant on*
Tex, I couldn't agree with you more bro! Sounds like you have seen it from the inside and it just confirms what the rest of us dads are saying.
Gr8tkisser, no offense, but this system is extremely gender-biased. The system has nothing to do with "what's in the child's best interest". Those words are just lip service from a system that is broken at best and failing miserably at worst. You say that if you were on our side of the fence that you would just suck it up pay without complaining. That's great and quite magnanimous of you to say that, but in reality you would probably be shocked at what you would be EXPECTED to pay. If you are like most adults, you have bills, debts, etc. I bet you would most likely complain and be very vocal about it when you couldn't pay your electric bill or buy groceries yet your ex can afford things like big screen t.v.'s, new houses, new cars every year, etc., etc. Yeah, that would stick in your crawl pretty quickly. I can guarantee you that!
For Str33t Fr33k, I feel your pain man. This kind of goes hand in hand with the whole gender-biased system theory. If the system is not gender-biased, then can SOMEONE please explain to me why all a mother has to do is call the state AG's office and say, "My baby daddy ain't givin' me no money!" and the AG gets a huge boner, tracks you down, suppoenas you to court, threatens you with criminal prosecution, and decides, "Mr. SoAndSo, you will pay $XXX/month. If you fail to pay this money you will be prosecuted under criminal statutes, your tax return garnished, and you'll lose your driver's license." Bear in mind this is done with no consideration towards your own living expenses. You pay first and figure out how to live second. In the end it doesn't cost the mother one dime to prosecute the man. The State does all the leg work on her behalf. HOWEVER, as I have already learned the hard way, when it comes to my VISITATION RIGHTS, my son's mother can just deny them on a whim and I have no recourse in place that is provided by the State. I have a bona-fide court order guaranteeing my rights to visistation. However, when she decides she is mad for whatever reason, she can deny my visitation, I can call the police, and they just tell me, "Sir, that is a civil matter and we can't get involved." Call the state AG office and it's, "Sorry sir, you will have to retain a lawyer and go to court to enforce the order." GREAT! Lawyers cost money! Lot's of money! So I have to shell out $1500 to a private lawyer to enforce my rights! What in the hell is so fair and non-biased about that!?! It's a load of horse shit if you ask me! I'm with Tex on this one! If I had the resources available, I would not rest until this crap got changed to be more balanced and fair!
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Posted: 1/14/2006 5:50:11 PM | have something to share with you all the way the paperwork is arranged here in the attorney general's office,,was there just the other day....
this is the waiver infor paper here....
WAIVER OF TEN DAYS NOTICE OF NEGOTIATION CONFERENCE
My name is _____ and I am a party to this Child Support Review proceeding.My social
security number is _____ and I reside at:______
I have recieved a copy of the Notice of Child Support Review for this proceeding.I have read the Notice of Child Support Review and I understand it.
I know that I have the right to ten(10) days notice of a negotiation conference pursuant to Texas Family Code 233.010. I know that the purpose of the negotiation conference is to reach an agreement regarding some or all of the following types of child support issues (depending on the child support case):
1. Current child support
2. lump sum child support
3. medical child support
4. payment of past due child support
5. payment of retroactive child support
6. determining the parentage of the child listed above
7. conservatorship, possession and access, and surname if the above child,and
8. any other orders that are necessary and equitable for the safety and welfare of the children
I wave my right to ten (10) days notice of the date, time and place of the negotiation conference and wish to proceed at ___ o'clock__.m on __/__/___ at:
The office of Spanky Your A$$ in General
11111 I'm gonna ream ya way
Anytown,TX 11111
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the rest is of corse your signature and all that nice stuff,,but what is that on line 7 there???
when asked about if we are going to discuss this matter ,I was instructed to abtain a lawyer to explain that to me,,humm,,,possession= who has/will have the child--- access= when you,and how you may see the child...now i guess i must be a little shy on brain cells here or something but i think my deduction is pretty well head on..I told them if they didnt want to discuss it then they better modify their paperwork..then i was shouted at and told that he wasnt goin to arguee with me..  . and of corse my mouth got the best of me at the time and i told that silly little person that they arent there to argue ,they are there to do their job !!...needless to say i was everyone's friend that day,,oh,,and to back track a bit to the begining when i got there,,,3hrs before anyone actually call me for my appointment...the two ladies at the front desk were having problems with the computer--they couldnt LOG OUT the USER NAME---" i dont know how to log out,do you?" " I'm not sure,maybe **** is still here,I think they might know" <<<-----WTF is that about?   these are the people that are working in the system...I feel so much safer now. Oh and when I was asked about my "TOTAL" earnings, I told them, well they decided to put that down as my "TAKE HOME" pay (net vs. gross) and gave me a 300$ bonus every month....so now I am really gonna be working around the clock to make ends meet,,,thanks AG I really wish I would have picked up on that in the office ..but I was too agravated with the whole thing I never noticed untill I got back to work and was reading them over again.
point being ,they screw your whole day up--take your time, read your papers,understand them fully, and dont take their bull $hit....everyone in the organization should be BEEP'd in their BEEP's till the handle falls off !!!! anyhow,,why have stuff in your paperwork if you are just going to tell people to SHUTUP AND TAKE IT when asked about it?? "there is an idiot born every minute...." and they all work at the attorney general's office !!! SUE ME !!!
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Posted: 1/17/2006 1:41:11 PM | | i dont have anything bad to say about the judicial system here in Texas. i won custody of my son, and no my ex was not a crack addict or anything of that nature. so now she pays me child support, well at least she is suppose to. im still waiting, its almost been a year and i only recieve partial payments. | |
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| Texas and the Judicial System.....SUX!!!!
Posted: 1/19/2006 2:52:25 PM | Just a thought...I am sure many of you fathers out there are wonderful. I went through a horrific divorce. I am hungarian and had no clue about the legal system here in the USA. My ex and I met in Hungary, while working for the same company. He asked me to marry him and after the wedding we moved here. I left behind all my family, my friends, school and a great job at Nokia. Now I am stucked here in TX. Will never be able to move back home. My family is far away from me, all I have is my little boy. Ever since I moved here I have been a homemaker and a stay at home mom. For me to return to the job market was the most horrifying experience. It is very hard to get a job without experience in the USA workforce. My ex was the one filing for divorce. I never wanted to divorce him. I will not say anything bad about him. But one thing....he never ever took care of that child. It was all my job..., so for one thing I beleive this has to do a lot with the judges decession. Where the child first attachment is. And if you were not participant in the daily home duties you most likely will not get custody no matter how much money you are making. I am not a US citizen, never had a job in the US, had only 3 months to find a place to live because I did not want to take away my ex husband house, although after being divorced for 3 months now I am still on the mortgage which he has not paid for over two months now...needless to say how bad it affects my credit....anyhow where I was going with all this, I managed to get a nice place, a great job, now I am in school finishing my degree. I did get custody becasuse I was the primary caregiver of our child and not my ex. I never doubted in my mind that he is a great father, he even got the extended visitation because I suggested that to the judge.
He is not and has not paid me the child support. Even when he does pay, his checks bounces. I am not making a whole lot of money, but I am hoping that once I am done with school I will not have to wait for that CS check, I can just put that money into my sons saving accout.
So dear fathers out there. Please dont think that all mothers are bad. I am sure you all had different experiences but at the end you have to realize by paying your child support on time will give your children a better life and that is what all matters. And if you feel like the ex's are spending that money on themselves please take your little notes. journal!!!!! Can be very very helpful once it comes to reconsideration! And it there will not be reconsideration than try to accept what you have and move on with you life instead of writing furious postings and losing your assets to try to fight back. Your children will be appriciated if you provide them a better life!
So with all that I wish you much luck and piece for 2006! | |
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| Texas and the Judicial System.....SUX!!!!
Posted: 1/25/2006 2:50:15 PM | | I know that if a woman says anything here it is likely to get slammed however it does take alot to raise a child. Child care ranges from 60 to 80 a week. You can't get a one bedroom apartment with a child so that also raises your costs as well as your food bill. There are other costs such as school lunches, functions drill team, t- ball, field trips etc etc. And if any of you have custody you know this to be true this non itemized bills add up. There are ongoing expenses that you don't see when you don't have them everyday. I would not begrudge my ex 20% of my salary if he wanted the children but the truth is it would cramp his life style and even if none of you admit it yours also. I like having an occasional weekend free to be myself and not on call 24 /7 waking up in the middle of the night when they are ill or missing work when that happens. Women don't get a raise it was written that usually even with the c/s payments womens standard of living goes down while the mens go up after divorce. I wish I could remember the article. There is alot of hidden costs that you are either not aware of or prefer just to ignore. It doesn't matter if I date someone that makes more money than my ex or if I do decided to get serious with them. It is not that persons responsibility to raise another child. The same goes for if I was not married to the father. Why wouldn't I ask for child support. I prefer to make sure my children are cared for. The legal system doesn't suck it is fair 20% regardless of who gets custody is the minimum and I know alot of single fathers out there who have custody that are upset about the 20% they get. It goes both ways. If you want custody get a good lawyer, if you don't want to pay sign off your rights as thier dad and let someone else adopt them. If you just want to complain continue the status quo. I am not bitter actually get along with my ex and don't begrudge him his new life. But I have the children he has the new wife who doesn't want the children and the beach house. I by far came out way ahead. | |
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| Texas and the Judicial System.....SUX!!!!
Posted: 1/28/2006 3:39:53 PM | | I pay about $600 a month for the support of my 13 yr old son. It takes a chunk out of my take home pay, but I'm very proud to pay it. And I'm even prouder of my son too. My daughter is 19, so I don't have to pay to support her. My ex and I have an arrangement for me to stay with the kids when she works out of town every other week. And I have no problem with that, not at all. | |
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