| tired of playing games,being strung along and giving ego boosts to others
Posted: 11/24/2005 1:10:25 AM | i have been a member with an active profile with pics on pof since late july of this year.
i ws suppose to meet one lady but she no showed me a few months back.i have been strung along in mindless chat and email exchanges with other women that has led to nothing thus far.
i am tired of these games and having to always have low expectations while talking to women on this website.i am tired of the women who are average and normal that have so many restictions in their profile that a male model could not even get a date with them.i am tired of other women who refuse to post a picture of themselves and have various excuses not to,most of them just want to deceive and play childish teenage games and who are not even serious about looking for someone.my advice to others,leave your feelings and emotions along with expectations locked away and safe from this website and the players on it.better yet go back to the convential way of finding a date which is trogh friends,relatives or join groups or clubs.this online dating seems to be a hit and miss at best and at the worst a waste of time.the forums are the best thing about pof.
i can't be the only one that feels this way. | |
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| tired of playing games,being strung along and giving ego boosts to others
Posted: 11/24/2005 1:24:36 AM | | Don't blame POF for demographics. Everybody wants a female 18-38 so some guys are going to miss out. It is a well know fact that there is a pool of about 5 million single guys under 40 who will never find a girl friend. It is the same in Britian and other countries as well. You advertised here and lot of females saw you. If there was a shortage of males, female would have contacted you and met. Females under 38 on any internet dating site do very well. there is 10 guys for each female so they can pick and choose. When 60 yr old females start dating 30 yr old males in volume, the shortage of young females will end. Not likely to happen. | |
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| tired of playing games,being strung along and giving ego boosts ...... dont''
Posted: 11/24/2005 5:45:16 AM | | Dont get to discouraged, there are alot of people that are looking for the same thing you are in life.It takes time.Do you remember the saying sometimes you have to kiss alot of toads till you meet a prince?Well you may have to kiss a few frogs till you meet a princess.good luck. | |
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| tired of playing games,being strung along and giving ego boosts ...... dont''
Posted: 11/24/2005 6:04:25 AM | I wouldn't recommend kissing any frogs or toads, unless you get one like Homer Simpson on that missionary exile he took.
I too have faced the problems you have told about. The best thing i can say is, treat this place like you would a club, friends gathering, party... Don't be looking to find a date, look to find good people (there are many girls i have found that are totally awesome on here, even if they are literally the other side of the globe).
Dating is hit and miss in real life. Things may happen, and if they do i sincerely congratulate you and am very jealous.
Whatever you decide to do, best of luck. And remember, nothing worth doing was ever easy. | |
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| tired of playing games,being strung along and giving ego boosts to others
Posted: 11/24/2005 6:40:10 AM | | HEY ,don't feel like the lone ranger.What you said is 100% true,but I still need this for lonely times at home even if it does fail.It keeps me out of bars and keeps me home for my children.It in turn keeps me out of jail because I am allergic to alcohol,everytime I drink I break out in hand cuffs.So even the crazy women on here have done some good and they don't even know it.I do know there is someone out there just like me for me.Just to many loosers in the mix.Hang in there and we will see who finds her first,then if she has a sister I will let you know.Kevin | |
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| tired of playing games,being strung along and giving ego boosts to others
Posted: 11/24/2005 7:58:26 AM | I have not been a member on this particular dating scene for long but I have tried various other pay as you go sites and have found that all are just about the same. When ever or how ever you date, it is always going to be a crap shoot. You take you chances where it be online or out in the trenches. As for average women who won't give you the time of day, why do you think they are just average? What is it that you are basing this scale on? Beauty? I have realized over the years that there is a lot more to men that what is on the outside. I no longer seek Adonis. The only thing I do insist on is that he not look older than I am. Each person is a unique individual and yes we all have our hang up and our baggage. If you expected to find some one within weeks or just a few months I think that your expectations were too high. Finding someone to share your life with is a life long task. You should start seeking that friend and let the rest work it's way into your heart. If this is indeed a person you would like to spend the rest of your life with than the wait should be nothing. I too have met several men who have not been exactly what they pose themselves to be online. I have been stood up, lied to, used, forgotten, left for someone younger. Men are not the only ones looking. If you believe that going to bars, churches, or waiting for your mother to set you up, the wait and the disappointment will be just the same. And you will still have some one else to blame. Stop trying so hard. Don't settle, just give the average women a chance. We too have qualities that "models" and "Barbie" just may not. And as for older women dating younger men it happens each and every day. What you will get from an older women is someone who knows how to please and knows what pleases her. She just might be someone who is not looking for a man to support her, but someone to be with, to blend with, to become part of her life. We have careers and our own goals, and we are not our mothers. We are not however, looking to be someones mother. Expand your horizons, look outside the box. It is the holiday season. The wrapping is not the important thing, it is what is inside.
Don't dispare. Enjoy the search. There are so many women out there that you haven't talked to, you haven't met, be it here, another website or out in the big world. If I didn't believe this I would have given up long ago.
Take it easy and have a wonderful holiday season. | |
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| tired of playing games,being strung along and giving ego boosts to others
Posted: 11/24/2005 8:02:37 AM | It is very difficult to find honerable people on these sites.
Even if one meets up in person. They still aren't real!
Having said that. I have met from other sites. gentlmen I am still friends wil. No Romantic interest which goes both ways. and we meet for coffee as friends. And have been doing so for a couple years. Now those are real. And we can sit back and talk about the gamers we have met on these sites. People who have claimed their love just to find out that after going together for months that they are still searching on these sites.
Not everyone is like this. The majority however seem addicted to this behaviour.
maybe some one should start a website for Addicted to singles sites on the internet while in a committed relationship!
A.T .S. W. C. R. | |
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| tired of playing games,being strung along and giving ego boosts to others
Posted: 11/24/2005 8:33:11 AM | Burroughs,
There are more women than men in the world! Check your stats...it should be the women that worry more about grabbing a man, than men grabbing a woman!
OP,
I feel this way too, sometimes....BUT...I'm talking with some lovely women now both on internet & in the flesh. My point is...DON'T put stock in just one area...that will fail more often than not. While a combination of the two does wonders. DON'T give up...easier said than done, but don't give up.
Mistylady,
VERY nice picture. Clear to look at, simple, & not too busy. | |
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| tired of playing games,being strung along and giving ego boosts to others
Posted: 11/24/2005 11:20:49 AM | | DONT GIVE UP IM JUST A NORMAL GUY I GET LOTS OF E-MAILS IM NOT A PLAYER IM JUST LOOKING FOR ONE WOMAN I HAVENT FOUND HER YET BUT I WILL LOOK UNTIL I DO.THERE ARE LOTS OF NICE WOMEN ON HERE A FEW DONT MAKE THEM ALL BAD .I HAVE MEET SOME VERY NICE WOMEN ON HERE AN HAD DATES WITH THEM AN HAD A GOOD TIME .(HANG IN THERE IT WILL WORK OUT ) | |
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| tired of playing games,being strung along and giving ego boosts to others
Posted: 11/24/2005 12:30:24 PM | thanks to all of you for the words of encouragement.i will keep searching here and in other areas and places so i don't have all my eggs in one basket.
i by no means am blaming pof for the players who post their profile that have at best murky intentions.i am blaming the people who use a dating site like this one who really do not want to find a date.i will say this though pof unintentionally encourages people to play games by letting those not serious to continue their behavior without be called out and put on the spot. it allows by its restrictions for people to block out the ones that have interest in them.let their profile say what they do not want.not pull down menus with limited choices.for example restrict smokers but not drinkers.or the types of relationship that one may seek may be more than just one like me for example i seek any of the following: dating,long term,friendship or other relationship. but i can only pick one so that restricts my possible matches that may be of interest to me.
i am more leery of online dating than other more conventional forms of meeting people.when you look someone in the eyes you often know their intentions.if they are willing to go out on a date or meet well that shows some serious intentions instead of just fishing (no pun intended)
so this site while it is great in my opinion sometimes restricts options of serious seekers while letting jokers thrive more than should be allowed.i have chatted with more nice people than bad people but you tend to remember a bad expierence more than a good expierence.just like real life i guess
thank you all for easing my mind and motivating me to continue to search on pof for a nice woman.
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| tired of playing games,being strung along and giving ego boosts to others
Posted: 11/25/2005 10:27:55 AM | | screw the ppl that are no shows Man stick to what you know...hang in your town dont rush it be a considerate gentleman and watch man it'll fall in you lap...remember that all girls want respect and are not gonna lay you on the first date....slow down ,look around sometimes the winding road takes longer but theres a whole lot more to see sometimes a little detour is all you need take care buddy | |
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| tired of playing games,being strung along and giving ego boosts to others
Posted: 11/25/2005 10:39:41 AM | Hey, don't despair my friend. I know how you feel. I have been on these sites since the end of May of this year and have found the on-line dating GAME, because that's what it is, to be a very frustrating experience. I logged onto POF in early September and was also feeling very frustrated due to all the head games and bullshit that seems to be prevalent, not only on this site, but on any of the sites. I would say that at least 90-95 % of the interest notices I send out never get responded to. And ladies you can go ahead and view and critique my profile all you want. Of the women that actually responded to my interest notices, or sent me one out of the blue on their own, the feedback was not just positive but they loved my profile and my photos. I'm not saying that I'm God's gift to women, because I know I'm not. However, I made sure to put pictures of me where I was smiling and received rave reviews. Despite that, there are very few people that actually respond to notices. It's not just me as friends that I've talked to have said the same thing.
You just have to realize that there a lot of players on these sites, on both sides of the gender fence, that are just here for fun and should take themselves off and not ruin it for everyone else. Just think to yourself, if they don't have the common decency to respond, why would you want to meet them and get to know them in the first place. Alas, 2 weeks ago, I found what I have been looking for my whole life. The sweetest, most wonderful lady I have ever met. It was love at first site and we are already making plans for a future together. We had both just about given up but are glad we didn't. It can happen my friend but it does require patience and possibly a strong stomach to put up with a lot of the games and crap. I too was stood up on several occasions and told by countless women that said they would call and never did, or all of a sudden deleted their profile. Anyhow, it can be a long journey but for what we are both feeling now, it was worth the wait. Good luck my friend. I hope you find what you are looking for!!!!! | |
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| tired of playing games,being strung along and giving ego boosts to others
Posted: 11/25/2005 4:00:00 PM | thanks honesty_integrity,
like you wrote in your post.it a bunch of crap and bs you have to go through but in the end it might just be worthwhile.i am not giving up quite yet.i do have very low expectations at the moment.i will just have to stay positive and not worry about the players who play their nasty games. | |
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| tired of playing games,being strung along and giving ego boosts to others
Posted: 11/25/2005 4:01:01 PM | thanks honesty_integrity,
like you wrote in your post.it a bunch of crap and bs you have to go through but in the end it might just be worthwhile.i am not giving up quite yet.i do have very low expectations at the moment.i will just have to stay positive and not worry about the players who play their nasty games. | |
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| tired of playing games,being strung along and giving ego boosts to others
Posted: 11/25/2005 4:01:12 PM | thanks honesty_integrity,
like you wrote in your post.it a bunch of crap and bs you have to go through but in the end it might just be worthwhile.i am not giving up quite yet.i do have very low expectations at the moment.i will just have to stay positive and not worry about the players who play their nasty games. | |
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| tired of playing games,being strung along and giving ego boosts to others
Posted: 11/25/2005 4:01:29 PM | thanks honesty_integrity,
like you wrote in your post.it a bunch of crap and bs you have to go through but in the end it might just be worthwhile.i am not giving up quite yet.i do have very low expectations at the moment.i will just have to stay positive and not worry about the players who play their nasty games. | |
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| tired of playing games,being strung along and giving ego boosts to others
Posted: 11/25/2005 4:04:37 PM | thanks honesty_integrity,
like you wrote in your post.it a bunch of crap and bs you have to go through but in the end it might just be worthwhile.i am not giving up quite yet.i do have very low expectations at the moment.i will just have to stay positive and not worry about the players who play their nasty games. | |
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| tired of playing games,being strung along and giving ego boosts to others
Posted: 12/14/2005 11:23:10 AM | | Hey, I hear what all you are saying, and i am fed up too. I mean seriously..i am sick and tired of the same ol' shit like "you are so beautitful and nice...wanna ****?" it's like...WHAT!!! HELL NO!! i hate ppl who are out there just for that reason alone...get ur own "**** me" web site...honestly...i am here to make friends and who cares what happens after that..but i am sick of the pick up lines and dumbasses that are out there for there own self....i love people and talkin to ppl and meeting ppl....but come on...can we show a little more maturity here? i mean really!!! | |
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| tired of playing games,being strung along and giving ego boosts to others
Posted: 12/14/2005 12:21:20 PM | | Don't give up!!!! Believe me their are still nice women out there...just have alittle faith!!! You'll meet her...maybe not here...maybe around the corner at a coffee shop or a 7-11 who knows....don't let a couple of bitter women affect you...you seem very sweet! Take care and best of luck. | |
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| tired of playing games,being strung along and giving ego boosts to others
Posted: 12/14/2005 1:35:47 PM | .
Oh come on now! You’re an adult and a business owner, so I’m sure you know how to vet them quickly. It’s true, we’re seeing all types of people here, whether we want to or not. There’s the sophisticated (or those who think they are) to the obviously very promiscuous. There’s the girl next door types to the high camp. And, within this mix, I’ve spied a couple women with whom I am sure I would become fast friends, were they a little closer and a little older.
I’ll bet you are seeing the same. So, how does a guy put up the “notice me” flag? Hah, that’s the question of the century around here. One method is by being here as time allows and participate. And, while you are here, say what you mean and mean what you say, but also tend to keep it in a positive light. Those who become argumentative here do not seem to do very well.
Because there are not many, I’ve already met all the eligible women in my age group local to me. These, to a person, were all very nice ladies and we enjoyed our time together. I stay here for two major reasons: First is the entertainment value. Second is because, as I said above, there are a couple here who I know would be great friends were they to notice me. But, because of their age and location, I’ll let that choice become their decision sometime in the future. (Kinda convoluted, that, now that I reread.) Meanwhile, new local people are coming aboard every week and that is also interesting.
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