| What is wrong withnot drinking
Posted: 11/25/2005 9:19:05 PM | | I recently had a date with someone who said she could not date someone who doesn't drink because she would fell guilty for drinking. What is wrong with not drinking? I can act just as stupid sober as a drunk person. Is there anyone out there willing to date someone who doesn't drink? Come on people give me some feedback | |
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| What is wrong withnot drinking
Posted: 11/25/2005 9:22:51 PM | I guess it all depends on the person. Myself, I don't drink, either so someone that has a problem with that won't be my type, obviously.
Now, if you were to tell them that you'd be their designated driver? Totally different thing. :) | |
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| What is wrong withnot drinking
Posted: 11/25/2005 9:32:38 PM | she said she could not date someone who didn't drink?
because she would feel guilty for drinking?
can you say
alcoholic?
lol
Man that is some really stupid logic she has.....
crazy date story stuff...... | |
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| What is wrong withnot drinking
Posted: 11/25/2005 9:42:16 PM | when i meet someone who doesn't drink but is ok with someone that does, and i'm speaking of moderate use, i see no problem. i have met women who have been abused by alcoholics and are terrified that the next guy could do a jekyll and hyde number on her too. i can respects that fear too. what i can't handle is the the ones that have completely made up their minds that if you drink, you are automatically enrolled in the wife beaters club.
not everybody that drinks is evil and out to get you. in fact the muslim terrorists never touch alcohol. and for the suicide bombers the reward for blowing up everyone around them is 67 virgins waiting for you in heaven.
i think they'd be a lost more peaceful if they could just kick back, have a few beers with a lady friend and get laid once in a while. that would really cut back on the hostility. | |
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| What is wrong withnot drinking
Posted: 11/25/2005 9:46:55 PM | | I have NO problem dating someone who doesn't drink. I don't drink often at all, and would rather be with someone who is the same way. My last boyfriend drank way too often. He couldn't handle daily life and its stress without a mind altering substance of some type. | |
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| What is wrong withnot drinking
Posted: 11/25/2005 9:54:19 PM | | I don't drink either. I've only had a couple of guys say they wouldn't date me because of a lack of drinking. Sometimes they assume that because a person doesn't drink, they must not be any fun. | |
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| What is wrong withnot drinking
Posted: 11/25/2005 9:54:20 PM | I don't drink and have had problems with dates who do so I much prefer a man who doesn't drink at all. I find it nervewracking to drive with a drinker and always end up taking my car and doing all the driving because obviously I'm not going to let someone drive my car when he's drinking.
Also, I wouldn't want to get seriously involved with a drinker because neither drinking or smoking are allowed in my house.
I find too that the clubs I go to don't make non drinkers feel like second class citizens anymore. Everybody just assumes I'm the designated driver....even on New Year's Eve. It was much different years ago. So nowadays I don't have to give up dancing and such just because I don't drink. | |
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| What is wrong withnot drinking
Posted: 11/25/2005 9:54:23 PM | | i dont drink... i just choose not to... people who drink around me know i dont care.. its the drunks that get on my nerves... | |
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| What is wrong withnot drinking
Posted: 11/25/2005 9:58:49 PM | | Heck funny the people I hang out with love to take me out.. they say i'm a cheap date cause I don't drink..lol.. i have to agree with the others.. if she's gonna feel guilty its because she drinks like a fish. | |
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Joined: 10/3/2004
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| What is wrong withnot drinking
Posted: 11/25/2005 10:00:20 PM | | It's not really crazy. We all have our little things and we're all picky SOBs. Whether it be the preference of the other person or their hair or the fact they this or that, everyone has some little thing that if the other person has/lacks they are a no go. I mean, replace the alcohol with say children, does it change your perspective? | |
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| What is wrong withnot drinking
Posted: 11/25/2005 10:52:14 PM | I lost my girlfriend to a drunk driver in 12th grade.I had to watch my 1 best friend kill my other best friend in a DUI when I was 22 then he went to jail for 7 years for it.I then 3 years later got hit by a drunk driver myself.I dont drink if I do its very raley and I dont get drunk.Im still the life of the party and the first one there sober to drive ANYONE home.Think Im the only 1/4 Irish 1/4 German 1/2 Apache on the planet that dosnt drink lol.Im also a perfect gentleman with a lady thats been drinking.Id like a girl to be sober if theres moves to be made.
I think any smart drinker would love having a fun non drinker around to assure they live to drink another day if not then they are looking for a drinking buddy not a soulmate.
just my .02
Joel<------designated driver on call :) | |
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| What is wrong withnot drinking
Posted: 11/25/2005 11:18:03 PM | And I thought I was the only one this happened to. Yes, I went out with a woman for just a little while. Then she told her friend to tell me that we are not compatible because I don't like going out drinking and smoking weed. Now I dont mind a few drinks once in a while but not all the time. And as for smoking weed? Been there and done that enough when I was younger.
All I can say is that I'm glad we weren't compatible. | |
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Joined: 5/9/2005
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| What is wrong withnot drinking
Posted: 11/25/2005 11:51:39 PM | My daughters (ages 12, 14) grow up knowing they never have to worry about me driving them somewhere under the influence. I drink socially and responsibly. I never consume alcohol while in the presence of my kids. I cringe at people that feel the need to consume alcohol and then drive their kids around.
I feel it's a very selfish act regardless of the allowances under law.
In my opinion, it's not an issue of you drinking or not. It's more of an issue about responsibility, moderation and frequency. | |
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| What is wrong withnot drinking
Posted: 11/26/2005 6:57:57 AM | I think the reason someone would shy away from a person who doesn't drink is just another example of what is wrong with dating and, more particularly, online dating. Everyone takes a smidgen of information and forms opinions based on their biggest fears. It goes both ways.
Drinkers might be alcoholics, wife beaters, cheaters, dangerous drivers, etc.
Non-drinkers might be uptight, judgmental, no fun, etc.
I say quit worrying about it and find out for yourself. I think the nagative experiences we have should help us protect ourselves from future problems, but they should never prevent us from future success either.
I drink socially and would date a person that doesn't drink. If I didn't drink, I would date someone that did. If there were things about that person that I felt made us incompatible, it wouldn't be because she drinks. It would be because she does certain things when she drinks. Not because other people do certain things when they drink. | |
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| What is wrong withnot drinking
Posted: 11/26/2005 2:40:19 PM | As long as the person I'm seeing doesn't have a problem with me drinking... then it's all good.
It's if they make judgements about someone drinking that I have a problem with.
I love to have a designated driver! That doesn't mean that I'm a huge ole lushbucket! LOL | |
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| What is wrong withnot drinking
Posted: 11/26/2005 2:58:19 PM | I dunno
I dont like drinking ALL the time
plus, I need to move around when I'm drunk
I like drunken dancing
I cant just sit in a bar where theres no action going on around me
like, WHY would you go to a restaurant to just sit there and get loaded? | |
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| What is wrong withnot drinking
Posted: 11/26/2005 3:34:03 PM | I don't think there's anything wrong with not drinking but I wouldn't want to drink alone so I only choose alcoholics to date.............just kidding!
My good friend doesn't drink and his wife does and they get along just fine!!
He loves to take advantage of her when she's drunk!!
Just Kidding!! | |
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| What is wrong withnot drinking
Posted: 11/26/2005 4:01:28 PM | I'm a non-drinker myself, don't much care for bars and clubs but I don't carry any torches about it. I have dated women who drink and had no issues with them. If they are social drinkers and just like to cut loose once in a while and tie one on then great, as long as they are happy and having fun.
On the flipside, I wouldnt date someone who has a problem with alchohol, that would not be a good thing for myself. Alchoholism is a disease and I would much prefer to date someone who looks after themself. So yeah, if your a recreational and like to have fun, fill your boots, you only live once. | |
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| What is wrong withnot drinking
Posted: 11/26/2005 4:16:47 PM | Nothing wrong with not drinking...however..like your choice not to drink, as it is your preference for whatever reason...it is also a persons choice not to date you if you wont drink.
I personally have no problem with a non-drinker as a friend...but if I am dating them, I will only date them if they at least will drink on occasion with me. I love to have a nice romantic dinner, us both sipping on wine and getting that nice warm relaxed feeling. I like to be able to go out together with friends or to some social gathering and have a drink together. Not expected all the time...hehe...like its been said...need to keep someone as the DD, when a cab is not an option.
So while they dont need to be a social drinker...and I certainly dont want an alcoholic...someone I can kick back and have a drink with on occasion is my preference...plain and simple.
Doesnt mean Im a drunk...doesnt mean Im superficial for "not" accepting someone for who they are.
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| What is wrong withnot drinking
Posted: 11/26/2005 4:22:07 PM | My Ex was an alcoholic,and even would buy me a bottle,because she wanted me to get drunk everynight like she did.But I still did not drink.
I drink coffee,and that would drive her off the wall.
Stay with a non drinker,better and less problems in your future. | |
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| What is wrong withnot drinking
Posted: 11/26/2005 8:00:59 PM | god, i appreciate a sober man! my ex bf drank a quart of vodka a day... at 6'5" 300 lbs that was still alot of booze and now he's dead! booze kills. i like chocolate milk! | |
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| What is wrong withnot drinking
Posted: 11/26/2005 8:25:52 PM | I have no problem with a social drinker (moderation is key) even though I don't drink. I can however see where issues arise. I have had girls who just can't drop the issue when we go out for dinner or such (one even loaded up on drinks when I stepped out to use the washroom - she knew I was paying and felt guilty ordering if I were sitting with her as she ordered).
It comes down to self-awareness. If they are confident in who they are and the decisions they have made in life, others' habits should not affect them. Wish I knew if it would be an issue long-term. I don't suspect it would be, but it is possible. | |
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| What is wrong withnot drinking
Posted: 11/26/2005 8:46:24 PM | To answer the OP question, there is nothing wrong with not drinking.
However, there is also nothing wrong with someone not wanting to date you because you don't drink. Your choice is not to drink. Their choice is not to date you. It doesnt make you or them a bad person. | |
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