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Posted: 11/26/2005 1:54:44 AM | Hi all,
I am not sure where to post this thread ans there is no approiate threads to post it in. So i figure this one will do.
All of you have wondered why it is so imperative to have a actual facial/full body picture of yourself on the profile, now this is the reason why I support that suggestion.
A few months ago I have met this woman (whom i will not mention her handle name) and we hit off well. We chatted for a while and seems comfortable in each other. I knew what she wanted right at the beginning, and she knew that as well. A casual no strings attached friendship/fun.
Then the night before we agreed to an arranged meet, she finnaly revealed her age to me. I was shocked, appalled and no idea what to do. I sat there thinking this over and then slowly talk with her to get out of this foolish notions, about the dangers of her wanting to meet a total stranger, about the consequences of her own actions as well as the consequences of the fellow to whom she meets.
You see, ladies and gentlemen.
She's 13 years old, posing as an 18 year old.
Im not a parent, and probably wont be one, but i know children well. I am truly appalled by her wishes and what she is doing.
I can only hope im the first and the only guy she meets to chat online. For i think i managed to convince her to remove her profile and to stop her from doing this until she is 18 (or in Australia, 16). But in this site, she has to be 18.
Let this post be a warning to all, and to all parents, about the dangers of this.
Happy fishing and be wary!!
Spartanis
ps: im not joking. this actually happened :/ | |
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Posted: 11/26/2005 2:03:27 AM | | lol..your 31 all excited to have an 18 year old..to darn cute....another chuckle is that you state u know children well???? | |
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Posted: 11/26/2005 2:06:38 AM | LOL
i dont mean that i know children well THAT way
Im an uncle 11 times.. about to be a great uncle soon. They love me for who i am, an i love them much in return.
Plus, i was a kid once ya know :P
and yes.. i was excited about an 18 year old lol friggn things lol | |
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Posted: 11/26/2005 2:15:19 AM | So you found out her age, I'm sure you talked on the phone and such and did you ever contact her parents, I don't think its your position to talk her out of taking down her profile.. after all you were wanting to meet up for sex ( I know you now know she was 13)
I sat there thinking this over and then slowly talk with her to get out of this foolish notions, about the dangers of her wanting to meet a total stranger, about the consequences of her own actions as well as the consequences of the fellow to whom she meets.
You shoud've stop talking with her instantly and done the right thing by getting her parents involved.
But thats what I would have done. Then again my instincts would have flagged me way earlier before sex was mentioned.
How could you not know this was a child? , wasn't there something that just wasn't right?
If you met this 'child' off this site.. did you report her to admin?
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Posted: 11/26/2005 2:22:31 AM | Well I do want to mention to her parents, but alas i dont have her phone number.. for we never got that far...
There is no other way to let her parents know.. for i do not know her address, nor her school.
in fact, there is no clues she left behind for me to determine where she usually go to, to let adults know of her intentions. For that she is a smart thing :/
As for her profile.. it is difficult to say, most 18 year olds talk rubbish in their profile.. using non english words that is difficult to read. I could not tell if she was a child, and I did askfor her picture many times.. always some excuses that she doesnt have it.. THAT alone leads me to suspicions of some sorts
And yes I did mention the dangers of her meeting total strange men of ANY age...be it 18 plus.. she is 13 for chrissake .. | |
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Posted: 11/26/2005 2:25:35 AM | You did the right thing. First off i would like everyone to stop jumping his nuts about it. Just by stop all contact with her was good, secondly he talked to her....
Think about it, what if he would have called the parents? The 13 year old slut is already trying to fool around, she would have done what she wanted regardless if mom or dad knew. Also this could have just been a sting, cops do those all the time( I would know, family members are law enforcement officers). They say they are 18, and when it comes down to it they give out a underage just to get you out there and arrest you.
Regardless, the guy did the right thing. He isnt in jail, he told the tramp she was wrong, and he stopped talking.
I personally have pitty for her, but it is clearly parental misguidence at its best here. Mom and Dad are probably doing a line right now 
You guys know todays definition of a virgin right?
An ugly 3rd grader. | |
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Posted: 11/26/2005 2:27:47 AM | Well for what it's worth I think you did the right thing. Much as I hate to think about it, many 13 year olds are sexually active, particularly in the UK. We regularly have front page tabloid headlines proclaiming yet another birth to an underage Mum.
She may well be feeling peer pressure, and wants "to get in on the act"
Some men would not even have asked her age, and just gone and taken advantage of the situation. | |
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Posted: 11/26/2005 2:28:35 AM | | Honestly, buddy...I would have told her to F off and blocked her immediately...something creepy about you spending all that time trying to correct her ways. | |
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Posted: 11/26/2005 2:34:03 AM | Riiiight... he would have looked bad by going to the parents and saying look your daughter is trying to hook up on the net with old men...
In the begining he was in the dark. Thank goodness she told him her age before they set to meet. By him not being proactive about it, this child will more than likely do the same again and next time... she may not be so lucky.
I think if the parents were to know, they would take away her computer and get her help.. now which is better?
What if this was your daughter, you cant get mad at the guy if he didnt know she was 13, he is an adult and he is allowed to look for intimate encounters if he wishes. She is a child.. a child with some issues. I don't think it's proper for a man who was going to meet for sex to counsel a child he doesn't know.
In some cases that may be looked at as 'grooming' the kid. He should've ceased all contact and did the right thing by telling her parents. Or notifying the police I dunno.. just my thoughts. | |
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Posted: 11/26/2005 2:34:17 AM | I dont blame you for thinking that Tick Tock, not one bit at all
Yes i did blocked her for good. And yes I also knew it could be a sting. But that irrelevent. Whats rellevant, is to stop her doing this. She may be innocence in all this, like one said: peer group pressure.
I have to teach her something, to get her thinking, that she should really worry about friends her own age, and schooling, god,, she should be worrying about being a child, not about this.
The world gone bezonkers about this issues. I feel its time put a stop to this and act on it to prevent these unwanted events.
Thats why i talked to her for a bit Tick Tock..
Mind you.. this happened to me for the first time, so i dunno the best way to do it, so i acted im what i think was right. | |
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Posted: 11/26/2005 2:40:31 AM | | No worries, mate...but you have to remember that at that age, she doesn't care what you have to say anyway...she's gonna do what she's gonna do...my suggestion..protect your ass first and foremost and cease all contact immediately...and yes, it could very well have been a "sting" | |
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Posted: 11/26/2005 2:41:33 AM | I hear ya mate..
already blocked her and protecting my ugly hairy a***.. if i have any *looks behind* sheesh | |
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Posted: 11/26/2005 3:01:13 AM | | lol thats kinda creepy.. but hey its all said and done! | |
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Posted: 11/26/2005 3:05:46 AM | Well actually it could be 2 things:
1. It could be the police hoping to catch dirty old men at what some of them do best.
2. It could be a man / woman playing a really weird joke on you.
3. Either way I would have claimed ignorance and reported to the owner of this website. Because if she was "real" then someone else might not turn her down. | |
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Posted: 11/26/2005 3:07:39 AM | | re:sting as all conversations would be recorded, her stating she initially is 18 or whatever legal age is, of no substance..if the person in question still continued after she stated she was a minor....would that not be considered intrapment? they never state a legal age | |
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Posted: 11/26/2005 3:10:34 AM | | can somone answer this for me? i know its off topic but.. why are we picking on Spartanis.. i mean he DID STOP talking to her... blocked her.. i mean its not like he went with it... and its a fair warning to others...just a question.... | |
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Posted: 11/26/2005 3:22:01 AM | Hiya,
I think you did the right thing...you didnt have a lot of time to really think about it so you did what you thought was best at the time. That is all anyone can do. You tried to highlight the danger she was putting herself into so well done you! If you even got her just thinking she might be endangering herself then you have done something right....if you had of ignored her then whats to say she wouldnt of moved on to the next person and not got someone as nice as you! At least if you got her thinking about it she may not of moved on and may just of taken some notice of you. Lets hope so :) | |
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Posted: 11/26/2005 3:25:45 AM | I'm not coming down on him.. All I was trying to get across ..from my point of view and Tick Tocks its a bit unsettling hearing that he continued to tell her the dangers of meeting a stranger for sex, and tried to counsel her. Now this may not be a popular view but oh well.. to me that sounds like 'grooming' like I said earlier.
There was no reason to keep on the phone with her. So maybe he knew it was a sting and he was only doing that so that incase it was a sting he was looking like the good guy.. I dunno, if I was the parents I would feel better knowing that the man didn't continue to talk to my daughter and did the grown up thing by calling me, and let me deal with my child.
Just think how confused this child must have been, the person she had plans on having sex no strings attached relationship with is now all of a sudden concerned for her??
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Posted: 11/26/2005 3:35:01 AM | He didnt mention talking on the phone with her....he said he didnt have her number. From what i can gather they were just talking online??? had he of spoke t her he may of realised that something wasnt quite right.
i think she would of been more messed up had he just cut her off alltogether....he was far from grooming her in my opinion, just making her aware she was putting herself in danger. He has cut all ties from her now but just becuase you are concerned for someones safety and show it it doesnt mean you are 'grooming' :o)
isnt it strange how we all percieve the same story in different ways lol | |
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Posted: 11/26/2005 3:47:17 AM | | my god its so scary.. my daughter uses the net and im sure sensibly...but like you say we can never know ...it would finnish me if something were to happen to her...i always advise her all the time and she listens ..,, but if any man posed as a teen she probs wouldnt know if he were a paedo ..or whatever ...im always on my guard with her though..i always know where she is going and who with....thanks for the warning...supa | |
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Posted: 11/26/2005 3:48:46 AM | | ^ you can buy spy software to keep track of what they're doing online...since it is such a dangerous place for kids, I don't see any ethical problems in doing so | |
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Posted: 11/26/2005 5:49:39 AM | | that is pretty f'ed up but i agree that you did the right thing... but im sure it left a bad taste in your mouth | |
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Posted: 11/26/2005 5:52:49 AM | @ Linzi....
I guess I am a little more cautious.. I never let my guard down... thats how stuff like that happens. I know better.
Lord knows when I have children Im sure I will be just as or if not more protective.
I think its very naive to just take this mans word. I watched a special on Dateline not too long ago, you would not believe what took place. They set up to have a 30 yr woman pretend to be a 13 yr old girl.. chat online, talk on the phone. (btw.. there was no entrapment) the men approached the "girl" they also set up a meeting to which they agreed to meet at this "child's" home. When they men showed up they had no idea they have been caught on camera with intentions of having a sexual encounter with a child, some brought beer, condoms, and fast food. One was a Rabbi, one was a Teacher, another was a ER Dr... you can never be too safe.
Thats all I'm trying to say.. none of us really know each other from Joe Blow down the street.
Just becareful.. don't trust just anyone because they say they are safe and take their full word. | |
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Posted: 11/26/2005 6:07:34 AM | | in the future...even if they say or are 18....ask for a note from their mommies.... | |
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