| WHAT IS IT THAT WOMEN WANT ? ? ?
Posted: 11/27/2005 6:23:05 AM | After recently coming out of a long term relationship, i decided to enter the dating minefield once again.
i Managed to dated quite a few women, all to no avail.
Im just pretty confused now, as to what exactly women want or what their expectations are from men.
it does seem like the gap between the sexes is widening. The difference is apparent.
women seem to have too high an expectation from men.
They all seem to want a George clooney, tom cruise or brad pitt lookalike, they all say oh looks are'nt important, it the personality that counts. whys that?
It seems women are the new "MEN" in our world.
Many a time, i would ask the woman i was dating, what do you want from life? time and time again they would say "i dont know what i want".
any guys out there who know the answer to my question?
Any women out there who know what it is that their own gender wants from men?
what is is that women want?
p.s ive also written to Mel Gibson! | |
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| WHAT IS IT THAT WOMEN WANT ? ? ?
Posted: 11/27/2005 6:26:19 AM | | You watch too much tv and bad movies in general. Just be yourself and treat girls how you want to be treated. There's nothing special about them, until you find the one you know is special. Relax! | |
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Posted: 11/27/2005 6:33:55 AM | no i really dont watch any bad movies on Tv atall. why are you making general assumptions about me?
I have always treated women with respect.
In some cases the more i was nice to them the more irritated they became.
One girl even turned round to me and said "stop being so nice to me all the time, your doing my head in"!!! well i was gobsmacked, and didnt know what to say or do.
what then ?
should i start behaving like a complete and utter **stard, like some guys out there, dya think i will attract more women that way?
does the 'treat em mean keep em keen' theory still work? | |
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Posted: 11/27/2005 6:41:16 AM | Love, respect and everything that is good and right in the world! Honesty, communication and long lingering passionate kisses...Did I mention hours of kissing??? Remember though...I KNOW what I want so I may not be the average woman! LOL I also want a guy to know what he wants from life...where he is going etc...
I will probably be alone forever!!! LOL
Linda  | |
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| WHAT IS IT THAT WOMEN WANT ? ? ?
Posted: 11/27/2005 6:42:07 AM | If you go all out from the beginning, there leaves no room for improvement. Maybe some of these girls think you are a spineless "yes man".
Let some of these girls do things for you. You don't have to do all the giving you know. It's a two way street. If you see yourself doing all the nice things and these girls aren't doing the same to you, move on.
If you're a giving person by nature, just hold back a bit. Let these girls show they are even worth it, otherwise you are going to feel like a burnt out toaster. | |
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| WHAT IS IT THAT WOMEN WANT ? ? ?
Posted: 11/27/2005 6:44:20 AM | | You think you are confused now... wait until you mess around and get involved with one... this little confusion you are feeling now, will come across as claravioance then! Careful what you wish for, you just may get it. | |
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| hey notaprincess
Posted: 11/27/2005 6:53:42 AM | ok, did everything except the hours and hours of kissing!
for a woman like you to be alone forever would be a crime against humanity!
thanks for you insight.
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Posted: 11/27/2005 6:54:14 AM | Why are you saying WE ALL!?
I centainly don't want a Brad Pitt lookalike!
But George Clooney can eat crackers in my bed anytime 
And just because our world has evolutionized to the point where we are not doormats anymore..if that's what you are looking for.. $5.99 at walmart!!
We know what we want really, it's just not the same thing for everyone..
And want to know what else? We know that all men desire to get laid, it's how you go about it that matters..hah hah!
P.S. WELCOME TO OUR MINEFIELD!!!!!!!!!!!!! | |
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| WHAT IS IT THAT WOMEN WANT ? ? ?
Posted: 11/27/2005 6:57:12 AM | yeah maybe your right.
cos in the past i would buy them flowers,
buy them gifts and presents, cuddly toys,
open car doors for them, open any door for them, let them go first in a queue,
be polite and considerate in all respects.
Has the world really changed that much, or is it just he people?
someone once wrote, "the species is forever changing we just dont notice it". | |
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| WHAT IS IT THAT WOMEN WANT ? ? ?
Posted: 11/27/2005 7:00:51 AM | That was Darwins younger brother...
No, doing all those things with the car door and the chairs and buying her weed... these are all still wonderful things. People havent changed, dating hasnt changed... what worked for Adam and Eve... will still work for Billy and Sue. Granted Adam didnt have a whole lot of competition... not the point I was getting at.
And regarding "Our Minefield"... whats wrong with you people? LOL... its not a minefield... it may be a MIND FIELD... but thats only because your thinking too much about it. Trust yourself, and add a little bit of that trust to humanity. We havent digressed that much! | |
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| to : hearstillopen
Posted: 11/27/2005 7:01:49 AM | No i didnt say women were doormats, and NO im not looking for a doormat actually.
why dont women like you just listen to men like me anymore and stop trying to assume and put words in our mouths and try and make us feel guilty all the time, just to make us feel worthless, and to make up for the bad way men have treated you in the past!
not all men are the same you know. | |
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| hey notaprincess
Posted: 11/27/2005 7:02:58 AM | I don't think anyone should be allowed to "date " until they hit 30.
Hang together as friends, meet in groups, etc. BUT, NO ONE-ON-ONE DATING!!!PERIOD!!!
This would give all a chance to grow up and figure out want they do want or are looking for in a mate.
and, Yes, I did date from my teenage years on up like everyone else, but as people say hindsight is 20/20.
to all who will say "yeah, but you would have missed the experiences and the learning curve" probably not missed, it just participated in a different way, and maybe found out sooner what I needed to know about life, people, and the male/female, female/male interaction process/game | |
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| WHAT IS IT THAT WOMEN WANT ? ? ?
Posted: 11/27/2005 7:12:44 AM | The two fundamental truths about women I have discovered over the years:
1. Women generally do not know what they want;
2. But they do know that what they have right now, isn't good enough and doesn't make them happy.
Ahhh, the joy of all this! 
Dale | |
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| hey notaprincess
Posted: 11/27/2005 7:26:10 AM | hey but what is one supposed to do without dating for the first 30 years?
i think most men would be rendered obselete by then anyway
you sound like yr encouraging solitary existence like buddhist monks!!!...LOL!!
so are you r need pretty simple then? | |
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| yeah thanks Dale
Posted: 11/27/2005 7:29:39 AM | i definately agree with No.1
cant do anything about No.2....Arrrrgghhhh!!!
joy?..... what joy buddy?
its turned out to be a painful lesson and experience for me.
Maybe i will go and live with buddhist monks in a remote monestary somewhere up a mountain.
Ive lost the battle and war of love! | |
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| hey notaprincess
Posted: 11/27/2005 7:30:25 AM | ^^^^^^
Yeppers!
Why do we think we NEED someone to make US happy? I just don't get it man. I have said it a billion times before: happiness comes from within, not without. Life is so much less complicated and uncompromising when you are by yourself. And I like it like that!  | |
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| yeah thanks Dale
Posted: 11/27/2005 7:52:59 AM | Farentino, you haven't lost ANYTHING! You are 25 years old. Not all women are confused as to what they want. Women do take more control these days and it is because they have been forced to by divorce, beling left single to raise children alone, bad experiences and such. Any woman expecting George Cloony or Brad Pit WILL be alone for a long time, IF she DOES find him, his ego will probably outweigh his looks, and doom the relationship anyhow. Maybe you are dating the wrong women. A few months ago I met a man who is 44, my age, who said from the start "I don't know WHAT I want, and I may NEVER know", so it isn't just women my friend. It is the way of the world unfortunatly. Everything is TOO fast paced and it has left everyone wondering what has happened to the REAL world. Good luck to you!!!! Take your time, you have plenty of it!!
Also don't stop being kind, there is a woman out there looking for YOU!!!!! Don't let the confused ones discourage you. Been there, done that, NO FUN.......
Smiles..... | |
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Posted: 11/27/2005 8:22:43 AM | Ok, well thankyou for your insight. what you say is quite interesting.
i did not realize that men also felt like that. i mean you never hear a man owning up to 'not knowing what he wants'
Yes i respect women who take control of their own lives. But im mainly talking about single women who have no attachments or responsibilites.
ofcourse looks are'nt everything yes indeed, but it does seem like they are, a complete contradiction in reality.
I mean no pretty woman is seriously going to date,marry and have kids with a really ugly guy.
but judging by what you have said...
maybe there is hope afterall !!! god bless | |
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Posted: 11/27/2005 8:33:51 AM | Of COURSE there's hope....LOTS of hope. Sometimes it is just right around the corner! NEVER give up. And again, there really are many men who don't know what they want, or so they say. Many women too. But on the flipside there are MANY who REALLY do know EXACTLY what they want and are willing to wait until they find it, but meanwhile why not just enjoy LIFE and.....KEEP IT SIMPLE....hence my ID.
Have a GREAT day!!!! | |
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| WHAT IS IT THAT WOMEN WANT ? ? ?
Posted: 11/27/2005 8:53:08 AM | | so far as I can tell what women want is to keep wanting,give them what they want from you and they move on.So I am slowing down to give them little bits at a time.Then they must come back for more.Sounds like a plan,but we will see if it works.At least in the mean time I will have one wanting and not wanting someone else.They seem to think it is a game.I don't think it is and they say they don't want to play games,but they are the game and we are the hunters.Just a little tip from your uncle Kevin.Hope you don't really have a uncle kevin. | |
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| WHAT IS IT THAT WOMEN WANT ? ? ?
Posted: 11/27/2005 9:16:44 AM |
'treat em mean keep em keen' theory still work?
Errrrm many might hate me for saying this, but in my case the answer is yes! | |
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| WHAT IS IT THAT WOMEN WANT ? ? ?
Posted: 11/27/2005 9:20:03 AM | arggghhhh !!!!
i was dreading that kind or reply!
dont hate u 4 it though.
might have to make some changes... no more mr nice guy | |
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| WHAT IS IT THAT WOMEN WANT ? ? ?
Posted: 11/27/2005 9:36:34 AM | | Crystal- I won't hate you for it, but I wouldn't want to date a gal that wants to be treated bad. Something's tweeked there. | |
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