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| Ladies: your take on short guys? [Thread CLOSED - subject matter covered]
Posted: 11/28/2005 9:23:27 PM | I'm just wondering why other women don't like short guys???
I'm not trying to rip on other women; it's only fair that we have our own physical preferences, and I'm not against that. But I am baffled why SO MANY women wrinkle their noses at certain guys for that reason alone. We're talking huge percentages here. I've made comments to girlfriends about guys we've seen being hot, and they look at me like I'm crazy and invariably follow it with an uncomplimentary comment about his height. I don't get it.
Now I know there are some women out there who will overlook shortness, even though they find it unattractive, for the right combination of other features in the complete package. But even with these women, I don't get why the shortness is considered the less attractive part of the package.
I like 'em. I think they can be darned sexy, especially when they workout and have nicely defined chest and abs.  (Where is a salivating smiley when you need one...) And when you start to get closer, it's rather enjoyable not to feel crushed by the weight of someone nearly twice as heavy as you. In the past I've dated a couple short guys with wide chests, who still weren't that heavy. I've also dated taller guys with chests about the same size who I liked, but sometimes felt like pushing them off me and taking a break from kissing, etc just due to feeling uncomfortably compressed. I'm not trying to rip on tall guys either, but I'm just saying that I think short can be a FEATURE and not a turn-off, and I don't get why other women don't like it as I do. | |
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 11/29/2005 8:49:55 AM | I have a hard time with shorter men,it does turn me off. Im only 5'3 and I seem to attract all the shorter men for that reason, but I have always adored men who were tall (5'10 and up).
We all have our own preferences surrounding what makes us tick......I cant for the like of me get turned on by a man shorter the 5'8, you can tell the difference in voice in hands etc. I guess because I am short myself I relate men being tall as being the "REAL" man.
I hope you dont get offended by this all you short men, but I am sick of having to stick up for what I find attractive. We all have our dislikes and likes and I truly believe its our make up and how our own system works, a lot of it is from child hood etc.
Tall men make me feel womanly and sexy and they make my body come to life. | |
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 11/29/2005 9:27:32 AM | well i'm not a little girl- very tall and broad shouldered and i LOVE high heel shoes. so i usually go for the taller men, cause shorter men have so many hangups with women in heels. even this one guy i went on a date with who was 5'10" - he started whining about my 4" heels!
meh... i don't look at height generally when i'm scopin out da menz. although, i do like a taller man cause when i stand next to him or when we're kissing, he's taller and bigger than me and it just feels right to me. makes me feel a little more vulnerable and at times like those, is a big turn on for me.
but no, i've dated shorter men. lots of em. lol in fact, at one point in time, my best friend (who's also tall and very curvatious) and i had been gone through a whole list of shorter men and we started joking about how we had enough between the two of us for a midget tossing league. lol all in good fun though, no offence to short men at all- sometimes hot things come in smaller packages. | |
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 11/29/2005 9:48:17 AM | ladybug, I'm not looking as much for you to defend it as to explain it.
Galaxie, okay I can understand maybe if you like feeling vulnerable. I never considered that reason, because I prefer not to feel that way.
I abhor heels because I have been genetically cursed with big flat feet, so I've never run into that issue either. As a bridemaid I had to wear them for my sister's wedding, and I ended up chucking them and going barefoot at the reception, they were so darned painful. And 4" of them...just makes me wince to think of it. | |
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 11/29/2005 9:54:02 AM | Many women won't date short men because either 1) they define their femininity by size--i.e. a woman feels less feminine if a man isn't quite a bit larger than she; this is a shame because it implies that many women do not define themselves and what they are as an attractive woman; 2) there are women out there who have never had a good relationship with their fathers so they look for a towering man--a man who reminds them of their childhood days in which they felt protected from the world because daddy was so big he could protect them from anything.
The first reason is much more prevalent than the second.
Most people, however, will ignore what I say because I'm only 5'8". Ah well. | |
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 11/29/2005 9:58:14 AM | A study revealed that taller men are offered higher starting salaries and make more money than their shorter counterparts. Kids were also shown silhouettes of a short and tall figure and asked to circle the one they thought was smarter, better looking, richer, etc. and they most circled the taller figure.
All things being equal, 5'8 is the absolute minimum for most women I know. | |
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 11/29/2005 10:13:53 AM | If more people thought about why they are attracted to certain traits, they would learn a lot about themselves. In general, however, men are the ones at fault on that point.
PrettyTough--I'm glad that no one has to tell you what you need to feel like a woman.
Star--I totally believe the study on kids' responses. But as far as the study on salary . . . I'm the shortest guy in my department, yet I make more, have more responsibility, and I tend to give people a good verbal kick in the pants around here when they need it.
Size is an attitude and I won't allow anyone to define me by my physical characteristics. And what physical characteristics you appreciate in others usually says a lot about yourself. | |
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 11/29/2005 3:11:35 PM |
there are women out there who have never had a good relationship with their fathers so they look for a towering man--a man who reminds them of their childhood days in which they felt protected from the world because daddy was so big he could protect them from anything.
Now this doesn't make sense. If she never had a good relationship with her father why would she have felt protected by him and want someone to remind her of him?
What if the girl never had a father who was able to protect her?
What if the girl never had a father?
Why wouldn't men be attracted to taller women because their mother's towered them?
As for defining my femininity against other people's size, wouldn't I then feel more or less feminine depending on who I am with at the moment. I don't feel less feminine when I'm with children and I don't feel more feminine when I am with tall men.
For that matter, I don't feel less feminine when I'm amongst other women and certainly don't feel more feminine when I am with a very tall woman.
Now if you are referring to the feeling of being protected more than feeling female, then in any event, we would all feel safer next to Andre the Giant if we are being attacked but how many of us have to worry about that happening? | |
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 11/29/2005 3:25:56 PM | I guess the many women I've talked to who have agreed to one or the other of the points are just deluding themselves.
As far as trying to have a good relationship with a father-figure because they never had a good relationship with their father--the psychological reasons should be obvious.
Are you actually trying to compare your sense of femininity to being around children and other females to that of being around a potential mate? Apples and oranges . . . and in this case, apples and orangutans. | |
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 11/29/2005 3:31:41 PM | | <--- Not attracted to shorter guys. I don't know why, and I know it's probably wrong. But that's just the way it is. | |
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 11/29/2005 3:35:56 PM | Well Im not into analyzing why Im turned on by taller men, but I am. I have been since I was in my teens. Im tired of always having to figure out why. I cant get into shorter men, they just dont do it for me and never have. I guess its the woman in me that loves a MAN to be a MAN, little hands etc just dont cut it.
My son is going to be 6 feet tall and Im cheering all the way and my daughters bf is 6'4.
I can say that I do find men who are like maybe 5'8 and really in great shape, work out and have a nice bald head with gottee and tatts, also does it for me. We ALL have our likes and dislikes, some guys dont want to date me cause im 5' 3 and they want a taller women. I love the way I have to go on my tip toes to put my arms around a taller man. I love nice strong hands and long arms. AND OH about being crushed during sex LMAO..................every heard of being on top, it is so much fun when your a petite women and your on top of a nice tall man.............
Now please dont get all offended cause Of what I said....there are guys out there that would rather have blondes then red heads and so on and to me I could care less if a man even had hair................meaning BALD HEADS are a turn on. | |
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 11/29/2005 3:51:24 PM | | July--I don't take any offense whatsoever. But I do enjoy thinking about why I am attracted to certain characteristics in women. You can learn some things about yourself just by learning why you are attracted to certain things. My last post was strong only because I'm a fan of logic, and what Deborah wrote made sense on the surface, but it made no sense once I gave it a moment of thought. | |
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 11/29/2005 4:00:07 PM | Hmmm, I never realized that women discriminate that way!! Do guys do the same thing - is that why I'm not getting any dates - I'm too damned short - huh, who'da thought!
At barely 5' my dates over the years have ranged from hardly taller than me to 6'4", so obviously I missed getting that discrimination thing
Actually, I look at guys that are over 6' and think about whether I want to look like a midget beside them, so there ya go. | |
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 11/29/2005 4:00:08 PM | Pretty Tough,
I think you show amazing insight into what you're asking here. As a 5'5 guy, what I see is that short men are usually stronger for their size than are taller men. I've seen a short person do things that would make a taller man think twice! But, with few exceptions(yourself being one), women choose to see what they want(same as men). Society, as a whole, is hung up on height. What most women don't realize is that height actually has NOTHING to do with being a good provider, protector, lover, husband, or father. It's all a sociatal pre-conceived notion. | |
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 11/29/2005 4:06:57 PM | | WHAT I dont get is why are peoples preferences either called discrimination etc etc. Are men who love big breasts discriminating............. PHEW! if I told my students that they are discriminating by having their own likes and dislikes I would lose my job. I just dont like smurfs and thats that...........whoa I cant believe how offended people get, when a man says hes not interested in me cause of my small breasts or whatever I dont say he is discriminating , its a persons choice as to what they like........get over it. | |
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 11/29/2005 4:12:08 PM | Ladybug: I've actually been sent angry letters because some shorter men thought I was discriminating against them by saying I prefer taller men.
People are just so easy to offend anymore. Preferences are preferences!! Grow up and get over it. | |
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 11/29/2005 4:12:50 PM | Wooow...looking at this post made me go "WHHATTT"
except for 'prettytough' here, some of you women are completely out of your mind and which
make people out there depressed more when they are find that women out there won't date them just for being 5'5 or below. I mean c'mon, forget what society thinks, be independent and have a mind of your own...one that being non-judgemental.
WHat's wrong with a guy 5'3 dating a girl 5'3............that cute, adorable and if your rather focus on each other and see each others sexiness in a whole unique light...you'll be a happy person !!
Everyone goes through life's struggle's, and have many stories to tell....in the end we are all different looking but same in mind and body !
By the way your attraction in a person = you can build a new attraction.
My definition of short = doesn't exist, women or men !! | |
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 11/29/2005 4:22:31 PM | good things come in little packages
they dont make diamonds as big as bricks
there are a few of the sayings we have in england
my new bloke is the most beautiful person i have ever met but as some of you would say he is slightly smaller than me sod that i love him height shouldnt matter if he was 6ft tall he would still be the same person only taller.
look beyond the height thing look at the person. | |
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 11/29/2005 4:47:51 PM | Well ladybug, I think you or any other woman can legitimately prefer tall men without it being a bad or rude type of discrimination. I don't think that every woman here expressing their interests in tall men are being obnoxious. Sometimes we just prefer things due to conditioning, without really understanding why, or we have reasons that aren't based on any intent to hurt others.
However, your comments squarely fit into the bad and rude category. Calling short men "smurfs"??? Are the small men you've seen more blue in color than taller men?? Saying "I guess its the woman in me that loves a MAN to be a MAN, little hands etc just dont cut it." indicating that shorter men aren't "real men"? What, do you think they don't have penises? Do you think they can't hold you the way you'd like to be held as a woman? That they can't be stronger than you, and stronger than taller guys? That they can't smell, taste, and behave like a man? I am every bit a woman, and I'm telling you I wouldn't like short men if they were any less masculine.
I don't call myself any more of a woman than you because my breasts are larger. Do you? After all, we both have 'em don't we??? A guy can prefer them big, or prefer them small, without categorically reducing all of the other type to "non-female" or "less-female" status.
AND OH about being crushed during sex LMAO..................every heard of being on top, it is so much fun when your a petite women and your on top of a nice tall man.
I wasn't just referring to sex. However as long as we're on the topic, maybe I would prefer to enjoy a greater variety of sexual positions without feeling crushed. | |
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 11/29/2005 4:49:45 PM | Pffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffft !!!!!!!
I'm 5'6" and can,, and have,, dropped guys over 6' on their fat assssses
So please rule out the security issue ladies as we shorties can fight and protect :-)
I would only accept the reasoning that her height was way out of my range, 5'-9" and up, and would be insulted if ANY other excuse was used - eg. I was to small to defend her LOL.
Don't get me wrong girls, if it's my head that turns you off, then that's realy the best reason and being straight up is the best way, of course the words to tell people that should always be related in a gental way, we are not machines and thus can be hurt by a mere few lines.
I don't click with large women over 60 kilo and will not date them, I will take them out for a friendship outing but would always state that I'm only into slim ladies, this is the same thing realy, and I would never tell the girl that she was too fat to fit in my car or that I could'nt afford to feed her, think about that people! because preference can easily offend others if it's not handled with respect.
This is just my way of thinking and the more I stay single, the more I learn about how cruel both genders can be.
Take care all n be safe
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| Ladies: your take on short guys?
Posted: 11/29/2005 5:23:37 PM |
I look for a mate that is genetically desirable, why settle for someone inferior?
Exactly why you should be seeking a short man. He is superior in many ways.
1) Lower resource usage
2) Smaller moment of inertia (which means stronger for the same muscle mass and better acceleration, which is why all these short guys say they can drop bigger guys. They really can).
3) Lower growth rate leads to better coordination.
4) Faster reflexes. | |
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