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Joined: 10/27/2005
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| Serious relationship after sex the first day?
Posted: 11/29/2005 9:34:31 AM | | I have had a serious relationship with someone like that. That is why I can tell you that I dont think so. Its just too quick. And my experience was that she felt very hot for me on the first meeting, and I honestly did not expect it would go that far. Anyway, it did. Well, it turned out that my ego got in the way and I assumed that I was the only one she ever felt that turned on for on the first meeting. Wrong. As it turned out, she did that alot. But the other thing I will say though is that, it took two to tango and I could have said no. So, my fault as much as hers but later, she did that with other guys while I was still with her. I didnt. In that sense, I guess I feel a sense of moral high ground but at the same time, I feel a little guilty judging people by how fast they have sex. | |
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| Serious relationship after sex the first day?
Posted: 11/29/2005 9:48:41 AM | I think it depends on both individuals TRUE intent... I would be lying if I said it's not possible.. I know for a fact that it can grow into something else... but you better believe the odds are stacked against one another... If you both agree after the fact, that you want to get to know each other for more than sex, then yes... it could very well evolve into something else... But it has to be a mutual intent to WANT to know the person. I mean, you both have the attraction thing down for sure  But if one or the other is having doubts about the other person being "out there like that" then no.. it wouldn't work out. Simply becasue there is always a nagging doubt, and when doubt enters any relationship it's headed for destruction. Just my two pesos. | |
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| Serious relationship after sex the first day?
Posted: 11/29/2005 9:52:42 AM | | No because you dont know that person. All you know is that they have a good****or a good ****. How can you have a serious relationship that is based on sex? You can't. | |
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| Serious relationship after sex the first day?
Posted: 11/29/2005 10:01:48 AM | Depends on whether shes a hoe!!!! because if so, then no!!! couldnt trust her, but if she were decent and respectable then yes I cant see why not, all depends on the situation at hand I think!!!!!
Sex is good and sex is great and it is also a necessity for a relationship to survive, but if you go into a relationship with someone I dont believe it should be based on sex at all when going into a relationship it should be based on each others personalities, attractions and connections to each other, I say it shouldnt be based on sex at all because what I mean in that regard is that I personally wouldnt start a relationship just over the fact that I had sex with a women, because if I screwed a chick on the first night or 6mths from when we first met I wouldnt change a thing, I could equally have as much chance in a successful relationship either way!!!!!
Think about it!!! 60 something % of all marriages end up in divorce, so think about all those people and think whether they broke up because they had sex the first day they met, doesnt happen, they divorce each other because they cant stand to be with one another due to conflicts of intrests which turns there relationship into a dysfunctional relationship then because its escalated so much and to much waters past they end up forced to part ways, sex shouldnt be the decision maker is what Im trying to explain!!!!! | |
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| Serious relationship after sex the first day?
Posted: 11/29/2005 10:08:16 AM |
Does anyone think that one can have a serious relationship with someone they have had sex with within the first day or week that they met?
Yes. The relationship lasted 4 years and we had sex on the first day. We also got back together when I finished school and tried again for another 4 years. Sad but true. | |
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| Serious relationship after sex the first day?
Posted: 11/29/2005 11:09:33 AM | | i think its possible to have a serious relationship after having sex early in a relationship. it just depends on if the people are adult enough to handle the situation. but i think most things are most promising if u can wait. | |
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AI03™
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Joined: 5/3/2005
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| Serious relationship after sex the first day?
Posted: 11/29/2005 11:14:24 AM | | Anything is possible in a relationship as long as both partners see eye to eye... Anything is possible! Even two crack addicts can have a serious relationship... The world is a crazy place! | |
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| Serious relationship after sex the first day?
Posted: 11/29/2005 11:19:19 AM | | It is very possible as long as you find there are other reasons you enjoy each other's company besides sex. Of course it also brings around serious trust issues. It is harder to feel secure about someone you know is willing to have sex with someone they hardly know. Makes those times you work late look that more suspicious if you have already shown you get naked quick and easy. | |
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| Serious relationship after sex the first day?
Posted: 11/29/2005 2:24:35 PM | | Well, see, my point is a little like the guy who said it depends on if she is a ho!! I mean, how do you determine that and does it not possibly give you that impression if someone sleeps with you the first time out. Does it not indicate that, given the op, they may be just like that around someone else. The answer is I dont know, but I have been burnt and tainted enough to the point where no one is getting in my pants the first time out.....So, I guess I am easy, just not THAT easy | |
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| Serious relationship after sex the first day?
Posted: 11/29/2005 3:33:02 PM | Does anyone think that one can have a serious relationship with someone they have had sex with within the first day or week that they met?
Sorry I'm late...
I was working on chapter 17 and got involved and completely missed questions concerning POF rules..Im trying to catch up...
ok....
The POF Dating Handbook states (and I quote)
'You must wait at least 3 weeks and 2 days before having sex in order for a fruitful long term relationship to form...'
Again, I apologize for the delay....If you need quicker answers, please email me privately and I can provide you with an advance copy of the book..just disregard any spelling errors.... | |
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| Serious relationship after sex the first day?
Posted: 11/29/2005 3:59:22 PM | | He forgot the addendum to that rule- during said waiting period, there must be at least two dinners, several alcoholic beverages, and multiple phone calls telling object of your affection how beautiful they are. | |
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| Serious relationship after sex the first day?
Posted: 11/29/2005 4:05:48 PM |
He forgot the addendum to that rule- during said waiting period, there must be at least two dinners, several alcoholic beverages, and multiple phone calls telling object of your affection how beautiful they are.
I havent even begun working on the addendums yet.....
cut me some slack... | |
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