| Why do guys always do this to me? Does anyone else have this problem?...
Posted: 11/29/2005 4:41:31 PM | | They seem to like me okay for awhile but then they eventually just all of a sudden start ignoring me? Why do people do that? I was seeing this guy for almost a month and he told me he loved me...he really seemed to care about me...until yesterday. I don't know what happened. I was with him all weekend and everything seemed fine until yesterday morning. Sunday night he told me he loved me & missed me and that he would call me before I left for work Monday morning and I haven't heard from him since! And I know he's been signing online...I just don't get it. :( Why do people do this? How can anyone love someone one day and the next just completely ignore them? :( This is a horrible feeling. | |
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| Why do guys always do this to me? Does anyone else have this problem?...
Posted: 11/29/2005 5:05:20 PM | | there are one of two reasons hes doing this. One reason is that he just doesnt want you. I know its hard to hear but it is likely the truth. The second reason is that he still wants you but is playing mind games to make you want him more. All part of the game i guess althogh i dont believe in that shit. Anywayz most guys have no game so its probably the first one so if a girl did that to me i would question her about it and if it continued any more her ass would be dumped. | |
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| Why do guys always do this to me? Does anyone else have this problem?...
Posted: 11/29/2005 6:12:49 PM | Sometimes guys do really love you but they have relationship problems with serious commitments and they get scared... so they push away what they love. I think he is attracted to you... just afraid of what he loves. Lots of guys, I think, have this problem. It happened with my ex and I and we were together for 7 months.
Good luck! <3 | |
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| Why do guys always do this to me? Does anyone else have this problem?...
Posted: 11/29/2005 7:32:15 PM | Sometimes guys do really love you but they have relationship problems with serious commitments and they get scared... so they push away what they love
PLease do not buy into nonsense like that quoted above - this is just drool women want to believe becuase they need an non-harsh excuse for being dumped.
My guess is that you were too needy/clingy - or that you put out a few times, and he was done with you.
Either way, big mistake - you're pretty cute! | |
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Posted: 11/29/2005 7:39:53 PM | | You have to read the book "Why Men Love ****es". It's empowering and you have to follow it to the tee. In short - live for yourself not for anyone else. You see woman are naturally unselfish so you have to work on being selfish and think only about yourself so to speak. I loved the book - it helped me enormously and I hope it helps you too. | |
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| Why do guys always do this to me? Does anyone else have this problem?...
Posted: 11/29/2005 8:11:04 PM | | I have had that happen to me a few times by the same guy on here and usually those kinds of guys have s ome sort of issue,whether it is confusion or they are just a plain coward.It hurts for a while knowing someone would just ignore you like that but it is best to just move on and leave them to their own and let them wonder why they'll never find a good person for themselves.I can say after just moving on and getting rid of the tears over the guy who hurt me like that,I realized he was not worth my time and now I have a wonderful man in my life who is genuiene and for real and I look back and see that the jackass I dated before is still single and I shake my head and go..he has to figure things out on his own... | |
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| Why do guys always do this to me? Does anyone else have this problem?...
Posted: 11/30/2005 8:26:12 AM |
The second reason is that he still wants you but is playing mind games to make you want him more. All part of the game i guess althogh i dont believe in that shit. Anywayz most guys have no game so its probably the first one so if a girl did that to me i would question her about it and if it continued any more her ass would be dumped.
I've kinda wondered that...he's the type who likes to joke around about everything and had even said he's going to play jokes on me, scare me, and things like that and I've wondered if I'll hear from him in a few days and if he'll just say "I was just joking around; I still love you"....but really I don't think it will happen... and if that is the case I would be pissed because I haven't been able to sleep or eat the past almost 3 days now... and I've cried so much... and I've tried every way possible to talk to him and I can't get ahold of him. Apparently he's blocked my # on his cell phone, his home phone is always busy, and he wont answer my emails...the only way I could talk to him is to show up at his house...which I would if it wasn't so far away but I don't want to drive an hour and 1/2 just for him to tell me he doesn't want me, or he may not even be there anyway...or worse, find him there with another girl. Either way I'd have a hard time driving back home because I don't do well with anything when I'm upset.  | |
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| Why do guys always do this to me? Does anyone else have this problem?...
Posted: 11/30/2005 8:31:59 AM |
Sometimes guys do really love you but they have relationship problems with serious commitments and they get scared... so they push away what they love. I think he is attracted to you... just afraid of what he loves. Lots of guys, I think, have this problem. It happened with my ex and I and we were together for 7 months.
Good luck! <3
thanks... i don't think he really meant what he said now though....now that i think back to this weekend i don't think he was being honest about much of anything now. i think he was hinting that he wanted me to go home instead of spending the night with him, but i didn't even realize it until yesterday. i guess i should have realized when he made me sleep in a car...but i cared about him so much that i didn't care where i slept. | |
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| Why do guys always do this to me? Does anyone else have this problem?...
Posted: 11/30/2005 8:34:50 AM |
PLease do not buy into nonsense like that quoted above - this is just drool women want to believe becuase they need an non-harsh excuse for being dumped.
My guess is that you were too needy/clingy - or that you put out a few times, and he was done with you.
Either way, big mistake - you're pretty cute!
Actually he was the one who was needy/clingy, if either of us were...that's why this makes no sense. He was the one who called me constantly and the one who usually had the idea for us to get together for the weekend and stuff...it's like he just became a whole different person overnight or something. | |
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| Why do guys always do this to me? Does anyone else have this problem?...
Posted: 11/30/2005 8:36:25 AM |
You have to read the book "Why Men Love ****es". It's empowering and you have to follow it to the tee. In short - live for yourself not for anyone else. You see woman are naturally unselfish so you have to work on being selfish and think only about yourself so to speak. I loved the book - it helped me enormously and I hope it helps you too.
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| Why do guys always do this to me? Does anyone else have this problem?...
Posted: 11/30/2005 8:40:09 AM |
You are smothering them, back off.
uhh no I wasn't. Like I said he was the one who was always calling me and stuff(though I loved it...cause I was crazy about him and I loved getting so much attention from him. Nobody had ever given me that much attention before, ever)...that's why this all makes no sense. He seemed sooo interested in me and then it was like overnight he just changed completely. | |
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| Why do guys always do this to me? Does anyone else have this problem?...
Posted: 11/30/2005 8:42:57 AM |
maybe they like your physical looks, but realise you guys dun click after that? :|
he told me i was beautiful every day... and we didn't have much in common but he didn't seem to have a problem with that and neither did i...i was crazy about him and he seemed to feel the same way about me until now. | |
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Posted: 11/30/2005 8:44:55 AM |
May I suggest picking up a copy of "He's Just Not That Into You"
It'll give you all the answers.
thanks...do they really do things like this that make them seem insane though? it still makes no sense for somebody to say 'i love you' and really seem to mean it and then then you never hear from them again. | |
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| Why do guys always do this to me? Does anyone else have this problem?...
Posted: 11/30/2005 8:48:33 AM |
I have had that happen to me a few times by the same guy on here and usually those kinds of guys have s ome sort of issue,whether it is confusion or they are just a plain coward.It hurts for a while knowing someone would just ignore you like that but it is best to just move on and leave them to their own and let them wonder why they'll never find a good person for themselves.I can say after just moving on and getting rid of the tears over the guy who hurt me like that,I realized he was not worth my time and now I have a wonderful man in my life who is genuiene and for real and I look back and see that the jackass I dated before is still single and I shake my head and go..he has to figure things out on his own...
yeah it is a very cowardly thing to do...the least they could do is tell you they don't want to see you anymore. and this guy claimed he was such an honest person--'too honest', he said...ha! i actually believed that because he was very outspoken and that's one of the things i liked about him so much. but now i know he isn't nearly as honest as i thought. | |
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| Why do guys always do this to me? Does anyone else have this problem?...
Posted: 11/30/2005 8:51:25 AM | "i guess i should have realized when he made me sleep in a car...but i cared about him so much that i didn't care where i slept."
Wow.....he made you sleep in the car? No one deserves that. Especially if he says he "loves you". You deserve to be treated better. I know it hurts, I have experienced the "dissappearing act" myself and it sucks, but treat yourself with more respect and expect the same from others.
Hang in there! | |
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| Why do guys always do this to me? Does anyone else have this problem?...
Posted: 11/30/2005 9:20:01 AM | | some ppl do this when they don't know what the want in life single ? or with someone ?....maybe there just wasn't a click there and he didn't want to hurt you face to face.....maybe something happened in his family and he hasn't had time to call you......sounds like he used and abused you to get what he wanted until someone else came along .....he probably said he loved you but deep down really " no " ........or he left knowing she's getting attached i better pull away....some ppl run when they sense ppl are falling for them to hard.......your a beautful girl go fish girl | |
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