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Posted: 11/30/2005 6:46:07 PM | First off I'm really sorry this is so long but I think it's worth the read so if you are patient and can bare with me...I'd appreciate it.
Have you ever seen someone repeatedly throughout your daily travels for a long long time and always felt incredibly drawn to them but you were just feet apart from ever being introduced or it just never happens?
I've had this experience going on for months now. A guy (I have no idea who he is) and I have been exchanging glances for the longest time...he is so unbelievably man! Ugh! Anyway...this is funny.
Today, I think he was FINALLY trying to make his move. He followed me into the coffee shop...no go, the line up was horrendous and he stood at the other counter, watching me and I could feel him like a bolt of lightning...but no opportunity. I walk out to the bus station and he had left before me since his line up was faster LOL...anyway, he goes to his usual stop. I go to my usual stop. We both wait for our buses to arrive. I walk by him to get to mine...the big eye contact thing...oh yeah...keep walking. (weak at the knees)
I get to my stop, light a cig and wait. Loe and behold, guess who starts to move toward my stop...and sits there playing around with his cell phone. I'm thinking "whoa, this is a brazen move"...here it comes. Well he is just about to approach me when "Hey Corinne! How's it going???" OUt of the freaking blue my old neighbour (he's a guy) comes over and starts chatting. Hunky moves back a bit, and continues to toy with his cell phone...damn!
So I'm thinking Peter will eventually go elsewhere after we've caught up, but NO! He stays and chats with me...my ciggie is out now...ugh! Hunky is still waiting there...I'm thinking he might hop my bus. Hmmmm...
So, finally Peter steps back and bit, I'm technically alone...phew! Ok Hunky...time to make your move, I'm ready for ya...Bomb! The security guard suddenly walks up "Hey Corinne! How are things? Hey guess what...I'm dating that girl you were saying was bad news!" And then proceeds to tell me that this guy who was stalking me has landed himself in jail and blah blah blah... ARGH Freaking argh!!!! Hunky steps back again...dammit, poor guy! This guy is determined...what a trooper.
The bus arrives, I say my goodbyes to Randy and Peter is boarding the same bus as I am. Hunky looks like he may just reneg on the idea but waits until EVERYONE has boarded the bus and suddenly gets on! I'm thinking woah...he's going to make his move now...I make sure I make a seat available next to me...hunky decides to be the only one standing!ACK!
How dare he parade himself in front of me that way! I was nearly drooling...how dare he! LOL! So he won't take the seat, ok, admittedly that would take guts...true. I suspect I'm the reason he's there in the first place...hmmm.
No biggy, I figure he is going to just stand there till the bus starts to empty and then make his move...ahhhh but wait! This other guy ( I had no idea he was even on the bus when I got on) who's had a "thing" for me suddenly takes the freaking seat next to me and starts asking me a zillion questions "How've you been? How are the kids?" Ack!!!! My panties are wet dammit, leave me alone. I'm figuring hunky is probably wondering how long a string of men he would have to go through before he could get a chance to even say hello ...hahahaha...it was ridiculous! On any other day...but NOOOOO it had to go that way today.
So I figure, frig this...I'll make the move...it's obvious we have a "thing" for each other so why not...so he gets off at a stop (before mine) and Peter also happens to be going to the same store I need to go to...so we get out of the bus together and I'm thinking how I can get hunky in a corner all to myself LOL! He meanders around the parking lot for a spell while I chit chat with Peter...small talk...blah blah argh! I go into the store.
FINALLY...hunky walks into the store...oh my gosh, I'm going to explode! He walks right up to me, and I swear he was so close he probably took DNA with him, looks me hard in the eye...and my clothes nearly fell off and then walks off with that smile! I have a feeling it's not the last I'll be seeing of hunky..sigh. What a day!
Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh...
So, have any of you got stories like this? That attraction that just won't come to fruition...I mean we have practically had sex with each other through our eyes alone...it's pathetic...and then all this interference today...what? is the universe not on my side here?
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Posted: 11/30/2005 6:58:41 PM | | I just have to say I LOVED reading your story!! Very "Bridget Jones' Diary". LOL! | |
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Posted: 11/30/2005 7:24:26 PM | Oh man it was the most frustrating experience I have ever had. I was trying to figure out, why are the fates against me on this one? Dang it! We were so darn close...it was palpable. I kept wishing I could just say "would you bugger off" to the men who kept chatting with me the whole time. I mean what are the odds of that happening? Really? It was the most retarded thing I have ever experienced.
Hey, I know it took gumption for him to approach me and I know he was about to do/say something...I could feel it.
As if he would even dare though...wondering, what's with all these guys she's talking to? This is where I hate being so congenial LOL...I would have been better off if I knew no one today! At least hunky and I could have gotten the scoop on each other. It's not often I'm attracted to someone this way. | |
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Posted: 11/30/2005 7:25:42 PM | | Blast.....why didn't you just say something to him??!!! I was waiting for that part at the end of the story!!!! | |
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Posted: 11/30/2005 7:47:59 PM | Oh , yes well I couldn't. See, he walked past me swiftly and just as he did, the lady at the counter asked if she could help me and I had to place my order. By time I was done, Hunky was leaving the store.
We've been very patient. I'm not worried. If Hunky and I are meant to meet and talk, we will...all in due time. I love the anticipation and this thick chemistry. But you have to admit, this was a very unusual scenario!  | |
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Posted: 11/30/2005 7:52:39 PM | | Yes, yes it was. It made for a very enjoyable story. Wouldn't it be funny if you find out tomorrow the man can't actually speak english, and that's why he hasn't approched you yet!! You HAVE heard him speak to someone haven't you? ;) LOL, keep us posted Blast...it's just like a soap opera and I'm waiting for the next installment! | |
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Posted: 11/30/2005 8:01:17 PM | | LOL he speaks english I'm sure! I've only ever seen him with companions once and that's it. He's quiet it seems, the strong silent type I think. It would be nice to at least get the first conversation down.It was the first time I've had a closeup of his eyes...damn they were blue as the sea! I could barely get out of the lock that time ...phewey! | |
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Posted: 11/30/2005 8:02:06 PM | Woo-hooooooo!!! OMG what a fascinating story!!!! Chemistry is a beautiful thing isn't it???? Once upon a time, I had a spark lie that with a stranger, but nothing ever happened with it!!!!! Best of luck!!! The next time, should you see Peter, whisper and tell him you have a scrching case of strep and you are highly contagious, he may wanna keep his distance and be on his way....................that way you can open the door to hunky!!!!! Good lukc, keep me posted! | |
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Posted: 11/30/2005 8:21:44 PM | Hahaha...thanks Kat.
Herein lies my quandry. I'm very outgoing and so I have many many acquaintances (after today, I'm thinking maybe too many LOL) and as a result, when I do go out, so many people know me that it's hard for me to ever be caught alone. So, if a man ever does want to approach me, he's usually deterred by someone already chatting with me, although they are merely an acquaintance, they possibly get deterred...so that's a real bummer.
I don't go out to bars a lot. Really not my oft scene, but when I do, same thing...I get a whole bunch of guys asking me to dance or just hanging out with me (guys I am acquainted with) that I never get approached.
It sucks large. 
Oh and Peter, poor Peter LOL...he must have been wondering, what is in her knickers that she is so evasive today. There was just no way I could get around having the conversation as he was inquisitive about my kids and how they were doing, and so on...just that kind of conversation you can't just say, gotta go as we needed to be there for the bus...I was trapped! LOL! | |
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Posted: 11/30/2005 8:57:51 PM | know the feeling of being feet away from someone only not to be introduced to them.... but i only found out when i started seeing my now partner....
i was 5months pregnant when he contacted me thru icq... and he told me he was moving up from sydney to brissy... i had told him i just moved back to brissy from sydney only a few months ago... so months went we kept talking etc.. wasnt until my son was 9months old did i meet him in person... thats when i found out we use to go to the same bars.. i was telling him of this one time i went to a bar with a girlfriend of mine... as i had worked 15hours every day thru the whole olympics...i missed alot... when i was going home i would be surrounded by the... aussie aussie aussie oi oi oi... and every other country that was stragging down the street... so as i was telling him of this one night about how this guy... was bloody tall... my friend and i came up to this guys navel.. (serious)... he was chatting to us as the drunked fool he was... was picking on us being so short...lol... anyways.. then my partner finished the story.. and said.. he knelt down on his knees coz this tall guy was getting a sore neck looking down at us... then his girlfriend pulled him up chatting to 2 strange chicks.. i had asked my partner... why didnt i see you that night.. he said i was with my friends and my gf at the time... didnt even see him go to the loo.. as that is the end of the bar my friend and i were drinking... anyways...
i applied for a job at the commonwealth bank as a customer service person... i couldnt find the place... they gave me the wrong address.. so didnt get it... my partner was working for that bank at the time... so i wouldve been working with him if i did find the place....
when we did meet it was like we had known each other forever... but we broke up due to outside personal problems... now 2years we are back together... and im still finding out we have been in the same place at the same time but never had meet... but... he has met my friend i took to that bar... apparently... she has tried to crack onto him on several occasions but he has knocked her back...lol...
we still to this day ask... why didnt we meet when we were living in sydney... we cant answer that.... but... we have now up here in brisbane... and nothing could be better...
blast.... i think next time you see him... go up and say something to him... throw him off guard...lol... | |
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Posted: 11/30/2005 9:03:45 PM | Wow, great story! Hey, I would! Trust me I would! There just wasn't one single moment in there that I could! He knows my attraction is obvious, I mean when I give you the eyes, I give you the eyes and you just KNOW. He has caught on. He has done the reciprocating glance. Not sure if he's single, I'm assuming so since he is always by himself. I think he gets off work at the hour we see each other most often.
I don't know...something about him. I can't really put my finger on it but I will find out. I've had a feeling about him ever since the first time I saw him. I was struck hard. Totally unlike me. It's just not my way generally speaking.
We'll see what happens. Like I said I'm very patient and apparently the interest remains despite months of this back and forth chemistry. It's getting pretty thick though...damn he's fine! At least to me, he is soooo fine! LOL!
But who knows, I could finally get to know him and find out he's not a very good prospect...and it would have just been lust and nothing more. Sigh...LOL! | |
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Posted: 11/30/2005 9:20:07 PM | LOL... if he turns out to be a dud... just think about all those glances you have wasted on him....lol... it could be a pure lust thing.... i remember when i was like 22 or something... i was at this bar... i too like you... always have people around chatting catching up... its like ya own personal little party and everyone has come to see you... anyways... this guy finally cornered me at the bar.. we started talking... he didnt know which drink was which.. rum or bourbon.. me and my nose can pick them apart... so i told him... i saw he had spilt some on his fingers... so.. hmmmm... sucked it off....lol... 10mins later and after we had finished our drinks.. went back to his place.... DUD... it was just a pure attaction to him i had... dont regret it.... not many people can say they scored a night with one of the hottest guys in the pub...lol..
but hun... make sure ya dont wait too long... you know the chase can be fun... but once ya have it ya mighten want it anymore....lol... | |
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Posted: 11/30/2005 9:33:31 PM | Yes I can so relate to your story Blast.
Picture it.....1980 was dating a guy for about 6 months, but the relationship had gotten a tad stale, so I sugested we go out to a dance with my best friend and her hubby.
I love to dance but he wouldn't get up and dance, so I was having a miserable night, growing roots to my chair. He got up to go to the washroom and was only gone maybe about 10 minutes, but I suddenly feel someone staring at me. I looked around and looked into the darkest intense pair of eyes and a fantastic smile. I smiled back, and whispered to Patty that if Gordie and I breakup, I'm gonna hunt that man down. Well the ding dong goes and repeats that to my b/f, who splits with me on the spot. He even left me there with them, the cad!! I wasn't really bothered by that, butwas bothered that my new objet a desire had disappeared also. Dang!! I've always gone after what I wanted in life, and he was what I wanted.
A few months later and my X has been chasing my younger sister, unbeknownst to anyone that we were related, nor did I know that the new man had already dated the said younger sister, again he didn't know we were related either.
One night, I went out barhopping with another g/f and we were just going down the stairs to this one bar called the Cave, when my man Mark heads straight up the stairs at me. It was a fairy tale romance for over a year we were inseparable. He was really built with those tight jeans on and knew how to dress, that showed off his best assets..... mmmmmm he was yummy. We only discovered about my sister and I having exchanged b/fs about 3 months into our relationship. and my sis stopped speaking to me for years afterwards, though she married my X and made me her maid of honor to punish me I think? LoL They're still married, but my mantoy went off into the wild blue yonder, in search of something he already had, but didn't see it.
Oh yeah, I almost forgot. I had my appendix almost blow on meabout 2 weeks after we found each other, so I'm in ER, and I have this little chinese doctor doing the examination, with this little wee curtain separating the world from viewing anything. He kept asking me in the cutest chinese accent voice, quite loudly if I was pregnant. He must have asked at least 4 times, and I yelled back that there was NO WAY!!!
He's satisfied finally and goes to leave the room pulling the curtain back....there's my Mark sitting on a chair , and had heard the whole thing....I was mortified!!!
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Posted: 11/30/2005 10:05:30 PM | Wow that one sounds like a soap opera...you should get TV rights! LOL!
I have no idea where this thing will go but it's fun to ride the wave.
Interesting how few have posted on this thread. Guess it's not something that happens often or they just don't want to talk about it? No clue.
Interesting thing though, haven't gotten one email since I've posted this. I must admit, I'm enjoying the break in that sense. How interesting huh? | |
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Posted: 11/30/2005 10:16:15 PM | the only thought that has gone thru my head was.... when you do talk to him... what if when he opens his mouth and he has a voice of a girl.????.... that would so put me off big time....
also i was thinking again... maybe you should drop like a personal number of yours infront of him... like it just fell out of a book or something...lol... maybe he will ring you.. seeing as he was playing with his phone... he might have been giving you the... hey whats ya number... see my phone... its ready to make a call to you...lol... | |
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Posted: 11/30/2005 10:21:05 PM | I had considered that. I think if I had just winded up standing there by myself as originally planned ...LOL...we would have approached each other at some point. That was the irony of the whole situation...nothing opened up for us.
The problem is, I don't want to give out my # to a man I don't know yet. I don't want to invite attention from someone I'm purely attracted to in a physical way. I still have no idea what he is really like or who he really is. It may not even go anywhere, it may be nothing...know what I mean?
If it's an intended thing, I will bide my time and wait. It'll happen if and when it's meant to happen...LOL...and hopefully next time I won't be surrounded by men!
And OMG...it would so suck if he had a girlie voice! Ahhhhh...God no please!!! LOL!I doubt it though, he really is so delicious looking. Mmmm I'll bet he has the voice of an angel...a very MALE angel LOL!
I do so enjoy this playful exchange though. In a sense I don't want it to end. I never know on what days he'll just be there and it's always fun to see what's going to come next. | |
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Posted: 11/30/2005 10:39:44 PM | lol. very male angel...lol... im tellin ya.... i have seen the hottest guys.. but once they open their mouths... all the attraction has gone... they either have a very slow voice and dont sound well educated... or yes... on many occasion a girly voice...i have had to look twice to see if it was the chick he was standing next to talking...my eyes have never popped out of my head so far in my life... thats nearly as bad as guy one night came up to me and said... you want to see my prince albert... i think i shocked him more... coz i said yes flop it out...lol... he had been asking every woman in the joint if they wanted to see and they all shyed aways.... go figure.. he shyed away too... so i dont think he really had one...lol...
nothing wrong with giving your number out.. you can always buy a phone with credit on it... so its not your truely personal one... and you can let it rung out if he does turn out to be the fantasy gone wrong...
you can also see if he is a smart man... write down a few numbers on a piece of paper... and drop it... every once in awhile when you do see him... drop the next few numbers until you have dropped all the phone number...lol... if he adds all up and knows he would then ring...
or... the real simple one... you see him at the bus stop... from afar.. you run up to the stop.. and say... have i missed it????...lol..always a sure way to start up a convo....
although you like the playful exchanges...just leave it at that have i missed it question... | |
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Posted: 11/30/2005 10:54:28 PM | | lol..Blastkist....hilarious....that must of been sooooo frustrating.....but if you hook up, it will keep you both smiling ... good luck with him | |
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Posted: 11/30/2005 11:33:47 PM | I'm still at you callng him "hunky"... you tell a great story, felt I was right there watchin it all!!! Keep us updated !  | |
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Posted: 12/1/2005 12:41:19 AM | Funny story with shy boy you have there, I think you need to initiate, what if he has given up on the idea of asking? I find as a man that every second past ten seconds makes it twice as hard to ever talk to a girl, how many times I wished I had said something and so on, next time you see him …
…Use the best pick up line ever “hey how’s it going’” make sure to smile at him conspiratorially, what ever he says next wait for three seconds, let the smile fade, bring the smile back and ask him playfully if he is stalking you, you see him around all the time and you thought you would introduce yourself. I mean what could possibly go wrong.
That’s what I would do anyhow. | |
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Posted: 12/1/2005 9:49:37 AM | Pan...I am of the standpoint that the one who is least assertive needs to be the one to be the most assertive. I am all about growth and good changes take a measure of risk.
Him approaching me (although he may be shy or not certain of what my eye contact means) is not a game I'm playing with him...it is a standpoint I have when it comes to a man. Confidence, as we all know is a very important element for a man's sense of self-esteem and if I deny him the opportunity of demonstrating his interest, I have taken the hunter out of his soul. I wouldn't want to do that.
Nor am I truly interested in a man who can't make the approach. I love that brazen personality that is willing to take absolute risks for what he wants. It is very becoming to me.
Yes, I could approach him and deny him the opportunity to take a risk and develop further confidence. I don't struggle as much with confidence as many do. I have a lack of confidence in some areas but that isn't one of them. The strongest males always wait patiently even though she may be surrounded by other males. He hasn't puffed up his feathers yet...so to speak LOL!
He was the hunter and I was his prey. It was stimulating, arousing, and I suspect by the look on his face, he found it exciting just as much as I did. I won't deny him a good hunt...and I wouldn't hear of taking the lead when it is in a man's soul to be the leader.
His approach will not be met with a sudden rejection and I think he knows this about me. He sees how congenial I am and he has seen how popular I seem to be within my environment so if he really truly wants to know me...he will decide when the time is right...I won't rob him of that.
Does that make sense? There is a certain beauty in the animal instincts we still carry. There is a magic in the pursuit of a male toward the female he selects. Our attraction may be purely based on lust, I mean we know nothing about each other besides what we've observed. Sometimes, this kind of thing is meant to be nothing more than an attraction that you enjoy and savour. Sometimes it is meant to be more. I will trust that process.
I have faith in him that if he really is interested...he'll make his move when he feels ready to take that risk. He won't be shot down...that's for sure. I would however, like the opportunity to know more about this man and why I'm so drawn to him. It may not be about much more than our instinctual drives. He personifies the Alpha Male...he just has that air about him.
If I approach him, I rob him of the development of his confidence growing. I won't do that to any man...I believe that is a mistake too many women make and then they wonder why the man they were attracted to becomes passive and lacks resolve.
If he doesn't approach me, he will simply lose his opportunity. I'll let him decide. | |
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Posted: 12/1/2005 9:52:33 AM | | I'm just trying to figure out where the hell your stop is and try to be there next time | |
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Posted: 12/1/2005 10:16:32 AM | Hahah!^^^^There you go...see? That's the hunter mentality by instinct! Thanks for demonstrating that 7times.
To the men...tell me something please. When you have watched her in her surroundings...your interest is aroused, you feel drawn to her...she gives a little...you get a little...you give a little...it escalates. It's not the deer that was grazing out in the open that is the most interesting and thrilling hunt...it is the one who is hard to get in the right spot...you can't get that perfect aim but you want her...your instinctual drives kick in and you patiently work the hunt...
Tell me when you have caught that deer that you don't feel much luckier and much more skilled for having accomplished it? Huh? Come on guys, admit it, you don't want easy women...you want the one that will give you a challenge. Most men who were willing to truly share openly with me about this say that's how it is most rewarding.
You don't hear about the fish you catch easily...you hear about the one that got away all the time...the whopper...the one you worked diligently to catch...and when you do...now THAT is a fish you remember forever. | |
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Posted: 12/1/2005 10:26:33 AM | | Hi Blastkist, An interesting story. I think things similar have happened to many people. I've had things like that happen to me too. If I was you, I'd take the bull by the horns, pardon the expression , and just say "Hi" to him one day. Then the ice is broken. It COULD be that with all of the other male attention he sees you getting, that he's just not sure what to do. I've had attractive women, like yourself, approach me, and I was thrilled. I bet he would be too! | |
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Posted: 12/1/2005 10:28:09 AM | sounds like hunky may be married and is cheating with his eyes. maybe if you finally meet you'll find the truth... drop a hankie? your books... right at his feet and see what happens. just remember all the movies like fatal attraction or the one with diane lane and that french hunk...it never ends well...  | |
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