| My first friends with benefits experience
Posted: 12/4/2005 11:08:36 PM | | I have a "friend with benefits". I have never done this before, but it seems to be working out okay for me. The only thing that concerns me about this is he seems to call and write me at least 3 to 4 times a day. Is this normal? | |
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Okole
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Joined: 12/3/2005
Msg: 4 | |
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| My first friends with benefits experience
Posted: 12/4/2005 11:21:10 PM | | I had someone to ask me be their friends with benefits the other day. For me though I just worry emotions will get involved for him or for me. So gonna pass... | |
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| My first friends with benefits experience
Posted: 12/4/2005 11:24:11 PM | | I like your replies on most of the other threads. You seem very centered. I guess I am so new to this concept that I feel a tad guilty for dating other people. I don't want to hurt his feelings. | |
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| My first friends with benefits experience
Posted: 12/4/2005 11:53:31 PM | | If he really is your friend then you should be able to share your concern with him and work out what would make you comfortable because obviously you are not comfortable with the frequent contact. It does seem though that this guy is more obsessed with you and it's much more than an f/b to him. You really need to talk to him and come to an acceptable mutual agreement. Like would he be cool with you spending time with other men too? If not, then he's not just an f/b and you need to determine if he means more to you or not. You just need to be on the same page otherwise it will cause awkwardness, resentment, and frustration. That's tough on any friendship and you could lose the friendship, so work it out soon I hope. | |
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| My first friends with benefits experience
Posted: 12/4/2005 11:57:43 PM | This is not normal, the whole thing w/fwb, is you don't become attach to 1 another. He need to draw the lines and let him no that u guy r just ****ing bodies nothing more nothing else or else he will be trying to act like he's ur bf. Rule # 2 fwb is u don't get attach # 2 just ****ing buddies rule #3 look at rule number 2  | |
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lowbud
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Joined: 11/18/2005
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| My first friends with benefits experience
Posted: 12/5/2005 12:09:00 AM | | no.. not normal at all. something's gone wrong with the fwb plan. fwb shouldn't speak for a few days after the benefit has been acted on. | |
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| My first friends with benefits experience
Posted: 12/5/2005 12:14:52 AM | | Yeah, that's a tuffy but it just shows what a good person you are for respecting other people's feelings. It takes a lot of courage to get out there and date....just because of this stuff. | |
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| My first friends with benefits experience
Posted: 12/5/2005 12:17:40 AM | Tell him he is your dildo.....really........nothing more....and nothing less. A dildo..with real... live...... skin n meat and breath n such.
In truth; that is what he is to you......correct?
or am I wrong in this?
it just shows what a good person you are for respecting other people's feelings
You're seconded on this thought. The fwb thing usually works best for those who really just don't care....either way...at all. (Those who see people as "things to be used and abused and as commodity..are those who use these types of things....the most) | |
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| My first friends with benefits experience
Posted: 12/5/2005 12:19:54 AM |
I have a "friend with benefits". I have never done this before, but it seems to be working out okay for me. The only thing that concerns me about this is he seems to call and write me at least 3 to 4 times a day. Is this normal?
If he had the same pattern of calling and writing before hte benefits kicked in then I wouldn't read to much into it. However if he has only started this since the benefits package matured, then I would say you need to have a heart to heart with him about what you expectations are. I personally don't believe in the friends with benefits thing, too much chance of ruining a good friendship. | |
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| My first friends with benefits experience
Posted: 12/5/2005 4:44:17 AM | | I don't think someone who calls you 3-4 times a day is a FWB situation. I have had guys that I considered a "boyfriend" that didn't even call that much. I think whether this person admits it or not he wants more of a relationship. | |
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7times
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Joined: 10/27/2005
Msg: 17 | |
| My first friends with benefits experience
Posted: 12/5/2005 4:47:08 AM | | get rid of him.. he wants a relationship since he has fallen for you.. The trick is with the friends with benefits is don't talk or be so good at the sex they want to spend all thier time with you | |
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| My first friends with benefits experience
Posted: 12/5/2005 5:49:03 AM | | I will say this again, a friend with benefits is not really just a friend. You got yourself a boyfriend there and he will get jealous of any other guy involved with you. Sorry Tami, either ride or get off the horse. I dont mean to be harsh but I am telling you, every one of you, that it just doesnt work this way. Ah, but you wont listen. You guys keep your friends with bennies, I am going to hold off til I find the real thing, I think. | |
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| My first friends with benefits experience
Posted: 12/5/2005 6:00:30 AM | My opinion is to talk with your friend. Communication is so important in any relationship. I would also like to add that it is just MY opinion...I don't claim to be the know all of life...not like some people | |
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| My first friends with benefits experience
Posted: 12/5/2005 6:53:47 AM | But I AM the know all of life.....thats why things get so messed up with me sometimes
Let me add that it is just my OPINION that I am the know all of life
Please, I know as little as anyone else. But what I know, I know. And I have rarely seen friends with bennies result in no feelings at all | |
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| My first friends with benefits experience
Posted: 12/5/2005 8:27:36 AM | | It CAN work (been there, done that), but it's difficult for most people to keep the separation between the sex and the rest of the friendship. That's not always a bad thing, if you discover that you both want a relationship as a result. It is a problem when one wants more than the other, and you risk the friendship as a result. Nip his apparent growing attachment in the bud while you have a chance to maintain the friendship. | |
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| My first friends with benefits experience
Posted: 12/5/2005 8:41:04 AM | They think they are getting the best of both worlds, sex with no committment. But I think they are being deprived of truly having the complete experience of love with lust and committment.
How much are you willing to unveil, knowing there is someone else they are still looking for and you are just a make shift substitute until the real deal comes along? I don't know about you, but to be uninhibited, I can't think someone else is coming in, as I'm going out.
I'm not saying it's wrong for everyone, but it sure is for me. I'll be patient until the real deal comes along for me. Hello.... | |
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jimb77
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Joined: 8/30/2005
Msg: 25 | |
| My first friends with benefits experience
Posted: 12/5/2005 8:46:02 AM | What happened to "I am a little traditional and would like for the first date to be planned by the guy"?
Catch a Star, your attitude is refreshing. Thank goodness there are some people with class out there. IMO she should take care of her own business while dating and looking for Mr. Right, what is some guy to think if he is dating her and she is letting some other guy nail her for her sexual pleasures...yuck, what is the world coming to? | |
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