| What is unconditional love to you?
Posted: 12/6/2005 8:43:18 AM | Just woundering what is unconditional to you all.Myself I let the love of my life go to be with someone else because that was what was going to make her happy and thats all i ever wanted for her. | |
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| What is unconditional love to you?
Posted: 12/6/2005 8:45:43 AM | I would say that's about as unconditional as it gets tenbears. When you accept someone for who they are and what they want and give them their space to go after it is to me unconditional love!
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| What is unconditional love to you?
Posted: 12/6/2005 8:50:59 AM | I want a chick that would take a bullet for me. That's unconditional love. 
Oh crap...I would be the hero and knock her out of the way.
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| What is unconditional love to you?
Posted: 12/6/2005 9:11:22 AM | | Unconditional love is what you get from pets, parents, and what you feel toward your children. Love between lovers is give and take. I don't believe in unconditional love in a romantic relationship because it's just about synonymous with being a doormat. | |
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| What is unconditional love to you?
Posted: 12/6/2005 9:28:22 AM | All right, I'll refine it. You can still love someone and not be able to be with that person because you aren't getting anything out of the relationship whatsoever. That make sense now?
Look at this way (hypotheitcal): my wife just cheated on me. Ah well, I love her. So it's no bog deal. She's forgiven because my love is unconditional. Darn it all! She did it again. Well, I love her, and it's unconditional. Damn it, she just maxed out three different credit cards. Well, even though it can take me years to get my credit respectable, I still love her unconditional, so it's all good. Look at that--she got blazingly drunk again, wrecked her car for the 4th time, despite tons of therapy . . . blah, blah, blah.
Do you see where I'm going with this?
Unconditional love is a myth in romantic relationships. It isn't practical. People will say that they believe in unconditional love in a relationship just because of ideological notions, and they will specifically say it on this forum to impress one another in hopes that a "special" someone will email him or her--because your ideas of love and romance are so wonderful. What a bunch of crap.
Life isn't ideology. Life is pragmatic. Unconditional love is a recipe that will turn a lover into a ruler, not a partner. You must have boundaries, you must have conditions, otherwise you will be eaten alive in a relationship.
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| What is unconditional love to you?
Posted: 12/6/2005 9:30:18 AM | | Unconditional love is when your daughter gets mad at you and says "I hate you", and you look at her and say "okay, I love you". | |
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| What is unconditional love to you?
Posted: 12/6/2005 9:35:42 AM | Look in, that's the best example anyone can give. Keep in mind the behavior of the child and apply it to a lover . . . how long would you put up with it?
Unconditional love is for family and pets. | |
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| What is unconditional love to you?
Posted: 12/6/2005 9:41:30 AM | I don't believe there is such a thing as unconditional love except for the love that you have for your children. That's the only exception. And maybe your parents.
A partner? Unconditional love? Nope. | |
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| What is unconditional love to you?
Posted: 12/6/2005 9:42:22 AM | Unconditional love (really only something I believe a God can give) for me in a relationship is when my utmost desire is for my beloved to have whatever he needs. However, we don't always know what we need. Maybe he needs to learn an ultimate lesson...maybe he needs me to leave him.
It's setting someone free if them being free helps them...and us.
Unconditional love is not unconditional until BOTH parties have it for each other.
Almost impossible in today's ideology and Summer Teeth...I'm with you all the way on your views.
It's a fancy term that few have the depth to truly understand.
Unconditional love would require an absence of motive...
As human beings, that is impossible, therefore I believe unconditional love is also impossible. | |
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| What is unconditional love to you?
Posted: 12/6/2005 9:43:42 AM | You're exactly right, Summer Teeth.
We have to put conditions on love in a relationship other that the one's you listed, otherwise we'd be putting up with all kinds of abusive behaviour. | |
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| What is unconditional love to you?
Posted: 12/6/2005 9:47:03 AM | Tenbears wrote:
Myself I let the love of my life go to be with someone else because that was what was going to make her happy and thats all i ever wanted for her.
I am in a similar situation. I can't live with her and I can't share her, so I have let go. I cheer for her happiness, and meanwhile have started seeking mine. | |
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| What is unconditional love to you?
Posted: 12/6/2005 9:49:12 AM |
A partner? Unconditional love? Nope.
Unconditional love is what my ex expected from me when she left with her lover and couldn't understand why I was upset/hurt. And, apparently, it was only expected of me, 'cause I didn't see it for my shortcomings in the relationship which she threw in my face as the reason she took the lover in the first place.....
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| What is unconditional love to you?
Posted: 12/6/2005 10:19:10 AM | I think love IS unconditonal.
I can still love someone who has wronged me without wishing they'd get run over by a Mac truck. Well, not twice in the same day anyway.
And there are people I love that I'd not care to live under the same roof with.
That's where the conditions come in.
But I'm with Summer Teeth's views in the context of romantic love.
Maybe it's just a question of where your breaking point is and just how much you're willing to forgive. | |
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| What is unconditional love to you?
Posted: 12/6/2005 10:37:40 AM | | If its true love and you set it free and it returns then it was meant to be if not then move on and Cherish the time you had. | |
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| What is unconditional love to you?
Posted: 12/6/2005 11:06:02 AM | Summer Teeth, you can love someone and still choose NOT to be with them. OR, you can not love someone and still choose not to be with them. If you love them, you understand and accept. You also understand and accept your role in things.
Methinks someone is still a little crispy around the edges. | |
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| What is unconditional love to you?
Posted: 12/6/2005 11:18:09 AM | Unconditional love: loving without limitations, conditions, or reservations.
Unconditional love is a myth. That is because humans are naturally self-biased and the human heart is so deceitful that one can fool himself into thinking that he is loving unconditionally, when in fact he has all kinds of conditions.
We were born knowing unconditional love. It is a gift, a birthright given to us from the very beginning. It’s the conditioning once our souls take on the human form that limits our belief in unconditional love. It’s erased and replaced by conditioned thoughts of the world. We learn our actions cause reactions. We learn that we are either good or bad. We learn What is acceptable and what is not. That becomes our point of reference, removing us far away from what we were born with.
After time and experiences it almost seems hopeless to return. Finding your true unconditional love means finding the true you. It is absolutely impossible to unconditionally love yourself if you harbor bitterness, anger, guilt or any other feelings that are not love. To relieve from payment of the past is the step that will bring you to unconditional love.
The world owes you nothing. You were born deserving it, so was everyone else.Learning how to love yourself unconditionally., creating your dream love by being clear on what you are looking for and be sure that you are able to provide that for yourself before expecting someone to provide it for you, that’s where you will find unconditional love.  | |
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| What is unconditional love to you?
Posted: 12/6/2005 1:45:05 PM | I hear ya Princess. Except I think it only comes from dogs, they forget you left them alone for eight hours as soon as you walk in the door(pant pant Hi welcome home wanna walk can i have a bone no Ok I love ya wanna lick on the face) Cats, well they might love you if you feed them the right food, ....maybe.
I think unconditional love between people is not only impossible, it's wrong. I will love someone as long as they love themselves. If they haven't learned how, it beomes impossible for me to love them. Not even if I want to. You've gotta love yourself first before you become lovable, and when you love yourself you establish boundries for others and then they can love you when they know the boundries. Which will then be respected, because they love you. | |
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| What is unconditional love to you?
Posted: 12/6/2005 2:42:57 PM | | It's what I feel for my children and I'm pretty certain my family dogs feel it for me (as long as I have food for them - oh yeah, that's probably a condition LOL). Love is not a concrete, stable, unchanging thing......if love is not returned, not mutual I think the love you feel for another person fades. | |
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