| | "WOULD YOU DATE SOMEONE WITH A DISABILITY?"PART TWO!Page 1 of 6 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6) | HI
I posted a Thread yesterday asking not just women but men also! If they would ever consider dating someone with a disability,IM sorry if I struck a nerve with some of you,Those of you who where kind anoff to respone I thankyou!IM not trying to start anything here just trying to get back into the dating game why should I be judged because off my diability I consider myself a very loving person who is very tenderhearted and I was really hurt with the e-mails telling me that I don't belong here,That I should check out the websites for people with MS.I have dated both able body woman,& those with disabilitys I have found people with disabilitys Love with all they have because we all ready know all to well whats its like to live with both Pain & Heartache.My wife of fifteen years left me because she could no longer deal with the devastating affects of MS,so much for the VOWS LOL.Well I will close for know & Yes IM not going anywhere on less IM asked to leave!
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Posted: 12/7/2005 7:44:42 AM | You shouldn't be judged blackwolf by anyone! I watched your thread as it slowly moved from one page to the next. It saddened me that people on here wouldn't even dignify your plea for help with a simple response. There's a lot of people with disabilities (and I don't mean the physical kind) in the dating game. Truly scary sometimes. Someone will date a nutcase who beats them or abuses them in some way but wouldn't consider dating a caring, loving person that has a physical condition. I say condition because it looks to me in your case that's that all that it is. The only thing that can make you truly handicapped is your mind. As long as you are willing to try then keep on. Don't get discouraged. There's someone out there that will see past the MS and see the person that lies beneath. As far as the emails saying you don't belong here, please! Who do they think they are really? I have yet to meet someone so perfect on this site as to be able to say something like that. We are all here for a reason. Yours is no different!
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Posted: 12/7/2005 9:35:55 AM | Hello sorry I missed your other thread.
I live with Cancer... Cancer is a small part of who I am as a person and what my life is about. I also have a grandchild who is special needs..
I know that people don't mean to be offensive. They operate out of a set of assumptions based in myth, misinformation and lack of information. And I also know that unfortunately...some people really do treat almost everyone with condescension and a lack of respect.
There are angels who look past our imperfections and love us just as we are! | |
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Posted: 12/7/2005 6:54:43 PM | I thank you indigo. It's a shame that no one can even address these issues. What would you all do if the love of your life was stricken with something like this? Leave them?
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Posted: 12/7/2005 7:03:32 PM | | A relationship should become stronger when an issue of disability comes up!!! Especially when in a marriage.....I think too many people get away with the "I have to take care of me" crap too easily now....Loyality should not have conditions... | |
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Posted: 12/7/2005 7:28:20 PM | Over ten years ago, I was in a nightclub in San Antonio and saw the most handsome man, and he was standing with those silver crutches that I knew meant "permanent disability" as I was managing an Orthpaedic office at the time. I walked up to him and said "what happened to you?" He told me his story and he was awesome. I was very attracted to him and we telephoned and talked, but he did have a girlfriend. We've remained friends all of these years. He was accomplished - it was a football injury in college and he was left quadriplegic but willed his body to function so much better than most.
He took public transportation every day, went into business as a broker, and again, through determination, brought in more money and planned better than most-able bodied people I have ever known. Is there really a disability present? He didn't allow it. Those of us who love him, we don't see it either.
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Posted: 12/7/2005 7:35:29 PM | | well i would date some one with a disabilty as i have interlectual disabiltys my self on the outside i may not look like much is wrong with me but up top i aint all there so to answer ya question yea i would date some one like me self... but i find it hard in australia especialy to be acccepted for who i am ... only way i have been able to be aaccpeted for who i am is by listing to alterative music (acid rap horror core rap gothic metal hate metal ect ect) by being a juggalo thug a scrub basicly some one on the other side of the tracks a hanging out with other social outcasts is the only way i find acceptance in a world full of bull crap . | |
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Posted: 12/7/2005 8:06:33 PM | ^^^Everything is beautiful.......... in its own way.........^^^^^^
@Blackwolf, I didn't read yesterday's post, but I'm really sorry if you were treated badly. Also, impressed at your bravery to step back up, here at the forum and in your life. | |
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Posted: 12/7/2005 8:27:05 PM | My last girlfriend was diabetic, Type 1 (auto-immune) and will and has already started to succome to a lot of the symptoms that you as an MS patient will have. She is obviously insulin dependant, I had to carry special needles with me as often as possible in case she went low, and we were always in the fear of complete kindey failure.
I loved her very much, and I knew of most of the side effects before we got into the relationship. Actually going into the relationship I took a lot of time to visit her physician and do some reading so I knew what it would mean from me. The most difficult part was knowing that she likely wouldn't live past 60, if she remained healthy.
I guess the answer is yes. While unfortauntly there are a good number of people I imagine that won't be interested since they might assume it to mean a lot of upkeep on their end, but there are people out there willing. Sometimes all it takes is educating potentials a bit, they might have some concerns on what will be expected of them, when really there isn't a concern to worry about. | |
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Posted: 12/8/2005 3:42:17 AM | | I once dated a wonderful man who not only suffered from depression but had diabetes. He was the sweetest and most caring man I have ever known. Even today, I look back fondly whenever I think of him. Love comes from the heart, who cares about the rest of the package. | |
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Posted: 12/8/2005 6:37:23 AM | | i walk with a cane...i deal with cancer, gerd disease, irritable bowel, severe stomach adhesions and bipolar disorder...i was raped 5 times scince tha age of 5 and left for dead the last time.......i have spent my share of time in tha hospital and in therapy..............in 1989 the dr.s gave me 6 months to live, in 2000 i died 3 times and was on life support.......do i consider myself disabled? NO WAY! tha only disability i know of that is truly disabling is a narrow or closed mind........... | |
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Posted: 12/8/2005 7:22:56 AM | | Yes I would date someone with a disablity. I'm thinking about starting my own thread though. What if you are with an able bodied person who becomes a person with a disabilty? Would you stay? To that, my answer would still be yes. I think the worst thing of all would be closed-mindedness, to which I have absolutely no tolerance for. | |
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kcub63
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Posted: 12/8/2005 12:14:13 PM | | Anywhoo, Anyone so vain that they are better than a person with a disability IS the person with the disability. I said it before, don't judge a book by it's cover. What may look different, can be the best surprise ever. The thing that looks most exciting can be ugly underneath. | |
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Posted: 12/8/2005 12:47:03 PM | | okay, revengetime......where IS this special site where normal men are looking for disabled women, i sure would like to know.....Im yet to find someone to accept me even with MY limitations. the whole package. it sure isnt easy. | |
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Posted: 12/8/2005 12:51:02 PM | blackwolf, i didnt get to read any of the other forum your talking about either, i wish i HAD i know i would have had some interesting things to say to those who are "misinformed"uneducated, and shallow.
and like it was already mentioned above, i ALSO admire your courage for coming back out to the forum again , and standing strong. That just goes to show how "fighters" are, and when i say 'fighter", i mean it with the utmost respect. FIGHTER ....and you know what i mean...YOU go boY!!!!!! MUAH* God bless you sweetie. | |
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