| I just need ONE decent guy...
Posted: 12/8/2005 11:44:03 AM | Where, oh where, are the normal cute guys? I'm not talking Brad Pitt. Decent looking. Decent personality. Decent brain. Minimal drama and baggage. Are they hiding on some planet somewhere?
Does anyone know how to send them a note that I need just ONE sent my way? :) | |
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| I just need ONE decent guy...
Posted: 12/8/2005 12:15:05 PM | When you find him, can we share? I think that may be the problem, we're all on here looking for the same decent guy. Not moneybags, not studly man, just a normal, real life, comes with some issues, but ones that are workable, willing to work with ours as well (not that we have any, but it makes them feel better if we pretend to): | |
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nurgle
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Joined: 11/22/2005
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| I just need ONE decent guy...
Posted: 12/8/2005 12:22:02 PM | | think you may need to split him now 3ways when you find him... theres none over here, lol | |
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| I just need ONE decent guy...
Posted: 12/8/2005 12:31:45 PM | The problem is that all the good guys are out here and all the good women are waaaayyy out there.
I love your profile OP! I was out hiking before sun-up this morning and although freezing cold and didn't see any deer, you just can't beat the great outdoors. My brother-in-law made for pretty good company but boy, what I wouldn't give for a woman who would take his place. | |
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| I just need ONE decent guy...
Posted: 12/8/2005 12:34:48 PM | Hey Kingfisher
Thanks! I love my life...but it's getting old not having that extra-special companion. Guess I'll just have to keep on trucking!
Anyone have the email address for where all the normal cute guys are hanging out? | |
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| I just need ONE decent guy...
Posted: 12/8/2005 4:38:34 PM | Everyone has baggage. It's called a personality.
I guarantee that if you ever meet someone with no issues, baggage, or neuroses of any kind, you'll be bored out of your mind by him/her. | |
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| I just need ONE decent guy...
Posted: 12/8/2005 4:51:46 PM | ^^ i agree with CS...
Also 60% of the type of decent guy you are after have kid/s... (we need that shrug of the shoulders emot)
Maybe you need to broaden you ideas of what a decent guy should/would/can be... (still shrugging shoulders) | |
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| I just need ONE decent guy...
Posted: 12/8/2005 4:57:17 PM | | Just a suggestion but try contacting some, hell contact a lot. I mean if they aren't coming after you quite likely cause us guys are either afraid, or tired of trying. Who wouldn't like a girl who likes the idea of going climbing ? Good luck to all you girls on your search. There are normal guys, just like there are normal girls just lots of people to sort though to find them. | |
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| I just need ONE decent guy...
Posted: 12/8/2005 5:31:12 PM | Hey, thanks nunthewiser. I didn't know anyone else thought this way.
I figure the whole reason that women like "badboys", is that they're so interesting. And what makes a guy bad, if not a load of issues of one kind or another?
Suffice to say, if you haven't lived enough to be totally ****ed up, you haven't really lived. Get out there and break yourself. :) | |
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| I just need ONE decent guy...
Posted: 12/8/2005 5:38:38 PM | Good point Caspian, I agree 100%!
If a woman wants a good man, perhaps she should FIND HIM. | |
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| I just need ONE decent guy...
Posted: 12/8/2005 5:47:40 PM | as far as i see it... Do i have "baggage" kid/kids? yes and honestly... i never thought i would be able to live with someone day in and day out until i had my son, and from what i have learnt from having my son... i will be able to live with someone thru all the good and bad times...and know it means working for the relationship to stick and learnt what the true meaning of responsibility and committment is.... Do i have issues? yes, its called life experiences you learn to accept them as your past and you move on either way your past experiences have turns out.. they are all good regardless of good or bad.. good you will always remember as good.. bad memories you will learn to see them as good coz you arent in that situation anymore.... but i dont put my issues on to the person im with...unless it involves him.. hence having a child i have learnt to also speak up for myself and others.. although i always had.. it has made me more stronger and passionate about the things i do truely believe in and know what i truely want from people and not sit in the corner and take what is given.... Have i lived my life the way i wanted too... yes...Has my life been a tota Fck up? YES!!!!.... but i wouldnt be the person i am today if i didnt experience anything i have 
with everything i have been thru in my life... issues... kid.. screwed up childhood.. does this make me a non decent person? | |
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| I just need ONE decent guy...
Posted: 12/8/2005 6:49:42 PM | | That's what I was saying earlier, laverboy, you're over here and she's over there..Wait a sec, I mean, I'm over here and she's over there! Story of online dating. | |
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| I just need ONE decent guy...
Posted: 12/8/2005 7:14:01 PM | I would say me, but by this jacked up pic that I have up (if its the one with shades), you wouldn't be able to tell. When I use the pic with the shades I'm incognito. Or shall I say... incognegro  | |
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| I just need ONE decent guy...
Posted: 12/8/2005 7:22:05 PM | I talk about my love life like it's sad and pathetic, but the reality is that I know I just need to find one girl who is good to me and I'm off the market. I have a good life by myself, and havent got any baggage. Finding one good girl will be a pain in the butt no doubt, but she's looking for me too. I'll assume the same applies to you as well.
The problem with life as I see it is that good people don't get recycled. I know I wont be. You don't throw a good fish back (you grill them up and eat them, but lets not think too hard about my analogy). So as I get older, I have this fear that the pool I have to choose from keeps getting more retarded. It's a fear that is warranted. I've watched some older guys I know resort to a catch and release policy due to the problems they've had.
You know what really bothers me? A somebody once told me that "You can never know what a person is like. You could be married happily for ten years and then BAM she turns out to be a total nutjob that has been cheating on you for the last few years." Which wouldn't bother me if there weren't a few people, nay, examples of this happening around me.
Best wishes, I hope you'll get lucky and find a good one. (I won't say "like me", this post is self gratifying enough as is...) | |
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Tinkle
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Joined: 11/2/2005
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| I just need ONE decent guy...
Posted: 12/8/2005 7:27:47 PM | CS and nun:
I also agree that ‘baggage’ helps make up who we are, but I think most of us are all OK with baggage that fits in the overhead compartment and when you are done with the flight, you wash everything and put it away,
But it’s the 3 extra large suit cases and two carry ons that require a hand cart, that we all tend to have a problem with…….LOL | |
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| I just need ONE decent guy...
Posted: 12/8/2005 9:07:31 PM | When I'm talking about baggage I'm not talking about the little idiosyncrancies that make me different from you.
I'm talking baggage with a big ole capital B. Like a mama's boy. Or a pathelogical liar. Or not over an ex. Or a cold hard cynic.
That's unacceptable to me.
I would think my definition of normal would be someone who is not fat and not thin, active, happy and likes to joke. He has a cute face (at least cute to me) and a great smile and laugh. He'd like to do normal things during the day like have a job/career, and normal things at night (and be capable of doing them, too. No Viagra men <==that is baggage). Someone who doesn't who hasn't been sloppy in their choices of friends or romances. | |
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| I just need ONE decent guy...
Posted: 12/8/2005 11:08:51 PM | I think a lot of people ask the same question as this all the time. =) Alas, I have not the answer! But it's fun to post. :P
J. | |
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| I just need ONE decent guy...
Posted: 12/8/2005 11:48:38 PM | There are loads of men out there who never realize that there's something wrong with them...they're too proud or something...so all they do is blame their lack of success with dating on women...and do the same things over and over and over again.....
Where are the men who have found the will to work on themselves and get rid of their baggage? (with a capital B) They are few and far between...
OP: are you sure you've worked out your own issues? "NEEDING" one decent guy doesn't sound too good to me...but WANTING one to simply INCREASE your happiness is perfectly fine! | |
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