| Chasing and rejection
Posted: 12/11/2005 9:40:05 PM | Welcome!
K, down to business. When you dig a woman do you chase? I was having an interesting convo. with a friend of mine regarding this topic and (here's where it gets interesting) I said: "Whatever, ____________ if a man likes you, he will chase you" she replied "YOU don't chase who YOU like". I realized she's right. Now, I do appreciate a man who goes after what he wants, I am a woman who does the same, except when it comes to men. If I have to be really honest with myself, (Eeeek) I'd have to admit that the thought of rejection scares the $hit out of me. (There... it's out)
Anyway, enlighten me, I'm open.
Edit: Title changed for clarity/search - moved to "Advice"/late™ | |
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Posted: 12/11/2005 9:47:00 PM | People generally don't chase who they truly like. If i like a girl, i will definately put in effort and let her know but after a certain point i will just lose interest. Playing hard to get is definately a turn off for most of the dreamy population.
The most important thing is to let the other person know you feel. You don't have to be direct but at the same time you can't be to subtle (women don't understand this fact for the most part).
If you had a great evening, at the end of the date simply say, "I really enjoyed myself tonight, we should do this again". Just let him know or else he will just lose interest after awhile (by awhile i mean within days).
Generally if they chase you, they want you as a prize and it's not meant to be. Of course this doesnt' always apply, but it's generally a well accepted conceptual theory :)
PS: btw...everyone feels like that :) except for the few of us who are brutally honest | |
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Posted: 12/11/2005 9:48:34 PM | | Well if I chase her then she will run obviously. Better to sit still and play those cards carefully. I would chase when I was young, now I approach a girl I like as I would a doe, slowly, and with no sudden movements. | |
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Posted: 12/11/2005 9:49:26 PM | I go after what I want and not seeking any prize in the process...
I usually end up with a good friend or a romance... | |
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Posted: 12/11/2005 9:51:47 PM |
now I approach a girl I like as I would a doe, slowly, and with no sudden movements.
ROFLMFAO!!!! That has got to be the quote of the week, at least!!!! | |
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arri
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Joined: 10/5/2005
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Posted: 12/11/2005 9:56:04 PM |
I'd have to admit that the thought of rejection scares the $hit out of me.
The thought of a restraining order or being charged for stalking scares me even more.
I wouldn't chase. Not too hard anyway | |
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Posted: 12/11/2005 9:58:08 PM | (now I approach a girl I like as I would a doe, slowly, and with no sudden movements.)
^THIS^ is some funny $hit, agreed.
(In hushed tones) "C'mere darlin, that's it, don't be scared, I'm not gonna hurt ya, I just wanna pet ya".
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Posted: 12/11/2005 10:04:43 PM | Jesus arabquene... I feel like we are having similar mental imagery!
Love the use of the word "git"
P.S.: Thanks to all you posters... I was kinda worried no one would wanna come to my post-party... great to know I didn't need the vegetable platter after all! | |
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Posted: 12/11/2005 10:10:27 PM | In this day and age, there is a fine line between "Endearing chase" and "Jailed stalker"
So no. | |
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Posted: 12/11/2005 10:17:35 PM | I prefer if its reciprocal.....
If I like here I'll pursue her
If she likes me back I'll encourage her
If not I'll move on....
too many awesome ladies out there to be discovered. | |
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Posted: 12/11/2005 10:31:24 PM | THIS is some funny $hit, agreed.
WELL some of them do bite you know.
Okay just to differentiate from the King of the Caribbean I do chase, I will chase like crazy if I think it will help me, but I try to be objective about it, you know do things for a reason.
You cannot let on to what your feeling too early, that has just got to be one of the cardinal rules. | |
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Joined: 8/30/2005
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| Chasing and rejection
Posted: 12/11/2005 10:41:11 PM | I won't chase. I won't press the issue. I'll give them my number and say I hope I hear from you, that way I am not putting them under pressure and causing them to give me a fake number. If they don't call, no big deal, I mean, hey, I'll just track them down and cut off their head some day but still no big deal | |
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| Chasing and rejection
Posted: 12/11/2005 11:07:00 PM | i am not a dog and your not the mailman.that means i do not chase.
rejection is something that scares the $hit out of alot of us.but sometimes you have to be willing to take that chance of rejection if your interested in someone enough. | |
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| Chasing and rejection
Posted: 12/11/2005 11:19:40 PM | Quote : i am not a dog and your not the mailman.
Agreed.........dogs may chase cars, but can they drive ? | |
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| Chasing and rejection
Posted: 12/11/2005 11:43:40 PM |
Agreed.........dogs may chase cars, but can they drive ?
OMG, number two best quote I have heard this week | |
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| Chasing and rejection
Posted: 12/11/2005 11:56:09 PM | hmmm chasing is fun, it is ever so hard not to.
The wolf needs to chase the doe, it is just the way these things are.
In any case I don't realize I am chasing until it is to late, when I do I try to hide it, you know, no fast jaw snapping motions... | |
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| Chasing and rejection
Posted: 12/12/2005 12:43:32 AM | Of course a man should not chase and a woman should not chase a man. It is a mutual thing....but who should start it? It does not matter....as long as it gets started! When I was young, I thought I should let the guy pursue me, play hard to get....and attracted dominating controlling men. Then when I made the 1st move.......the guy turned out to be flaky and submissive. | |
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| Chasing and rejection
Posted: 12/12/2005 7:12:28 AM | I think we all say we don't want to play games.... but they are still played....
The old men are hunters and women are gatherers... comes to mind.
I'll never figure either sex out when it comes to dating... I've come to realize... I just Suck at dating!
Rejection sux whether you're a man or a woman.... | |
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| Chasing and rejection
Posted: 12/12/2005 7:33:33 AM | | It's dangerous if both decide to chase at the same time. Collisions can occur, resulting in bodily injury or even concussion. "Yes, my last date was a knockout!" | |
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| Chasing and rejection
Posted: 12/12/2005 8:24:42 AM |
the thought of rejection scares the $hit out of me
Been rejected? Move on, process of weeding...
Chasing? I don't do and don't like vice versa either.
Spontaneity matters and 'telepathy' does work
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