| Endurance
Posted: 12/31/2004 8:21:14 PM | My new main squeeze and I were talking about endurance during sex. Like a man being able to do it for a long time.
The problem is ... I've heard it before from other guys and when we get in the sack they're minute men. WHY??
Also, I have yet to orgasm from vaginal intercourse. Me being so young and all I don't see this as being a problem but I was wondering if you guys thought prolonged intercourse could be the answer. Tell me all, you so much older and wiser than I! | |
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LadyO
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Joined: 8/26/2004
Msg: 2 | |
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Posted: 12/31/2004 8:22:17 PM | Most women can't orgasm through vaginal stimulation.
And, most sex only lasts for a few minutes...it's sex. Its overrated apparently.
Personally, I dont know. And I dont know if I want to know..lol | |
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Posted: 12/31/2004 8:25:46 PM |
Most women can't orgasm through vaginal stimulation
I've heard that's true but I was wondering if there was any way to make it more likely that I would. | |
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Tayven
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Joined: 11/11/2004
Msg: 4 | |
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Posted: 12/31/2004 8:38:07 PM | Hi hun,
---Just my thought---
Although endurance is nice to have during sex, it really has nothing to do with pleasing a woman. Granted, some women get off very easily...VERY EASILY... But most need the build up. A man can't just rapidly bang away at her and expect that to do it, even if he does last a long time. Is he doing everything he can to make sure you are truly enjoying the experience? Is he caressing you? Does he have a firm yet soft grip? Does he carefully rotate his hips trying to hit all your special parts? Does he penetrate you with long, slow, steady strokes; building the passion as your passion builds. Will he put the effort to cum for you...not once, but twice...maybe 3 times or more... And, try to build your passion to a higher point every time?
There's sooooo much more to sex than just pumping away for hours... Take your time. Experiment.
Tay,
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Posted: 12/31/2004 8:45:23 PM | Tay: Your response caused a bit of warmth down below. Yeah, I'm thinking with this new guy (he's much older and probably more experienced) there's a better chance of this working out. This is sort of why I've been toying with the idea of older men for a while.
Still, maybe I'm just not sensitive enough to appreciate what they do. I was with a guy 8 years older than me recently and I assumed he would be better at it. Still no luck. What's wrong with me??? | |
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Tayven
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Joined: 11/11/2004
Msg: 6 | |
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Posted: 12/31/2004 8:55:52 PM | Awww... hun, age is like endurance... Just because someone is older doesn't mean they have that sensual touch... Maybe you need a man who has the feel for foreplay, a man who can make you quiver with lust before your wet panties even come off. Foreplay is half, if not more than half of the build-up to the climax. Use a condom, or tell him to pull out if you don't... and, once he's done... tell him "Oh no, you aren't done... get down there and start again!"Lol. Or, you attack him and make sure he's ready to keep pleasing you... Practice makes perfect...
Tay,
HAPPY NEW YEAR!!! | |
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LadyO
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Joined: 8/26/2004
Msg: 7 | |
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Posted: 12/31/2004 9:00:47 PM | | *drags Tay away...yes yes..drags him* mwah ha ha ha haha | |
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Tayven
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Joined: 11/11/2004
Msg: 8 | |
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Posted: 12/31/2004 9:03:19 PM | :::Gasp::: | |
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LadyO
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Joined: 8/26/2004
Msg: 9 | |
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Posted: 12/31/2004 9:03:45 PM | | *snickers* we gonna test out this..."foreplay" thing you speak of. | |
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Tayven
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Joined: 11/11/2004
Msg: 10 | |
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Posted: 12/31/2004 9:08:55 PM | ^^^ Trouble
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Posted: 12/31/2004 9:20:47 PM | | Ok endurance is one thing but also important is attitude and varieity. Example being my last "big deal" with an incredible woman who also at 30 had never had an orgasm except with one other guy. (there had been several others) Now she used todo her damdest to make me jelous of other guys and make me angry. She enjoyed me loosing my temper and getting rough with her (in the nicest possible sense). The main thing was varieity though. We did it everywhere, and usuually at the drop of a hat. I mean it we even did it in the best room of the local pub when it had about 12 people in it. The best orgasms she had though were when we tried anal sex and a bit of bondage. If it feels good do it! Oh by the way theres no harm in only lasting a few mins if you are not just a one shot wonder, but this takes two you know. | |
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LadyO
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Joined: 8/26/2004
Msg: 12 | |
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Posted: 12/31/2004 9:27:35 PM | | Tay, you ever doubted that I wasnt? | |
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Tayven
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Joined: 11/11/2004
Msg: 13 | |
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Posted: 12/31/2004 9:33:06 PM | Um, ya... Forget the sensual caressing, the passionate touch, the slow steady thrusts building up to a firm yet soft grip as you aggressively rotate your hips with hers in a rythmic dance of love; holding her hip tight and grabbing her by the hair to expose the neck for lustful kisses while she tilts her hips and cums for you...
Lol... Just slap her around... Tie her up... and pound away...
Ok, sorry, bud.... just being a wise-ass... You're right, to each their own.
Tay, | |
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Tayven
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Joined: 11/11/2004
Msg: 15 | |
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Posted: 1/1/2005 12:40:20 AM | | ^^^ someone dosn't have much endurance | |
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LadyO
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Joined: 8/26/2004
Msg: 16 | |
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Posted: 1/1/2005 2:21:37 AM | Ok, while the things Tayven mentioned are important, I have to disagree when he says that endurance has nothing to do with pleasing a woman. Granted, I am not a woman, but I am just going on logic here. I haven't come across a women yet (then again, I am still pretty young lol) that had a "magic button" that made her orgasm on the spot (although, "pleasing a woman" and orgasming can be two different things I suppose). Knowing what to do is key, but so is being able to do it long enough. The guy can know what to do, but only be able to sustain it for a minute or so. That being said...
"The problem is ... I've heard it before from other guys and when we get in the sack they're minute men. WHY?? "
Could be tons of explanations. I know the first few times I had sex, I felt really bad because I didn't think I was good enough. That led to me actually being a little stressed while having sex, which in turn led to me coming even QUICKER than before. Which of course resulted in me actually NOT wanting to have sex for ahwile. My girlfriend didn't do anything to alay my fears, so I had to work through it on my own. So, confidence can be a very big issue. The biggest, I would imagine.
And any other outside stressors can have an effect. Of course all us guys are horny **stards right? Well, sometimes we really can't just get "into it" even though we want to and either und up lasting a minute, or not being able to come at all.
Then there is the breathing. Hehe. If you have a problem with a guy again, tell him to try and breath normally (if he isn't, that is). I think its some sort of instinct to hold your breath as you get more excited. Gotta pace yourself.
I believe I saw an episode of the sex show they shoot in Canada where the woman mentioned that something like 80% of guys only last on average 3 minutes. If thats true, its some food for thought. | |
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Tayven
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Joined: 11/11/2004
Msg: 18 | |
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Posted: 1/1/2005 2:56:16 AM | Jalen8,
I see what you're saying... And you're right, if a man gets off in under 3 minutes there may be something wrong there. But, if he just rolls over and goes to sleep after that, well... I'd say he wasn't too worried about whether she was going cum anyways.
I did notice everything you spoke of was just intercourse, I think there is so much more to sex than that. Often times I want both her and I to cum before the intercourse, that's a good 30 minutes to an hour of foreplay, sometimes more. And, if she can't get me off I'll masturbate for her (A lot of women love to see that, whether they admit it or not.) A man usually lasts a little longer after he's already cum once. And after he's cum a second time it usually lasts even longer than the previous... If you make her cum before the actual intercourse her insides tighten a bit, making her more sensitive in the nether region. Make her cum twice and it gets a little tighter... see a pattern here? Now, after she cums she may be a little wet down there, so you may want to get down there and start...Lol, slurping that stuff up so you still have a little friction for the next round (and don't worry, as long as you came outside her, there's nothing wrong with going down between intercourse...Lol. After all, I imagine this is a one on one thing we are talking about, so it was just you down there to begin with) Some guys will even go down on a woman after they've cum in them, but...Lol... that's not me.=/ Kinda' ...well I just can't bear the thought...Lol
Foreplay is a BIG part of keeping it up for an all-nighter... Or even just a couple hours of good sex. If all a woman wanted was just intercourse, I'm sure most will admit a dildo in their own hands is much more effective
Tay,
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lml4s
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Joined: 12/31/2004
Msg: 19 | |
| Endurance
Posted: 1/1/2005 8:15:49 AM | I usually don't have enough stamina to endure the pre-sex "friends first" therapy sessions disguised as dates to even get to the sex. Modern women, bah.
But long ago when I was in a real relationship and had a good thing going, some of those orgasms were a long time in coming, so to speak. It depends on what kind of sex you're having. It's like how far do you walk to get someplace is determined by where it is, unless you go in circles, which is also a good idea with sex.
What was the question?
If you are both into your own heads, having separate experiences in each other's presence, then it's coincidence if you both get off, and if you both are satisfied. But if you have sex together, meaning you get into the same place in your heads, then your bodies become synchronized and each feeling by being shared automatically leads where pleasure beckons, and that's how you get those big O's that rock the universe, and multiple ones each another step closer to seeing God. The worst way to have sex is read a manual then direct the action objectively. The next worst way than that is to hide in your own head with your eyes closed. Orgasms that happen locally feel good, but when your whole being and the union of your souls resonates, an orgasm can rip shingles off your roof. Unfortunately, insurance companies tend to reject that type of claim so be careful. I told them it was hail damage. Fraud or white lie, u b the judge. | |
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Posted: 1/1/2005 8:47:36 AM | just a real quick note on this from my presonal experience.....
when I was with my ex...we were together for 5 years...broke up 12 days before the wedding...but that is another story
We used to have sex...i did the whole foreplay thing...but I still didn't last long...for some reason
But lately I have been with another woman that is amazing...and well we can go all night....it's like an on/off switch for when we want to end it....
I guess what I'm trying to say...is it depends on how well you connect with your partner...like i was with my ex for 5 years...and to be honnest i thought i was happy....but give me about a month with this new woman...and I'm so much more happy...I appreciat smaller things now
if that made sence good......if it didn't happy new year...and just forget i posted it....
Sounded diff in my head... LOL | |
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Tayven
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Joined: 11/11/2004
Msg: 21 | |
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Posted: 1/2/2005 12:02:54 AM | a6d9,
That's a very good point, personal connection can be a big part of it.
Tay, | |
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Posted: 1/2/2005 4:34:29 PM | retro
the secret to orgasm is being well preped for the intercourse lots of good foreplay being very comfortable with him and making sure he knows what you like and dont like .Nothing worse than turning on the cold water so to speak after heating things to the boiling point .ie one wrong move on his part can undue a lot of hard work.as for doing it longer I dont know if it will help,if the stage is not set you can do it till you are both sore and acheive only mediochre results.
good luck work with him to find what works for you
AND everyone play safe. | |
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| Endurance
Posted: 1/2/2005 10:24:33 PM | In my own experience, I've never been a "minute man" or even a 3-minute man... I love orally stimulating my lady endlessly, caressing her and being attentive to her needs...
However, I have always had the experience of taking "forever" to orgasm. I honestly cannot remember the last time I've cum with a partner... likely close to 10 years.... and I've never been able to cum from being sucked. | |
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