| 18 year old girl marries a 40 year old man?
Posted: 12/24/2005 7:44:35 AM | | This is just a thread to find out how people think of this arrangement. My niece who is 23 told me about this one. First of all I told her does the teenager have brain damage. What on earth would an 18 year old see in a 40 year old man. Do you not think that she is cutting her adolescent life short. Will she not miss the oppurtunity of Post Secondary when she becomes older. Will she not feel that she missed out on the horrible dating sceen of your late teens and early 20's. Now my ego would become larger if an 18 year old was interested in myself but on the same token I would feel that she would be cutting her single life short. What do you think? | |
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| 18 year old girl marries a 40 year old man?
Posted: 12/24/2005 7:51:31 AM | ". . . she would be cutting her single life short. What do you think? "
. . . OR . . . she might be lengthening the life of the 40 YO! There IS something to be said for arrested development, you know (though I have never been there). | |
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AmyR2
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Joined: 2/6/2005
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| 18 year old girl marries a 40 year old man?
Posted: 12/24/2005 7:53:00 AM | Definately sounds doomed for failure! I don't know all the details, but is she not going to college because of marraige? She's never been old enough to go to a bar (legally), what happens when she starts? And what happens when he starts looking his age (if he doesn't already) and she get's tired of her old man.
Age difference isn't such a big thing when your over 30, but definately seems like a bad idea for somebody barely an adult. It seems like a really bad deal for both of them. | |
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| 18 year old girl marries a 40 year old man?
Posted: 12/24/2005 8:54:46 AM | Aylesford
I know these marriages happen, yet I'm not a supporter of them. I think the girl is seeking a father figure, and the guy is insecure. The age gap is nearly a generation. She's just begun her life and he's well into his. Beyond the sex, there is so much more a couple shares. Its only my opinion of course. | |
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| 18 year old girl marries a 40 year old man?
Posted: 12/24/2005 9:41:04 AM | | definitely agree that the girl has some "daddy" issues and he is insecure and maybe feels power dating someone that young. I bet if you talked to the girl she had a bad home life and her father was never around or he definitely wasn't dad of the year. I've met tons of chicks just like this who not only seek out older guys but powerful, agressive ones to tell them what to do. The guy though I feel is sick. Thats like dating your daugther. Not cool. I would be so embarrased at 40 to bring my 18 year old to family functions and stuff like that. Now if she was 25-26 then yeah ok but she's pretty much a child IMO even at 18.. | |
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| 18 year old girl marries a 40 year old man?
Posted: 12/24/2005 9:57:44 AM | What the hell is a 40-yr old doing with an 18 yr. old??... Yeah, I know it's legal, but WTF?!?!?
To me, it borders right on the line of pedophilia. IMHO | |
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| 18 year old girl marries a 40 year old man?
Posted: 12/24/2005 10:00:43 AM | I don't think the age difference is an indicator of "daddy" issues. I know women in their 40's who have daddy issues with men their own age.
I lived with a man 1/2 my age, and family functions were a blast. I was less embarrased by him than my sister was over her middle aged drunk jerk of a husband. We all mature at different ages and some of us never grow up. I personally find younger people more interesting and alive than most middle aged people. I could list many reasons why....as I've had to explain myself to friends before.
is everyone saying they've never been attracted to a person much older or younger than themselves? | |
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| 18 year old girl marries a 40 year old man?
Posted: 12/24/2005 10:33:31 AM | Statistically the marriage probably wont work. If she were 20 or 25, I wouldnt be so skeptical, but I think that a lot happens in that age range as far as maturity, or CAN happen anyways. But who knows, she might be a very mature 18, it happens.
I'm 21 and have very strong feelings for a man who is 45. It took me almost 3 months to decide whether or not I would/could date him and if I would be happy, and how the age factor played into things. But in the end, personality wise we just connected. Our values/goals/priorities/interests match pretty well and we have a mutual respect for eachother that I find is rare in men my age. We can talk for hours, we get eachothers humor, we're considerate of outside demands (my son, his business). In him, I see something I've had trouble finding in men my age- a balance between work and play. He likes to have fun and likes to travel, but he knows that his business enables him to do it. We're nowhere near marriage and who knows what will happen, but I was a girl who use to have an age maxmimum of 30 for men I dated. Sometimes people come along who defy what you thought you wanted. Under the right circumstances (lots of time, and healthy long-term relationship) I would absolutely marry him.
I'm as skeptical as the next person, but it can happen given the right 2 people. | |
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| 18 year old girl marries a 40 year old man?
Posted: 12/24/2005 10:47:14 AM | | Well, I have a friend who's 19 and is in love with a 40 year old man. And I say, whatever makes you happy,persue it. Although I would never date someone more than a decade older then me, myself. | |
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| 18 year old girl marries a 40 year old man?
Posted: 12/24/2005 11:40:14 AM | is everyone saying they've never been attracted to a person much older or younger than themselves?
No I do not believe that is what everyone is saying bccowgirl. I feel what they are saying is that this arrangement is short changing the younger of the two. Whether the woman was 40 and the man 18 or vise a versa. There is one thing to have an attraction to someone and another thing to marry or get involved with a person. | |
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| 18 year old girl marries a 40 year old man?
Posted: 12/24/2005 11:49:14 AM | bc_cowgirl
Not sure if you're into looking for long term or not, but the lad that was half your age is obviously not in your life anymore. Being here , looking for another stud muffin is a good indicator of how long those relationships can last. Hey, if you can land a young buck, go for it. But if someone thinks they can make a go of it for life with that much of an age difference, the odds are very much against them. | |
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Joined: 11/4/2004
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| 18 year old girl marries a 40 year old man?
Posted: 12/24/2005 11:51:37 AM | When I am 40 one day I want to marry a pretty little young thing , unbittered, unworn , still with hope , smiles at everything and loves to party , by that time I am sure I will still love to party . 
People who marry young divorce jus tlike the older ones , what is the difference arses and biatches come in all ages
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| 18 year old girl marries a 40 year old man?
Posted: 12/24/2005 12:01:29 PM | About 10 years ago, my best friend told me that her 18-year-old daughter had married the famous older bachelor in their area. He was 47. Old enough to be her father. Considering the young woman's situation, I wasn't surprised. Her father was nonexistent throughout her childhood, and she was raised by her grandparents. Her grandfather was a leech, a ladies' man, and not much of a father figure, as far as I noticed.
Maybe she's looking for a father figure; maybe not.
Anyway, this young gal is still happily married, and they have a couple of kids. Go figure! | |
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| 18 year old girl marries a 40 year old man?
Posted: 12/24/2005 12:29:18 PM | | there is not enough information to conjecture any opinion. we dont know about the parents, we dont know if the girl was pregnant and we know nothing about the man. | |
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| 18 year old girl marries a 40 year old man?
Posted: 12/24/2005 12:48:48 PM | | I think bc-cowgirl is right. Why don't we all leave them alone. And let them enjoy what they have, it might not be what you want, but it is what they want. Live and let live. | |
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| 18 year old girl marries a 40 year old man?
Posted: 12/24/2005 1:02:35 PM | | I agree with smubbs,sounds like a money thing.Personally for me being in my 40's,I have an 18 year old daughter and the thought of dating someone my daughter's age is repugnant to me. | |
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| 18 year old girl marries a 40 year old man?
Posted: 12/24/2005 1:06:42 PM | | To each their own. Without any detailed information about the individuals involved, who can make a judgment over whether it's right or wrong or whether it will last? An 18 year old is not a child and some 18 year olds are, in fact, more mature than others will ever be. Relationships between persons with significant age differences often don't work out but sometimes do. It always amazes me how people rush to judgment on issues like this. One thing you have to give the parties involved some credit for is the courage that they must have to be able to face the inevitable and often bitter criticism that is sure to come from so many in their families and elsewhere. | |
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naterb
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Joined: 4/21/2005
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| 18 year old girl marries a 40 year old man?
Posted: 12/24/2005 1:21:45 PM | | A 40 year old guy with 18 year old girl that s just crazy. Its like that woman Ann nichole smith that married that rich millionair. What's the world comeing too... | |
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| 18 year old girl marries a 40 year old man?
Posted: 12/24/2005 1:55:39 PM | THOMASSR
Why don't we all leave them alone.
The original poster asked a question and we responded. So none of us have bothered them unless they are on this thread or we have gone out of our way to contact them. I do think if someone on here asks a question, we are open to answer it. I will agree with you in Live and let live. I do hope the young girl / woman thinks very hard about committing that young. | |
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| 18 year old girl marries a 40 year old man?
Posted: 12/24/2005 2:14:27 PM | In all fairness though,other countries,other societies and cultures accept this and it works for them.
I have noticed that large age differences are common in gay male couples.I know one gay couple who have been together for a few years,the older one,who is also the "man" is about 47,the other one,the "wife" is 26 I think. | |
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