| what happens when 1 person is more into then the other?
Posted: 12/27/2005 2:23:10 PM | Well,
I am in a mood today, and I keep thinking of questions that others may be thinking but are afraid to ask.
You have jane and john, they meet up, things go well, (very well)
John likes jane alot but jane really likes john, moreso then john likes her.
Should she let john know, or keep it to herself in fear that it may hurt the relationship because he isnt at the same point as she is?
Everyones input is welcome..I want to see the difference in opinion for both males and females. | |
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| what happens when 1 person is more into then the other?
Posted: 12/27/2005 2:34:48 PM | Has Jane met D!ck?
Just kidding...lol
My guess is that if Jane can sense that John isn't into her as much as she is into him...(sheesh... I can't believe I'm posting here)...then perhaps she might stay on the lookout for the next best thing.
You cannot steer a parked car.
Meaning, nobody has any control over how much someone likes them.
Know what I mean?... | |
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AI03™
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| what happens when 1 person is more into then the other?
Posted: 12/27/2005 2:51:49 PM | Isn't there ALWAYS someone who is into the other more than the other?
Isn't there ALSO always someone who brings more to the relationship then their partner?
Isn't there ALWAYS someone who needs the other more than they need them?
*shrugs*
It really wouldn't bother me.
I'm a lover..I'll be the one who loves her the most k?
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arri
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Joined: 10/5/2005
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| what happens when 1 person is more into then the other?
Posted: 12/27/2005 3:58:03 PM | or work on it if it has a possible chance
*shrugs*
Or give it a possible chance by working on it.
It's not a competition ... As long as everyone is happy
And we have a winner!! :)
For me; having someone to love and care about.....to do nice things for is just as important or MORE important than having someone completely obsessed with me. Heck; if I am happy with the way that she treats me, and we are moving in directions I want to move and satisfying the life the want to have, and the sex is still wonderful and passionate......who cares if she EVER says she loves me.
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arri
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Joined: 10/5/2005
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| what happens when 1 person is more into then the other?
Posted: 12/27/2005 4:01:26 PM | Or give it a possible chance by working on it.
I have met some really great ladies that I wanted to keep .. but ...  ... and worked on it .. and didn't work ...
I don't think it can be forced ... | |
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| what happens when 1 person is more into then the other?
Posted: 12/27/2005 4:10:10 PM | just been there and done that.....and still licking my wounds......got in way too deep and had to be hit over the head with a 2x4 for me to realize he didn't feel the same way
what makes it really hard is that he and his new gf are still on the forums and publicly professing their love....so i've made it a point not to read that particular forum...but i miss the participation
still cry a lot...but hoping it will get better as time goes by | |
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| what happens when 1 person is more into then the other?
Posted: 12/27/2005 4:12:23 PM | Hmmmm, interesting. I can say I've been there, done that. What do you do, when you tell the person that you're falling for them BEFORE you should really know for sure? Yep, I did it. Talked to a guy DRUNK, things were said(Know I remember now), and now that we've hung out, I'm not sure if he likes me as much as I do.  UGH. Should I ask or not? Crap, I hate dating.......... | |
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| what happens when 1 person is more into then the other?
Posted: 12/27/2005 4:16:16 PM | | Usually in these cases a breakup is inevitable, unless things change down the road. The one whose not as much into the other one feels pressured and smothered. It takes two to Tango and balance is a requirement. | |
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| what happens when 1 person is more into then the other?
Posted: 12/27/2005 4:18:08 PM | | I promised myself once I split with the ex, I would never get involved with anyone again that didn't love me as much as I love them....It was just too miserable. I'd rather have it the other way around now... | |
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arri
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Joined: 10/5/2005
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| what happens when 1 person is more into then the other?
Posted: 12/27/2005 5:40:09 PM | For me; having someone to love and care about.....to do nice things for is just as important or MORE important than having someone completely obsessed with me. Heck; if I am happy with the way that she treats me, and we are moving in directions I want to move and satisfying the life the want to have, and the sex is still wonderful and passionate......who cares if she EVER says she loves me.
Excellent post, Frrosty.
I'm in love with the most amazing woman I have ever met. She's there for me, she likes me, enjoys my company, but she's too fresh from a recent break-up to have serious feelings for me. That's OK. I can be patient, and I can wait until she heals....even help her get past it.
I don't have to have complete balance in the relationship, I just have to have HER....however I can get her. 
I've made no secret of how I feel towards her. I want to shout it from the proverbial rooftops. | |
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| what happens when 1 person is more into then the other?
Posted: 12/27/2005 5:41:45 PM |
Usually in these cases a breakup is inevitable, unless things change down the road. The one whose not as much into the other one feels pressured and smothered. It takes two to Tango and balance is a requirement.
I've seen this before nosoup4u.
Seems like a no win situation at best.
Could be that the one who feels pressured/smuthered isn't quite sure what it is they want (?)
Who knows though, everyone's different. | |
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Joined: 9/4/2005
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| what happens when 1 person is more into then the other?
Posted: 12/27/2005 6:09:51 PM | Arri..I don't necessarily call a man needy because he loves... My last relationship was too much the opposite. I love doing things for a man I love, I love being there for him and supporting him through good times and bad, but I also want him to be there for me and have that same respect I would have for him...Maybe there is no such thing as equal love, but I sure am going to attempt to get something close...
Frrosty and De bene esse....thats the way I want a guy to feel about being with me.. | |
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arri
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| what happens when 1 person is more into then the other?
Posted: 12/27/2005 6:15:56 PM | Tee
going back to my original post here
"It's not a competition ... As long as everyone is happy"
Please appreciate that men and women love very differently and we don't show it the same way. Our idea of romance is different, out priorities are different and the way we show it is different. A man might be showing his love by working 12 hours a day and coming home burned out and tired.
Please don't mistake being loved with what you have in your head as what it should be.
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