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Posted: 1/1/2006 3:44:47 PM | I got a girl ive known sence middle school. we have bean prety tight trough out the last 8 years and she's bean trowing off sighns that she wants to settle down now... and with me. Now naturaly I have feelings aswell for this girl but what i do with my life is prety dangerous and im never in one place for a long time. not the kind of life i would want for her.
Last time I saw this girl other than this week was near a year ago. She was my date last night for newyears and things went good as normal the hole night. it was a good time. We were at a house party and some time around 4am i passed out on the couch. When i woke up dismorning the ovious was more than ovious.
After a night of closeness with each other she slep with a nother guy.
It was 7am when i woke up and saw this. no one elce was awake. just me. I siently put on my coat and walked home. even tho she was my ride. | |
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Posted: 1/1/2006 3:59:36 PM | | Not to be coldhearted but what I don't understand is if you have a dangerous lifestyle and don't want her to have that kind of life then what is the problem that you have seeing her with someone else? | |
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Posted: 1/1/2006 4:09:28 PM | It's harsh, but it's kind of like: You snooze, you lose.
Sounds like you haven't made a commitment to her in spite of her letting you know she wanted one. If you didn't let her know you wanted her in your life, too bad for you. Why should she just wait around for you and for something that may or may not ever happen?
Sorry if I sound unsympathetic, but I don't think you have any claim on her just because you have feelings for one another. | |
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Posted: 1/1/2006 4:14:29 PM | I don't think it is cool at all for a girl to sleep with another guy while out on a date with someone.
At least you don't have to feel all bad about letting her down about the settling down issue. She has made this easy for you now. Maybe should thank her. | |
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Posted: 1/1/2006 4:23:14 PM | 8 yrs - rember this. its not a snooze thing its a safty thing. we were very very close. Of corse I hope she meets a good guy.
Take it the last time you get to be with some one like this and have that happen. on that rare night you get to be with each other.
It was messed up. i havant spoke to anyone in real life about this. it felt good to get off my cheast. thank you. and yes true enough im not to worried about letting her down anymore. | |
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Posted: 1/1/2006 9:12:52 PM | | you know some of these comments are true about if you wanted her you should have told her or if your not the right guy but by all means you were suppose to be with her that night it was a date (right) and well i think its rude of her to have done that and her feelings for you must not be that serious cause she left the date with someone else common ppl, it would have been different had it been the next day or something but not that date it self | |
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Posted: 1/1/2006 9:16:34 PM | | Maybe she was making a cold, hard statement to him. 'If you don't want me, someone else will.' Not that I condone that, just supposing. | |
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Posted: 1/1/2006 9:20:56 PM |
Is your thread really an advertisement for Hooked on Phonics?
Well I never! Ok really I did..and quite frankly I agree.   | |
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Posted: 1/1/2006 9:27:31 PM | Whoa, wait wait wait a second here, wtf?
(god I wish I learned to do the quote box 5 minutes ago)
Ok, regardless of if this guy said he wanted to date her, or never told her, or frankly, pretty much no matter what happened, it comes down to this:
His DATE just f***ed another guy.
I'll say this again, because it bears repeating.
His DATE... just F***ed another guy.
If this was a girl coming on here saying, "I've had a friend for a long time who I really liked but I mean it was kinda on again off again etc and we went on a date last night and I found out when the party was over that he had slept with another girl... I ended up walking home even though he was my ride because I was so sad and ashamed." you people would be doling out sympathy left and right and offering to cut this guys nuts off.
I've always said guys and girls are different and not everything should be equal between the sexes because, like it or not, it isn't... but this kinda thing sucks no matter who you are.
Anyway, hope you get over this girl sooner rather than later. But even if you didn't like her that much, I'd feel really crappy if some girl slept with another guy on our date. That's just messed up... cause you know, it woulda been so hard for her to wait till the date was over before getting herself off on some random manmeat. (Do I sound bitter? Yeah, prolly sound it.. but mostly just trying to emphasize my point) | |
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Posted: 1/1/2006 9:40:41 PM | | Just means she was doing it all along. If not she sure the heck wouldn't of done it with you there. Your better off. That one You need to run from. Funny how little we know someone sometimes, even after years, and years. | |
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Posted: 1/1/2006 9:46:05 PM | actully hon if she can do this and lets say you were looking for the same thing as she did you whould have been making a big mistake. just imagine on your wedding day she went to take a washroom break with the your best man. | |
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Posted: 1/2/2006 4:02:31 AM | New Year's Eve, did you pass out with the knowledge of where she was when you passed out?
If it was a "pass out" kind of party, she might be oblivious to "sleeping" with someone and she might not have even been a willing participant.
I think it was kind of cowardly for you to walk out and walk home. You don't know of her welfare. Assuming guilt prior to confrontation; the outcome is all pure speculation.
Write back in a couple of days when you find out just exactly what "did go down" at the New Year's Eve Party. Sounds like a convenient exit.
(Sorry to those of you I piss off - but one side of the story - woke up alone - she slept with another guy - did he go find her??? - What if she's tucked away safely in one of the kids' rooms.. C'mon people!!!!) | |
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Posted: 1/2/2006 4:11:39 AM | Diggy
YEs to hear some more of the story or the other side of the story would be good. Sounds a little strange to me.
If what he says is true she did him a favor but whats the whole story. | |
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Posted: 1/2/2006 4:16:21 AM | You said you last saw her a year ago.
I think in that case your "tight" has changed to "loose" and perhaps you aren't ready to do anything about it?? | |
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Posted: 1/2/2006 10:20:09 AM | Just in reply to this post.
So u all know.
The only thing that botherd me is the fact she did it that night. that time.
I was only asleep for 3hours max.
This was my last visit home to see some friends n such and it coulda left on a good note.
Its there loss.
- ps. thx Setiri. im glad you understand. no one in real life down here even knows that I know. its not something I realy wana talk about but i hada get it off my cheast. Thx. | |
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