| Would YOU stick around for your love?
Posted: 1/2/2006 7:08:05 PM | Would you stick around with someone that has some pretty serious emotional problems? I'm speaking about someone that's Bipolar, has been in and out of "programs" in their youth, is a recovered meth head... They're trying their damnedest to fix their life.
You knew what you were getting into when you started a relationship with this person and despite loving them, the fact that you can't help them just drives you crazy.. You want things to get better for them but feel as though they never will.
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| Would YOU stick around for your love?
Posted: 1/2/2006 7:17:05 PM | | If I honestly loved that person, yes...of course I would. Everyone has struggles, and we shouldn't be punished for them. If this person is really putting forth the effort to recover, you should stand by him/her. It's a long and slow and very difficult process, battling an addiction or illness. Don't give up. | |
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| Would YOU stick around for your love?
Posted: 1/2/2006 7:17:34 PM | | I never dated anyone like that, and never will. If you knew going in, and you can deal with it, if they can beat it, then you might, but most wouldn't. I know everyone needs someone. Some love people don't run, no matter what. I just wouldn't stick around to live a life full of him flipping out all the time. One could get hurt that way. | |
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| Would YOU stick around for your love?
Posted: 1/2/2006 7:17:54 PM | | It hurts when u cant help someone u luv i know i seen it when my momma past from cancer my pops was hurtin so bad he couldnt help her but he didnt just leave her becuz of it that would of been wrong now this is up to u can help by being there i know it ment alot to my momma she always said how much she appreciated my pops this is somthing u have to figure out but yes i would but ive seen it happin before well good luck | |
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| Would YOU stick around for your love?
Posted: 1/2/2006 7:37:41 PM | | Been there, tried it, stuck it out for 10 years until it drained me of all the energy I had. Still love the man, but couldn't stay, because it was me that was being destroyed in the end. | |
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| Would YOU stick around for your love?
Posted: 1/2/2006 7:40:26 PM | | So Talitha, you would simply sweep them aside, leave them in the gutter? I think our definitions of "love" differ a smidge. | |
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| Would YOU stick around for your love?
Posted: 1/2/2006 7:44:11 PM | If youre talking about yourself (19 years old), i believe EVERYONE who has any brains would tell you - GET OUT!
being a meth head is not a disease - it is a choice. Don't believe otherwise. Been there.
Bipolar is a medical condition that you can't control, you didn't cause, and you can't cure.
So, what's your problem. You have a desire to 'save' someone and be a martyr.
As a friend once told me
" You can't save the world (riotprovocateur), Jesus tried, and they crucified him!"
Wake up. If you did what they are doing, would they fill in where you are? i think not.
you already know this...
Ps: Rename thread to: Would YOU stick around for your abuse?
Loving someone incable of loving themself self abuse.
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| Would YOU stick around for your love?
Posted: 1/2/2006 7:48:47 PM | I can understand how things can get tiring. You just wish things will click and you'll live happily ever after. I believe a good talk is in order and discuss what exactly is going on. Maybe giving the person an ulitamadum will get them to kick it into gear.
If I truely loved the person, I think that I would stick around. I mean you can't help who you love right? But there is a differece between loving them and really LOVING them. You may just care about this person so much that you want to see them succeed in life. Who knows, look into yourself. You can get so much advice but only you know what's truely going on.
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| Would YOU stick around for your love?
Posted: 1/2/2006 7:50:39 PM | | its hard to say, everyone is different. My ex had ADD with Hyperactivity. she though taking meds would help her but it screwed her up. she deffinitly had hormonal problem and had tirod dificulties. but you know what, I loved her and I would helped her and loved her for ever if she would have made the correct decision. the thing to remember is you can do all that you can do but if they aren't seeing your effort and what you are trying to do for them and mess up your life in the process than i say you have to do the hard thing and leave them behind. a relationship is not like a family member like a son or a daughter. things can go wrong even if everything is perfect sometimes. | |
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| Would YOU stick around for your love?
Posted: 1/2/2006 7:51:02 PM | My problem? A MARTYR? You're right, I'm sure alot of folks just pick up the crazies as a "project" of sorts. That's incredibly insulting.. Would you feel the same way if the person in question was a close friend of yours? No one chooses who they fall for in any case.
Besides, I'm no prize pig myself and this person has spent countless hours listening, reassuring, helping. If it weren't a 50/50 relationship I wouldn't stick around REGARDLESS of their state of mind.
EDIT: This was directed toward Sam. | |
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| Would YOU stick around for your love?
Posted: 1/2/2006 7:53:24 PM | | No, if they were a danger to themselve, or others, the same for alcoholic's, It is tragic, but they are unfit for relationships, you wouldn,t have a relationship with a mentally retarded person, or a child ,or someone who would drown your children while you were at work, or who pretended to take medicine because they didn't like the side affects and go off the deep end. its a cruel world, why make it crueler. | |
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| Would YOU stick around for your love?
Posted: 1/2/2006 7:54:23 PM |
So Talitha, you would simply sweep them aside, leave them in the gutter? I think our definitions of "love" differ a smidge.
Right on Riotprovocateur! God, some of you people are selfish heartless **stards. If this is plenty of fish, you guys must be the sharks. People are lazy and dont want to put any effort into a relationship anymore.
Talitha, do you and your friends sit around alot all day and watch soap operas and eat bonbons? | |
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| Would YOU stick around for your love?
Posted: 1/2/2006 7:55:49 PM |
i think if it becomes so hard that its destroying ur life the enough is enough move on.
I think back to the movie The Mexican with Brad Pitt and Julia Roberts. The Quote "If two people love each other, but they just can't seem to get it together, when do you get to that point of enough is enough? "
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| Would YOU stick around for your love?
Posted: 1/2/2006 7:58:07 PM | | I would stick around to a certain extent...I would only stick around if the person I was with had mad feelings for me like I did for that person...if that person was willing to do the same for me...if there was a deep connection...now if there is none of that going on or if it was only one sided, hell no...life is too short to wait for someone...you might miss the person your truely meant to be with | |
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| Would YOU stick around for your love?
Posted: 1/2/2006 8:31:47 PM | Hottie.....Its not the movies tho, i no what ur saying but love dont make it all better, and yes course there is a time where enough is enough when it gets to much u cant breathe!
Maybe its not nice but sad and in love cant be much fun either and right or wrong we only get one shot on this planet and i would want to spend it happy so i myself personally would walk! | |
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| Would YOU stick around for your love?
Posted: 1/2/2006 9:21:41 PM | | No, it is called tough love. The emotional problem is treatable but the drug problem isn't that easy. Sticking around is enableing. I am gone till you get help and do what you need to get your life together. You have your life to think about and if you have kids...it puts them in harms way and can be taken if exposed. You can tell them you love them and will be here when they are ready/heathy for them. | |
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| Would YOU stick around for your love?
Posted: 1/2/2006 9:32:15 PM | | They don't do drugs anymore or even drink, infact I get an earful just for drinking too much... So that's not even a problem. | |
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| Would YOU stick around for your love?
Posted: 1/2/2006 10:00:36 PM | | No, they have to help themselves before we can do anything for them. Id say " I love you and I'll be here when you are ready to get your life in order and are showing that readiness through serious and consistent action toward change. " | |
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| Would YOU stick around for your love?
Posted: 1/2/2006 11:36:46 PM | | If I were stupid enough to get involved with that person with my eyes wide open from the beginning then I guess I'd stay. Apparently there'd be no inner voice telling me that I deserve a normal, reasonably untroubled person in my life, or maybe I really don't deserve any better. So yep, I'd stay till she flushed my life down the toilet too. | |
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| Would YOU stick around for your love?
Posted: 1/3/2006 12:01:37 AM | | Well I certainly hope you don't have any children in the future... I get the feeling you would take them to see a backstreet abortionist if they had any problems in their adolescence. | |
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