| How would you feel??...
Posted: 1/4/2006 2:13:50 PM | | How would you feel if you and your boyfriend or girlfriend lived together and they had a friend over at the house of the opposite sex while you were not there???...Would you feel comfortable about it??...Would you be abgry or jealous??...How would you feel and react to that??? | |
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| How would you feel??...
Posted: 1/4/2006 2:17:19 PM | | I would say if I had an issue, it would be brought up...but the fact that I did would make me analyze my relationship with this person and if the base of trust was there or not. Also, if something were to happen, simple as saying goodbye. Not that difficult. I could find someone who would have friends over, but only desire me. | |
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Posted: 1/4/2006 2:17:38 PM | hmmmm, depending on how much i trusted her.. would depend on how comfortable i was about it..
first instinct... wouldnt be to happy about it... | |
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| How would you feel??...
Posted: 1/4/2006 2:22:43 PM | I wouldnt get jealous.
I hang out with my male friends one on one all the time, and I believe in tit for tat.
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| How would you feel??...
Posted: 1/4/2006 2:24:17 PM | | If there is any insecure feeling what so ever there is a big trust issue it may be yours and it my be hers but when your with the right one you wont feel that! I have many male FRIENDS and they will remain my friends always and if my spouse or whatever has female friends I would hope they would maintain those relationships as well. Otherwise I dont think it is healthy. Maybe a courtesy call just lettin ya know so and so is coming over would be nice but if something is going to happen it will happen anywhere! Just be straight up about it is all????/ ............. No? | |
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| How would you feel??...
Posted: 1/4/2006 2:26:42 PM | | It might also depend on if they were friends before you two were in a relationship. If this is a new friendship I might be a wee bit jealous, you must also factor in the amount of trust the two of you have. Would she be comfortable with you hanging out with a female friend? If not then you should mention that to her. | |
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| How would you feel??...
Posted: 1/4/2006 2:36:06 PM | | I wouldnt get jealouse personaly!......after all there (YOUR) girlfriend or boyfriend for a reason!......depends how close the boyfriend & girlfriend are aswell really! | |
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Posted: 1/4/2006 2:52:39 PM | Very disrespectful! Very!
I wouldn't have to worry about it though.. my neighbors watch my house like a hawk (the party house) and they know who everyone is and if not, they call me! | |
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Posted: 1/4/2006 2:53:23 PM | Actually.. if she was cute, it really wouldn't matter. Maybe I'd like her too!!
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Posted: 1/4/2006 3:01:40 PM | | To be in a relationship there must be trust. If you have no trust, you have much less of a relationship. So...I suggest there be some more communication and more trust | |
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| How would you feel??...
Posted: 1/4/2006 3:06:17 PM | I think you have to ask yourself;
1. How much time do they spend together?
2. Do they hang out late at night?
3. Do they come home and take a shower right away?
4. Do they ever come home feshly showered?
5. Do they keep secrets from you?
6. Do they ever spend the night at each others home?
7. Are you blind enough not to notice if it were going on right in front of you?
8. Do they ever have the other's cloths on?
9. Do they touch each other excessivly?
10.Did they kiss each other on New Years and leave you standing there?
There that ought to help ya. | |
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Posted: 1/4/2006 3:21:19 PM | Shouldn't there be ground rules at the start of a relationship???
Sort of like she'll say...You will dump all your ****, slut and hoe friends. From now on, you will only spend time with me. Now I have to go out to the spa, Bill, Rick and Gerry are meeting me there for a group massage. I do expect the dishes to be done. The laundry folded and the floors washed. I'll be back in a couple of days. You have time.
A past life with an X. | |
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| How would you feel??...
Posted: 1/4/2006 3:22:59 PM | | Trust is an essential part of any relationship. If you don't truly trust Him/Her then there are issues to be dealt with. | |
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Posted: 1/4/2006 3:27:40 PM | Myself personally 95% of my friends are male, I don;t hang out with too many females so for me to never be alone with my friends would be kinda odd. My best friend is male too. What you men have to worry about (if anything) is a "new" man coming around cuz for real I fell that my male friends were there before my man so if I wanted em I woulda had em already. A new man around on the other hand being at the house that your woman didn;t know before could be awkward depending on the relationship involved, if it was a coworker or something it would be cool. So men... give your women a little credit.
I know this forum wasn;t based on a specific sex but I had to get that shit out, dealt with men accusing of stuff I didn't do too many damn times. | |
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Posted: 1/4/2006 3:29:52 PM | | As said before, it's all about trust. I am not that trusting of anyone though. Not after finding my best friend with my girlfriend... | |
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Posted: 1/4/2006 3:43:24 PM | How funny you mention this, my best friend(a female I have known for many years), just started seeing this guy a couple of weeks ago... same situation except im the friend... and... he hates me...( of course ).. now I don't live there but I am there every night to be a serrogote father for her 2 daughters.. ok... now here's where trust comes into play.... first of all, If my friend and I were going to secretly have a relationship on her new boyfriend, why wouldn't we just be together.... duhhh... and if she totally trusts me with her children, then why shouldn't he trust me?
Most people who form friendships usually last forever, Marriage 40% of the time end in divorce....... people gotta start trusting people... | |
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Rhett1
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Joined: 10/16/2005
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| How would you feel??...
Posted: 1/4/2006 4:36:49 PM | | Personally, I wouldn't be happy about it, but I'm basing that on personal experience. My ex was like a kid in a candy store whenever women paid him attention. The woman that kept coming over when I wasn't around is now sharing a bed with him, so... | |
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Joined: 4/21/2003
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| How would you feel??...
Posted: 1/4/2006 4:49:37 PM | | I think if she told me about it whats the big deal,did she tell you about it or did you find out some other way,if she told you chances are it was just a friend,trust is what it's all about,if she didn't tell you,I would just ask why was this guy here see what she says you really need to be more specific | |
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Posted: 1/4/2006 4:56:27 PM | | depends on if i trusted her or not...if not then probably wouldnt be having her at my pad either way!!! | |
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| How would you feel??...
Posted: 1/4/2006 4:59:37 PM | | Well the only thing that can be said of that is what is your level of trust with your partner. If you trust her/him implicitly and are in a strong and lasting relationship there shouldn't be any anger or jealousy unless they were trying to hide the fact that the visitor was there then there is reason to worry. Otherwise if they were open and honest about it and made sure you know I wouldn't read anything into it. Just a friend visiting a friend. | |
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Ldygmr
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Joined: 12/19/2005
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| How would you feel??...
Posted: 1/4/2006 5:01:25 PM | | I agree it is about trust. I would hope I would be living with a person I could trust to come to me when he/she is done with me and simply say as much. Not sneak about and be decietful. | |
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Posted: 1/4/2006 5:34:26 PM | I wouln't like that at all..
It all depends how long time I've been with that girl. If we would've been together for a while and she never gave me any reason not to trust her, I'd accept it.. but I still wouldn't like it. However, if the relationship is pretty new and I don't know her all that well yet.. then it would be NO WAY! | |
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| How would you feel??...
Posted: 1/4/2006 5:35:50 PM | i'd be fine with it. It's all about trust. I have a bunch of friends that are women (probably seen as a problem when I'm in a relationship) but that's all they are is friends. There's a reason why I'm with the girl.
If she understands that with me, then I've got no problem with her having a guy over. | |
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| How would you feel??...
Posted: 1/7/2006 12:07:42 PM | This is a trust thing. If you trust them, and they are worthy of that trust, then they can have friends over of either sex and it's not an issue. If you do NOT trust them, then something is sour and wrong in the relationship anyway - the fact that you have problems with their friends coming over is a symptom of the mallaise, but is not the cause.
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