| Have the tables turned, or am I just strange?
Posted: 1/6/2006 2:19:46 AM | Lately I've noticed a lot of "touchy feely" guys out there that are talking about feelings and emotions and crap, and I'm like "Man up! Quit UR snivelin' wussy boy"! LOL
I could care less about long walks on the beach and holding hands.
Though I can cook, I wouldn't even if you held a gun to my head (why should I, there are restaurants everywhere).
I can run a business, balance a checkbook, and change a tire (though admittingly I don't care to ever do the latter).
If I see a man cry and his mother hasn't just died, I'm usually turned off.
Anyway, I say all this to ask "have the tables turned in gender roles, or am I just a strange woman that's out of touch with the realities of male/female relationships"? | |
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Rake
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Joined: 3/12/2005
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| Have the tables turned, or am I just strange?
Posted: 1/6/2006 2:43:27 AM | | I think you're just at a point in your life where you need a man to be a stereotypical man...when the need that drives this feeling is satisfied you'll find that your tastes will change | |
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| Have the tables turned, or am I just strange?
Posted: 1/6/2006 2:57:27 AM |
I think you're just at a point in your life where you need a man to be a stereotypical man...when the need that drives this feeling is satisfied you'll find that your tastes will change.
Maybe that's what it is. I'm so sick of "soft" men! Perhaps it's my environment, but I keep coming across so many weak, crybaby guys lately. My friends do to (and we don't even live in the same places). | |
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Rake
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Joined: 3/12/2005
Msg: 6 | |
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| Have the tables turned, or am I just strange?
Posted: 1/6/2006 3:31:23 AM | Or it is likely that when a woman is with a softer man she might subconsciously not feel free to show the more femminine aspects of her personality.When a man is softer and more emotional instead of being the proverbial "rock" in the relationship,maybe its tougher to feel "safe" letting go because you dont feel he could handle it if you needed a shoulder.A lot of uber competent women who are very independent need a strong place to fall and to just be a woman once and awhile.I think we all love to let go and just relax like that sometimes JMHO | |
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Rake
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Joined: 3/12/2005
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| Have the tables turned, or am I just strange?
Posted: 1/6/2006 3:43:05 AM | | Acutally I find it refreshing when I come across a man who can express his emotions on a deeper level and communicate to me those feelings. It's what I've been looking for. But on the same hand, want him to be secure and strong. Guess there are women out there today that want the best of both worlds. I've come across too many that run when things get on the serious side...what's up with that. I like a man who can face his feelings straight on and not be ashamed. Both sexes are human after all. | |
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| Have the tables turned, or am I just strange?
Posted: 1/6/2006 5:23:04 AM | I think we have come to a point and a time in relationships where it is both okay and healthy for both men and women to be both strong and sensitive. It is possible to have it both ways, but you have to be accepting of it. Women should encourage their men to show their sensistive side, be soft sometimes. And men must learn that it is an asset to have a woman who is strong and can be independant. Men and Women are ment to compliment each other. The sad thing is that we have evolved into a scinario where one does one half of it (men are strong, keep emotions inside) and one does the other (Women are sensitive and show lots of emotion). Wouldn't it be great if a man and a woman could share these jobs? One of you be strong and understanding when the other is feeling vulnerable or whatever, but then when the strong one weakens for whatever reason, they can count on the other to be there and be the strong one.
And in the times where everything is going well, why not both be sensitive? It makes for a more open and close relationship. | |
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| Have the tables turned, or am I just strange?
Posted: 1/6/2006 5:38:37 AM | ^^^^I agree! I'm tired of the "I'm Mr. Budweiser man. I bring home meat, woman cook meat I eat meat. Woman take care of all my needs" It would be nice for a guy to be a little gentle. Hence the word gentleman!
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| Reply To #1
Posted: 1/6/2006 6:01:11 AM | | I'm not a whiner by far but I'll tell you this you need to go get laid, the tension is just glittering off you. | |
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| Have the tables turned, or am I just strange?
Posted: 1/6/2006 6:40:12 AM | It would be nice for more men to be men again. It seems like a generation's worth of teaching boys "it's OK to cry" has turned too many men into gushing piles of emotion. ... I'm sorry, I just need a minute. I get so emotional on this topic. | |
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Rake
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Joined: 3/12/2005
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| Have the tables turned, or am I just strange?
Posted: 1/6/2006 6:45:10 AM | | there's nothing wrong with a man being emotionally honest or owning his emotions as long as he does so in an appropriate manner...there's a right place and time for almost everything in this world... | |
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| Have the tables turned, or am I just strange?
Posted: 1/6/2006 6:55:48 AM | There’s nothing wrong with doing it at an appropriate time and place - sure. That’s not what I am talking about, nor do I think it’s what the OP is talking about. Guys are much more feminine today than they ever were during my childhood. I couldn’t imagine my dad or grandfathers ever acting like so many men do today.
Anyone think those 12 coal miners that died in West Virginia shed many tears? I sure as hell don’t. | |
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Posted: 1/6/2006 7:32:28 AM | lol lakaota, the tension is glittering off me, too. Why can't I get any from a man strong enough to show me just how real he is?!
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Rake
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Joined: 3/12/2005
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| Reply To #1
Posted: 1/6/2006 7:42:48 AM | and here I was thinking that you just had a certain glow about you  | |
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| Reply To #1
Posted: 1/6/2006 7:46:45 AM | Yeah, I call it dewy anticipation.
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Rake
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Joined: 3/12/2005
Msg: 23 | |
| Reply To #1
Posted: 1/6/2006 7:53:44 AM |
Yeah, I call it dewy anticipation.
OT: I suggest you go out and find yourself a mans man and see if that floats your boat... | |
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| Reply To #1
Posted: 1/6/2006 8:03:52 AM | *sigh*
If there was one to be found, I would have found him by now. And believe me, a mans man does float my boat like a river. That is the ONLY kind of man for me, tears, the dark side, all of it.
*sighingtheendlesssigh* | |
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| Reply To #1
Posted: 1/6/2006 8:14:09 AM | Bathe yourself, get some protein in you, and shake your a*s*s right on over and into my tent.
Feminisim emascualted some males and drove them into indefinite deliriums of self pity.
TGIF people! | |
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