| People under age thirty should not be allowed marriage.
Posted: 1/8/2006 10:01:41 AM | | From the most marked research among many of my colleagues regarding marriage in this current year, it is evident that the institution of marriage is not what it was once, particularly looking at its own decomposition rapidly generating beginning around 1990. People are generally not "set in thier ways" untill the mid to late twenties, yet you see all of these young people getting married at around age twenty. The result. . .90% divorce. This day and age with technology and the evolution revolution, marriage is now nothing but a longer version of a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. Divorce is what "breaking up" used to be. Marriage means "for better or worse till the end". Now, convenience overrides everything. Sad yet amazing. | |
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| People under age thirty should not be allowed marriage.
Posted: 1/8/2006 10:12:17 AM | actually it doesn't matter your age ... it depends solely upon your maturity level... i mean come on lets face it.. sure there are plenty of immature people getting married.. at a young age AND older age... but it is devotion, people give up too easily now adays.. a marriage is work..
so for the most part i agree with your opinion.. however i do not with the age... like i said its all about the devotion and maturity level.. | |
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| People under age thirty should not be allowed marriage.
Posted: 1/8/2006 10:18:18 AM | I agree....partially. I don't think a lot of people really get a case of the "smarts" until they are 30ish. Like the ol' sayin' goes...."If I only knew then, what I do now". But (there's always a but eh? hehe) seein' that since your a Dr. and all...you must know that women are advised to only have children up the the age of 35, as their are many added risks in carrying and giving birth after that age. What's a lady to do? Breed like a rabbit and pop em out like a popcorn popper within a five year period?  | |
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| People under age thirty should not be allowed marriage.
Posted: 1/8/2006 10:48:52 AM | It's truly dependant on a person's maturity level as I've know people over 30 who are even more irresponsible and ignorant than I was when I was in my early teens.
You should never assume that people are ready just cause they're a certain age and you should never assume they aren't by the same means, either. It's just another form of prejudice that really doesn't set a solid fact or rule, but only plays on a fear. | |
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Joined: 12/28/2005
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| People under age thirty should not be allowed marriage.
Posted: 1/8/2006 11:31:27 AM | ..There should be a law against young ppl who get married before thir 25 anyway..but who am I to judge....I mean you aren't really "set in your ways" until your 30 as the OP suggested. I would say you really haven't discovered the true you until you are at least 40. | |
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| People under age thirty should not be allowed marriage.
Posted: 1/8/2006 1:50:00 PM | | you know at first I agreed with that! but then you know what I say the younger generation have all the right to enjoy the sweet bliss of divorce at least once in there life. I think it helps a male find perpective in the world of reality. | |
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| People under age thirty should not be allowed marriage.
Posted: 1/10/2006 1:03:45 PM | i know a couple who got married right after their h.s. graduation [not literally...but you get the point]
anywho, they've been married for...ummmmz... iunno...but their eldest son already has a degree and what not. so ha!  | |
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| People under age thirty should not be allowed marriage.
Posted: 1/10/2006 1:09:23 PM | RIOT: Just throw a helmet on their head too and you're all set!
BRAWNY: New age requirement then? Might be better! lol
I think people just have to learn their own lessons, no matter what the age...as long as they learn from it all, it will end up worth it... | |
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| People under age thirty should not be allowed marriage.
Posted: 1/10/2006 1:20:54 PM | People over 55 should not be allowed to dictate lifestyle choices to the young.
Should those under 30 be allowed to enforce laws banning 55 year olds and up from having sex with those 18- 30 because those liaisons aren't fruitful, either? | |
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| People under age thirty should not be allowed marriage.
Posted: 1/10/2006 1:20:59 PM |
i know a couple who got married right after their h.s. graduation [not literally...but you get the point]
anywho, they've been married for...ummmmz... iunno...but their eldest son already has a degree and what not. so ha!
And the odds are ... ? there is a few that make it, but there is thousands that don't
I think people just have to learn their own lessons, no matter what the age...as long as they learn from it all, it will end up worth it...
Also a worthy point too. How can you learn to pick yourself up in life if your not allowed to fall.
Toughy, but I would have to go with OP's blurb. Living life, experiencing good bad etc etc etc is all good, but I think marriage is the "sacred" of all treasures, and shouldn't be used as a pawn in lifes playing field of experiences | |
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| People under age thirty should not be allowed marriage.
Posted: 1/10/2006 1:27:09 PM | | Listen, Dr.Phil. The laws of this country say one is a full adult at the age of 21 and can marry without anyone's consent, including yours. I don't give a damn what your research tells you. We are entitled under the Constitution, the highest law of the land to life and the right to life includes the right to marriage. Canada's population is declining, were it not for the 200,000 immigrants moving here each year. What would your reaserch tell you would happen to our economy if noone was allowed to marry before 30 ? The economy would collapse. Ask your economist colleages to confirm this. And stay out of our lives, Malthus. | |
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| People under age thirty should not be allowed marriage.
Posted: 1/10/2006 1:44:07 PM | ^^^^
Yeah! What Angyson said!
We have the RIGHT to make stupid mistakes, have divorces and broken families and unplanned children (hell, someone has to take care of the seniors in nursing homes and pay social security so I can retire, and I don't want a non-English speaking immigrant wiping my aging a$$!). Okay, so I exaggerate a little. | |
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| People under age thirty should not be allowed marriage.
Posted: 1/10/2006 1:48:37 PM | I figured out years ago that I should have waited until I was +30 to marry, but that's water under the bridge.
At 19, and horny for that sweet talking, good looking stud, my brains just weren't working up to par. Twenty years, and five kids later, I wised up. A little long in the tooth, but able to pull my weary bones out of that house and get rid of "god's gift to women". 
Ironically, he ended up marrying an active Alcoholic like him. | |
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| People under age thirty should not be allowed marriage.
Posted: 1/10/2006 1:55:13 PM |
And the odds are ... ? there is a few that make it, but there is thousands that don't
the point is...it IS posibble. no matter what age is, if you decide to make it work and commit to it...it IS possible to. if the statistics is all there is, then maybe we shouldn't get married at all..for it'll most likely just end up in divorce.
people should realize that marriage isn't only about whether the two can stand living together. it's growing together as well. | |
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| People under age thirty should not be allowed marriage.
Posted: 1/10/2006 2:07:10 PM | I think it's a good point, and I've encouraged my 18 yo daughter to wait as long as possible before she gets married. I want her to really LIVE life and enjoy it, get a good education, and make sure that it's what she truly wants. I try to encourage my kids not to repeat my mistakes from the past, although I did wait until I was almost 28 before I had my first child. It blows me away when I see teenagers having kids. I don't think they have a clue as far as what they're really "in for"......  I guess the same can be said about marriage. My daughter is getting first-hand experience by just having a roommate. I told her it would be one of the hardest things she'd ever have to do~~~Living with someone and learning to compromise, share responsibility, etc.... The 2nd hardest thing is having kids~~  | |
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| People under age thirty should not be allowed marriage.
Posted: 1/10/2006 3:15:15 PM | Why stop at 30....why not just outlaw the whole institution as being remarkably imperfect
Because, as humans we need to fail in order to learn and evolve. Changing the age limit would only interfere with that.
However, that being said....the average age for getting married is creeping up towards 30. I got married at 26....neither to early or to late. My marriage lasted 19 years...would it have lasted longer if I waited until 30. Most definately not...I would just be 4 more years older and re-singled...how fabf*ckingfantastic would that be....not!
Just my two cents,
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Joined: 1/17/2008
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| People under age thirty should not be allowed marriage.
Posted: 1/31/2008 5:04:04 AM | OP,
I can say that I actually agree.. not old school... unfortunately...
There are some that will withstand the test of time and love... unfortunately as it seems it has become way too convinient to just give up... way too accepting..
Whoever thought that marriage is milk and honey... and it does not require hard work, persistance, determination, endurance tend to add to this statistic. | |
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