| Why do women ask for one thang and want another?
Posted: 1/9/2006 4:14:48 PM | I seen many of times how women say there looking for mr.right or looking for a good man,but when he comes along.They just overlook and get what there not looking for,i know everyone have a certain person in mind.Sometimes they say opposites attract,so why ask for something if that's not what your really looking for.I always said close your eyes and open your heart... | |
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| Why do women ask for one thang and want another?
Posted: 1/9/2006 4:20:19 PM | I've replied to this question so many times it hurts my brain.
Here are some answers from other posts that I answered....
Of course women "want" a nice guy. But want and attracted to are two different things.
and....
It's a test that women developed over thousands of years of evolution manifested in the form of email. It's a one question test, that is part of a whole series of one question tests. Why are they only one question each? Because you either fail or pass. Evolution doesn't have a whole lot of room for error. Once you fail, that's it.
The test/question here is...
Are you...
a)A real man
b)a perv
c)ordinary
d)inexperienced
e)a doormat
f)a a__hole
g)all of b) to f)
h)any combo of b-f | |
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| Why do women ask for one thang and want another?
Posted: 1/9/2006 4:21:34 PM | | If we all knew what we really wanted we'd be in a d*a*m*n sterile environment now wouldn't we? If you find women finding you unappealing it is not their issue, it is yours. | |
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| Why do women ask for one thang and want another?
Posted: 1/9/2006 4:21:49 PM | | I dont know what kind of women you've been talking to but I think a lot of them get told one thing and get another. Just the opposite of what your saying. Do you really think when they ask for an honest guy who doesnt play games with them they are really happy when he turns out to be a player and a lier? I dont think so. | |
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| Why do women ask for one thang and want another?
Posted: 1/9/2006 4:42:50 PM |
I seen many of times how women say there looking for mr.right or looking for a good man,but when he comes along.They just overlook.....
Just because you think you might be Mr.Right doesn't mean you are. If you're overlooked, then I'd say you're not who the person was looking for.
.... when a woman says she wants a nice/good man.... it's doesn't equate to wanting ANY guy that thinks he's a nice guy, or a good man. There's much more involved in a match than a few words written in a profile. | |
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| Why do women ask for one thang and want another?
Posted: 1/9/2006 4:50:55 PM | Because those particular women (an this goes for guys who do that too) have no idea what they really want.
close your eyes and open your heart????
Are you for real? LOL | |
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| Why do women ask for one thang and want another?
Posted: 1/9/2006 5:12:51 PM | | Sometimes some of the qualities that she is looking for she can't verbalize because you simply don't have them. Usually they are things that you can't change. They are things that come from within. | |
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| Why do women ask for one thang and want another?
Posted: 1/9/2006 5:13:37 PM | | Because attraction is holisting, it happens on more than one level and if something feels off then why would they bother trying to see if they will eventually find a person attractive? | |
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Rake
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Joined: 3/12/2005
Msg: 12 | |
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| Why do women ask for one thang and want another?
Posted: 1/9/2006 6:03:19 PM | how do a female know if the guy is mr.right or a good man,when she don't give him a chance.Maybe people need to say what they really looking for
I don't think you're really getting it. Would you suggest that all females give anyone a chance just cause they think they might be the one? Women (people) are very complex..... some things just can't be written. People attempt to say what they are looking for... but if you read their profile and for one second... think I"M IT... she's 'gotta' like me.... then you'd be sorely mistaken. The profile gives you a glimpse of what she might be like, or looking for.... the rest... well, that's what unspoken words can only say. And beyond the unspoken words... is getting to know the other person. There's no guarantee of anything.
Maybe you're expecting too much! (well, not maybe....) | |
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| Why do women ask for one thang and want another?
Posted: 1/9/2006 6:42:53 PM | I would say most men are good (as opposed to evil) and most men are mr. right (for somebody). The problem isn't that I'm lying about what I want, my statement just goesn't come with a rider that says "Mr. right FOR ME" or "a good man FOR ME". If I had wanted plain old good guy I would have been married by 14... and well.. I'm still looking!
My profile is very long (it almost never gets read by guys who contact me anyway) and it tries to discribe what i'm looking for. What i'm REALLY looking for is what I asked for refined about 1000 times, i'm probably not able to verbalize it and you wouldn't REALLY want that much detail about it anyway.
How you see yourself if probably different than someone else sees you because we all come from different experiences, have different judgements and have different filters. Even if I could verbalize the qualities, in the situations and ratios that I want you might think you fit and and nobody else would agree with ya. | |
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| Why do women ask for one thang and want another?
Posted: 1/9/2006 6:52:22 PM | | Bottom line...First I need to find someone physically attractive......then intellectually...then emotionally...and if all the things fit...yay...but if only 1 or 2...I keep looking | |
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| Why do women ask for one thang and want another?
Posted: 1/9/2006 9:41:41 PM | | I find it very fascinating that you make 1 and 2 the first filters, but the last one is the most important. My bets would be that if someone turned you on emotionally, you'd then automatically qualify them for 1 and 2. | |
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| Why do women ask for one thang and want another?
Posted: 1/10/2006 2:54:59 AM | | Good point. Im feeling more and more like women want a bad man over a good one anyday. I have played women in the past, but now I just try truth and honesty and guess what; I strike out with the 70% of the time the other 30% I really have no interest in. We just arent what each other are looking for, and I can accept that and still be friends and supportive in there life. | |
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kmhstx
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Joined: 8/23/2005
Msg: 19 | |
| Why do women ask for one thang and want another?
Posted: 1/10/2006 3:27:41 AM | OP
I'm sorry but attraction while not the be all and end all is still a factor in dating and romantic relationships...I'm not going to live my life blind..lol sorry, AND honestly would you a man really be taking your own advice...lol most men do not go looking for women with a closed eyes and an open heart lol or I would be drowning in men (not to say that I'm not attractive...but I know I'm certianly not every mans cup of tea lol but I do have a great personality)
Also alot of us woman are becoming pretty jaded with the man the is the proverbial nice guy lmao..I have had so many guys go on and on about how nice/sweet and what a good guy they are why won't anyone give them a chance..and then I jump at the chance..and they are nothing but a$$holes.
Yes I want to be treated right, I want respect, I want some one who shows they care...I want that from some one with a back bone who isn't a yes man. | |
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| Why do women ask for one thang and want another?
Posted: 1/10/2006 3:47:38 AM | | Well I think I am a pretty OK looking guy. I am definitely not a yes man, I am old enough I like things the way they are in my life, and I want someone else who is an individual....I dont need someone who is a yes-woman. I find most women try overly hard to satisfy and do for men; where my question is OK "what are things you like, and are comfortable doing" If I wanted to do what "I" wanted to do all the time, I wouldnt need anyone but myself. | |
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kmhstx
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Joined: 8/23/2005
Msg: 22 | |
| Why do women ask for one thang and want another?
Posted: 1/10/2006 4:05:09 AM | | then you know what heathmiller..you are (if you are as you say you are)... going to have luck soon, just be patient, you sound like a great guy, lol I've been told a million times patience is the key and I've gotta believe it lol...so don't worry you'll find some one who wants you, that you want. | |
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| Why do women ask for one thang and want another?
Posted: 1/10/2006 4:11:20 AM | | Yeah I keep telling myself that. But anyway thanks for the words of encouragement, and please dont believe that all men who treat a woman good or respectful; are just yes men. Sometimes we just want to show a woman how much we care by not smothering her and being overbearing so that she can be who she really is. It is called love and caring for someone. It doesnt mean we dont have a backbone. | |
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kmhstx
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Joined: 8/23/2005
Msg: 24 | |
| Why do women ask for one thang and want another?
Posted: 1/10/2006 4:18:00 AM | | oh I don't think all guys that are respectful and everything are yes men..with out a back bone...but some are..lol I'm some one that likes to ...not argue, but have friendly debates, lol me and my brother are like that..I like someone who can have their own opinion and show passion about it. Even if it differs from mine...Some times its hard to find someone still caring and able to show that caring that will have the passion to disagree on things sometimes..lol maybe its just a quirk of mine. | |
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