| Sensible advice when dumping somebody
Posted: 1/13/2006 3:44:04 PM | We always give advice to the dumped one... now it's time to give advice to the dumper.
My advice:
If you're dumping her in a restaurant or café, never order a hot beverage. Make it soda or cold water. | |
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| Sensible advice when dumping somebody
Posted: 9/25/2009 2:00:49 PM | This makes me think of the Seinfeld episode where George knew he was gonna get dumped and therefore 'had no hand'... but then managed to salvage things temporarily by doing a "preemptive dump".
"*I* am breaking up with *you*"
Now adding to what you should and shouldn't order in a restaurant... I agree anything hot is a bad idea. And anything that will stain isn't a good idea either (so no wine, no grape juice, nothing that has tomatoes or tomato sauce on it... and definitely not soup)
And no caviar either... it's expensive... wouldn't want to waste the money...
I think the best things to order would be Jello and a glass of water...
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| Sensible advice when dumping somebody
Posted: 9/25/2009 2:54:04 PM | | Don't order a reuben sandwich either.... I remember a guy in college who was eating a reuben , and at the same time he was telling me how he'd been screwing around with another girl in our dorm. The whole time I kept focusing on one small piece of sauerkraut that had somehow ended up hanging on the tip of his nose. Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha | |
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| Sensible advice when dumping somebody
Posted: 9/25/2009 5:15:26 PM | Oh holly.. how funny
Edit: There is the classic story of some famous NFL guy who took a woman out to HIS favorite upscale hangout to dump her. His presumption was she wouldnt make a "scene" in such a place.
Well after he dropped the bomb on her.. she stood up and SHOUTED:
"Funny you are dumping ME, you SUPERSTAR NFL PLAYER whose steroid use has SHRUNK your tiny peni to the point It feels as if you are offering me a cigarette down there when you want to ejaculate in TWO STROKES. I cant believe I even bothered with you once I found out you had already been treated for SYPHILLIS 6 times in less than 2 years."
Public places are NOT the place to say goodbye..
I'm beginning to think a police station lobby is the proper place. | |
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| Sensible advice when dumping somebody
Posted: 9/25/2009 6:09:41 PM |
If you're dumping her in a restaurant or café, never order a hot beverage. Make it soda or cold water.
Or dump ‘em at Dennys; that’s the last place you’d ever find something hot.
(Talk about a grand "slam") | |
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| Sensible advice when dumping somebody
Posted: 9/25/2009 6:17:22 PM | | Do it with a clear conscience that you are doing the right thing and edit that person's number to go to voice mail and block them everywhere else. Cut all ties to this person so you don't have second thoughts and get caught up in a "I wasn't thinking" game. | |
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| Sensible advice when dumping somebody
Posted: 9/25/2009 9:22:11 PM | I would prefer to do it at their home. That way they can kick you out and you'll never feel obligated to go back 6 months later to find out what they were REALLY thinking.
They kicked your ass out, it's pretty self explanatory in anyone's book. | |
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| Sensible advice when dumping somebody
Posted: 9/25/2009 9:22:56 PM | | I thought the best Seinfeld suggestion was when George asked Jerry what to say to dump a girl and Jerry replied, "Tell her you'll call her tomorrow." | |
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| Sensible advice when dumping somebody
Posted: 9/25/2009 9:54:44 PM | | give them a bowl of noodles and a fortune cookie with the bad news and "go to the bathroom" before they crack the cookie | |
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| Sensible advice when dumping somebody
Posted: 9/25/2009 10:00:52 PM | Do it in person. I hated the one time I had to do it by phone.
Be kind. He or she might end up obsessing over every word; you liked this person enough to date him/her, be nice in ending it.
Having been the dumper and dumpee, it's better to be the dumper, but remember how much it sucks to be the dumpee. | |
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| Sensible advice when dumping somebody
Posted: 9/26/2009 9:31:55 AM | I wear Goth attire and tons of black eye makeup.
Tell them I have gone over to the dark side and want them to sell their soul also.
Suggest we toast with some A negative and a celery stick.
Go to the ladies room and poof..magic does work.
If they are kinda dark to begin with I do the opposite and want to baptize them and meet my Spiritual guide. | |
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| Sensible advice when dumping somebody
Posted: 9/26/2009 3:07:23 PM | I think that if communication is good, there won't have to be a "dumping" finale.
Keeping your partner current about the possibility that you are going to exit the relationship gives them time to deal with the potential loss.
Stop acting like nothing's wrong and you won't have to watch your partner having a meltdown when you drop the bomb they weren't expecting.
Most relationships have ended before they were "ended." | |
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| Sensible advice when dumping somebody
Posted: 9/26/2009 3:20:09 PM | Be decent. There was something good, you saw in them, to want to have the relationship in the first place. You were caring enough to be with them long enough to call it a relationship. Unless you were faking it and are a liar there was a bond.
Why would any decent, honest person want to hurt someone they cared about.
Be kind, be gentle, have some guts, show some class and perhaps be there for them in the consoling if necessary.
Why not? Can't we take the time to help someone we care about?
There are those that will complain of concerns about "what if..." the other hangs on etc. So what. Deal with it. Take the time to help.
If you don't have the time, caring and decency to treat a failed relationship partner well then you are not ready to start a relationship with anybody.
So perhaps the first test of a person, when starting a relationship, is how they handled ending previous relationships.
I'm confident many on here will bolster the block and ignore concept. That says a lot of their character. | |
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| Sensible advice when dumping somebody
Posted: 9/26/2009 5:48:13 PM |
I think that if communication is good, there won't have to be a "dumping" finale.
Totally agree. But, if for some reason communication has not been occurring, then these folks said it pretty well:
Be kind...you liked this person enough to date him/her, be nice in ending it.
remember how much it sucks to be the dumpee.
Be kind, be gentle, have some guts, show some class and perhaps be there for them in the consoling if necessary.
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| Sensible advice when dumping somebody
Posted: 9/26/2009 11:21:23 PM | | Well for me recently i actually had to dump someone. And i can see sometimes why people would want to just drop the bomb on somoene and from my recent experience things were great dating when we just went out did some stuff had fun but once we got to a more serious point in our relationship her character change like 180 i don't and never will know what incited this change but once i started seeing her true colors i had to drop the bomb, i tried being nice aobut it but she never got a clue so i just told her straight up it's over i'm single. | |
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| Sensible advice when dumping somebody
Posted: 9/27/2009 12:02:45 AM | "My advice:
If you're dumping her in a restaurant or café, never order a hot beverage. Make it soda or cold water."
now my advice- breaking up in an email, text or even over the phone is a *much* safer proposition. wait til after the dinner, if you must. who breaks it off in the middle of a meal?! | |
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| Sensible advice when dumping somebody
Posted: 9/27/2009 2:16:10 PM |
You could just fade into the background..
Always a classic.
Here is how: next time you talk, casually mention you're working on a very demanding project and won't have much time until that's done.
And that you'll call when finished. Soon. Really soon.
If your former flame happens to catch on and calls up in a week - repeat the story.
Be sure to finish with "really soon" ..
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