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 THE LOVE JUNKIE
Joined: 12/11/2005
Msg: 1
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Hi everyone
Do you find dating difficult when you are 30+++ ??
Just want to chill..... enjoy some great company
Peace everyone & be kind to your Lover
 sammysalt1
Joined: 12/17/2005
Msg: 2
Dating over 35 ???? Is it more difficult,
Posted: 1/13/2006 5:08:24 PM
I don't know to many single people around me, so I would say its better, because people know what they want.
 Darklights
Joined: 12/22/2005
Msg: 3
Dating over 35 ???? Is it more difficult,
Posted: 1/13/2006 5:09:39 PM
Yes, but what's a person to do.....
 bucsgirl
Joined: 3/2/2005
Msg: 4
Dating over 35 ???? Is it more difficult,
Posted: 1/13/2006 5:16:27 PM
It's DIFFERENT....more difficult or easier is relative. I think some aspects are easier, as you're more comfortable with yourself and know what you want and don't want. It's sometimes more difficult to find social situations where there are opportunities to get to know people and meet new people regularly.
 THE LOVE JUNKIE
Joined: 12/11/2005
Msg: 5
Dating over 35 ???? Is it more difficult,
Posted: 1/13/2006 5:16:42 PM
actually you know what Iam finding,
The main topic ends up being the ex-wife & the bashing begins.
Alot of negative stuff instead of talking about positive fun things. Do guys get the same ???.........
 bugsybears
Joined: 10/6/2004
Msg: 6
Dating over 35 ???? Is it more difficult,
Posted: 1/13/2006 5:22:02 PM
all depends on who you run into. it goes both ways. you can find those that are fun to be with and you can also run into those that make you wish you never started dating again. like they say, luck is in the draw. good luck.
 OnTheBus
Joined: 9/12/2004
Msg: 7
Dating over 35 ???? Is it more difficult,
Posted: 1/13/2006 5:24:01 PM
Dating i ssooooooooo much easier for me, it is finding someone I want to date that is the challenge. Being older, I tend to not just "hang out" Like I used to, and it was much easier to meet women then. They were in my social circle.

Now it isnt so. But looking for them is fun. Kinda like finding a great spot to fish.
 kaidee
Joined: 1/6/2006
Msg: 8
Dating over 35 ???? Is it more difficult,
Posted: 1/13/2006 5:28:32 PM
it's much harder, people assume that you are married or at least have a boyfriend and wont even attempt to find out if you are single or not
 sambucadawg
Joined: 10/2/2005
Msg: 9
Dating over 35 ???? Is it more difficult,
Posted: 1/13/2006 5:28:57 PM
there are pros and cons to it.

On one hand, you have the women that have been miserable, unappreciated, abused and basically emotionally drained, from some long term relationship! You come into their lives and have all the baggage and walls to climb over!

Or, you meet the other kind, that a few words or gestures mean the world to them. They have dealt and buried that past. They know what they want. They know what they don't want. They appreciate what they have in you, cause they've seen the other side!

This holds true for both genders.

Look in the mirror tonight before you go to bed.

Which one are you???

 Nader60
Joined: 12/10/2005
Msg: 10
Dating over 35 ???? Is it more difficult,
Posted: 1/13/2006 5:28:59 PM
Yes. I've found a number of women that have baggage (like us all) except I am surprised how willing they are to expose it early on. Willing to tell you all the things they can't stand. Some women just seem so stressed and uptight, that they aren't any fun. They have their guard up. My thinking is why not try to hold back on the baggage, try to have some fun, and see if there is an once of chemistry.
 SUPERMODEL 1
Joined: 12/28/2005
Msg: 11
Dating over 35 ???? Is it more difficult,
Posted: 1/13/2006 5:38:34 PM
35 is the best age for a man to date. Women 18 to 40 are attracted to him.
 Darklights
Joined: 12/22/2005
Msg: 12
Dating over 35 ???? Is it more difficult,
Posted: 1/13/2006 5:46:15 PM

it's much harder, people assume that you are married or at least have a boyfriend and wont even attempt to find out if you are single or not


Not trying to be disrespectful Kaidee, but holy crap, I can Understsand why they'd think YOU were already taken.
 Catch A Star
Joined: 10/17/2005
Msg: 13
Dating over 35 ???? Is it more difficult,
Posted: 1/13/2006 5:49:44 PM
No, not at all. I know what to do now! Yippee!
 bikebowman
Joined: 3/28/2005
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Dating over 35 ???? Is it more difficult,
Posted: 1/13/2006 5:54:35 PM
Not more difficult...just different. I think you need to be more creative and do a little investigative work. Like...where do single men/woman tend to be??
Also, take the pressure off. It if is gonna happen it just will.
And btw...if you are dating an intense ex basher...RUN! Its suppose to be about something new...not something thats over!
 bugsybears
Joined: 10/6/2004
Msg: 15
Dating over 35 ???? Is it more difficult,
Posted: 1/13/2006 5:56:07 PM
kaidee i wouldn't think a woman that looks like you would ever have a problem like that. geez what is this world coming to.
 belledejour
Joined: 12/27/2005
Msg: 16
Dating over 35 ???? Is it more difficult,
Posted: 1/13/2006 6:03:49 PM
Dating over 35 is easier. You know yourself better, you don't put up with crap, the drama years are over, and you're more than likely happy with yourself and don't stress out too much about dating.
 OnTheBus
Joined: 9/12/2004
Msg: 17
Dating over 35 ???? Is it more difficult,
Posted: 1/13/2006 6:17:21 PM
I think it's fun............I mean, who doesnt like a good laugh?
 cotter
Joined: 10/17/2005
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Dating over 35 ???? Is it more difficult,
Posted: 1/13/2006 6:21:53 PM
It can be fun and it can be frustrating.

It can be fun because when you reach my age, you are no longer inhibited about saying what's on your mind and seeking exactly what you want. Of course, tactfullness is desired. No one has to be mean about it!

It can be frustrating because you know what you want and once you find someone, you have to discover if you both are flexible enough to be able to tolerate in-grown habits that you have developed over the years. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. If after a while, it just doesn't work, then one must find a graceful way of dealing with it. Usually, that means moving on.

I have discovered that I'm fine being alone ... so if I never find another partner, that's okay. If I do find a partner, that will be wonderful.



In the meantime ....
 Prosthetic_Head
Joined: 11/26/2005
Msg: 19
Dating over 35 ???? Is it more difficult,
Posted: 1/13/2006 7:00:10 PM
It is hard....no-one wants used merchandise....*boohoos* everyone wants ...no wait.....MEN want a new set of 20 year old hooters and a lil less mileage coochie....but we all know these young ****es have more miles on them already than we do...they just lie that they dont.
 leafslady
Joined: 6/8/2005
Msg: 20
Dating over 35 ???? Is it more difficult,
Posted: 1/13/2006 7:04:33 PM
The only way it can be difficult ,is if you set yourself up with unrealistic expectations.
 shellinmo
Joined: 5/19/2005
Msg: 21
Dating over 35 ???? Is it more difficult,
Posted: 1/13/2006 7:05:36 PM
What the heck is a date??? Guess I wouldn't know if it's easier or harder to date after 30...it's been too long since I've had a date!
 calves
Joined: 1/13/2006
Msg: 22
Dating over 35 ???? Is it more difficult,
Posted: 1/13/2006 7:11:07 PM
70 percent of women are infertile by 40 so if they were a 10 they are now a 3. The main problem is that there are not many females over 35 that are still attractive. Guys just start to peak around 35 and are looking for 25 year old females. Guys tend to choose to go overseas rather than date women much older than 35. The bloom is off the rose. I wish it wasnt so.
 c3sparling
Joined: 12/29/2005
Msg: 23
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Dating over 35 ???? Is it more difficult,
Posted: 1/13/2006 7:12:46 PM
i dont know ever since i hit 30 i havent really noticed much change from when i was 25. just seems dating can be such a chore at times.
 leafslady
Joined: 6/8/2005
Msg: 24
Dating over 35 ???? Is it more difficult,
Posted: 1/13/2006 7:14:46 PM
Calves...be prepared to get jumped on unmercifully ....
The bloom is off the rose....
OMFG!!!
 ~ Gentle ~ Breeze
Joined: 1/9/2006
Msg: 25
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Dating over 35 ???? Is it more difficult,
Posted: 1/13/2006 7:18:33 PM
~ Calves ~ Guys tend to choose to go overseas rather than date women much older than 35. The bloom is off the rose. I wish it wasnt so.

~ I beg to differ ~ your wrong about that ~ I know tons and tons of attractive women over 35 ~ maybe not your standards ~ guys tend to choose to go overseas for one reason only ~ the women over there are still subservient to the rules of man or should I say "caveman" ~ most of them want to get documented here in Canada and then goodbye Charlie, come on now, don't think that once your hit your fifities the young chick from overseas, will be maybe 30 then, once shes sees the real world, her mind will definately change ~ I could say more, but you obviously would not understand
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