| Is it possible to fall in love with someone before meeting them in person?
Posted: 1/17/2006 12:49:20 PM | | I was always wondering about this. If this happened, at what point did it happen. Did anyone fall in love at the e-mail phase without even hearing the persons voice? or Did someone begin to fall in love once they heard the person's voice. If they did fall in love before meeting, what happens once they met. Did they have to start from the beginning or was the love maintained and continued and it progressed further? or did they meet and there was no chemistry and the whole deal was dead? | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone before meeting them in person?
Posted: 1/17/2006 1:03:51 PM | this has never happened to me, i don't think i could fall in love with someone until i'd actually met them in person.
but i have a family member who was chatting with a guy through her tv chat room. obviously it not being on the pc, there were no pictures exchanged, all they did was chat in the chat room and email each other, she fell for him and swore it was love, even without seeing his face, hearing his voice.
they then began to call and text each other and after almost 2 years of talking, they arranged to meet up. when she met him, he was not her type at all and they never spoke again.
she's now with someone else and when i talk to her about this other guy she fell so madly in love with she says "well it wasn't love really, it can't have been, i just liked him"...but that wasn't what she'd said in the first place.
i had said to her time and time again "what if you meet and you don't like him, he's not your type" and she always said to me "i love him, i don't care about looks, it's what's inside that counts"..i didn't believe this at all, i knew very well that had he not been her usual type, she wouldn't have seen him again and i was proved right.
so no, i don't believe you can fall in love without knowing what someone looks like. maybe if you had their picture and talked to them via email alot, then yes it's possible, sometimes i think a voice can be off putting too, if you imagine what they sound like and then they sound nothing like that, you might go off them. but i don't think the voice has alot to do with whether you're in love with them or not. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone before meeting them in person?
Posted: 1/17/2006 1:09:12 PM | This is the internet! We aren't robots. You need physical chemistry to fall in love. You might fall in love with the words someone is typing you or the idea of it all but to fall in love with the person you have to be face to face. Why don't people get this? If the phermones aren't right it just ain't happenin'. I know a lot of people that have been in this situation and most have turned out to be huge time messes. Meet someone before you decide if you love them. I wouldn't even entertain the idea of love until I met someone in person. I agree that you'd have to be really deperate for this to happen.
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Ruth, I don't even think a pic would do it. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone before meeting them in person?
Posted: 1/17/2006 1:22:32 PM | | yeh i have to agree with you there, i could never fall in love with someone i hadn't met, whether you think someone's so right for you and gorgeous just by looking at a pic, you still don't actually know that person. people obviously don't know what love is should they ever declare their love for someone they have never met!!! i know i never could and never have either. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone before meeting them in person?
Posted: 1/17/2006 3:24:26 PM | Wow, I would like to think I am open to this possibility. If two people spend several weeks or even months chatting online and viewing each other using webcams and the odd phone call, I have to believe it is very possible to fall in love before meeting in person.
Of course thats just me!!! | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone before meeting them in person?
Posted: 1/17/2006 3:27:04 PM | I think a person can fall in love with the IDEA of what the other person could be like, but until you get to know the other person face to face, you really don't know who they are. Letters and forum posts can be thought out. The character of the person can be translated to anything they want it to be. But it's the little things that makes a person who they really are, and that almost never comes across before you meet face to face.
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone before meeting them in person?
Posted: 1/17/2006 3:31:12 PM | With me it was that point when we got face to face for the first time. After all the emails and phone calls we FINALLY met....and it was explosive. For HOURS.
(one year passes)
Then the pr*ck stopped using his "courting behavior" and I found myself living with a total stranger. NOT sexy.
Note to Guys....that whole best behavior crap is bullshite. Start as you mean to continue. Changing up when you can't maintain the lie anymore is gonna hand your a$$ a messy breakup. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone before meeting them in person?
Posted: 1/17/2006 3:33:36 PM | Yes, it is possible to fall in love before meeting the person.
BUT they haven't fallen in love with that person because they don't know anything about them. They have fallen in love with their own construction of who the person is. A fantasy. They've fallen in love with someone who doesn't exist.
Hmmm. I wonder what the chances of success are for THAT couple?  | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone before meeting them in person?
Posted: 1/17/2006 3:37:53 PM | | In my personally based opinon, yes. I didn't say it out loud but I knew I was falling for a guy online, when we met, it was a sure thing. It didn't last forever, but what time I was with him I was in love. As for doing it again, now I am more cautious than before, but yeah, I belive it can happen as long as the persons involved are honest and true(does that happen anymore??) But that was me, not anyone else, so take it as you will. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone before meeting them in person?
Posted: 1/17/2006 3:51:31 PM | I think that it's possible to start falling in love online. But those feelings are not cemented until you have met.
I was chatting to a man online for about a month before we met, and the benefit of this site is that you can observe their behaviour in the forums as well. He rang me 3 times prior to our meeting
Then I met him, and yes, those feelings were cemented.  | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone before meeting them in person?
Posted: 1/17/2006 3:54:06 PM | | I think BarnBabe is right. Its the IDEA that is so powerful. Of course, the reality of love with somebody may be completely different. As for the other comments posted why would one be a "loser" or "desperate" or a "robot" for falling in love over the internet. Such comments are totally absurd. Such negativity is the province of the "loser". In the "winner's" universe anything is possible. Even love over the internet. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone before meeting them in person?
Posted: 1/17/2006 3:57:05 PM |
I think a person can fall in love with the IDEA of what the other person could be like, but until you get to know the other person face to face, you really don't know who they are. Letters and forum posts can be thought out. The character of the person can be translated to anything they want it to be. But it's the little things that makes a person who they really are, and that almost never comes across before you meet face to face.
Absolutely perfect answer!
You're deluding yourself if you think you can love an email. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone before meeting them in person?
Posted: 1/17/2006 4:11:49 PM | i've fallen in lust??? traveled a 3 hour plane ride and stepped off thinking the chaffeur was coming to get me....no it was the "guy" and although he was nice it was a very uncomfortable meeting....that was quite sometime ago and the counseling worked wonders.....lol
i did get a great opportunity to visit the airplane museum in dayton, ohio and see the place where the wright brothers ran there first store from.......ahh memories!! lol
it's all part of the wierd and wonderful experience of being alive......we have to keep taking chances!
you may be attracted.....but love, is a more consistent endeavor. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone before meeting them in person?
Posted: 1/17/2006 4:27:10 PM | | Yes, it is. Happened to me. She was living in Australia. Chatted for about 8 months before meeting, both online and on the phone. We ended up moving across the world a few times and having a child. Split up a few years later. She lives a few blocks away now, we're friends and co-operate in raising our child. No regrets. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone before meeting them in person?
Posted: 1/17/2006 4:31:48 PM | Oh sure, it is possible, but you are falling in love with your rather inaccurate image of who they are. Once you meet, they will be different then you thought they were. You may find out they aren't your cup of tea, or perhaps they are even more amazing then you thought.
It's always very dissapointing when you spend too much time emailing before meeting and get all worked up and then you meet and you both go Ugh! | |
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