| I cant get over him
Posted: 1/18/2006 8:45:03 PM | what do I need to do to forget the hurt I feel. I have love in my life but I cannot seem to forget the one who hurt me so much. I loved him, but he didnt love me I guess. I thought he might, but I was way off!!
My heart jsut wont seem to heal... just thought I would vent a little...
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Xavi
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Joined: 1/6/2006
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| I cant get over him
Posted: 1/18/2006 9:36:03 PM | I know the feeling, sometimes I wish I could just shut off the emotions until I heal. Think of it this way, we get through it eventually and somewhere along the line there will be a guy who will make you forget "wahtsisname" completely!  | |
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| I cant get over him
Posted: 1/18/2006 9:48:56 PM | I'm absolutely with you on this.  On the other hand, we somehow managed to survive before we met them, and we'll keep on living long after they're gone. And each broken heart teaches us what to look out for next time around. In the meanwhile, venting on line can really help to remind you that heartache is a fairly common occurrance, and the prognosis for recovery is really, really, really good..... | |
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| I cant get over him
Posted: 1/18/2006 10:24:32 PM | Well, as these ladies have said, it may hurt, but you will learn to live without him, cause if he didn't love you, he didn't deserve you.
Just give yourself some time and as one of the ladies said, you will eventually meet a guy that will make you forget that dude ever existed. | |
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| I cant get over him
Posted: 1/19/2006 11:09:34 AM | The pain and memories are part of the healing process and it can go on day after day without no let up. I am in the same boat on the same ocean with you and I am dealing. It's been Thanksgiving for me and I am now feeling more like myself but the road is still rough on many days all I know is the pot holes in life find a way to fill up and become smooth. Pray every day for youself and that person who hurt you and God does bring relief. I still have pain and I still have grief but I still have life and that is the best gift of all. You are a good person God created you so remember he has a plan for all of us and you will smile again. I promise. | |
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| I cant get over him
Posted: 1/19/2006 3:20:03 PM | | How will you? Time. Time is the key. Time to think about what he meant to you, time to realize what you didn't mean to him. Time to realize you deserve so much better and can do so much better. Cry a little, than cry some more..and when you think you have cried enough..cry again until you are over it. There is no time frame on "getting over someone". Take all the time you need. | |
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Cin4U
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Joined: 9/12/2005
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| I cant get over him
Posted: 1/19/2006 3:29:18 PM | | Trust me, If I knew the answer to this well I would be rich and well happy. If you have ever read any of my older post you will see that the only thing I can offer is ...take your time...I know its generic but its true ..it takes time to let go. You have to allow yourself to grieve the loss of your relationship. Theres really nothing anyone can say to make you feel better. If I knew the magic words I would have used them a long time ago. Me..well I find myself enjoying solitude and well I am just starting to bury myself in my work and kids. They are basically the only permanant things in my life I can count on. I wish you the best. | |
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| I cant get over him
Posted: 1/19/2006 3:32:42 PM | My ex fiance is now living with my neighbour, luckily she had the decency to put in for an exchange and move before they got together, although didn't stop her having sex with him in my house while I was away though. They are now cosy living together but there is still a part of me that is clinging to the idea that he will wake up one day and remember the love he had for me and all the plans we had together.
I am waiting for something that is never going to happen. we had only been split up a week when her ex caught them in bed together and we had both had our suspicions about them when we were together so clearly the love he said he felt for me was none existant so what I am waiting for is never going to happen because he never loved me in the first place!
For some reason I want him more now than ever and miss him more than ever but is that just because we always want what we can't have? Why is that? Do we enjoy punishing ourselves by chasing a lost cause?
It will get easier, I'm banking on it anyway! Love love to you all. xx  | |
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| I cant get over him
Posted: 1/19/2006 4:12:04 PM | | Hello I am new to this board, and I know how you all feel. I feel the same. I am going thru a divorce I don't want, I still want to be married to my husband. We were married for 6 years, he is from Morocco and when I met him it was love at first sight for me. I thought oh my God this guy is soooo cute. We married in 6 weeks as he said his religion wouldn't allow him to live with someone, after we married I right away hired an Immigration lawyer to get him citizenship, which he just got a year ago. Everyone told me he probably married me for his citizenship only and he only needed five years to become a citizen. I put my all in to making him happy but he always fought with me. My family never hates anyone but they hate him and they really have a lot of good reasons, first I was 15,000 dollars in debt because he used my credit card and ran up a bill that my parents had to dig me out of, then one year he took my tax return and gambled it away, and he always had a bad temper and constantly yelled and he even called the police on me one time because I just gave him an atta boy on the back of the shoulder as when you congratulate someone the reason was because I thought he was going to come at me because he was in one of his screaming modes. I did it to try to get his attention slightly away from me. I didn't leave any marks or scratches as I didn't want to hurt him so he called the police and before I knew it they took me away. I took him back after all these things. He gave nothing to bills I paid everything, so why do I feel I can't get over him? I have to go to court on February 7th for the divorce and I know when I see him I will be in tears. I can't take feeling this way though. Please help. | |
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Cin4U
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Joined: 9/12/2005
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| I cant get over him
Posted: 1/19/2006 7:03:18 PM | | To LittleRose...I had a good friend who was Morrocan (sp?) as well. We used to talk allot about his Islam religous background and well NOT living with someone after they were married was definately not apart of it. He very well may have been just using you for citizenship. If things were as bad as you say you are much better off without him. CUT your loses and get on with your life as hard as it is you will be much happier. Trust me...you will. | |
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| I cant get over him
Posted: 1/29/2006 8:03:31 AM | | Thank you for replying cin4u. I think maybe I might have explained it wrong. I wanted him to live with me before I married him, but he said he had to be married to me in order to live with me and we married and we lived together before all those things happened. Are you still good friends with your Moroccan friend? | |
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| I cant get over him
Posted: 1/29/2006 8:46:14 AM | | I try to forget what hurts and focus as much as I can on something better and the possibility of it go out and try to get it and dont quit. Sooner or later someone else comes along and lights up your life and though it may be the same outcome at least you can forget for a little while and that hope of what beautiful things you want to share for your life with someone outshine the negativities of whom have hurt you in the past. | |
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| I cant get over him
Posted: 1/29/2006 9:58:20 AM | | i know excatly what you mean...I am going through it right now.....And ya it sucks big time... but we are woman and we are strong and we will find someway to get over it and move on...Ya there are going to be the little things that send you down memory lane and there will be a part of you that hurts....but that is why there are close friends , and pillows to beat the crap out of to get our frustrations out on...and i find from my personal experance is to talk about and them you will come to realize that he wass not worth it in the long run... | |
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| I cant get over him
Posted: 1/29/2006 3:21:26 PM | | `oncur /sweetie Its the same for men too. If you've done all you can and they still don't want you its time to dust off and get back out there. | |
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| I cant get over him
Posted: 1/29/2006 4:12:26 PM | | What I can tell you not to do is get involed with a nother man while your feeling this way....been there done that and there is no happy ending, b/c in the end your the one thats gonna get hurt in a way thats not describeable.....look everyday when you get up and when you go to bed....Know that your gonna survive and that he is gonna think about you everyday and realize that he screwed up and he wont be able to ever get you back.....that is the power that we have as woman.....We are able to survive any situation and openly shut our selves off to the dishonesty that is men and their mind games(Not directed to all males)Just tell ur self that each day ur forgetting him and hes remembering you.... | |
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| I cant get over him
Posted: 1/29/2006 4:16:13 PM | | Be encouraged that every tear you cry will not be wasted. There is something wonderful in store for you and every trial you go through will build character. The kind of woman that you need to be for the man you will spend the rest of your life with. Look at it as a lesson, ask yourself what you learned about yourself through the relationship. | |
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| I cant get over him
Posted: 1/29/2006 4:47:43 PM | I was so totally in love with someone, at 18-19 years of age, that I would have given my life for him.
He quietly moved on after he graduated from college, as if we meant nothing.
He contacted me later, but it was too late. I was married and had a baby.
I knew that the marriage was not a good one and was planning to move on.
But after visiting with the true love just once, I knew that he and I had changed.
He was no longer the guy I was so crazy about, admired so much.
Then it was easy to forget about what could have been. | |
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| I cant get over him
Posted: 1/29/2006 4:55:33 PM | Wow, thought you might me talking to me, it feels so like my situation.
My Ex came back into my life a year ago, he said hes madly in love with me. He wanted me to leave my husband for him, and after a year I did separate from him, with the hope of my X and I getting together, now that this has happened, he tells me I love you but I'm seeing someone and were talking about a future together. Well what a sucker I am.
My husband is a good man, but I never got over my X and always loved him even after we split. Now I am alone and he's gone. All the lies he gave me have just torn me apart. And in some sick way I hope that what he said was not true or that he will see that he loves me and wants me as he said he did not to long ago.
O could it have been the thrill of the chase? Can he get me to leave my husband? And once he did, he's not truly interested. Was it a game? | |
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| I cant get over him
Posted: 1/29/2006 7:34:46 PM | Ladies,
Its is him that can't get over you, I don't know what it is he wants but as a man he won't(or can't) tell you,and you all know talking to a man is taboo! But if you ask what he wants in life and he says "I don't know" then it probaly you and he can't explaine. | |
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| I cant get over him
Posted: 1/30/2006 5:57:27 AM | | Well if that is the case.......I've been seeing a guy for 3 years now. We were together for a bit at the beggining and then I broke it off with him cause he cheated.....Then we just started hanging out and taking it slowly. Now i'm ready to commit again and he says he doesnt know what he wants. Now i dont think that means that he wants me and cant explain. I mean its now been almost 4 years and still nothing so really I think its time to cut him loose and stop wasting my time on him! | |
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| I cant get over him
Posted: 1/30/2006 1:46:41 PM | I was married for 20 years to be dumped for some young chippie...it has been 3 years and I still feel like life is not worth living.
Where is the Karmic justice people tell you about? I don't see it. This has shaken every bone and breath in my body. I cannot move ahead. I put on a false face to the public, but at home I fall apart.
When does this hurting ever stop? This is a mystery to me. I just don't get it! Maybe I am so stupid that I thought marriage vows meant something. I found out they mean nothing. | |
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| I cant get over him
Posted: 1/30/2006 2:13:48 PM | | I have got you beat......I reconnected with my ex-husband twice. He found someone else both times. I left my fiance for him the first time. I have now learned the hard lesson that some men are just born to be promiscuous. I have moved on now and I am happier without him. | |
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| I cant get over him
Posted: 1/30/2006 3:44:09 PM | Wow ok I guess we've all been dooped. Maybe I should switch sides, girls are much better at treating people right in relationships.
I did realize one thing however, which talking to a friend last night. My passion for my X is because I feel the need to control a relationship with him, considering he controlled the first relationship we had. So I felt that I could control this one cause he wanted me for sex and I could say no and watch him grovel. Well it worked for about 10 minutes...lol | |
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| I cant get over him
Posted: 1/30/2006 3:50:42 PM | A few years ago I lost a relationship. She said that God told her I was not the one for her. Ok, I couldn't walk for 3 days without tears streaming down my face. When I committ, I committ. I'm over it now, but not with out a lot of tears and prayers.
And now I really believe that she did hear from God. Things happen for a reason. Just trust and move on..... | |
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