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 Alana2
Joined: 8/7/2005
Msg: 1
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Last year I corresponded with many man over 55 years of age.
However, none of the kept up the correspondence or arranged a meeting.

At first I just thought I was just not the right woman for any of these men.
However, this year I contacted all these men in my address book and found that none of them had asked any woman for a date during the past year or pursued a relationship with any woman. One of them told me that men over 55 lose interest in pursuing relationships with women.

Have any of you women ever had a man over 55 ask you for a date or tried to arrange a meeting with you????
 Sexy Red Head
Joined: 12/29/2005
Msg: 2
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Posted: 1/19/2006 6:03:19 AM
I've got a couple of really close friends close to that age and they always talk big but I've not known them to have many dates or pursue anyone. Nice guys though. I love them dearly and they are my best friends.
Red
 Alana2
Joined: 8/7/2005
Msg: 3
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Posted: 1/19/2006 7:14:18 AM
Thanks for the comment. It is starting to look like men over 55 really don't ask women for dates. No women at all. I never knew this !
 charlie_girl
Joined: 11/28/2005
Msg: 4
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Posted: 1/19/2006 7:24:52 AM
Alana... totally disagree. I mean about men 55 and over not wanting to meet and to date. I've not witnessed that problem. Your experience is, in my opinion, very unique. I would suggest that you keep trying --- for new men who are active, and in areas of interest to you (co-ed clubs, dances, etc.), and you will find plenty of guys over 55 who do date and who are active. Evidently you came across some real losers. My goodness, if you had said 75, then maybe, but the 50s guys I know certainly don't seem to have the problem you have encountered. If that continues to happen to you, may I strongly suggest to look to younger men. Doesn't hurt to do that anyway. (big grin)

There's an introductory thread going on right now... 42-62 I think is the topic, but any one over 62, I'm sure would be MOST WELCOME. Review it... some very nice, and seemingly, active older men who have posted.
 c1ownfish
Joined: 11/29/2005
Msg: 5
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Posted: 1/19/2006 7:38:39 AM
Men over 55 seems to write (or wanna date) women in the 30s or early 40s. Just my opinion.
 happytiler
Joined: 9/15/2005
Msg: 6
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Posted: 1/19/2006 7:46:48 AM
Is it possible that men over 55 feel a little self conscious about their sexual prowess?
 Sexy Red Head
Joined: 12/29/2005
Msg: 7
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Posted: 1/19/2006 7:53:11 AM
There's an older guy over on the "This is your site thread" Looking!

Red
 dbndon
Joined: 7/15/2005
Msg: 8
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Posted: 1/19/2006 8:19:04 AM
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Alana, that’s not even close to being true. Not at all.

Fact is, last year three great gals I know over 60 years old got married again. Another is considering it.

I’m well over 55 and I’ve been known to go out from time to time. What I will NOT do is date just to have a date. In my age group, I’m one of the last of the eligible single guys around here and so would have no problem “dating around” if that was what I wished.

Another thing few here seem to realize is that others, like me, read these forums and see the attitudes of some of the posters.

So, while it’s true that some men over 55 do not want to be bothered with dating; others, like me, can be rather social sometimes. Unlike many other guys my age, I have a built in protection mechanism that naturally disregards those women who are difficult, brash or snobby. Which means, I am very careful about who I will associate with, even for lunch, and will not initiate a meeting with someone I do not already know unless there are very special circumstances. And, I have never, ever been accused of being shy.

Besides, there are enough guys running around who are still working their middle age fling. They can take up the slack while guys like me sit back and laugh over drinks with the gals who feel the same.
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 charlie_girl
Joined: 11/28/2005
Msg: 9
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Posted: 1/19/2006 8:27:50 AM
db-- good for you!
 TallDarkNSweeet
Joined: 11/20/2005
Msg: 10
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Posted: 1/19/2006 8:29:11 AM
I think they invented “Viagara” for that.... opps did I spell that wrong.
Hopefully I never have to get use to that word!


Good health is the #1 factor that effects sex drive and
interest in the other sex. However there are other reasons
and combinations of factors for loss in sex drive.



Really.... and how is that Grizzly Adam's look working???
vvvvvvvvvvvvvv
 Byrd
Joined: 7/19/2004
Msg: 11
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Posted: 1/19/2006 8:30:17 AM
I'm 47 and I just wanna go fishin...
 dave1234
Joined: 11/7/2004
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Posted: 1/19/2006 8:36:27 AM
Hi Alana. I'd certainly enjoy having a lunch with you although I'm just a young pup at 53.

I like your idea of a first date. That's exactly what I used to do when dating. After chatting with the person a number of times on the phone I'd suggest a short meeting. Go home, think about it and then call one another. It avoided any embarrassing moments. Wish I lived closer.
 Double Cabin
Joined: 11/29/2004
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Posted: 1/19/2006 8:45:37 AM
"There's an older guy over on the "This is your site thread" Looking!"

Red

Well Red, if 3 years your junior is older then I'm guilty. I think I better go play Tom Lear's "New Math." Banidito is your age? Who are you talking about? I'm not angry, just dumbfounded where the humor in your post is. LOL.

OP, I'll try to say this tactfully but productively, know this comes with the best of intention. At 66 IMHO you're not going to attract a lot of younger men unless you are more or less immortal. Cruel? Perhaps, but grounded in reality. There is a recurring theme around here of women claiming men aren't ready for/or interested in a relationship while men and women continue to tie the knot in serious numbers daily. Please, be honest with yourself. Could it be these men are interested in a relationship, just not one with you? If that hurts my apologies but reality can often bite. I know many senior ladies enthralling men. I am simply suggesting that you reconsider your expectations and consider looking at different types of men.
 Sierrasman
Joined: 7/7/2005
Msg: 14
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Posted: 1/19/2006 9:05:23 AM
I think dbndon said it very well. I'm 55 and like to go out, but I don't date just to go out. I'm very selective in who I choose to go out with. At this point in my life, I know who I am, so I know who I'm compatible with.

Another factor is many mature women are choosing to go out with younger men and won't even consider men in their 50's because they have preconceived ideas that we're all the same, which isn't true, so that slims the pickens down.

To you women who made the comments about men 55 and over needing Viagra, think again. I know some do, and that's too bad. But this 55 year old climbs mountains and has no problem getting a nice hard one, and maintaining it, naturally!
 thecatt
Joined: 1/12/2005
Msg: 15
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Posted: 1/19/2006 9:17:51 AM
Speaking for myself, I have no problem with a man being 55 years old. Of course, it depends upon my attraction for him. But I really like it when someone knows who they are.



But this 55 year old climbs mountains and has no problem getting a nice hard one, and maintaining it, naturally!


Sierrasman, I'm afraid you're going to have to prove that to me.
 Sierrasman
Joined: 7/7/2005
Msg: 16
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Posted: 1/19/2006 9:27:18 AM
Catt, You know I look forward to proving it!
 sapphireblues
Joined: 12/12/2005
Msg: 17
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Posted: 1/19/2006 11:51:03 AM
Well, I seem to be fairly popular with the 30s crowd and the over-55. Since the 30s guys don't interest me in the least (well, except as quite an ego booster), I've been out with my share of the over-55s.

And, I can tell you quite plainly that by this age, they not only "date" but a guy has usually been around enough blocks to have picked up enough knowledge about women to keep me smiling. In public, and behind closed doors. Do they date? Obviously the ones that I know do. We don't usually get all dressed up in our goth garb and go clubbing, but we DO go out on dates. And, frankly, I can't imagine that any man, of any age, could be more satisfying in any way.
 sxxxy_azn_tygress
Joined: 1/8/2006
Msg: 18
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Posted: 1/19/2006 11:57:28 AM
Being 26 yrs old, I would NEVER consider a man older than 38. lol. I think that age can make a difference...and 55 is a little gross.
 idgaf
Joined: 11/21/2005
Msg: 19
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Posted: 1/19/2006 12:11:17 PM
Your just contacting the wrong ones or you are not compatable with them.

I don't have any problem committing but don't put up with BS like making promisses and reneging like my last did.
 dbndon
Joined: 7/15/2005
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Posted: 1/19/2006 1:04:01 PM
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Being 26 yrs old, I would NEVER consider a man older than 38. lol. I think that age can make a difference...and 55 is a little gross.

Keep that snippy attitude. It becomes you.

Besides, no real man over 55 would show any interest in girls younger than his daughter. We look for women who are mature and polite -- someone who knows that it is very improper to make uncalled for snide comments.
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 arri
Joined: 10/5/2005
Msg: 21
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Posted: 1/19/2006 1:13:11 PM
Girls ... you are painting a very gleam picture of my not too far future.

In any event, I have already made a deal with my son, that if I am single and 75, he is to find a retire home with the most number of hottie old girls possible and sneak in my Viagra regularly
 dave1234
Joined: 11/7/2004
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Posted: 1/19/2006 1:14:27 PM

(Msg 18)and 55 is a little gross.


Thank goodness I'm only 53!
 Dog Mommy
Joined: 7/11/2005
Msg: 23
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Posted: 1/19/2006 1:18:42 PM
I have never heard this before. I think people of all ages desire companionship.
 Double Cabin
Joined: 11/29/2004
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Posted: 1/19/2006 1:20:59 PM
So tygress, you left some room for interpretation here. If 55 is a "little gross" what age is the actual dealbreaker?

You know Tygress, seeing Nancy Quan and other quasi immortal looking asian women begs the question: Are you pulling all our chains, do you actually belong to AARP?
 a37064
Joined: 11/22/2005
Msg: 25
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Posted: 1/19/2006 1:25:53 PM
Alana, the problem is we are tired of all the bs. Everyone is so hurt from the past that they can't function.

I am a trainer. A lady who attended a class called our office and asked me to call her. She is lovely, intelligent, has characted, etc. I called her and we talked last week on Th, Fr, Sat & Sun. for a total of 15 hours. The conversations were sweet, she asked me my views on everything from racism, guns, religion to sex. Everytime, our values were the same. She came to Tampa on Sunday for a job interview, so we met on Monday and spent the day together. When we parted, she gave me a kiss goodbye. She drove back on Tuesday and she called me on Wednesday.

Her words were, "Tim, you are the perfect man for me in everyway. If I was going to fall in love, you would be my only choice." Then she said, "I'm just not ready". She has two little girls, 10 and 12 that are the center of her life. She hasn't dated any man in 7 years.

I am not going to let it bother me in anyway - she is the typical 21st Century woman who allows her life to be controlled by some man from the past.

I don't have a dog, but I have a grandson that loves his Papa and wants to be with me.
We are going fishing! Why waste time on people who aren't emotionally stable enough to know that they shouldn't be on here to begin with?

I hope that I haven't offended any ladys. I'm sure there are some good people out there, I haven't found one and will not look for one. If it happens, it happens!

Tim
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