| | What to do when you like a guy, he only wants to be friendsPage 1 of 2 (1, 2) | | Okay I have had a thing for a guy I know for years, we used to work together, we are great friends we can talk about anything. When we met he was with someone he is now single I saw him recently and I still have the same feelings for him. I know we can be good together I know it can work, I need to change the way he looks at me can anyone tell me how to do that? has anyone else ever been in this situation? Help me please before he finds someone new and I lose another chance to show him how perfect I am for him. | |
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| What to do when you like a guy, he only wants to be friends
Posted: 1/21/2006 11:37:11 AM | I've been in that situation before. I found that I let it hurt me more than it should have. I had to come to realize that it was best for us to just keep a friendship than to pressure it to be more. If he is truly interested in more than a friendship with you than he will let you know and wont get involved with someone new. There is a chance that he is afraid aswell to ruin your friendship by letting it progress into more. If you really feel that deeply towards this man than of course let him know. Ya never know right? He could be secretly crushing on you aswell but have the fears that it could ruin the friendship.
But, as I said before. If he is interested in you than he will let you know. Don't put too much pressure on something that could put a damper on the friendship if it doesn't work out as planned. I'm sure you'd rather have him in your life as a friend instead of no communication at all.
With my experience the friend that I was crushing on is still one of my best friends and I wouldn't change that for the world. I was very straight forward with him about what I wanted and he told me that he finds me very attractive but just didn't feel the other attractions. He'd rather be my bestfriend that I talk to instead of the man that I talk about to my friends. It did bother me when he started dating someone but instead of letting my jealousy take over I realized that I should just be happy that he is happy.
Don't try to change anything about yourself to make him more attracted to you. He will see how fake that part of you is. Maybe he is secretly crushing ya but if he isn't just remember that it's ok to just be friends. Things happen for a reason. I'm a strong believer in fate. If two people are meant to be together, they will be. If he felt that sort of attraction towards you chances are he would have started feeling it long before now. Don't be hurt if he doesn't feel it back, think of it more as a friendship saver. You can't make someone love you. | |
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| What to do when you like a guy, he only wants to be friends
Posted: 1/21/2006 11:38:23 AM | If I were in your situation, I would tell him how I was feeling. It's always best to be straight up and honest.. If you don't.. he may never tell you himself , he might be afraid of rejection etc... If you feel that strong about him and you can talk to him about "everything" then this should be a no brainer for you....
Good Luck... Go get him!! | |
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| What to do when you like a guy, he only wants to be friends
Posted: 1/21/2006 12:20:03 PM | Bazbabe
I have a friend like you are talking about. We use to work together years ago and have stayed friends ever since. I have watched him go though his divorce, new girlfriends and broken hearts. Everytime he comes running back to me in the end. Nothing has ever happened between us except me being there when he needs someone to talk to or cry to.
None of the women in his life and none of the men in my life have ever understood our relationship. No one beleives us when we tell them that nothing sexual has ever happened between us, not even a kiss.
I would love the chance to be more then just friends with him. I know we would be good together, (even my own mother has said the same thing). So if you figure out a way to make it work for you please let me know....It will give me hope for my situation...by the way he is single again. This is good!
Good luck to you...I am keeping my fingers crossed for you.. | |
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| What to do when you like a guy, he only wants to be friends
Posted: 1/21/2006 12:26:30 PM | | Thanks Ottawaghost, if it changes I will let you know I approached the situation, I am guessing I will still be wanting him and the situation will never change. I just pray it does and he sees how good we would be together | |
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| What to do when you like a guy, he only wants to be friends
Posted: 1/21/2006 4:45:27 PM | OK ummm..check check . I knw how you feel about the friends deal.I`ve been friends with someone for about 10 years and wanted to date orand maybe still would if i had the chance.We`ve told each other where to go and how to get there many times.But thats from being friends and getting our points across to each other.Shes a single mother that has a dead beat ex or boyfriend can never tell anymore.I try and help her out in the best way i can advise friendship and being there for her and her daughter.It kind of makes me laugh when some think they know you and then they find out that yes this person cares for someone like this.I brought her to a POF coffee meet and she loved it,she asked me about going to the ole Miss meet next week.I think shes hooked and if we do make it i hope she meets someone. now i`m publishing a low income
novel here so turn the page.
see i`m not really a prick like some think i can be.. | |
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| What to do when you like a guy, he only wants to be friends
Posted: 2/22/2006 8:07:15 AM | | i know how that feels, every girl i've dated or wanted to date or tried to be nice to has blown me off because i'm such a nice guy and i mean if thats their only excuse then the heck with them. i'd rather be nice then be a ***hole or act like i'm from 8 mile road in detroit:P | |
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| What to do when you like a guy, he only wants to be friends
Posted: 2/22/2006 8:19:21 AM | | Tell him how you feel but what ever you do maintain the friendship. You would hate to loose him altogether. If he simply does not want to develop a 'relationship' accept it and realize a friend is important to have. Who knows the light may come on later down the road and he will come running to you. It takes some people longer to realize who is really good for them. | |
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| What to do when you like a guy, he only wants to be friends
Posted: 2/22/2006 11:47:51 AM | I suggest you approach your friend and put him on the spot but tell him you dont want to lose your friendship with him .What do you have to lose .I dont think your going to lose a friendship over telling someone how you feel . Take your chance while you have it !! | |
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| What to do when you like a guy, he only wants to be friends
Posted: 2/22/2006 12:00:24 PM | ok.. no more excuses for why you guys aren't a item
hes single. ur single.
he hasn't made a move on you.. hes just not that interested in you.
its really that simple.
dont waste any more of ur time.. it will only hurt you to stay hung up on a guy that isn't into you.
if he was into you.. a friend is not how he'd see you.. guys dont work like that.. when theres a possibility of more.. with someone they are interested in.. they jump at the opportunity.
no amount of anything you do.. is gonna change the fact.. that he is just not interested in you like that.. and wants to just remain friends. | |
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