| 'Older' Women & Sex
Posted: 1/15/2005 1:53:08 PM | I was wondering if there are any other 'older' women who feel the same way that I do about sexual exploration. First I would like to stipulate that I am not talking about promiscuity  because that is not the case. I have found that as I get older I feel much more adventuresome  and have less inhibitions than I used to as far as sex goes. In other words things that I would not have dreamed of doing when I was younger  I am actually anxious to try now, (and I am not going to go into detail here so don't ask  ).
I wonder if I am alone in feeling this way or if other women close to my age might feel the same. (I do know that not having the worry of becoming pregnant is a big bonus  ). Don't get me wrong by thinking that I am talking about jumping into bed with someone on the first or even after a couple of dates  or of having multiple partners. That's not what I am saying. I am talking about being in an established  relationship and wanting to experience new things and to be taken to new places.
I do realize the fact that a large part of how I feel might be due to the fact that I am taking better care of myself by having lost weight, walking and working out daily, (which has added to increased flexibility  ), all of which has contributed to my physically feeling so much better and also has helped in raised self-confidence,  that that could be part of it, but I am just curious as to what others might think regarding this issue. | |
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Posted: 1/15/2005 4:55:10 PM | Yes jaytea
This is actually quite normal...I now have a To-Do list of things I want to try...but also in an established monogomous relationship. Might actually get to try some of em someday...ifn I find someone... | |
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Posted: 1/15/2005 5:16:20 PM | | I have similar feelings too jaytea, I feel more at ease with myself. | |
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Posted: 1/15/2005 5:49:45 PM | The older I get the fewer are women older than me. I may have to cultivate a preference for younger women at some point.
When I was, 10(?), I read the short novel, In Praise of Older Women. It was the year our family lived in Europe. I was dragged around to museums and galleries and forced to look at huge paintings in gold frames. Many of the paintings had naked women. At 10, all women are older women. I think I was predisposed to older women, meaning, of course, women older than myself. Now that I am the age of the women I used to admire, I still do, but I also see why I did earlier. It's not my alter ego Oedipus, it's because of the added dimension of wisdom gained through experience. The connection is more sincere, at least, I felt that way. Some people age into a kinder and more comfortable place, if they do not become bitter and vindictive.
Young men may see the kinder smile of an older woman more welcoming than the defiant look of younger ones. It is s good match, whether the man or woman is older, for people several years apart to find happiness together. Each offers something not found with people their own age. It may not be as likely to last a lifetime, then again, at some point a lifetime is five years so why not? How old are we talking here?
Today at the grocery store I realized that I now feel I have reached the age I have felt I was since the age of 17. That's another thread. | |
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Posted: 1/15/2005 6:53:24 PM | Bear
For me the opposite is true....I now feel like I can return to where I was when I first met my ex...(17)....not that I would want to date anyone that age...just someone who feels like I do...age is merely a number put upon us by our birthyear...
Here's to remaining true to yourself no matter the chronological age of one's body.... hic
It is a good thing for the world that most of us realize we ain't the hot sh*t we think we were...lol
Or as George Burns once said: The genius of life is being able to take childhood into old age...
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Posted: 1/16/2005 7:20:36 PM | you go girl !!!
who ever said that life gets boring as you get older !!
here's to hoping they are wrong.
I just got out of a relationship witha man that thought he was suppposed to be able to runaround with everywoman he knew & I was supposed to just wait for him,.
Trouble s that once he got home he was too tired ! not that he was ever tha great a lover to
start with ~~! but I thought originally he had possiblilties ! He did possibilities of giving me something Ididn't want !
This relationship took up 5 precious years of my life that I'll never get back. It almost destroyed my sexual self esteem, I never had inhibitions before~~ do now. So my problems are just theopposite of yours. I still have all the same scenes in my mind only now I'm not sure of myself enough to go for it ~~ not yet anyway~~ I'll get there ~~ If I meet a man that I feel comfortable with... And I will.
then I hope to turn up the kink again
Just because I middle aged ~~ doesn't mean I have to be conservative
Hell we're just now getting enough experience w/o kids running everywhere to really be good at it !!
Good luck & yes you ae entirely on the right track
congrats for the wieght loss
by the way
this site PLenty of fish has done more for my self estem than anything in a long time ,
I can't afford the"pay for"sites
& I need to relate to grown ps
everyonce in a while
i love this site.
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LT157
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| 'Older' Women & Sex
Posted: 1/17/2005 1:42:21 AM | What are some of the things on the "To-Do" list?
Just curious, cuzz I'm 40 too.
LT | |
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Posted: 1/17/2005 1:49:54 AM | | dang squeak sign me up for a honey do list like that any day. | |
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Posted: 1/17/2005 3:17:27 AM | Lol... this post comes out after women ask men why they like older women?
Could it be that this ever growing feeling for sexual adventure, so to speak, has something to do with it...?
Hmmm? Hmmmm?
Tay | |
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Posted: 1/17/2005 10:47:48 AM | What are some of the things on the "To-Do" list?
Now lt.....
My To-Do list is secret and ever expanding but involves things I want to try when I find me a man...lol
Cosmo
Perhaps I should publish it?
Squeak | |
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Posted: 1/17/2005 10:51:00 AM | From a guys outlook I feel the same way, I am more relaxed and more "Into" the whole experience and want it to last forever not just a quick roll, though I aint knockin that either.
Its awsome when you find new and really hot ways to please each other.
Make sit so intense and real.
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Posted: 1/17/2005 10:52:54 AM | | as far as older women and sex i feel that the older we get the more we appreciate the little things and that we are not always in a great rush to be finished,,,,,,,,,,more foreplay taking your time to feel all there is. to feel............i think a much better experience | |
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Posted: 1/17/2005 8:30:41 PM | i'm agreeing with the girls here. now that i am older i have less inhabitions than i did before. willing to experiment with the right partner.
still i haven't grown to love my body, i am still waiting for that to happen. hehehe | |
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Posted: 1/17/2005 9:00:11 PM | All I know is all the women I have Been with have been older than me and thay all like sex,  | |
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Posted: 1/17/2005 10:21:03 PM | nope a blind leap of faith is required sometimes squeak but dang all I ever got was
FIX the gate hinges
CHANGE the oil in the car
BUILD MORE SHELVES
ROTATE the tires on the truck
REMEMBER our ANNIVERSARY had there been one thing on it that would have made me blush you can bet it would have been read EVERY spare moment I had lol.
of course it could be argued that nothing would end up being done cause I would always be reading the list lol | |
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Posted: 1/18/2005 4:47:35 PM | | Agrees with Ram and the ladies,,couldn't have said it better | |
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Posted: 1/18/2005 4:48:29 PM | GO GO GO
I'd show You my list Darling but you are too far away
sighs and goes on looking
and the only thing you need worry about fixing would be me
take care love ya all and yes i am an older woman as well
Del | |
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Posted: 1/18/2005 10:04:11 PM | FIX the gate hinges
(Hey baby, I squeak...wanna grease my hinges?)
CHANGE the oil in the car
(Wanna check my oil?)
BUILD MORE SHELVES
(Ya think these need more support?)
ROTATE the tires on the truck
(Come here baby, rotate my tires...)
Hehe
Sorry Cosmo - I hadda..
Squeak | |
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Posted: 1/18/2005 10:12:22 PM | dang I never thought of it like that but I wish I had, man older women rock amd I think if you have a higher sex drive in your late thirtys through fiftys that is a good thing it gives us poor inexpierianced guys hope for when we are old enough to be seen as men by you.
instead of young
dumb
and full of cu* | |
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Posted: 1/18/2005 11:02:13 PM | A man is a male of the species who will treat me good and allow me to treat him good...
like Cosmo...Dragonrider...Nickel...and some others... | |
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Posted: 1/19/2005 9:42:32 AM | i started out as a very repressed person with a crippling body-consciousness, and after a lot of desensitization therapy, am the mostly uninhibited sexual beast that i am today. took a lot of work, but i am finally truely comfortable in my own skin. sure, i am always making ajustments, but i no longer stress about it. very freeing. wish i had gotten there sooner. now just need a man to share myself with. working on it....
squeak, i like you more every day. you sound a lot like me. | |
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Posted: 1/19/2005 10:03:21 AM | My late husband use to call me "inhibited" during our marriage and as most of us women do in our 20's I denied it!! Whats that saying" hindsite is eveything". When I think today, poor guy had to go die at 43 and MISS the transition to "uninhibited". I often think, "he was soooooooo right, wish I had listened to him"
At this age, we can focus, on ourselves, internally and externally. I've learned, that sex begins in the "head" and is a reflection of our own self esteem. In my 20's I was the epitamy of what was lovingly referred to as "The houserat". Busy taking care of people and things, kids, husband, carreer. no time for me. Thining I was fat and ugly and non interesting, and covering all the needs and wants as soon as they bubbled up insdie me. Everything and everyone was way more important. Now, it's all about me and as a result, I'm learning who I really am, and actually liking her.
Funny thing bout the internal, once you take care of that, the external follows along. I started running, mostly for what it didfor my head. Fore ya know it I went from that 185 pound "houserat" to a 115 pound 48 year old. Wore a bikini for the first time in my life. All of a sudden I liked my body, and learned that even if I was 185 again, I would still love it, cause I learned to like me,,
As you say Sid, no more stree, always working, but comfortable in our own skin,, | |
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Posted: 1/19/2005 10:27:22 AM | HEH older women do rock hun...We just tend to be more chosy now...but You look like a fine pic
too bad you weren't closer
Kisses and tickles | |
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Posted: 1/19/2005 10:29:53 AM | brown eyed girl sorry to hear about your husband .
I think that you are right. It is the self acceptance that really is the differance that comes with age | |
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