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Posted: 1/22/2006 1:30:35 PM | I know my profile needs a lot of work and I am working on some new pictures. The one I have is not great and I will take it off once I get some new ones taken. I just would like to know anything I can improve or add to give people a better idea of me or what I am looking for. Any input is appreciated. Please dont try and make cry though.  | |
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Posted: 1/22/2006 4:15:07 PM | | You are a sweety there is nothing wrong with your profile. A girl as pretty as you and as young as you does not even need a site like this to get noticed you can take your pick I am sure at the local grocery store. Me I am just giving my 2 cents worth of advice for I am far to old to be dating anyone in your age bracket but my eyes don't decieve me you are a knockout and you will do just fine. | |
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Posted: 1/22/2006 4:27:55 PM | Ok...hmmmm......hmmmmmm.....ya.......well........
Here is my take.
Point killer number one - your a smoker. Nothing you do to your profile will change the fact that 75% of the people here don't want to be with smokers. I won't tell you to quit but in smoking, 3 out of every 4 guys won't want a LTR with you.
Your profile - I liked your interests and about me description. Fix the grammer and chat style spelling. It makes you out to be less intelligent than you really are.
First date.....you can do better than that....be simple but sexy.....your turn to tease. Guys eat up that sh*t
Best of luck!
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Posted: 1/22/2006 5:33:16 PM | Thanx guys for your input and I will try and doctor things up a bit. Yes I do have trust issues and I am not gonna lie and say everything in my past is hunky dorry. My brother and I have an awesomely close relationship and any guy that wants to get to know me is gonna find that out sooner or later as he will be under close scrutiny of the older brother eye. It's not something I can change or I would. He scares a lot of guys off. haha. I will fix my grammer and spelling and my date thing. I am working on the quitting smoking this as I am not back into a work-out routine which includes running a mile every damn day. So the smoking is gross and I know this...I am workin on it. Thank ya'all so much for your input it's greatly appreciated.  | |
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Posted: 1/22/2006 7:17:46 PM | Here are a couple of reasons why I wouldn't touch your profile with a 10 foot pole if I lived in your area:
I am pretty sick of the dating thing and wish I could choose to just not do it.I am pretty sick of the dating thing and wish I could choose to just not do it.
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oh yeah...I forgot to add..the guy in the picture is my brother. The only man I have ever been able to count on. Yes that means trust issues. So I suppose if ya'all are still reading this is where we seperate the men from the boys. Are YOU up for a challenge?
Wow. Don't overload us with your "naturally happy" personality.
Dating. That's why most of us are here. It's a dating site. If you aren't ready for it, then don't do it. Nobody is twisting your arm in order for you to date somebody. Well, your brother might be twisting your arm in that picture, since we can't see below the neckline in the picture, but if he is, then you've got more problems than mere trust issues.
Here's the thing, countrygurl85. And I don't mean to be rude when I say this:
We don't care. As guys, we're looking a date. Someone to go out with. Have a good time. You scream issues and high maintenance from the get-go. Your profile isn't going to separate the men from the boys. It's going to separate "Those who are willing to put up with your crap" from "Those who aren't, because they've been there, done that, and no thank you." The former category is going to include plenty of boys who don't know their a** from their elbow, and the latter is going to include plenty of quality guys. | |
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Posted: 1/22/2006 7:23:24 PM | Molonel is right. Very same things I would have said, only from a masculine point of view. Don't make yourself go on a date if you're not ready. No one is forcing you, and you DO have a choice.
Think over what you really want and try writing your profile again. No one's life is without pain. Just remember not to make new guys pay for what other guys did to you in the past.
Good luck to you. | |
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Posted: 1/22/2006 7:24:43 PM | | lol....ok....I will take this in a good way and make the changes needed because I am deff not high maintenance. Thank you ....is that any better? | |
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Posted: 1/22/2006 8:12:25 PM | | Much better. I thought I spotted a glimmer of a sense of humor. | |
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Posted: 1/22/2006 8:33:29 PM | | funny bunny eh? Yea you are...wanna play games funny bunny? I play games funny bunny! | |
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Posted: 1/22/2006 9:36:06 PM | | I think you're charming. You'll get plenty of response, don't worry. :) | |
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Posted: 1/22/2006 10:44:59 PM | | aaaww thanx guys! No I think he was right and it did need some work and that is why I am here. Your a cutie too and I always wanted to go to australia! You are like 9 years my elder...oh well...It's always the older guys that say how damn cute I am...the guys my age are lookin for half dressed whores I suppose and dont care much about "cute" | |
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Posted: 1/23/2006 2:43:21 PM | | most guys are lazy and just look at pics i would get rid of the one with you and the guy in it. | |
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Posted: 1/23/2006 4:17:10 PM | | Country Your profile overall is good...I'd just take out the disclaimer...in your about me. The first few sentences....it starts off on a downer and isn't necessary at all. What it's saying is well I don't know how to do this but I'm gonna do it anyway. It doesn't add anything to your profile, but it does take away. I'd chuck those sentences. Also, ideally your main pic should be JUST of you and prefereably a head shot, or at least a CLEAR pic. Hope that helps. | |
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Posted: 1/23/2006 4:43:12 PM | Haha well I have 3 sets of extra keys in my old apartment in SC and my sister has an extra set of my car keys and she lives in SC...so many people have keys to my car but they all live in SC!!! I moved here last February and I didnt think to bring any...I am always locking myself out of my car..but this time I lost whole damn key ring..lol...thanx for the advice though and I already had that in mind...maybe i will leave one under my doormat for when you come see me | |
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Posted: 1/23/2006 6:07:13 PM | countrygurl: Constructive Criticism.........
You have several sets of keys in SC, and you continue to lock yourself out of your car, and you're here since February..and still haven't had anyone mail you a set that would take ohhhhhhh 1 to 2 days to get to you?!!! In fact if they're that important, and I know mine would be...you could have had them sent overnight delivery!! Now how silly is it not to have done that instead of waiting on someone with a lazy a ss to come rescue you? Just think, you could have been out of the house already. : )
Also, you don't need to go out of the house to take new pics. There are plenty of places within your own space that would capture who you are! On that note, I would suggest removing the main pic and never using a pic with a child under the age of 18 in it. That's unsafe, and irresponsible. As bucsgirl stated, the pic should be a face shot of you so everyone could see your pretty smile.
On the writing part... You state your desire to become a counselor for drug and alcohol rehabilitation and then you throw in there how much you seem to love to party...assuring everyone that you can..
party with the best of them though so don't get me wrong..I am no prude when it comes to a good party! It's almost as if you're trying to make sure they know that regardless of your serious intent to work with alcoholics that you're not going to practice what you preach...and that's it's important for them to know that you get sloshed...as someone who parties hardy if in fact that's what they want to do with you!! I would reword that a little different if that's not what you were trying to imply!
Last bit of constructive criticism has to do with your postings.........Try never to knock others by generalizing or classifying people with your words because all people are different! Email lingo is often times misinterpreted and although you may not have meant something to come out the way it did, it can be taken in many different ways. An example would be
the guys my age are lookin for half dressed whores I suppose and dont care much about "cute" You should never judge a person by how they dress, or how they express themselves. You're comfortable in long sleeves and jeans and that's how you want to express yourself. I'm just as comfortable in a mini and sexy shirt! That Sweetie does not make me a whore, or even close and those who know me, know how far from the truth that is. Therefore my point to you is...word things carefully unless you want people to be insulted by what you write.
If you'd like any help revising, my email box is always open to everyone! : ) Good luck! | |
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Posted: 1/23/2006 6:39:50 PM | she doesn't need help with the profile- i'm sure just through exposure from this post she's attracted more than enough guys to keep her interested!!
she's a good looking girl- what she writes is secondary to her smile- now that'll pull them in everytime!! | |
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Posted: 1/23/2006 6:56:06 PM | | k..i think i am done with the criticism for now...i dont want anymore thank you... | |
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Posted: 1/23/2006 6:58:44 PM | @jim: She asked for the help, and there are those of us who actually believe that people who post things like she did, do it for a sincere reason. If she only posted to attract more guys, then I feel sorry for her dishonesty. I'm not going to assume that though and I don't think you should be making that judgement call for her either! I also find it sad that you just posted that what she writes isn't as important as her looks!!!!!!!! That was a put down to her as if her intelligence doesn't matter at all because
what she writes is secondary to her smile- now that'll pull them in everytime!! It's also a knock to many guys who believe it or not, care about intelligence and what woman have to write/say, regardless of how wonderful or cute they look!
What's on the outside may first attract someone, but it's what's on the inside that keeps them there!!!
@msannthrope: Thank you, I'm glad someone read my post and that I didn't just waste my valuable time expressing my thoughts on a thread that was not a serious one!
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@countrygurl: I'm sorry, I was writing a response and your post wasn't there when I started.... Best of luck to you....... : ) | |
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Posted: 1/23/2006 7:09:53 PM | | like i said before...thanx for all the advice..it's not lost in translation and I will try to think of something so i am not missinterpreted next time. I am still working on the pics but cant' take them myself..not a great photographer. But I do say what I mean and I mean what I say. Your an older lady and you can dress sexy if you want to. I too like to dress sexy sometimes. I just mean guys my age are only wanting a good time right now and not really looking for anything serious. That is a generalization and I realize this but it's how I feel so I will say it. Thanx again for the advice..I will eventually make the necessary changes but for now I am all done letting people tear me apart. Thanx. | |
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Posted: 1/23/2006 8:03:27 PM | countrygurl:
I'm sorry you think people were tearing you apart. I think most were sincerely giving you the advice you asked for and trying to help!
Where your pics are concerned, maybe ask a girlfriend to take them for you. My girlfriends and I have fun with it!
As for the way we dress, I know many people of all ages who dress in totally different ways whether it's gothic, punk, sexual, conservative etc. Age has nothing to do with the way we express our inner selves. No one should be judged by that. As for generalizing again..about guys your age which refers to ALL guys your age, I disagree that they ALL only want a good time. In fact if you go on to read some of the many threads on this site alone, you'll learn differently and may even find a couple who express the same desires that you do.
Get your pole back in the water and keep fishing Sweetie!! : ) | |
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Posted: 1/24/2006 10:49:01 PM | | No one is tearing you appart. Those who actually gave you honest and constructive critisism did with good intentions, not for you to take what was said as insulting. Everything said was in the context of "it may be thought as," or "some might think/assume". None said "you are" this or that. So don't take it so personal, it was all true and you shouldn't expect anything BUT good honest critisism here. | |
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Posted: 1/29/2006 1:20:37 PM | You Did an really great job Hun with your profile, its Original, Creative, Expressive,
Tells alot about you , gives us an idea of your personality and Interest
Which im gathering, is , funny, Sweet, Sensative, Intelligent, Creative,
passinate about life and things, , Goal orinted, Sarcastic but in an good way hay we all got have an little ehhh ,
and for sure you have alot of Heart and Spirit
and your profile also helps tell alot about your interest , things you Enjoy but Most importantly hun its original and its yours , you put alot of work and yourself into your profile
I enjoyed readding it and im Sure others will to
Wish you lots of Luck and Happiness
keep Smilling keep your head up
An friend
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Posted: 1/29/2006 1:43:01 PM | | Thanks for the good critique...and some of the messages were deleted so they are not showing everything that was said to me...but I didnt mean it in a bad way that people were tearing me apart..I think my profile is just fine now and I took their advice and used it. I appreciated all of the good advice and I know I asked for it that is why I am not upset about it..But thanx all anyway your greatly appreciated! | |
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