| 30 Something and Still Wanting Kids........Unrealistic???
Posted: 1/15/2005 9:31:22 PM | Never having any of my own I still have hopes of meeting someone who willing. Is this an unrealistic desire??? I've been told I was crazy for wanting children at my age????? That I'll never find anyone. That me wanting to meet someone, have kids and raise a family is petty and selfish.
I'll admit, In a time when most women hit there limit on children at young age and some never wanted kids the field is narrow. | |
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| 30 Something and Still Wanting Kids........Unrealistic???
Posted: 1/16/2005 5:23:17 AM | It is NOT selfish and petty to want to meet someone, have children and raise a family, especially when you're only 35!
If you genuinely want to settle down, raise a family and be a dad, then this isn't petty and selfish - this is admirable.
Hang in there, you'll find someone. | |
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| 30 Something and Still Wanting Kids........Unrealistic???
Posted: 1/16/2005 6:45:45 AM | | If you are only 35 the do the math. that has always been my thing, how old can I play with the kids. I would not want to be unable to have fun with them. So, get everything in order , live a good clean life and I hope there is nothing to stop you. Enjoy! | |
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| 30 Something and Still Wanting Kids........Unrealistic???
Posted: 1/16/2005 8:42:37 AM | Not unrealistic at all. I'm 40 and want kids, for that matter I have a 5 year old cousin.
I made it real clear that I was seeking to have children and just concentrated on women who are younger than myself. Obviously I had to get past the initial "creepy" impression but I managed to rope a girl 11 years younger than myself plus got interested responses from girls nearly 20 years younger. (i turned them down because I doubt they're sure of what they want)
My new girl and I are talking about possible futures but aren't quite ready to try getting pregnant yet but we are getting plenty of practice on the weekends. | |
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| 30 Something and Still Wanting Kids........Unrealistic???
Posted: 1/16/2005 10:19:04 AM | | 35 is not too old!!! I had my first child when my then-husband and I were 32, and our last when we were 38. My yougest brother was born when my dad was 42. Two of my brothers became fathers for the first time in their 40s. Keep looking and good luck! | |
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| 30 Something and Still Wanting Kids........Unrealistic???
Posted: 1/16/2005 10:33:32 AM | | No too old at all. I know someone that's 43, that has a 24 yo daughter (with a child of her own), a 3 year old and 2 yo triplets. His wife is 35. But keep in mind that the statistic is that after 35 a woman has a much greater chance of having a child that is developmentaly disabled. | |
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| 30 Something and Still Wanting Kids........Unrealistic???
Posted: 1/17/2005 7:09:20 PM | Thanks folks for the replies. In some ways I got lucky I guess. I got to enjoy my wild and wasted youth till my 30's. Now I have too many stories I wouldn't dare tell my kids If I'm fortunate to have any.
Its really odd that some of my best friends as teenagers have teenage kids of thier own now. A couple are even grandparent! In their mid to late 30's!!!
And Uncle John shows up at Timmy's birthday party with a ice chest of beer in the truck waiting for ice cream and cake before his road trip to Luckenbach. Yup, I need a woman who's a friend and a lover!!!! | |
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| 30 Something and Still Wanting Kids........Unrealistic???
Posted: 1/17/2005 9:25:48 PM | | I just turned 36, and i still have the dream of starting a family, i feel like i ammissing something really big, the hard part is finding the partner, seems most women have had there familys , and can't ,, or just do not have a interest in it any more, atleast form my years of tring, will i give up looking, no not at all, maybe just time to look at a different age group... | |
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| 30 Something and Still Wanting Kids........Unrealistic???
Posted: 1/18/2005 7:35:50 AM | My (then) husband and I have 2 children... we had our first when I was 31 and our second when I was 35.. I'm 38 now with a 7 and a 3 year old... it's great!
Last night on the new they were talking of just this..older women having children..it's so much more common ... they were speaking of woman in there 40's and 50's!!! hmmmm... 50 is a bit much ... BUT hey... we live longer now, we're better educated, healthier, stronger so I would say that about 42 would be my personal "cut off" point.
Talk to your doctor..eat well, excercise and stay healthy....
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| 30 Something and Still Wanting Kids........Unrealistic???
Posted: 1/19/2005 5:01:10 PM | dude as long as I have lead in my pencil I will be sending messages...! Did I just say that!? heh. But seriously, it is just western society that gets so worked up about age and ethics and stuff like that -- I say let god decide like he does for the flowers and the animals and the rest of nature. you agree!? We all need to be a little more humble and alot more fruitful!
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| 30 Something and Still Wanting Kids........Unrealistic???
Posted: 1/20/2005 6:53:16 PM | I just can't belive what people say sometimes.
You know, johnferg, you're 35, a bit more independent then you were in your 20's, you've had your fun. You're more mature and wiser. Now's a good time to have kids. Guys have the luxury of having kids when they're older. Women can oficially have children until 35, but unofficially until they're 40 I think.
My only goal in life regarding having kids is having the chance to be able to have a glass of wine with them as adults. That's it. If I can spend a portion of my life with my children as adults, I will be happy. So for me that means that 40 is my deadline for having kids. | |
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