| Do people get upset when the person they are having sex with don't orgasm?
Posted: 1/23/2006 1:25:32 PM | So, the topic of "why do women fake orgasm" and it's many variants have been done quite a few times. I am interested in seeing how many people are actually bothered when a partner doesn't reach orgasm and how many people just think their partner is upset over it. Men AND women.
I don't have an orgasm all of the time. It still feels great and is a pleasure to do, but sometimes it's just not going to happen for me. Because of that knowledge, and a healthy dose of self-confidence, I realize that my partner may not get off all of the time despite anything she and I could do or how long we did it for. I have had girlfriends in the past that have gotten a little stressed about it, but once reminded that it has happened to them at some points in their lives they get over it.
So, how many people, guys and girls, get upset or concerned when their partner doesn't come? | |
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| Do people get upset when the person they are having sex with don't orgasm?
Posted: 1/23/2006 2:22:51 PM |
I don't have an orgasm all of the time. It still feels great and is a pleasure to do, but sometimes it's just not going to happen for me. Because of that knowledge, and a healthy dose of self-confidence, I realize that my partner may not get off all of the time despite anything she and I could do or how long we did it for. I have had girlfriends in the past that have gotten a little stressed about it, but once reminded that it has happened to them at some points in their lives they get over it.
I feel the same way...some people have a problem with the fact that I don't cum during sex and help it happen which is great (which is at least possible for me), but its not necessary. I have a great time regardless. | |
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| Do people get upset when the person they are having sex with don't orgasm?
Posted: 1/23/2006 2:24:56 PM | I can honestly say that I don't get upset if he or I don't orgasm each time..
Sometimes I don't feel like it.. Sometimes he doesn't..
However when all is said and done.. we're both satisfied..
When I am satisfied.. he is.. and vice versa!
Shells
PS.. Off Topic: BB.. did ya get rid of that smell of that thing finally? I missed out.. and used to be here as }i{Flutterby}i{ | |
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| Do people get upset when the person they are having sex with don't orgasm?
Posted: 1/23/2006 5:04:05 PM | Hiya Becky.... how's things? :)
Everyone gets a little bummed if your partner doesn't get off... most time they are a bit bummed too..LOL. As far as switching to something else.. that helps sometimes but some days ya just can't get off no matter how hard you try.
I am just wondering about the correlation between not getting off (sometimes) and the need to fake the orgasm so your partner doesn't get upset? Is that just reserved for short term things or long term relationships? One would think that in the long term the understanding would be there. if not, it should be. If you not getting off very often and faking it then you need to change something. | |
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| Do people get upset when the person they are having sex with don't orgasm?
Posted: 1/23/2006 5:10:26 PM | Do i get upset?
Hell no.......If he takes the time to explain to me why! Maybe he is just tired is stressed what ever it may be,......Why on earth would i get upset........I would be more worried that he was upset because i was upset then it becomes one vicious circle | |
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| Do people get upset when the person they are having sex with don't orgasm?
Posted: 1/23/2006 8:19:41 PM | Yes.
I prefer her to orgasm a bunch of times actually,.
*shrugs*
A few times while with me.....and about 10 times or more while she is thinking of me.....remembering me....while at home with her memories.
I know women dont always orgasm before sex.....but still...you know?
I REALLY like when she orgasms before I even ger her clothes off for the first time. YUMM!
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| Do people get upset when the person they are having sex with don't orgasm?
Posted: 1/23/2006 9:46:31 PM | | ok first of all, going back a bit.....if she fakes an orgasm...i'd absoloutly hate it. id rather she tell me what to do, than faking, and leaving it at that. as for the no orgasm....well, i would be upset, but i'd be determined to do it better and better until i get it. | |
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| Do people get upset when the person they are having sex with don't orgasm?
Posted: 1/25/2006 7:05:28 AM | | Sometimes, even determination on her part does not work for me. Certain medications shut down or retard the orgasm, and it doesn't matter what she does...it ain't happening. Of course, this is a topic best discussed before sex ever happens, because some women do get offended or have hurt feelings if their man doesn't get off. | |
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| Do people get upset when the person they are having sex with don't orgasm?
Posted: 1/25/2006 8:00:14 AM | Yeah never been with a man that didn't cum, but I wouldn't get mad about it. I would work harder.
I find men dont get 'mad' about a women not cumming, they just go into this mode where they wont stop untill they do make her cum. Which is fine sometimes, but sometimes enough is enough. Hence the fake orgasm. | |
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| Do people get upset when the person they are having sex with don't orgasm?
Posted: 1/25/2006 8:02:49 AM | Some women simply do not have them. At least that is my experience. I have had them tell me not to worry about it, it never happens, not once in their lives. I have worn myself out trying in some cases and ended up having to believe them. I always get the mindset, "Well, she obviously never tried with me," but usually they are right.
They are always women who hold back and are unable to relax during sex. They are the ones who are uncomfortable with oral sex, and won't allow it, or want to stop because it is to intense, or they are embarrassed to do it.
Yes, I feel bad. I feel like they are missing something important, and I feel like I let them down.
I cannot cum in a condom; I think I was spoiled by the age of the pill and innocence. That is great for the gals because it can go on till they are worn out, but they have to give me a hand job at the end.
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